How long do Virgo men stay angry? Is this over?

oh 😢 i had a similar experience with my virgo best male friend, except i didn't want a relationship. he said it was fine but must have been simmering away because one day we argued, him saying i was a mess about, that he didn't understand what my problem was, etc blah blah. it was really out of the blue.

so then he cuts me off. for, months. something he'd never done before. and then earlier this year he got in touch and we worked things out. sounds to me your virgo has real feelings for you. i don't know them to be so upfront about it, usually. personally i think he's overreacting (so you got jealous, big fat deal.).

just give him space. that isn't very helpful when you want resolution and answers. just let him know somehow you still care. my guess is eventually he'll come around.

i forgot to ask your sign 🙂

I am an Aries. The problem is he has always put me on a pedestal and told me he has always wished girls he met were like me. He told me I had priority when I came over even if his friends were there. He never thought he was good enough for me and that is why he left me alone for so many years...he said I deserved the perfect guy..someone better than him. He said he was thrilled that I finally wanted a relationship with him. He has been very honest with what he wanted with me and was always afraid he would lose me in some way.

Guys: Do you think he is listening to my voice mails and reading my texts or just deleting/putting them aside. I want to drop off a card and an "I'm sorry" balloon..what do you think?

Posted by Yossarian


Forget the balloon, and flowers, we can laugh at ourselves too. I say show up at his door with a gas can, wearing something provocative, and tell him you need his help more than those other girls. Yes, we men are that easy.

this would make my virgo kill himself laughing. good suggestion!

He won't even talk to me or answer the phone. He told me to leave his house and said don't come back. He literally said get the F*** out of here. I am afraid to show up at his door. He is soooooo mad and he scared me by his anger. Funny thing...other girlfriends he's had that he didn't care that much about: he always took them back, but me..he won't even talk to me. Do you think he is listening to my voicemails and reading my texts? Will he ever get over this?

I still think of what he said about wanting a real relationsip as opposed to what he has had in the past. I really love him and finally told him yesterday when he was yelling at me.

Do you think he is taking time to analyze all of this or is it over? If he loved me more than anyone can he just turn his feelings off? Please explain...

25thDecan: Do you think he is listening to my voicemails or reading my texts? Do you think I can get a second chance?
I am afraid to go to his house because he will yell at me and make me look like a fool.

I didn't just flip him off and yell 'FU", I also left a really mean voice male telling him he was cheating on me and like all the other guys...I think that is what has pissed him off the most. I want to go over there but I am sure he won't even answer the door and if he does he will probably tell me to go away.

When he offered to come over and take care of me we had a great conversation on the phone and I told him I had to go and run errands..he was cool with that and the conversation ended fine.

I did go to his door yesterday and apologized and he didn't listen..that is when he told me to leave and not come back. He basically told me I blew it with him and he repeated it. I have left VMs and texted him that I was sorry. to be quite honest and you being married can understand this...I am in a hormonal state and that is the reason for my actions...

It seems you are projecting your values on him, just because you can't hold a grudge and forgive a little more easily than most, do not expect the same from him.

Rejecting his help, Cursing at him and leaving him a mean voice mail is terrible. It is indicative of a lack of self control, immaturity and vindictiveness. Hormonal state or not, respect and values should be upheld. Treat others how you want to be treated.

Yossarian and 25th have given you good advice, but if you can't prove to him to be able to control yourself in the future, you best forget it now.

Went over there last night and he wasn't home....so I couldn't do what you Virgo guys recommended...haha. I left him the card I got him and totally apologized stated what went on with my medical issue. Turns out I am really, really sick and the Dr wants to do hysterectomy. I had cancer about 10 years ago and now have thyroid problems and my hormones have never been the same. I had taken some Vicodin for pain and I guess the combination caused me to wig out (have never, ever done that before). Anyways, will he take the time to read the card or just blow it off? Do Virgo men go through the extreme anger process than feel the hurt than analyze everything..you know pros and cons?

I know he really loved me and has wanted to be with my for 16 years. He told me just last week that he felt he had been fiven a second chance to be with me, he was very happy and felt like he was living his fairy tale. He wanted to be the best for me and didn't want to mess anything up.

Posted by socalgal

I drove by his house and saw him walking to some girls car with some mechanic jumper cables or the sort. I drove by and gave him the finger and said FU. I later went by to ask what was up with the girls and he said it was a girl that I also knew and she just wanted to borrow a gas can.

I don't feel sorry for you.

Aries girls get what they deserve when they do this stupid shit because they cannot control their jealousy ... which is all the time.

when you grow up, you might learn to keep your composure instead of lashing out with stupidity .. but, that's highly doubtful.

Most times, when people are like you .. they are always like that. People like to think that they'll change, but, they don't, really.

He was being a good semaritan ... and you acted like an ass about it ... him ignoring you which is hurting your feelings is what you deserve to feel for being a bitch

Well I know some virgos can be cold as fuck...at least I know I can be, but it all depends on if that person pissed me off. They can drop off the atlas for all I care...Real Talk.

Posted by Pandybear
Yup RT Im the same way. If someone pisses me off, really disappoints me, or insults my character
*thumb across throat* Thats all folks.

WORD!!!!!

Yes..I know you guys are all correct about what I did and I'm not defending it nor stating that I feel he is the lesser person. On the contrary, he is the better one for how he treated me in the relationship.

Anyways, he called as I was driving my son to Lake Havasu City, AZ and I couldn't talk as I don't have a hands-free set, so I had my son call him back to let him know that and I would call him later...he was fine with that. I texted later and asked if I could call him 11ish as I just arrived at my cousin's and hadn't seen her for over a year...he responded that was ok. So I called and he couldn't talk at the time because he was moving some stuff from outside his house to the inside and wanted to get it done quick as not to wake the neighbors. He told me to call back in 30 minutes...I did and he didn't answer. I left him a VM to call me back if he still wanted to talk tonight. He didn't call back.

Obviously, he received my card or he wouldn't have called. I am driving back to California today and plan on going to his place as I think face-to-face would be better at this point. We need the eye contact and one on one. The phone might be too impersonal since we had that big blow out and need to get things straight.

I promise that if I get him back I will let him help me out and take care of me if needed. I have never had anyone want to do that for me and have learned to be very independent....I want to change that. Thank you all for your honesty 🙂