?How long have you waited for Virgo?

I would like to know how long some of you have waited for Virgo to go through their motions, and slowely decide they can trust you, and really want a relationship. And you knew all along right from the beginning!

So you waited, and waited, until they could trust etc.

And finally, Virgo realized it.

How long was that?
And are you happily every after?

Under 6 months. Married for 13 years. Divorced.

Not long at all. People always talk of having patience when waiting for Virgo men to make their moves. Well, I've never had to wait long for a Virguy to approach me. In fact, they've all usually moved faster than I would have preferred. I like to take things slow- no rush. But, I guess when a guy thinks he's found a good thing, he's afraid someone else will beat him to the punch.


Virgo #1; asked me to be his girl by the 3rd date, 2 months after we met.

Virgo#2: made his move several months in, even after it appeared I'd given him the cold shoulder (I was EXTREMELY shy)

Virgo#3: made it clear we were an item after dating a couple of months.

Virgo#4: couple months

Virgo#5: 5 weeks after our first date, he couldn't hold it in any longer and asked me to be his woman and meet his family.

The first one was my first boyfriend at 17/18 yrs old- puppy love. The following three were guys I crushed on/took interest in during college. The last one was my first and only real boyfriend- we're about to start marriage counseling. Yay!

We were an item right away, met his parents the next day, his sister 4 days later, and the rest of his family last saturday, and we're only 2 months together LOL

In the beginning we went like a rocketship, and that scared him, so he pulled the brake. I see him opening up more and more, he seems comfortable, and I think he trusts me.

For me he's a real keeper, but I'm still not sure what his true feelings are for me...Guess I'll be in the dark with that for some time.

I love this topic 🙂 this is interesting--gives a view from the other side!

nevermind me, carry on 😉

Wow!
They seem drawn to you like moths to a flame.

Hope everything works out.
At least it seems you are an expert with Virgos.

I might come to you for advice! lol

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
I never ask, I just take whats mine 🙂

Agreed.

Every relationship, with the women that i found worthy, I jumped into very quickly. Within a month or so, they all know my family and friends, and everything around me, but I, like many virgo\'s, made some terrible choices in the past, but I learned to make better ones, so i feel much at ease to express myself constructively. I can show emotion, but if i feel any sort of rejection, I usually pull out, much like some of the virgos i knew, but not most because most will never put themselves in a position for they fear rejection, while i end up feeling rejected...

So far, so good, so what!

😄

I appreciate the insight from you Virgos,

I am very respectful of the fact that Virgos take their time.

My Virgo was very agressive at first.

Then I read that they become cautious later on.
That's what seemed to happen.

I try not to seem pushy.

But how do you know that they are still interested?

If you give them space, do you wait for them to come and find you?

Or do you check in every so often.

My Virgo is a distance away.


So I am asking you SHY Virgo boys....

When you are quiet for a while, does that mean you are gone - finished?

just wondering

Posted by Fabricgirl
I appreciate the insight from you Virgos,

I am very respectful of the fact that Virgos take their time.

My Virgo was very agressive at first.

Then I read that they become cautious later on.
That's what seemed to happen.

I try not to seem pushy.

But how do you know that they are still interested?

If you give them space, do you wait for them to come and find you?

Or do you check in every so often.

My Virgo is a distance away.


So I am asking you SHY Virgo boys....

When you are quiet for a while, does that mean you are gone - finished?

just wondering

If we really like the girl, the fire keeps burning and we never let go of the person, near or far !! I guess thats also our weakness.

But can I ask....

Are there times when you aren't as aggressive, but you still have deep feelings?

It is the long term loyalty that I am attracted to.

I am not a virgo, but I feel the same as that.

Maybe you are right.
Maybe I am over-analyzing, and reading too much into this.

I was in 1 relationship for a long long time and then deceived, lied to and cheated on etc.

I can be overly suspicious, now.
However, I can also quickly jump to "He would never be interested in ME" -- just because of what I went through with the first one.

Part of me wants to follow this through slowly and see what happens.
the other part wants to just run away -- and not be hurt again.

But the thought of never talking to him again, -- just kills me.

Virgos are tricky i think. Ive dated mine for a year now and its taken about this long to get full trust. When i met her we literally spent 4 full days together 24/7. No sex although maybe everything else. I told her I wanted a relationship with her and she said shed have to get to know me better. Its that daymn virgo trust thing. They dont just trust anybody thats for sure. it took another 2 weeks of nonstop being together, well it took one week of nonstop being together for her to start hinting at wanting a relationship but i was playing a game so that we could start on equal footing.so all in all it took about 3 weeks of almost 24 /7 being together for a good relationship to start. Dont give up on a virgo. Its worth it.

Thanks for the advice.

That's kind of how I am leaning, anyway.

I just wanted some input from those who have waited for Virgo,
and possibly from those Virgos themselves.

My dad (a 1st deacon Virgo) proposed to my mom (a Sag) after 2 months... depends on the guy and circumstances!

I have been dealing with a virgo guy since december and we are still not official. First thats because he leaves in another state so I am not wanting a long distance relationship especially after being locked down for 6 years. Second I am waiting because though I like him and I am starting to believe he likes me he hasn't claimed me as his. I am like land I need someone to stake a claim.

Until he does that I am openly choosing. I wont front though I would wait for him for as long as it took, but I am a realist and I wont let another man pass me up because I am stuck waiting on him either.

Moved in together within a month .. married within 3 months ... that was nearly 28 years ago.

If you're still waiting, and it's been over 2 months .. yeah, you doso in vain.


But, you think you're worth it so go for it .... we'll see you later in tears and not understanding what happened because you never saw it coming.

You saw it .. you just choose to ignore.

Hope your ignorance works out for you.

So if I am fooling myself, and Virgo is NOT interested......
Why are there so many sites that say "Virgo is cautious, virgo is picky, will take his time" etc.
be patient... it's worth it.

My gut says "If he's interested, he'll show it."
And then I determine in my heart it's time to let go.
I get ready for it emotionally.......


and then he does the sweetest thing.
Some gesture to say "I care".
and my heart melts.

I'm not a kid.
I know better than this.
Just trying to understand.

And believe it or not.
I don't want to hurt HIS feelings, or make him think I am rejecting HIM.

Still in a quandry
waiting for those who speak the Virgo language

Every person in here who actually HAS a Virgo tells you that there is no waiting period ... you choose to believe what you read, rather than real life experiences.


Suit yourself .. you will anyway, even to your own detriment

I appreciate the 'real life' advice ..... even if I do have to read it to get it.

I'm just curious why personality overviews would be written if there weren't elements of truth.

For a short period of time I second-guessed my own gut feelings.
And came to this virgo forum to ask questions up close and personal.

Thank you for all your honest insight.

@Fab: My question to you... are you waiting OR just not watching/listening?

Posted by caribbeangold
just keep doing your own stuff and be secure.
you are just going to become more insecure and confused with all of these different responses.
not all virgo men are the same. some of them are quick to act, others take forever.

And there ^ you have your answer. Best advice yet.

Posted by virg_goki
...more of them overanalysing our actions when were just being friendly n measuring u up... but mostly we keep our decisions to ourselves....

I think that's the kind of thing that self-replicates into a feedback loop for the person wanting to understand a Virgo. Not a lot of information sharing, but you can tell when someone is 'measuring' and making decisions. Without direct communication on the matter, you have to fall back on what other info you can gather. Which comes across as overanalyzing. Not that Virgos are in the wrong to keep their own counsel, just that other folks can have a tough time with it, misunderstand.

It's important to sort out your personal boundaries for what behavior you can deal with positively, with some wiggle room for communication errors. Your guy may just be slow to act, or not interested, but either way the way it makes you feel is the same.

My virgo was very slow at first (5 dates for a kiss!) though he did make it very clear that he wanted to see me, the 5 dates were over a period of 1 and a half weeks and he arranged every one. And now i think he's moving far to fast especially since we agreed we didnt want anything serious (and i dont seem to have any say in the matter!), obviously im just so amazing he cant keep away lol

but seriously i think when they know what they want they just take it.

Perhaps I should clarify...
I am not sitting, waiting by the phone, putting my life on hold, holding my breathe for Virgo to call me.
I could just use some insight.

He was extremely aggressive in the beginning. It kind of threw me, as I am quiet and a bit reserved.
But as i got to know him - remotely, because we live a distance apart - I grew to be really drawn to him.

He has an amazing mind, and great sense of humour, and similar life experiences to me.

THEN he became a bit quiet, and this was a surprise.

So I did a bit of research about the Virgo personality.

He was exactly like the profiles they described...... He could have been the 'poster boy for Virgo'.

I read about how they are cautious with new relationships, careful about revealing their feelings etc.

This doesn't bother me, I like HIM. If this is the way Virgos are, that's fine.

But I also, don't want to look like a fool, waiting, supposedly seeking out a man who is not interested.


SO!!! If you Virgos ARENT interested, do you make any contact at all?

Do you do the 'nice guy' routine?

Just asking!
Fabricgirl

Virgos are apparently well known for disappearing or going distant when they have deadlines at work and things like that. Im only just getting to know about virgo's though so im not really the best person to be giving you advice

So they say, but if My Virgo is too wrapped up/busy and doesn't contact me, he asks why I didn't contact him when he gets around to calling.

LILDOL!!

That is exactly what I am talking about.

The Virgo profile that I read said that while Virgos do go into themselves etc.(perhaps disappear) from time to time, they still crave communication.

SO.... that being said.

When he is quiet, do I contact him --- and appear too needy, too aggressive, too emotional,
or
do I quietly sit by, and wait.
and then have HIM think I am not interested.

It's complicated
Beyond my spider senses, let me tell you.

And if you Virgos weren't such incredibly intersting and intelligent people, I would almost give up!
hahaha 🙂

I would say only if he has commented on it...

My Virgo has been there since day one, other than he being out of town (maybe once/wk) or the one time I said I was too tired, we have seen each other every day for the past 3+ months (even though he, very early on, had an excuse to run the other way). Some here would say I give too much, but I schedule my other stuff around him... I go out and do my own thing when he is working late or is out of town. Even when he's out of town I hear from him regularly and pretty much get a play by play of what he's doing (he does this when he's not out of town as well while I'm working).

Despite that being said, he will not say that we're exclusive (although he considers me his gf and talks about 'us' in the future) - he says he can do what he wants, i.e., be with other women, but he's not into being with multiple women at the same time.

So, I have to agree with everyone else, for the most part. Slow indeed, but showing they are interested, definitely. This is why I asked about the waiting vs. watching (they're subtle, they're not going to shout it from a mountain top LOL).

Because of my past experience, I don't always know if I am reading things correctly.

My Virgo called me a kindred spirit, alter ego, and nemesis, all withing the first month we met.

But we live a good distance apart.

So things move in bits and pieces.

But I am no spring chick!
I'm not looking to hook up, get married, and have a family.
I've already done that.

I am just irresistably drawn to this Virgo.
I would rather spend 1 hour with this man, than 25 hours with men that live close by.

and that's that.

But I also am wary that my discerning senses may not be accurate.
And that is why I asked for some feedback.

Actually, I probably initiate 70% of the communication between us.
However, because I have read that Virgos need space, I don't try and chase him, or corner him.

I don't think he would get the impression that I don't care about him, or don't think he's worth the effort.
Not at all!

I am more concerned about scaring him away because I am too aggressive!

Thanks, I know you're right.
I know you all are right.

I have to be myself, and if it's too much, or too little for Virgo, then that will have to be.

I think I am too old to start dancing to someone else's tune.

hahaha

Actually I agree with the no waiting period bit. When i was with virgo #1 I waited forever, months until i cut my losses and decided that i wanted to move on. Then i met virgo #2 and from the start we were inseparable, we were together a month later. Other factors intervened and i ended it. But i was surprised that there was no waiting period because i too had read that virgos were slow to commit and blah blah when i was with virgo #1. So when they meet you and like you, they just know they want to be with you.

take solace in the ides hes probably just as confused as you are hahaha

Actually......

A week after my original post, my Virgo calls me at home (something he hasn't done in a while)
and tells me he's been trying to get a hold of me all week. I tell him that he could have left a message and I would have called him back.

He then does some mumbling about afraid of 'bothering' me and doesn't like to leave messages, that he doesn't do that ....
in the quietest, sweetest, fumbling, schoolboy way.....

but then we spend the next 1 1/2 hours laughing and giggling and talking about life and the things we have in common.

He actually commented on the fact that Mercury plays a big role in August, and how confusing and aggravating things can be, and he notices this....

A really lovely warm conversation, as if no time had passed since we last spoke.

It made me remember to be myself, and not sit waiting by the phone, but also to see that the silences are sometimes not about ME.... hahahah, they are about him and his life.

imagine that!

Ooops, I think it was longer than a week, maybe 12 days