How to win my Virgo man back?

I've known my Virgo for about 5 years, we've been dating for a year and a half, but before that we were best friends. As of late we have been fighting so much that he wanted to go on a break...We have had a very difficult past, always fighting about dumb things..but he always came back to me and I guess I got so used to that..

One of his good friends left for the ARMY a week ago, but the week before that we went to a bar to spend one last time with him. Yet my drunk self got in a fight with my Virgo, after that we haven't really seen or talked to each other because it was his friends special night out and I acted so selfish, picking a fight and ruining his friends night. After that night he wanted to take a break, he said he needed his space..Yet this past week he has called me almost every night to see how my day was...he doesn't text me all day but after work he would call me..

Last night though..I got a bit too emotional and starting asking about our relationship, we got in another fight and he just got fed up with me...he is mad once again and I know it will go on for days...because it doesn't just take him twelve hours to get over our fights..he ignores me for a few days then starts being a little nicer...

He says the best thing to do is to leave him alone but it's so hard to do so. I love talking to him and being with him but he says he cares about me as a person but doesn't want to be with me. He says "I love you, I just can't stand you."

I need some help on what I should do to gain him back...what I've learned is to leave him alone..don't talk unless he talks to me first, don't mention the relationship and don't become emotional because I know he hates that..

What else will help him fall for me again...I know he loves me but he is just tired of my selfish ways. I would always fight with him even after he has done SO MUCH for me. So so much! I regret being so selfish and now I have lost him..he doesn't love me the same..What should I do?

Posted by 25thDecan
You're 20...I sincerely hope you heed this advice NOW or you WILL experience relationships exactly like this or worse in the future: if you love someone, look at how you speak to them and treat them. Would you enjoy someone doing that to you...all the time? If the answer is immediately "no"...you are abusive and YOU need to check yourself, look within, stop and change or seek counseling for other issues you have not dealt with. Now...if you see you are abusive and feel that somehow these are just emotions and this is "passion"...you really REALLY need to get a grip before you create and contribute to potentially volatile situations. 20...so young but old enough to look in the mirror and understand how you're seriously at a crossroads here.

VERY WELL SAID MR DECAN!!