I CAN'T FIGURE THIS VIRGO OUT!!? : (

You could start by tryng to figure out what YOU are trying to say.

Hi, I am new here, so bear with me its my first post. I am a Leo woman, who is seeing, I think I am still seeing a Virgo man. Maybe someone can share some insite to me, as I have been dating now for 8 years, and I am still confused as ever. I met him about 2 weeks ago, he persued me. First emailing me, then made plans to meet, texted me three times a day for the 2 week time, have been on 4 dates, everytime he txts me right after the date to tell me what a great time he has had, and then texts me the next day to make plans for are next date. We went out sat. night, we did text sun. morning once, and now tues. I texted him, and no response. I hate feeling this way, but men, help me to understand why you set the patteren, and then with no reason back to us stop.What do you think happened? I feel like a idiot now, and I wont text again, but why the lack of respect, and just no response? The last thing he said sun. was he had a great time. The only thing I can think of is, he brought up his divorce, notice I said he did, not me, and again after making several references in are 4 dates, that he is mad at himself for this failure, and all I said was I thought he was being to hard on himself, the best part of his life is yet to come. Did that bother him? I thought I was being positive. He has been divorced for 4 years, and I dont think he has dated much. What should I do? Leave him alone, do you think he will contact me again? But the Leo in me dosent quite get the disrespect, and not sure I am alright with waiting. I thought Virgos got the respect thing too! Any Virgo men out there to help me, or anyone?

You disrespected him.


You think you have the respect thing all figured out, and why can't he respect YOU ... but, you completely overlook anything except yourself, obviously.


You completely disrespected him when you told him that the best part of his life was yet to come .. how dare you?


A Virgo ONLY marries the right person .... his ex IS his life partner ... dumbass.

From this point forward, keep your opinions about his life and his choices to yourself ..... that is, if you want to keep him.


If you want to see the curb permanently .. then keep talking about his wife.

I can understand some of what you said, but if he already was with his life partner, then why is he telling me that he is looking for his life parner, and he did tell me that. Again, I didnt think I was being disrespectful, I thought I was being positive, but I do see it that way now that you have explained. I also wonder why he said he had a good time on our last date, if he really didnt. Like I said before, dont know what to do at this point. Do I just leave him alone. Would one comment really cause him to retreat and never give me another chance?

Thank you for that. I am hopeing he see's that in me, but I still dont understand why he wont respond to my text, either to tell me he is not interested in me or anything. Men seem to do this and it makes me uncomfortable to see them again in public, or worse yet, to trust other men.

Virgos marry for life. Even if the union fails, it's still for life.

^^^^ That is the mindset that is approached. To you . you should like can just easily flutter around, barely taking the sensitivities of it beyond the surface.


This man is in the midst of losing his life partner ... you could try to be a little more sensitive to that.

Just because he says he had a good time with you doesn't mean he loves you, or even has loving feelings towards you.

What the hell?

He loves his wife, whether the union is still glued together or not. And he will for life. That is where his feelings are. If you care about him at all, you would remember that and then throw eggshells down in front of your feet.

sorry, i had typed out this elaborate detailed account of what had happened thust far and.. realized once posting it had been cut off... immensely. so, here's the shorter version.. my.. (if i can call him that) virgo was dating my friend when we first met. off the bat, there was something there. i just knew he'd end up somewhere in my life. his girlfriend at the time had been calling from my cell since she didn't have one.. after meeting me, he asked to save my number. i met him again a few months later at a friends going away party. i arrived fashionably late and, i could see the delight on his face when i showed up...the friend he had previously dated was there as well although they were broken up.. she's a scorpio and kind of.. stole the show. after that night he started calling me. asking what i was doing for the night etc. and he'd call at odd times. sometimes 2 am or later.. it struck me as odd. i never really saw him in a romantic way and didn't think i was looked at that way either. i didn't know what to do at this point.. whether it was a line to be crossed or not. well, one of my friends got dumped and turned to this virgo. i started hanging around him a lot more because of it.. and, i realized i started forming feelings for him. one thing led to the next (i can't even remember how) and he basically moved in with me. we never spent a night apart for about 2 months. he was the yin to my yang. we became bestfriends. but... bestfriends is an understatement, really. he asked to progress sexually and i always declined as our hooking up had caused quite a riot amongst our little group of friends and it had never really happened. we kissed, cuddled and well.. just lived together and partied together. one night while we were out his best friend (also a virgo) got a little friendly with me and... we ended up making out at the party and my virgo saw and didn't really mention it.. but, it was a little awkward. virgos have a way with words when they want to though and we all ended up (both virgos and myself and my bestfriend) going back to his bestfriends house and we had sex. i left after his friend went to sleep and fell asleep with my virgo. he had no idea the next day what had happened.. which i didn't realize.. as it was.. kind of obvious? we spent the next morning together.. he made me breakfast we talked for hours and it was nice.. things continued.. he found out about it at some point and seemed kind of shocked and rather upset about it.. yet.. while

about it.. yet.. while we'd been getting closer and closer, questions had started arising about whether we were sleeping together or not and whether we were dating. he kept a firm "i'm single" and well... we were so i didn't understand what the problem was. he didn't want to commit to me. we'd go out to public places and while my back was turned he'd ask other girls for their numbers so what was this jealousy? i guess it kind of blew over.. he only brought it up when he was drinking for a while after that.... he continued basically living with me.. sleeping with me every night... we got closer and closer. he'd ask if i wanted to have sex often .. or if i wanted to engage in oral sex. i declined.. i thought it'd make things weird between us. one day we get drunk. i had some friends over earlier but they left for work so it ended up being us all day. he started going on about how he had two problems at this point in life and one was the need for a job.. the other was me. he stated how his ex girlfriend meant nothing and that she was hardly even thought of anymore. he even pointed out things he loved about me that were so insignificant it made me heart melt.. such as always keeping my nails done and toes pedicured.. : ) ... well later that night we were in bed together and i was feeling frisky and wanted to give him a blow job.. HE REFUSED.. and told me he "liked" me way more than that and couldn't put me in the degrading of a position?? we kissed, cuddled and fell asleep. i had to nanny later and i took him with me. he wasn't feeling well later on so i took him home.. and that was the first night we slept apart.. since we'd started sleeping together. it was just one night. things went back to normal. shortly after that we ended up attempting at having sex. it lasted a whole 3 minutes and.. i laughed. i mean.. he was like my best friend it was weird.. being passionate and intimate with him. it was more so cute though.. to see him get hot and horny. : ) he got so upset! he got off of me and didn't even want to talk for a few minutes. i felt horrible.. that didn't happen again for a while..

so.. we got closer.. things kept moving forward.. we were drinking at my house one day and some friends of his were having a party.. he got picked up and left a little earlier than i did. i had company at my house so i had to figure their situations out before i could leave. finally i did.. i'm already drunk, i arrive at this party.. there's a lot of people i know.. lovely. i'm ecstatic to see him.. i didn't realize how much i missed him! i get ... wasted. i black out pretty much the rest of the night. i wake up, horror ensues.. long story short. i'm in jail for 2 days. obviously we didn't sleep together those nights.. i couldn't call him from jail, his phone didn't accept collect calls. i get out and call him.. everything seems fine. i told him i'd call him back when i get home. i do and we're talking.. it all seems fine. then, i apologize for whatever i may have said or done that night and he says i hooked up with some random person and he hangs up on me! i text him what are you talking about.. i did not? (i have no recollection of this whatsoever) he texts me back yeah you did.. whatever it's all cool. i don't care. well.... obviously he does?.. we don't talk for a couple of days. i text him and say what happened between us... we were so close and now it's as if we don't know each other.. and, he says i used to sleep with you every night and then you go and suck some random persons dick, i can't look at you the same way.. well.. he comes over the next day with friends it's awkward at first and he ends up staying the night and it all seems to be okay after that. shortly after.. i find out he's writing to the friend of mine he was with when we first met telling her he's in love with her.. at this point.. i've fallen for this boy.. hard. it's not just a crush or a friend.. i'm in love with him.. and he's writing to her telling her that he's addicted to her and can't stop thinking about her.. forgive him for whatever he's done, he wants to be with her. she says i heard "feistypisces" is in love with you and he responds he doesn't care who's in love with him.. he's only in love with her.. i'm... heartbroken? all the while he's saying this... he's still sleeping with me every night... i don't bring it up. it's just a kind of.. knowledge i have that he isn't aware of i suppose..

so.. fastforward to new years.. he tells me how there's this girl that likes him that wants to hook up with him.. and how he has an ex girlfriend coming into town who also wants to hook up with him and it's a dilema and he doesn't know what to do.. he's telling me this while we're laying in bed.. ha. i've got great advice for ya buddy!?.... it hurts that he'd bring that up... he knows i have feelings for him.. i've told him at this point. so.. new years he invites me and a good friend to this "bangin" party his friend is having.. the night of.. he says we can't come. he blames it on his virgo best friend and me hooking up. saying it's too weird for him. ha.. okay. so me and my girls go and do something else. after midnight he calls me and says he wants to meet up with me.. where am i. i'm really far and a bit put off and hurt that he would invite me and others to a party days prior to and then cancel hours before... so, i say it's not going to work.. we leave where we're at and head closer to home and one of his friends calls me to see what i'm up to as he just got off of work.. i've become friends with all of his friends so it's pretty normal.. i make plans to meet up with him as we're all heading to an after party. he shows up.. with my virgo whom has hickeys allll over his neck and another female! the girl that was wanting to hook up with him and apparently did. i was kind of in disbelief. we walked around a hotel for a while and she was very clingy and immature and i could tell he was uncomfortable.. it was kind of hilarious to watch. yet it hurt.. we ended up going back to my house and drinking. he stood for quite a while and kept a distance from her and finally sat on my bed.. and she attempted at cuddling with him and then he kissed her.. on my bed in front of me. everyone is well aware of what is going on between us and his friend stopped it. the girl is confused and put off at this point. it was awkward. whatever.. they all get ready to leave.. and he asks to stay. for some reason i allow it.. we don't cuddle or do anything that night. i'm grossed out.. and hurt. and baffled that he'd ask to stay. in front of her at that.. things were weird after that. he claimed to not remember and he still spent basically every night with me...

blah blah, fast forward... we ended up having our first argument. something happened at a party. i ended up getting assaulted by a friend of his. he left me there... i was angry. he called me and yelled at me basically for 30 minutes saying he doesn't care who i hook up with, we're both single, he's tired of everyone thinking we're fucking etc. etc. i hang up after a bit. he calls back, apologizes for yelling and asks if i want to hang out... i say i guess... and, he comes over. we have massive amounts of sex for three days and we both end up with fat hickies everywhere.. i got wasted somewhere inbetween those 3 days and ended up telling him i was in love with him and i was sick of waiting around while he fucked all these other girls and was calling them "boo boo" etc. etc. i don't remember any of it.. my mom told me the next day, ha.. how embarrassing.. he acted completely normal the next morning. as though nothing had happened. he was singing, cheerful, touchy and super happy. i took him home and my mom told me what had happened and i was mortified. i never wanted to talk to him again!.. well.... he kept calling. and he never brought it up ever... although i noticed he started telling me he loved me all the time.. and he still does. and he would make comments and say i know you love me trying to get me to say it. which, i have never said sober..it continued on this note for a while. everything was great. we were still sleeping together everynight. the night that he called me and yelled at me about everything he brought a bunch of extra clothes over and an extra cellphone charger and assigned himself a drawer is my dresser (that is still there)... one night it's him and i and a friend and his virgo best friend comes over.. we end up drinking.. having a good time.. his friend asks if he wants to leave with him, he says nah.. he's gonna stay.. well he ended up leaving. and he didn't come back to my house. he would text me and see what i was doing but... we didn't see each other for 7 days! the 8th day.. i'm at a friends down the street. i had had a long night and was still up.. i called him at 6 am and wanted to see him.. i went over. and we cuddled and watched tv.. he said he was tired so we went and layed down in bed.. we had oral sex.. and i fell asleep..

i woke up a few times and he was rubbing my back and i'd look up at him and he was wide awake and he'd smile and kiss me on the forehead and i'd fall back asleep.. finally he woke me up because my mom was coming to get me.. apparantly i'd called her to come and get me at some point.. so i got ready to leave.. he had kept asking me if he could come over later in the day and i was being playful saying no.. he said i'm coming over. whatever. and.. he texted me saying he was coming over after i had left.. so... i don't hear from him for 2 days. we texted a little.. he'd ask what i was doing and then i'd get no response. he called me the day before my birthday and asked what i was doing and if i wanted to hang out.. i said sure.. we ended up going to a friends house and drinking.. he went off in a different room and was doing his own thing.. i walked in and he grabbed me and we kissed and cuddled for a bit.. and he got a little agressive around everyone else and was constantly touching me.. or near me.. and being very affectionate.. and virgos aren't much for PDA.. later his cousin ended up coming and, shit happened. he didn't get along with someone.. he wanted to leave.. my virgo left me... on my birthday and i was drunk and missed him and asked him to please not leave.. he did anyway. the next day was my birthday party.. he called and we talked for a bit. texted a lot. yadda yadda. he showed up later. i ended up getting cuffed and put in a car for a bit.. he left. i didn't see him again until about a week ago. he stayed over for 2 days.. things came out drunken... i was upset with him. at first he felt remorse and apologized. the next day, he tried to turn it around. i stopped talking to him. 3 days go by.. on the 4th, he calls to ask if it's okay if he comes over to hang out.. i say.. i guess. he does... it's awkward with other friends.. with just us it's perfect as usual. he was super affectionate and loving.. and even kept telling me he loved me. and i said i don't love you.. and he wrestled me and was like.. what is that an i love you too!! it was just really.. good energy. happy vibes.. he left to go to some barbeque he invited me to as well. i never went... he said he'd call later, he didn't. he didn't call the next day either. but.. i talked to a friend of mine who hangs out with the 2 of us a lot.. and she said they had a talk about me.. and how he thinks i'm amazing and he loves me and loves everything about me.. but that he couldn't be with me, he c

he couldn't commit to me.. i'm hurt upon hearing this.. i'm confused as well. we've had many discussions about us and he expresses being heartbroken and not wanting to ever put himself in a position to be heartbroken again.. but, if he's ever to settle down i'd be the only person he would settle down with.. and i've told him how it hurts my feelings that he talks to other girls and calls then baby and boo and such names and he says i'm obviously his girl, i'm the one he's with all the time.. and these girls.. "ex's" or "friends" need the recognition.. and i don't... it's confusing to me. i don't get why.. all of a sudden there are these huge gaps in the times he comes to my house when, before he'd never spend a night away from me. why he tells me he loves me and does all of these things and even talks about wanting to move back to my home place with me where his family owns a timeshare... and we talk about marriage and having children.. and he cums inside of me everytime we have sex... and yet.. he tells one of my bestfriends he can't commit to me.. but doesn't tell me that.. sorry this is so long... there's so many aspects to our situation.. so virgo men.. what is this virgo doing? : (

it seems so easy... i've never had feelings for someone like this aside from my first love which was a 3 year relationship..
but, alas... you are saying what basically every single one of my other friends who know him in real life are saying as well.
he's an amazing person to hang out with and he has a great heart... but, he isn't worth it.. it's hard.
i don't know how to accept that and walk away.. being a pisces i feel compelled to fix everyone..
i feel like there's so much that goes on between us that noone else sees..
i guess he just plays the game well..

I didn't make it very far into this .... couldn't take it any longer.

I made it as far as ........... you sleep in his bed every night, cuddle him and then reject him sexually .... then have the aucidity to make comment about other women he tries to see because how are you suppose to be with him if he can't be loyal to you?



Basically ... you want this man to be loyal to you, while you reject him.




No sympathy from me.

Posted by P-Angel
I didn't make it very far into this .... couldn't take it any longer.

I made it as far as ........... you sleep in his bed every night, cuddle him and then reject him sexually .... then have the aucidity to make comment about other women he tries to see because how are you suppose to be with him if he can't be loyal to you?



Basically ... you want this man to be loyal to you, while you reject him.




No sympathy from me.

Heh, I was waiting for your ridiculous comments, P-Angel.
I don't particularly care whether you read what I've posted or not but, It'd be a bit more of an intelligent move on your behalf to either, Not post regarding it or to actually read what you have supposedly read before posting about it.


: )

I think you should just go out and suck off another random dick and then get all upset with him for not being loyal to you.

You don't get it fiestypisces, and Im not surprised .. most Fish are pretty oblivious to reality.



YOU fucked a random person FIRST .. after that, in his eyes, you're garbage.



Here's a reality check ... it doesn't matter that he was a Virgo. All men would have the same reaction.


Up until the first time you got drunk and fucked another person, he was still talking to you about feelings, about trying to have sex .. you kept rejecting him and he probably thought you were a lady .... until you fucked someone.

You fucked someone else, all the while rejecting him and telling him "No", while sleeping with him, which means, you were letting your body touch his.


That makes you a manipulating sleeze, who fucks other people to fuck with your man's head.


Seriously, I hope you end up with an incurable STD .. you would deserve it.

We were FRIENDS at the time. I'm sorry I don't see anything wrong with being friends with someone and not sexually interacting with them.
We were both hooking up with other people whilst this was happening.
It wasn't as if he was a sad wounded puppy waiting around for me while I slept with the town.
One of the main reasons I never looked at him as more than a friend is because of his notorious "player" reputation.
The reason he and my friend broke up is because he cheated on her. Ha, Go figure. I'm totally fucking with his head.

And then a different side came out. Hence the part I'm a bit confused by.


Not every relationship starts with two people being sexually attracted to each other with a motive of being sexually together.
Sometimes friends do end up falling for each other.


I'm just oblivious to the world I suppose.
Because obviously if I sleep with a friend and allow physical interaction of any sort I'm a total manipulating sleeze that likes to fuck with peoples heads.

I hope I get an STD as well so I can keep this epidemic going! : D

And I can't believe I actually just lowered myself to your level to even conjure a response.
You have got to be the most ignorant fifty-one year old I have ever conversed with in my life.


- I apologize to myself.

I had something to say, but I forgot...... hahahahahaha.

Forget about your virgo man for awhile what you need to do is address your issue you have with alcohol.

Im a sag so im going to sound very blunt, but when you can't remember where you are, suck some guys dick plus you black out after 2 days of drinking and end up in jail then get assaulted at some party and you can't even remember ringing you mum you got a problem.

When reading through your love life to date all your messages scream out alcoholic it truely makes you look like a fuckwitt.

Kick your virgo man to the kerb he is only using you for sex and attention when he can't get it anywhere else and proudly displays his hickeys that he got from some cheap tart to you as if to rub it in your face.

Your only young address the problem you have with alcohol and get on with life, and also get that STD test.

Posted by Sekhmet

Posted by feistypisces
And I can't believe I actually just lowered myself to your level to even conjure a response.
You have got to be the most ignorant fifty-one year old I have ever conversed with in my life.


- I apologize to myself.

Menopause??
My partner is starting to deal with early menopause due to some medical issues. She's cancer with virgo moon & rising. Holy crap can she get her bitchy on sometimes! I just lock down my cancer shell, and if she keeps at it, put the claws up and prepare for battle. She usually catches herself pretty quick though.

Otherwise maybe P just likes baiting people. I can't believe anyone who says such unnecessarily mean stuff can be a very happy person though...

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I so agree with you. I really can't believe a Pisces can be so mean and hateful! Most Pisces (Including me) seem to have so much compassion and an uncanny ability to put ourselves in other's shoes and not be do damn judgemental!!! I think she must just enjoy baiting people and trying to get a response. I have seen some good posts from her and I am like...wow, she can actually be nice! Too bad it's not very often! We all have our problems and we don't always know inherently how to handle every situation or know exactly what to say to a certain "sign" and she makes it like a freaking travesty and like you made a mortal mistake that can never be fixed.
Sorry to feistypisces and SimplyS that you had to bear the wrath of P-devil!!! (She is not worthy of the other name!)

well..... my virgo confessed his love. we're finally a committed couple. : )

I third that motion

Actually, I have more faith in the Virgo than that ... I trust thier judgement .. there's no way he bound himself to a fucking slut ...

This won't last very long.

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There we go.