I don't get her!

I don't get my virgo girl born August 27 1985. We've been together since highschool and celebrated our seven years together last September. I love her and proven that to her a million times already. But I don't get why she checks on my email and cell phone all the time. Replies to my messages pretending it is me. We had a fight a couple of weeks ago when a girl colleague message to congratulate me for a promotion. I can't believe that she told my colleague not to text me anymore and told her some rude stuff. I was surprise when I was approached by my colleague the next day and angrily ask me why I said those things and I was like what wtf r u talking about? When did that happen? I confronted my girl and she admitted that it was really her who made that message to my colleague because she thinks that the girl is flirting with me.

So after all the fight we've tried to compromise and I made her promise that she will not do that again. But after last night she did that again but this time to my college buddy telling him that I won't be able to go to a friend??s party because we already have plans for that day.

I mean she's nice, sweet and independent things that I love the most about her but sometimes her nagging just get into my nerves and her being so possessive is driving me nuts. She does not even want me to go out with my college buddies unless I take her along. She doesn't want me to have new friends. There was one time when I went out with a group of people from work and she got pissed calling me every five minutes asking me to go home.

I don't get her really. I want to understand her so I would know what to do with her tantrums. It upsets me that everyday I feel that it is no longer working between us. For the last two years we've been on and off but still tried to fix things. But the more that I'm with her it felt as if she wants to put me inside a box so she could love only me and no one else.

As immature as her behaviour sounds, it must be driven by something.

What's your sign?
Have you ever cheated on her or given her reason not to trust you?

Posted by Cajunspirit
As immature as her behaviour sounds, it must be driven by something.

What's your sign?
Have you ever cheated on her or given her reason not to trust you?

I'm an auqua cajun born january 30 1984

her parents got divorce when she was 12 so i guess somehow it made an impact on her.
I'm a friendly guy but i try not to get too close to female friends since i know it will give our relationship a
problem.

Posted by crazykramic

Posted by Cajunspirit
As immature as her behaviour sounds, it must be driven by something.

What's your sign?
Have you ever cheated on her or given her reason not to trust you?

I'm an auqua cajun born january 30 1984

her parents got divorce when she was 12 so i guess somehow it made an impact on her.
I'm a friendly guy but i try not to get too close to female friends since i know it will give our relationship a
problem.

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You are 24 years old, about as old as me.

So having female friends would cause trouble in your relationship with this virgo girl ... really? Ugh, I hate that. I've been there before, anyone who isn't the same gender as you are causes trouble I'm sure. You being an Aquarius, you don't want to deal with that.

Posted by moon_eyes
just had a major blonde moment
whoooa whoooa she does what? thats a NONONONO major alert for you isnt it?
This is not a healthy reaction, and lying and twisting information? For what? What sort of relationship will you have later on if this escalates further? I would really start paying attention to exactly what is going on. Is she so not self confident that she has to make up lies to your colleagues and friends and make you look bad? (This is sadly showing up like a virgo pattern, not all but some, lie for their own benefit in the situation. what is up with this?)

I really don't know what things she could get by doing this. I'd like to understand, perhaps her attitude was brought about her trust issues with her dad. Or my being friends with new people at work terrifies her. or probably she wants to test me. I dont know. she's the type who does not like to admit to her mistakes it should be me coz i gave my number to my colleague darn it!

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Posted by crazykramic

Posted by Cajunspirit
As immature as her behaviour sounds, it must be driven by something.

What's your sign?
Have you ever cheated on her or given her reason not to trust you?

I'm an auqua cajun born january 30 1984

her parents got divorce when she was 12 so i guess somehow it made an impact on her.
I'm a friendly guy but i try not to get too close to female friends since i know it will give our relationship a
problem.

You are 24 years old, about as old as me.

So having female friends would cause trouble in your relationship with this virgo girl ... really? Ugh, I hate that. I've been there before, anyone who isn't the same gender as you are causes trouble I'm sure. You being an Aquarius, you don't want to deal with that.

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i have female friends most are also her friends but its like she does not want me to get too close to girls she does not know. and yep your right, sometimes she's also jealous with my own friends who are mostly male.

thanks guyz. im glad to have found this site. my virgo girl is really giving me a headache. at least i found something to vent everything at. I need air. hopefully both of us could work something out. this girl is nice when she's not having any tantrums or doing her crazy stunts.. i just need to understand her i guess and then i'll figure somethin out.. thanks again. nice talking to you all.. this is a cool site..

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Posted by cappysweetie

Posted by crazykramic

Posted by Cajunspirit
As immature as her behaviour sounds, it must be driven by something.

What's your sign?
Have you ever cheated on her or given her reason not to trust you?

I'm an auqua cajun born january 30 1984

her parents got divorce when she was 12 so i guess somehow it made an impact on her.
I'm a friendly guy but i try not to get too close to female friends since i know it will give our relationship a
problem.

You are 24 years old, about as old as me.

So having female friends would cause trouble in your relationship with this virgo girl ... really? Ugh, I hate that. I've been there before, anyone who isn't the same gender as you are causes trouble I'm sure. You being an Aquarius, you don't want to deal with that.

i have female friends most are also her friends but its like she does not want me to get too close to girls she does not know. and yep your right, sometimes she's also jealous with my own friends who are mostly male.

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I'm a capricorn with alot of Aqua influence in my chart, so I can relate -- its hard, I know it is. Most of my friends are male and I'll be damned if that wasn't an issue with every virgo partner I've had -- even the most free-spirted one.

It's a tough thing, because you can't help who you become friends with.

i don't think checking is all that crazy.

replying as you or replying at all is psycho.

it's cute that you think that she wants to put you in a box so she can love only you and no one else. if you're in a box, she can love lots of other people. it's you who'll be locked up.

run, don't walk.

i've been in her shoes and i too was in a relationship for 7 years. u should know by now if this was typical behavior of hers but, from what i gather in ur post, it's fairly new.

it was about that age, between 22-24, that i started acting out like that. i didn't go as far as to check his msgs and pretend i was him but i remember becoming really possessive which is out of character for me. he was completely trustworthy too and i knew it. he was always where he said he was and never gave me any reason to not trust him. it ended up being a problem with me in the end. i was severely unhappy with myself. i also lost myself in that relationship cuz i was so young. women around her age tend to go through a huge personal transformation within themselves. she is in prime-time of starting to figure out who she really is as a woman, an individual, and even a lover. i am 27 and i am WAY different in the way i live my life compared to when i was 25. my current lover just experienced himself last year. he's 25 and was with his ex-gf since they were 18. she, too, started figuring out what she really wanted when she was about 23 and they finally broke up because of it. they didn't want the same things anymore.

it could also be a case of the cheater growing a guilty conscience. often those who cheat on their significant others tend to project their feelings of guilt onto their partners.

just as well, it could be both. it could be neither. i guess maybe we'll see as time progresses.

My 2 cents....

She doesn't trust you because she can't understand you.

Aquarians people are those I understand the least. They are very hard to read and have some very... different social behaviour.
I don't think I would be much different if I were her.

This couple I know, Scorpio man and Aquarian woman, the Aqua girl goes around hugging up other guys, sitting on their laps and spending long periods of time away from the Scorpio man.

God alone knows how he tolerates it, because I sure as hell don't and nor do I find it acceptable.