I want her back #wlw (Virgo & Cancer women)

**UPDATE 4/26/20 ~ After 8 months since we lasted talked, today she messaged me apologizing. This is something I never thought she would do in a million years. I thought I would never ever hear from her again, I'm still in shock. It took me months to move on. And yet I'm glad that there are no hard feelings. I guess it all worked out in the end.



12/11/19 ~ 2 years ago I met this girl (she's a Virgo woman), let's call her A, who changed my life forever (I'm a cancer woman). We became best friends, literally attached at the hip. We were both living at college and I hated my roommate so I slept in her room almost every night for a year. As soon as I met her I caught feelings which terrified me because this was the first time it happened. I had never liked another woman before and she was very confident about being a lesbian. So fast forward to a year ago in October. I came out to her and we both celebrated, things were normal, great even at first. Then in November, we got into our first "fight". After coming out I thought I would feel happier, but I didn't. I sunk into this sadness and isolated myself a lot. My relationship with A didn't get any closer, we began drifting apart. She got upset with me because she thought I wasn't giving her my time and I hung out with other people more, which was not true. Our fight lasted a few days and we realized it was a huge misunderstanding and lack of communication. Then we had winter break and we texted the whole time. January of this year came and we were back together. We hung out and it was normal again finally. But then this March hit and WHAT HAPPENED?! I have no idea till this day. I used to give her rides a few times a week. Then she started asking another person for rides out of the blue. Then she stopped answering my texts altogether. I reached out, asked if she was ok. I told her I was worried about her, she said she felt homesick. I wanted to give her space. She ditched me every time I wanted to hang out we never talked again. She occasionally sent me memes on twitter afterward but stopped. She graduated and moved back home across the country in May. Before this, I had bought a plane ticket to go visit her in the summer. She told me how her mom and friends were dying to meet me and how I would love them. She told me how I reminded her of her friends from home. I still went on my trip but never texted her to meet up. I was so angry at her for what she did. We were best best friends and she left me with no explanation. I regret not texting her while I was there. I regret it every day. My anger turned to sadness after I got back from my trip in July. I wanted to see her more than anything. Then in September it was her birthday. I sent her her favorite flowers with an apology. She texted me saying that she was also sorry that we drifted apart. We texted for 4 days then she didn't text back. I didn't take it to heart though because she was a horrible texter even when we were friends! she doesn't go on her phone too much. I still don't know what happened though and I never got an answer. So basically after this huge story (sorry about that), I know shes my person, she's my soulmate. Even if we go nowhere romantically I still want her in my life. We would always say how crazy alike we are. And plan how I would move across the country to be closer to her. And shit I would do anything at this point to be close to her! The new year is approaching and I want closure. I want to talk to her again and talk about what happened. I just don't want to go about this the wrong way. She hates confrontation and I don't want to upset her. I don't have anyone that understands me, every time I try talking to my friends they tell me she's a bitch and to forget her. I'm also going back to California soon and I want to meet up with her. I cant forget her when she was the realest person I've ever had in my life.

ARE VIRGO WOMEN SO COLD AND DIFFICULT LIKE THIS?! or is my cancer ass just overly emotional and dumb?! I don't want to give up on her help

**She unfollowed me on Instagram too before September which was so weird because she follows me on everything else

More detail about your actual romantic relationship and dynamic. In cryological please. What you said doesn't add up in a few parts. Especially relationship info right after you came out to when you started drifting. Then why did you flying out and not meeting up with her exactly?

you bought the plane ticket, went on the trip and did NOT text her?

I’ll say what I’ve said many times before. People must respect other people falling out of love.

At this point seeing that A fell out of rship, changed her mind, changed her surroundings and it hasn’t include you - WHY are you still trying to change what clearly is the end?

It’s all You You Uou. What about her? She quietly went in and it’s so obvious to everyone but you.

You saying she is your soulmate but apparently you just mistaking and she isn’t. This is life and you need to accept her decision.

Posted by Lostthoughts

More detail about your actual romantic relationship and dynamic. In cryological please. What you said doesn't add up in a few parts. Especially relationship info right after you came out to when you started drifting. Then why did you flying out and not meeting up with her exactly?

We never had a romantic relationship or talked about "us" romantically. People assumed we were together because of our flirty banter but I was too afraid of telling her. I flew out because I had planned it for a while and I really wanted to go still. I don't know why I didn't text her to meet up I was angry and stupid. I regret it.

Posted by Vicktoria

I'm sorry, but it looks like she's moved on.

Yea maybe she has. And I don't even want anything romantic you know. I just wanted to be friends again and be able to catch up and just have her in my life still. I know it will never be like what it was.

Posted by virgoOPPP

you bought the plane ticket, went on the trip and did NOT text her?

I hate myself for that every day, trust me. It was out of anger and my friends kept telling me how horrible she was for never talking to me again. I regret it, I really really do. I just want to show her that I'm willing to put in the effort, but I don't know if that's enough.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

More detail about your actual romantic relationship and dynamic. In cryological please. What you said doesn't add up in a few parts. Especially relationship info right after you came out to when you started drifting. Then why did you flying out and not meeting up with her exactly?

We never had a romantic relationship or talked about "us" romantically. People assumed we were together because of our flirty banter but I was too afraid of telling her. I flew out because I had planned it for a while and I really wanted to go still. I don't know why I didn't text her to meet up I was angry and stupid. I regret it.

why are you so emotional? Relax

sheez

the world hasn't crashed yet

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damn ok ok haha emotions to the side then. basically I just want to be friends again because she was my only real friend I made when we were in college and it sucked to lose her. Yes, I am overly emotional because I'm hurt and I can't stop thinking that this all happened because I hurt her. But I don't know because she wouldn't talk to me or tell me what was wrong. I shared a part of myself with her that I haven't shared with many people. I don't mean to be too emotional

Posted by Gemitati

I’ll say what I’ve said many times before. People must respect other people falling out of love.

At this point seeing that A fell out of rship, changed her mind, changed her surroundings and it hasn’t include you - WHY are you still trying to change what clearly is the end?

It’s all You You Uou. What about her? She quietly went in and it’s so obvious to everyone but you.

You saying she is your soulmate but apparently you just mistaking and she isn’t. This is life and you need to accept her decision.

You're completely right. I don't think "she fell out of love" though. We were just best friends. And I did worry about her, even though I definetly sound selfish. I tried reaching out many many times. Asking her if she was okay. I still am worried that I hurt her. I dont want to have hurt her. Without a proper conversation I cant understand why this all happened. I just want her to give me a chance to talk about it.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

More detail about your actual romantic relationship and dynamic. In cryological please. What you said doesn't add up in a few parts. Especially relationship info right after you came out to when you started drifting. Then why did you flying out and not meeting up with her exactly?

We never had a romantic relationship or talked about "us" romantically. People assumed we were together because of our flirty banter but I was too afraid of telling her. I flew out because I had planned it for a while and I really wanted to go still. I don't know why I didn't text her to meet up I was angry and stupid. I regret it.

why are you so emotional? Relax

sheez

the world hasn't crashed yet

damn ok ok haha emotions to the side then. basically I just want to be friends again because she was my only real friend I made when we were in college and it sucked to lose her. Yes, I am overly emotional because I'm hurt and I can't stop thinking that this all happened because I hurt her. But I don't know because she wouldn't talk to me or tell me what was wrong. I shared a part of myself with her that I haven't shared with many people. I don't mean to be too emotional

right. I get that. Just let it be. The more you try to force this the more she'll run away cause all the power is in her hands.

You've done your part. Now time to let her do hers. It might take years.

Just let go

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okay, I have to let go as much as I want to talk to her I won't. I've tried to get over it. I just didn't want for us to be left on bad terms, I just wanted to talk about it with her. But I won't.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

you bought the plane ticket, went on the trip and did NOT text her?

I hate myself for that every day, trust me. It was out of anger and my friends kept telling me how horrible she was for never talking to me again. I regret it, I really really do. I just want to show her that I'm willing to put in the effort, but I don't know if that's enough.

are you going to listen to me or are you going to ignore me cause you can't deal with my bluntness?

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I've just deleted all of my social media. I need a break. I don't want to see her name pop up. I need to let her go and move on with my life. I want closure, but I know that it won't be happening. I needed someone to tell me that. Thank you.

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Posted by Gemitati

I’ll say what I’ve said many times before. People must respect other people falling out of love.

At this point seeing that A fell out of rship, changed her mind, changed her surroundings and it hasn’t include you - WHY are you still trying to change what clearly is the end?

It’s all You You Uou. What about her? She quietly went in and it’s so obvious to everyone but you.

You saying she is your soulmate but apparently you just mistaking and she isn’t. This is life and you need to accept her decision.

You're completely right. I don't think "she fell out of love" though. We were just best friends. And I did worry about her, even though I definetly sound selfish. I tried reaching out many many times. Asking her if she was okay. I still am worried that I hurt her. I dont want to have hurt her. Without a proper conversation I cant understand why this all happened. I just want her to give me a chance to talk about it.

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And she doesn’t want that chance!

Just leave her ta fuck alone!

Start over without her. Stop torturing her. The end!

Lol virgos

What do you mean exactly when you say that you hurt her? What did you do?

You know no one ever really thinks about virgos cause they put up with so much crap and people always thinks yeah they’re fine. then when they’ve moved on, they really don’t give a shit about you anymore

So what actually happened? We can be cold and emotionless but usually takes a lot for us to reach that point....

Were you being super clingy? Were you being a cancer and pulling your cancer shenanigans? Especially after this fight? What actually took place in this first fight?

Another thing to look at...is that she slowly unattached herself because she knew she was going to be graduating and going back home soon.

I had a female cancer bff and we were attached at the hip. Always hung out, worked together...hell we even got a second job together. She then broke up with her long time bf...which I encourage (he was shit). She then started ditching me left and right for guys (I never ditched her even for my bf). Last straw was her ditching me for our work Christmas party...we had planned to go together but she wanted her new man to go too...ok, that's fine but when the time came to meet up and go...she completely ditched me altogether...didn't answer my calls or texts. I was pissed. I ended up not going and didn't speak to her again and we worked together ... literally all day in a bank drive thru...just me and her. If she asked a work related question...I'd answer and be professional but kept it short. We did this for a year...she finally moved upstairs to work in the lobby lol. I had a Christmas present I bought her and one day just left it by her car door (it was too late to return it and I didn't want it)...we spoke briefly when she thanked me and that was it. She's reached out a couple times thru the years just to give condolences and I thanked her but again that was it...I was beyond done with the friendship. I wish her well tho and have no hard feelings but we will never be friends again.

Posted by iamlanaxxx

Lol virgos

What do you mean exactly when you say that you hurt her? What did you do?

I mean I didn't want to have hurt her. She hates confrontation so she never told me what happened. Everything was fine and then it wasn't, I've been going crazy trying to figure out why.

Posted by iamlanaxxx

You know no one ever really thinks about virgos cause they put up with so much crap and people always thinks yeah they’re fine. then when they’ve moved on, they really don’t give a shit about you anymore

Yea she always kept to herself about that stuff. But I did reach out to her because I knew she was upset about something. She told me she felt really homesick. I was really nice and understanding. And I didn't want to be clingy so I gave her space and that was it.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

So what actually happened? We can be cold and emotionless but usually takes a lot for us to reach that point....

Were you being super clingy? Were you being a cancer and pulling your cancer shenanigans? Especially after this fight? What actually took place in this first fight?

Another thing to look at...is that she slowly unattached herself because she knew she was going to be graduating and going back home soon.

I had a female cancer bff and we were attached at the hip. Always hung out, worked together...hell we even got a second job together. She then broke up with her long time bf...which I encourage (he was shit). She then started ditching me left and right for guys (I never ditched her even for my bf). Last straw was her ditching me for our work Christmas party...we had planned to go together but she wanted her new man to go too...ok, that's fine but when the time came to meet up and go...she completely ditched me altogether...didn't answer my calls or texts. I was pissed. I ended up not going and didn't speak to her again and we worked together ... literally all day in a bank drive thru...just me and her. If she asked a work related question...I'd answer and be professional but kept it short. We did this for a year...she finally moved upstairs to work in the lobby lol. I had a Christmas present I bought her and one day just left it by her car door (it was too late to return it and I didn't want it)...we spoke briefly when she thanked me and that was it. She's reached out a couple times thru the years just to give condolences and I thanked her but again that was it...I was beyond done with the friendship. I wish her well tho and have no hard feelings but we will never be friends again.

No after the fight it was fine again. We were hanging out and it was great. For a long time I thought it was because she was graduating, but I still don't know. She hates confrontation so I don't want to upset her by messaging her, but I do want to know if I did something. When I sent her flowers for her birthday she texted me saying that she was sorry that we drifted apart. We talked about what she's doing now but like I said she's never been much of a texter even when we were best friends. If that's the case it really sucks that she doesn't want me in her life anymore when she said how much she wanted me to meet her family and how I reminded her of her friends from home. I'm so confused. I'll respect her choice and move on. I just sucks not knowing why.

Posted by Black-Mamba

it really depends oon the Virgo

so my Virgo with Aries moon friend

we hate each other and years later reconnect like soulmate

my Virgo with Libra moon friend

never talked to her after we stopped being friends

she never reached out either

but neither have I

but I never did them dirty, it's them either doing me dirty (Libra moon) or being mad and not wanting to communicate

I'm giving her space, you're right. I just need to focus on moving on and improving on myself. I wish the same for her, I still really care about her. Hopefully, we can reconnect in the future. She's a Virgo with a Taurus moon and I'm a Cancer with a Taurus moon lol

Thank you!

Posted by Gemitati

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Posted by Gemitati

I’ll say what I’ve said many times before. People must respect other people falling out of love.

At this point seeing that A fell out of rship, changed her mind, changed her surroundings and it hasn’t include you - WHY are you still trying to change what clearly is the end?

It’s all You You Uou. What about her? She quietly went in and it’s so obvious to everyone but you.

You saying she is your soulmate but apparently you just mistaking and she isn’t. This is life and you need to accept her decision.

You're completely right. I don't think "she fell out of love" though. We were just best friends. And I did worry about her, even though I definetly sound selfish. I tried reaching out many many times. Asking her if she was okay. I still am worried that I hurt her. I dont want to have hurt her. Without a proper conversation I cant understand why this all happened. I just want her to give me a chance to talk about it.

And she doesn’t want that chance!

Just leave her ta fuck alone!

Start over without her. Stop torturing her. The end!

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True!

The problem is you are trying to work out what she thinks or feels. There's ni actual way to know this. You don't have to be clingy or confrontational, you can just put the ball in her court and that's it. Just text her that you would like to reconnect and be friends, respect her answer if you get one and that's it. Just because you disconnected, it doesn't mean that the option of a friendship is completely dead. Also, you asked if us virgos really are that cold? Um, no, but we can be if we believe that will be best for us in the long run. We have emotions, but we can keep them under control.

Another virgo woman tarnishing our good name with emotional instability indesicvness. I swear virgo women are way worse at emotional connection than males. Once they get hooked with us (male virgo)we always fuck it up lol

After 8 months since we lasted talked, today she messaged me apologizing. This is something I never thought she would do in a million years. I thought I would never ever hear from her again, I'm still in shock. It took me months to move on. And yet I'm glad that there are no hard feelings. I guess it all worked out in the end.

Posted by seekingcancer

2 years ago I met this girl (she's a Virgo woman), let's call her A, who changed my life forever (I'm a cancer woman). We became best friends, literally attached at the hip. We were both living at college and I hated my roommate so I slept in her room almost every night for a year. As soon as I met her I caught feelings which terrified me because this was the first time it happened. I had never liked another woman before and she was very confident about being a lesbian. So fast forward to a year ago in October. I came out to her and we both celebrated, things were normal, great even at first. Then in November, we got into our first "fight". After coming out I thought I would feel happier, but I didn't. I sunk into this sadness and isolated myself a lot. My relationship with A didn't get any closer, we began drifting apart. She got upset with me because she thought I wasn't giving her my time and I hung out with other people more, which was not true. Our fight lasted a few days and we realized it was a huge misunderstanding and lack of communication. Then we had winter break and we texted the whole time. January of this year came and we were back together. We hung out and it was normal again finally. But then this March hit and WHAT HAPPENED?! I have no idea till this day. I used to give her rides a few times a week. Then she started asking another person for rides out of the blue. Then she stopped answering my texts altogether. I reached out, asked if she was ok. I told her I was worried about her, she said she felt homesick. I wanted to give her space. She ditched me every time I wanted to hang out we never talked again. She occasionally sent me memes on twitter afterward but stopped. She graduated and moved back home across the country in May. Before this, I had bought a plane ticket to go visit her in the summer. She told me how her mom and friends were dying to meet me and how I would love them. She told me how I reminded her of her friends from home. I still went on my trip but never texted her to meet up. I was so angry at her for what she did. We were best best friends and she left me with no explanation. I regret not texting her while I was there. I regret it every day. My anger turned to sadness after I got back from my trip in July. I wanted to see her more than anything. Then in September it was her birthday. I sent her her favorite flowers with an apology. She texted me saying that she was also sorry that we drifted apart. We texted for 4 days then she didn't text back. I didn't take it to heart though because she was a horrible texter even when we were friends! she doesn't go on her phone too much. I still don't know what happened though and I never got an answer. So basically after this huge story (sorry about that), I know shes my person, she's my soulmate. Even if we go nowhere romantically I still want her in my life. We would always say how crazy alike we are. And plan how I would move across the country to be closer to her. And shit I would do anything at this point to be close to her! The new year is approaching and I want closure. I want to talk to her again and talk about what happened. I just don't want to go about this the wrong way. She hates confrontation and I don't want to upset her. I don't have anyone that understands me, every time I try talking to my friends they tell me she's a bitch and to forget her. I'm also going back to California soon and I want to meet up with her. I cant forget her when she was the realest person I've ever had in my life.

ARE VIRGO WOMEN SO COLD AND DIFFICULT LIKE THIS?! or is my cancer ass just overly emotional and dumb?! I don't want to give up on her help

**She unfollowed me on Instagram too before September which was so weird because she follows me on everything else