I'm going through the same thing-Break Up

I had to let go of my Virguy today. I could not longer put up with his retreats. I am a fiery aries. I am not one to "need" a guy, but when I like a guy I would like his attention. Maybe I did call him too much and overwhelm him, but that was because he would ignore all my calls. The more he ignored me, the more I called. I'm sure it is in their nature, but as someone wrote - since when does a guy's birthday give him the right to be a jerk? I left him a voicemail today in the morning and told him I am no longer going to put with with his lack of interest. I doubt he will call me, I also told him to bother contacting me when he is "ready", which would be in 2 or 3 weeks, (per his previous patterns). I feel that if he liked me like he said he did, he would have showed more interest. His retreats turned me off and gave me the impression he is not interested, even though he told me he was. I read that "some virgos completely shut people out as soon as they are attracted to them". I really do not understand how that is possible, I have a lot of Virgo friends, it seems they might enjoy a chase after all. I was very open with my virguy and let him know from the beginning I was very into him. Oh well, i guess it has ended.

Dear Paige welcome to the club!

I am sorry to hear you are going through the same thing I am going thru and many women associated with a Virgo male partner go thru. What a shame!

I wish I could give you some words of enlightenment, but I do not even have them for moi!

Be true to your feelings though! 😉

Good luck to us women that fall for male Virgos! lol

lol...yes ladies good luck to girls and their virguys!

As I said, I have a lot of male virgo friends, but this one was different. I'm thinking it was because we talked about a romantic interest between us. I have never been that way with my virgo friends. I'm very heartbroken, but can accept the loss. The thing that bothers me is that he might not even care, he will go on with his life and block his emotions as usual. While I sit and analyze every mistake I made with him. But, I will definitely stick to my plan. I will stay away.

Seriously- let's GET RID OF ALL THE VIRGOS
Virgos are troublemakers...

Hello? This is a Virgo board...not "your" board...

How about people who are bothered by Virgos
LEAVE this virgo board for once?

You people tell all these stories you have had with virgos,
trying to sound like you "don't care" and
you think virgos are annoying.
Yet you are STILL here complaining...complaining...complaining...
OK we get your point. You hate virgos.
Now get out and get a life.

I'm sick of these virgo haters filling our virgo board
with posts full of hatred.
If your relationship is over, you have nothing to deal with virgo.
Don't come here and complain.
Go to relationship board or something. Not here.

And why do you always think it's Virguys problem?
Don't you think you have your own problem?
You think your relationship didn't work and you didn't contribute
any bit to it?
No!!!!!!
Uggggggggg

Do you "own" dxp domain? If so I don't mind buying it. let me know. It's not a terratorial stuff, every one posts every where.. U only seem to be reading virgo board..

I read Virgo board because I am one...duh?

I didn't say it was mine. I said it's a VIRGO BOARD. (READ)
Not a Virgo haters let's complain here board.
I said it wasn't "your" board because you all were telling personal stories
of Virgos, and in this case didn't even need advice (because relationship was over already)
which was pretty pointless and plain hate post
or "I-need-attention" post in my opinion.

As I said, If you want to announce that you're relationship
is over... go to relationship board or relationship&astrology board.

I'm only saying this because I've just seen so many
posts like this one
and it's bringing negative aura to this board
and I do not like it. (And other Virgos don't like it...)

"negative aura to the board" - now that's a newie to me😉

A x

You probably turned the guy off by calling too much....ALTHOUGH, if someone takes 2-3 weeks to get back with you, they probably aren't really interested in the first place.

It sounds like you just "dumped" a virguy who never considered himself in a relationship with you. If he's anything like the virgos I know he's probably relieved. He may have liked you at some point but felt smothered and then backed off.

In dating we have to realize that everyone does not share our style in dating as far as when you should call, how m uch time y ou should spend together, how interest is expressed, now soon you should be spending a lot of time together, etc. If you really like someone, you should try and figure out what makes them comfortable and then mold to that UNLESS the way they do things is something that you just can't live with...this means that you're just not compatible and shouldn't be together anyway not because anything is WRONG with either person but because it will just take too much work.

Just a thought you might want to ponder Paige99. I wish you the best

cancerLA said "In dating.... If you really like someone, you should try and figure out what makes them comfortable and then mold..."


Why mold to his style of dating? I am not preaching that he should mold to her/my style , however, it takes two to tango and if they are a couple and dating exclusively, I believe BOTH parties should compromise for the benefit of the relationship, not just one of the party's preferences!

In Spanish we say, "hoy por ti, ma?ana por mi" that is, today your turn, tomorrow's mine, and it is not about a 50% -50% relationship, but a 100% each for the better of the relationship. It should not be looped sided...

But then very few Virgo males are willing to tango! 😛

"Why mold to his style of dating?"

ESCORPIONA,

its just a matter of some compromise. If it ever gets to be too much for you, then bail. I'm not advocating becoming a different person, but simply finding some medium in between the way you do t hings and the way the other person does things.


"He didn't give you exactly what you wanted and in turn you pursued him to extract what you wanted regardless if he was willing to give it."

That was GOLDEN deardiary

Compromising indeed! I am all for it, but by both parties! 🙂

Vfacullo''''' I am a Virgo too and I have a right to post here and ask others for their opinions, Being a virgo woman I have never had a difficult time being honest and I took a long time before I entered into the relationship with a virgo man and yet I find myself puzzeled by their push pull behavior! I don't feel any one is virgo bashing or male bashing but rather trying to get a better understanding of them. I have seen way more disrespect and negativity by others on the virgo forums other then the women who are just trying to understand. This is my first relationship with another virgo (2years plus) and when I tell you he does not match up to the description of what you and others say they are like! Maybe you should really step back and see where you are too defensive and your communication style is a little on the negative side! JUST FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

Thank you once again for all your help, again, ESPECIALLY virgo men that give and offer advice - you would not even understand how much it helps me!

Let me say a few things:

1st - I never have and WILL NEVER EVER bash on my virguy - he is a great guy. I have said this to everyone from the start. So, for all the idiots that come one here and NOT READ carefully, please do so next time. I am not talking bad on ANY virgos, I simply come one here to understand and it has helped me out tremendously. I have learned alot.

2nd - I have NEVER said I did no wrong, in fact, I have acknowleded the fact that I have pushed on him too hard, I know that I might have overwhelmed him. I know I have, as someone said "I have left him grasping for air" - it is true. I know he liked me in the begininnign and now is sickened by the relationship. I know this.

Which, brings me to the next point, I apologized to him tonight. Just 5 mintues ago I apologized for being rude. I also told him that I missed him and would like to see him very soon. Again, maybe pushy, but thats how I feel.

I have never obsessed over a guy the way I do for him. I havent known him long, about 8 months, but I feel like I am in love. It is a strange feeling, though I doubt he feels the same. Rumor has it that his ex gf cheated on him! :0(

I would never do that, if I had the chance, I would treat him like my king. unfortunately, he does not want that - or me...same difference.

Which, brings me to the next point, I apologized to him tonight. Just 5 mintues ago I apologized for being rude. I also told him that I missed him and would like to see him very soon. Again, maybe pushy,

.......
Wow - you are so brave.. I hope he responds in a +ve way..

See, how nice you are feeling about him, and at this point imagine him not responding to u say for 3 weeks and then when he responds what if he asks you to not chase him?
That's when other ladies get upset and bash on virgos.

I wish you well that yours' does turn out be caring.

paige, speaking to another person, i'm sorry to hear that but congrats to you at the same time.

vfacullo, i can understand where you are coming from. I would defend my gems too if people criticized us.

But I think that having this forum is great b/c we share our views on others and as well as ourselves: both negative views and positive views. Like everyone has said, take it or leave it. Those virgo men that want to improve themselves can come here and see why they are always alone, etc. same goes with the females. same goes with other signs.

I do agree that we should respect virgos since this is somewhat their territory. But we should also have our say in what's bothering us relating to virgos especially virgo men. We are just curious beings that's why we are here on this forum. To understand ourselves and one another. If we are a truly happy person and truly satisfied with ourselves or with our loved ones, then more than likely, we wouldn't be scoping around this forum or any other related sites.

we don't see much complaints about virgo females b/c men just don't complain in general vs. females... we can rupture this forum with our experiences with virgo guys. So, I feel that if some virgos (or any other signs) don't want to read what complaints we have about virgos, then please don't read. This is all for amusement and learning.

"can we all just get along." lol

oh yes, I would prefer coming to virgo forums b/c everything i want to know about virgos are all here. If i want to know about relationships I would go there. but coming here is more specific. It would take forever to find a topic about relationships with virgos under forum relationship.. so why not organize it here .. like it always have been? thank you all for that. less work for me to scavenger hunt for it.