HEELP!!!! - I need help on figuring out a Virguy!!

About 4 months ago I met a Virgo guy. We hit it off right from the start and we were both very flirtatious and, HE would even flirt with me. Well, a month into knowing him, I confessed that I really liked him, after that things gor weird nd we did not talk everyday like we did in the beggining. He would talk to me every 2 to 3 weeks. Finally, I confronted him about it and aske him what was wrong, and he sid he likes and and does not know how to act around me. hat seems very immature since we are both in our mid 20's! I stopped contacting him, because the way I saw him - he needs to grow up!! BUT, now I miss him!!! AND, it always seems that I am the one always calling and texting him first, AND he does not respond right away, he will take up to 1 week to respond! Is this guy playing me or does he really like me? Should I keep texting him or am I just bothering him at this point—

Please help!! I need to know if I should keep trying to save our friendship or just let it go! I hate being the one always calling and texting him first, I feel like I bother him!

Yea Paige. Sorry, this is their pattern. Trust me, I've been dating one for a year. It pretty much stays the same, so if that "pull-away" behavior bothers you too much I would advise you to steer clear...I know how addicting they are though; what IS it about them?

Oh and about the calling/texting...I usually have to call/text mine first, but he's always told me that it doesn't bother him, and "if he's not too busy, he'll respond" Yes. That's the way they are.

I dont know you ladies, but you guys are GREAT!! I guess thats the way the are then— ARRGGG- the are sooo annoying! But yes, strangely addicting! So nice and polite!! I guess, Ill keep texting him!

oooh paige paige paige.....im in the EXACT SAME BOAT AS U.....mine hasnt called me in about 2.5 weeks....its driving me crazy but u know what?? IF HE WAS TO CALL ME RITE NOW TO COME THRU WHAT DO U THINK I WOULD DO?? DRIIIIVE RITE OVER lol....yessss thats the way they r...i think...so im discovering....they suk but im hopelessly stuck on him.....

Paige...As most of these people attest to, Virgo's are not the aggressor by nature. They have some great ideas, are very creative, and helpful and sweet, but there's just something simmering under the surface that keeps them thinking of possible rejection. For some people, they can be rejected 100 times a day and walk away proud. A virgo is so critical of himself, that he has thought himself right into a corner. Wanting to move on someone, and yet afraid if he does, he will be humiliated. To him it is worse to fail than to not try at all, than face rejection. This is in the romantic department. A virgo will be pretty relaxed in a friendly setting. This is where you win over his confidence. Be a true friend to him FIRST. Discover everything you need to know by just being close to him. When those romantic feelings hit him and he feels it's mutual, then you won't find him retreating anymore. He needs to trust you big-time. He is vulnerable, and sensitive. The only way to SEE inside is to spend time with him and not push. The virgo is also very fond of his freedom. So give him space. Just offer to be a friend and do things on a light schedule...keep the heavy stuff for when you win his heart.Good luck.

Everybody always talkes about patience and time...how much time—? I'm in a similar situation. Dated this guy for about 3 month. Its pretty peachy, he spents new years with me, my birthday he was with me all day. We used to talk hours on the phone, he did cutsie stuff. He missed some of the football games (his favorite team) to hang out with me...Now I have seen him twice in the past month. He said he'll call tomorrow, but doesnt. He'd been cranky on the phone a couple of times when I brought it up. So i decided I wouldn't call anymore. And sure enough, about a week later he calls me on his way to work (that was saturday). And he called monday evening AGAIN and we talked for an hour just like before...... so what the heck. i don't think I've ever been this confused.

So is there a light at the end of the tunnel or what? LOL

Only if you carry on walking the tunnel....if you decide to take a short cut you'll end up at a dead end...

Carry on walking..like the rest of us..theres a lass!..LOL..

Jwalker is right..

Jada79, please can I tap into your 6 year experience with your virgo guy? I have been with mine for 2 1/2 years and I have been real patient until recently. He has always told me that he has deep feelings for me but has at times done that push pull everyone on the post talks about but this last time he really showed an emotional side when he thought I might be interested in someone else. He called the next 2 days after seeing me and then did not call or return any of my calls (unusal)and after I sent him a email telling him I would not call or email him again,it was up to him and thAT I felt really disrespected by his ignoring my calls and that I now feel every thing he said to me that night was a lie. It was 1 week before I heard from him and then it was by text messag ( something he never did before) and he used a name for him and I that only the two of us would recognize and the message said,just saying hi! I responded 2 hours later with a funny answer and have not heard from him since ( 5 days).How can someone tell you that they really have deep feelings for you , not want you to see anyone else,you have been better to them then anyone else and that they trust you more then they trusted anyone else and then fly the coop? I am angry but puzzled!Do you have any insight into this kind of behavior? I appreciate any help you could give! I am a virgo and I don't have difficulty expressing my emotions, I mean what I say and I reallu hate having to play games.

what about the theory "if you want to be with someone you make it happen" or you call or you do pretty much anything to see that person. Does that not apply in virgo world?
I'm a capricorn and I'm all about my personal space and doing things on my time, but seeing someone twice in a month is a bit more than personal space, isn't it? At least with anyone I've talked to.

Thanks for the advice btw missmorals...I'll try the tunnel a bit longer 😉

Great!..just what one needs..a 2 year wait to declare feelings..what waste of life...Why can't everyone just move at breakneck speeds..would make life soooooooooooooo much easier..

I guess some people need physical intimacy a lot more than others..

Not all virgos need 2 years to sort out their feelings..you get the likes of Dy who just gets down to business and sorts out everything like a normal human being..and I have several virgo friends who have declared their undying love for their objects of affection and now settling down moving in together etc..

There is hope..lol

p.s..I don't know why I keep saying 2 years..like thats a definitive figure or something..LOL

God help me if I'll be in that tunnel for 2 years LOL, I might be in the looney bin by then. Along with most of the other ladies here 😉
At least I have some hope now too....it'll tie me over for a bit longer.

Yes .. I've graduated to "Head Looney Bin Keeper" .. so, you're not alone. 😛

"My Virgo still does the same things your Virgo does, but I've gotten use to it."


So, the moral to the story is .. the partner of the Virgo has to change, for he won't bend an inch .. get used to doing all the work, or leave.

This is what I never understood from these people try to get a grip of Virgos (especially male creature).

What is emotion to you, might have a different frequency and vibrations effect to another human.

To prove it.. get back in time and watch those video shots from crazy screaming girls starting from 50's on Beatle concerts.. Elvis concerts? The doors concerts etc ..!

Take a look at those? is that ?emotions? to you..?? any signs of affection..??


If you get emotional ?out burst? like this, then you wont get any attentions from the Virgos for sure, correct interpreting the ?emotional? moods are depending on how much ?adrenalin? your body produce and release at that moments of ?LOVE? and more importantly how do you receive it and interpret it in a way that don't seem scary to your partner.


So, of course Virgos are emotional too, not in your way, but in our way. If you care to understand it and stop being selfish, then you will have great life? if not, prepare to get rotten in the dungeon that you've created it.

Virgos are not SLAVE? and certainly not a Love beggars?!

Jada79 is so right. Not emotional but have deep feelings. Tending to keep everything inside. I gave some thought to the push-pull thing. We are mutable. We analyze everything to death. We are critical and super self-critical. When I look at the self-critical part of it, I realize that we know so well our own short comings and faults that it's possible we can't beleive we are acceptable. We back off maybe because we think that if you really knew all of our vulnerabilities and fears you wouldn't want us. I was once told I was the "most perfect" person to live with and it shocked me to the core. We observe the critisism others are handing out to each other and silently think "OMG I do that too" or "Boy if she doesn't like that in HIM I don't stand a chance"..if that makes any sense. We really are a tall order to fill. We adore intelligence, we need you to need us (but not use us),we require security and trust, and are only passionately inclined if totally relaxed (passion, not sex)with a partner.
We need an aggressor, and yet don't really appreciate heavy aggression.We are definitely hard on people that care about us. But yes, get to our very core, and you have a genuine diamond of pure sparkling love and devotion. You have to think it's worth it I guess.

"We are definitely hard on people that care about us."


lol

Nobody is having emotional outburts...I don't know about other ladies but I certainly am not crying over a man..regardless of the sign!

SEEEEEEEE Self critical 😉 (But honest) I would like to take this moment to apologize to all the people I have driven nuckin futz in my life...That includes LadyM😉 🙂!!

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"We are definitely hard on people that care about us."


Lol



See my point??

People are and always will be hard on someone they care and love (hard means discipline here), not physical?.!

This famous old bat camper in this forum still haven't got it after 25 years.. let alone you babies?!

Grown up and educate yourselves about ?yourselves? it is always a lot easier to blame others because of our short comings..! you guys don't even know what emotions/love/affections/self sacrifice/unselfishness is? and expecting some (virgo) teaching you that..??


Perhaps next 500 years? not now.

LOL @ Jwalker

"Nobody is having emotional outburts"

Me needer .. there's a difference between having emotions that need expressing and having outbursts .. does a male Virgo know the difference?

Any would do (not females, they're real) .. Dyr doesn't count .. any body?

I like the way Qbone writes...full of conviction and passion...

MissM....You are a gem and I can't see you wasting your TIME on a tear thata way, nevermind your emotional energy...but then neither would I..I will get pissed off before I cry.

"People are and always will be hard on someone they care and love (hard means discipline here"

No, Q .. I don't see your point because the fact of the matter is .. this isn't a "people" thing .. it's a Virgo thing.

LOL...I like you too Jwalker..your my hot piece of ass on the side 😉
Virgoman don't know what he's missing!..LOL

P-angel..I kinda believe what Qbone said there..As Scorpios, I know we are extreeeeeeenly hard on the people we love the most..Constant tests to see if they slip...discipline, self control is where its at...and with me..if I feel geniune affection in a touch..I will wait however long it takes..as long as I FEEL it is geniune..

"your my hot piece of ass on the side"

Ladies !!!!!!

I don't know .. virgoman might like this kind of action 😛

LOL @ P-Angel...

😉

Me going bed...

Night all

XX

"As Scorpios, I know we are extreeeeeeenly hard on the people we love the most..Constant tests to see if they slip"


Whatever keeps them on the leash ...

Night mm ..

""People are and always will be hard on someone they care and love (hard means discipline here"

No, Q .. I don't see your point because the fact of the matter is .. this isn't a "people" thing .. it's a Virgo thing.?


to correct you.. Virgos are ?hardest and harshest on themselves first??. Then tell me.. you have kids and you love'em very much? if they wrong doing several times wont you get hard on them..?

virgogotme

"lets get rid of all Virgos"

lol


That was one of the silliest topic I have ever seen in this forum sofar?

Sure the author deserve my ?duh award# soon?

Well thank you DY?

I never compromised before and don't have plan to do it in the future either (because I believe it is form of manipulations) in any kind of relationship.


That means I am neurotic..?? if I don't bend for the forces that ?I? believe it is ?unfair?, means that I immature too..??



Hmmm?

Dyr .. nice theory .. however, you're NOT blind or stupid .. look around you ..

99% of females have the same bitch about their Virgo men .. something HAS to be done. It's time to stop ignoring this issue and DO something about it, already.

In general?.


Maturity means ?how well you play? with other partner's GAMES? what if you are not a gamer then..?? Garbage pin—

Dyr .. nice theory .. however, you're NOT blind or stupid .. look around you ..

look around what..??

99% of these people playing ?DRAMA game ONLINE??



honestly?. Do you really believe in what they say..?? or you only rejecting ALV type..??

Or shall I start to be detective again..??

Detective Q-Bone .. that has a nice ring to it, lol

Well, starting a thread about what women have to do to deserve a V isn't helpful in the least .. it has the opposite effect .. that was a mistake and only made matters worse.

These women are drowning as it is .. now, they are feeling like EVERYTHING in their relationship is their fault and that's just pathetic because it suggests double-standards on the Virgo part.

Ok, you have to give the boards more of your time again because it's going to hell.

Tell you something?


You are drowning not them, you as PHISH absorbing the adversities also lies?! I am not going to say that poor you..it is your nature and you know better..!

It is not a Virgos fault that you feel defeated in your personal life?


Shit happens to anyone at any one time?. That reminds me a funny proverb..!

Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.

Not very good detective then because it's 99% of the females in here.

Q .. you're fired .. go back to being a journalist.

Stop creating or promoting dramas?


You'll feel better..!

hehe

why am i always playing catchup? lol. you guys rock!

Notso..I think you do have a major cancer influence somewhere..See whether its parents, siblings etc..I am the one that takes control and tells them what needs to be in what order etc etc..I can't stand people who are unable to make a decision, sit and talk etc..I will encourage everyone to do well and make something of themselves, extremely helpful etc..but I also come down like a tonne of bricks if they fall out of line..And I really do have no remorse when the kindness, help is not reciprocated..be it family or friends..