I've got it bad

So it turns out that FWB can't be done. LOL
The virgo and I continue to see one another but now we're incorporating dates into the mix. He's even including his kids, which I find odd for a man who has said he isn't sure he's ready to commit to someone.

This guy is pretty amazing, just didn't realize it until recently: his ability to memorize every little detail about what I like, his ability to actually listen to everything I say and remember it, his stare, his willingness to help me with things around the house, to the intimacy.

That's all for now - those that said fwb couldn't be done between a virgo and taurus, you were right - at least I can only speak from the Taurus side of things.

perspective is reality

Hey P. I've heard the phrase "Perception is reality", but what does your mean?

Here's a scenario:

A man really likes a woman, and so he finds out where she goes grocery shopping and when, then he goes there to look at her ... this man works next door to her, that's where he saw her ... she takes walks during lunch break for exercise, now man takes walks to be near her, to watch her.


Woman likes man: she is overjoyed and estatic that he wants to be near her, and look at her

Woman doesn't like man: she hides in office and tells everyone she knows that she's being stalked.

The reality is that his actions remain the same, while her reality is dependent upon how she feels.




If you decided you didn't like him anymore .. then his memorizing and paying attention to you, would piss you off ... while his actions never changed ~ the change was your feelings.


Perspective is reality

Makes sense to some degree.

Posted by houstonpeach74

This guy is pretty amazing, just didn't realize it until recently ...

And here ^^^^ is the evidence.

His disposition isn't going to change, so him being amazing was either present or not.

Aww, when you put it this way, you make it seem like this guy is nothing special.

He's not.

You are the one who is special .... he is merely a person in the moment.

Erroneously - people forget that, and believe that other people are suppose to make them.

People will come and go ... and your feelings will change for them your entire life ... the constant that remains the same throughout is you.


so, you're suppose to make YOU special ... and let those who want to take ride, do so, if it feels right .. but, you're not suppose to make that person more special than you because at this point is when people give away their personal empowerment, and become statistics of doormatism

Posted by houstonpeach74

He was there for me 3 weeks ago when I ended things with the other guy. Even while I was dating this other person, he helped me out with things (ran errands for me, checked in on my puppy when I had to travel on the weekends, switched out my ceiling fans, etc).

He's your rebound ... which means he is expendable.

You just don't realize it yet.

No, he's not my rebound. The guy I recently ended things with was my rebound. I had initial feelings for this Virgo before this other man, but the Virgo wasn't ready for anything serious. Even though I dated this other man for a short while, the Virgo continued to be my friend and help me with things - we just can't seem to separate from one another.

Definitely not my rebound. I felt I needed to move on from Virgo so I dated this other person - the entire time I was dating the other person, I constantly thought about Virgo and given his willingness to help me with personal things, I think he thought about me often, too.

Posted by P-Angel

Here's a scenario:

A man really likes a woman, and so he finds out where she goes grocery shopping and when, then he goes there to look at her ... this man works next door to her, that's where he saw her ... she takes walks during lunch break for exercise, now man takes walks to be near her, to watch her.


Woman likes man: she is overjoyed and estatic that he wants to be near her, and look at her

Woman doesn't like man: she hides in office and tells everyone she knows that she's being stalked.

The reality is that his actions remain the same, while her reality is dependent upon how she feels.




If you decided you didn't like him anymore .. then his memorizing and paying attention to you, would piss you off ... while his actions never changed ~ the change was your feelings.


Perspective is reality

Wow thats deep.

Posted by Sagtastic1
I knew P-Angel could be nice

We go way back. 🙂

At the end of the day, this place is an "opinion" board. She means well (most times) and if you can't accept her opinions, then don't subject your posts to being publicly displayed.

I love the opinions people post on here that say this guy's in love with me and cares about me, but I also need to read the opinions that bring me back down from cloud 9.

Personally, I like to read that he's into me... 🙂

Posted by houstonpeach74
Hey P. I've heard the phrase "Perception is reality", but what does your mean?

People that believe that make no decision in true consciousness.

Posted by Sag89

Posted by houstonpeach74
Hey P. I've heard the phrase "Perception is reality", but what does your mean?

People that believe that make no decision in true consciousness.

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Too wordy to make sense.

Posted by houstonpeach74

Posted by Sag89

Posted by houstonpeach74
Hey P. I've heard the phrase "Perception is reality", but what does your mean?

People that believe that make no decision in true consciousness.

Too wordy to make sense.

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I mean that when people say to you perception is everything. They are heading down a path that there is no right or wrong either. Meaning they think their is no real truth. Since it's all " in your head and what you see is the truth " which is the biggest lie. The real truth is noble by us. So I don't blame you for question such a stupid statement.

Could we please get back to me instead of the other recent posts?
😉

Sorry, Leo Moon. Can't help it.

Posted by P-Angel

You are the one who is special .... he is merely a person in the moment.

Erroneously - people forget that, and believe that other people are suppose to make them.

People will come and go ... and your feelings will change for them your entire life ... the constant that remains the same throughout is you.


so, you're suppose to make YOU special ... and let those who want to take ride, do so, if it feels right .. but, you're not suppose to make that person more special than you because at this point is when people give away their personal empowerment, and become statistics of doormatism

Very well said! Round of applause...

Instead of starting a new post, I'll just pose this question here.

I was invited to a Christmas gala with the Virgo. No big deal, right? Well, this gala will also be attended by his parents, followed by a late night dinner with them. Is this typical of Virgos - having the person you're not ready to commit to meet the parents? Or maybe he is ready to commit? Either way, it floored me when he invited me and then followed it up with "my parents will be there, too". alrighty then.

Sounds like you want to build your feelings around expectations.

You are going to see his parents at an event which means absolutely nothing ... then you come in here to ask if this equates to commitment.

You set yourself for emotional injury AND the cutting off your nose to spite your face, doesn't appear to be an issue with you.

If you want to run, mindless, in la-la-land ... try a Pisces.

I disagree. I'm very choosy who meets my family, so if you are invited to be my guest at an event where people whom are important to me (family, close friends), then it's because I gave it a lot of thought whether or not I wanted to put you or myself in that situation. Mind you, I'm not sharing every single aspect of me or this Virgo here, so I can respect your opinion that you think I'm living in la-la land. What I share here is limited. I'm simply asking level headed people who might have been in similar situations their tactful take on the particular scenario.

This tremendous error in which women do all the fucking time, without even a smidgeon of common sense involved, is the whole reason why females fail at 99% of their relationships.

Typically, the female gives him the false impression that she is cool with the natural progression of a potential relationship, with no pressure involved to be more .... which of course is a deception, because she is actually twisting his every word/action to coincide with her expectations of love.

Sad, really ....

Posted by houstonpeach74

I disagree. I'm very choosy who meets my family ....

I didn't realize that this was about what you would do ... I thought it was talking about another person's values.

P, not here to have to war of words with you. You have stated your case, now go lurk on the other boards.

Posted by houstonpeach74

I'm simply asking level headed people who might have been in similar situations their tactful take on the particular scenario.

But, you don't present yourself as being level-headed here .... so, in wanting to ask a person's take on a situation in whom isn't like-minded with you, is actually irrelevant, since you won't be able to understand their take.

It's not being level-headed to take his every gesture and run with it into loving depths. Just like this situation, for example .... his parents being there might mean nothing at all, and here you have such imaginings that it compels you to believe they might be true.

How is that level-headed?


It's not.

Posted by houstonpeach74

P, not here to have to war of words with you. You have stated your case, now go lurk on the other boards.

A war of words?


Now, see ... that's a comment from an irrational person, considering YOU are the person who put this up on stage for all to view/comment on.


You are building mountains out of what could be nothing, and running with them.

that is the opposite of level-headed

Again, I haven't shared all that was said about this particular invitation or cited his words verbatim. But, let me share for your sake:

"What are you doing the Saturday after Christmas? My parents will be attending the xxxxx Gala downtown and asked me if I had anyone special I would like to bring and I thought of you. Would you like to go? My parents already know about you, so you wouldn't be lining up in front of a firing squad. You and them will get along well. I understand if you aren't ready for something like that, but I promise they will like you. After the Gala, my parents like to take me and my brother's families out to dinner. I'd like you to go to that, too, if you feel up to it."

So go ahead, dissect away. I'm sure you will...

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by houstonpeach74

I disagree. I'm very choosy who meets my family ....

I didn't realize that this was about what you would do ... I thought it was talking about another person's values.

Posted by houstonpeach74
P, not here to have to war of words with you. You have stated your case, now go lurk on the other boards.

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When you say war of words, you mean because I pointed out that you have an expectation in where he is suppose to have the same standards as you, and that is irrational ... rather than actually understanding my point.

Again ... that is the opposite of level-headed.

What it boils down to is this - because YOU would only take him to meet your parents at a gathering as a token of your endearment to him, you now have the expectation in that he should have the same standards, so, it must mean that he wants a commitment with you.

The female imaginings about fantastic romances is astounding ... no wonder men are so confused.

Posted by houstonpeach74

My parents will be attending the xxxxx Gala downtown and asked me if I had anyone special I would like to bring and I thought of you.

Being a special person doesn't equate to wanting a commitment.

Again .... come back down to earth .... you are drifting in imagination.

Posted by houstonpeach74
Again, I haven't shared all that was said about this particular invitation or cited his words verbatim. But, let me share for your sake:

"What are you doing the Saturday after Christmas? My parents will be attending the xxxxx Gala downtown and asked me if I had anyone special I would like to bring and I thought of you. Would you like to go? My parents already know about you, so you wouldn't be lining up in front of a firing squad. You and them will get along well. I understand if you aren't ready for something like that, but I promise they will like you. After the Gala, my parents like to take me and my brother's families out to dinner. I'd like you to go to that, too, if you feel up to it."

So go ahead, dissect away. I'm sure you will...

Enjoy the Gala. My advice would be to just expect to enjoy yourself and his company.

Posted by houstonpeach74
Could we please get back to me instead of the other recent posts?
😉

Sure but I was just trying to point it out. You're gonna be really confused if you live that way. All I'm saying.

And I agreed with you for questing it. I have a leo moon too

Oh shit houston! Wait, you were engaged to that libra once right? Is that you? ( Sorry if thats wrong)

Yes, we ended the engagement almost 5 years ago. I haven't wanted a serious relationship since...

Posted by houstonpeach74
Yes, we ended the engagement almost 5 years ago. I haven't wanted a serious relationship since...

Oh right, yea I remember cause I was going something with a libra at that time too

wasn't a text message...it was a paraphrased in-person conversation.