Beautiful doesn't mean perfect

I once read in one of Linda Goodman's books that perfection is the single most damaging concept for the soul. It cannot be achieved and it won't let you evolve and expand in all the ways you could have because you're always adhering to a high standard.

Posted by Damnata

.... perfection is the single most damaging concept for the soul. It cannot be achieved and it won't let you evolve and expand in all the ways you could have because you're always adhering to a high standard.

How profound !!

We're not used to Virgos expressing such depth

Well, to be honest it was an Aries who wrote about it. Just thought it rang true and it stuck with me

The thread made by the female Leo that addresses losing weight for sake of how one looks, inspired this thread. It doesn't matter what a person looks like ... beauty goes so far beyond skin level, and it just boggles my mind that there are - STILL - so many people still surviving in their infancy of humanity, in that all of their life force is driven by surface bullshit.

Sometimes, I just can't wrap my head around the fact that (so many) people can't get past superficiality and actually strive to honor standards built on such shallow surfaces.

Who cares if you don't look or have the same, or as much, as another? And if someone cares, then they shouldn't matter in your life.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. ~ Dr. Seuss, March 2,1904

I thought she was a Gemini.

* is

If a person has trained (brainwashed) themselves into looking in a mirror, as a deciding factor in how you will approve of yourself enough to satisfy your self esteem ... then you have more serious issues than a few extra pounds.

Posted by P-Angel

I thought she was a Gemini.

Nope, she's an Aries. April 9, 1925

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linda_Goodman

Not only looking in a mirror, I might add. The biggest danger is relying on other people to figure out your self worth. Growing up, my mother constantly emphasized how ugly and not like her I was. She was a beautiful woman on the outside and a brilliant mathematician but on the inside she was always plagues with different neuroses which ultimately led to her mental condition deteriorating each year.

I remember when I was young I could never understand what "ugly" meant in reference to a person. I used to see people as kind or unkind..or judge them on how interesting or intelligent they seemed, which was a mistake in itself.

*plagued

+1000

Thank you for the video, we are very conditioned by societies' standards and it sux

BUT like the Beatles said...all you need is love

Don't want to start a rant cus I feel it coming so I'll leave it as that.

i am in love with this thread. i know i personally place too much emphasis on my looks, as have others my entire life. thank you for sharing this p-angel. and that linda goodman quote is 'perfection'.

Posted by P-Angel

The thread made by the female Leo that addresses losing weight for sake of how one looks, inspired this thread.

I suppose this is in reference to me and my creation of the Biggest Loser contest on here.

To clarify, the contest was born out of desperation. It had very little to do with looks. My company's insurance plan is switching next year. The more the health issues you have the more you pay. I did not want to wait on a diagnosis. I am desperate to lose weight and I find that I achieve my goals when I feel I am competing against someone else. I am a fire sign.

On another, note , who cares why you want to lose weight...a man, vanity, self esteem...whatever...as my doctor said "Just get the weight off otherwise expect to die before you probably should"

Let's keep it real...looks do matter. While there are probably people who could not care less about looks the vast majority of the population does. Read the posts on here, look at the comments , look at the pictures people post of their celebrity crush. Not an obese babe (or man for that matter) in the bunch. How many times have we all looked at an overweight person and thought they are lazy, disgusting, ignorant?

Just so we are clear I am absolutely, undeniably, beautiful...with or without the extra pounds. I am a Leo woman..so how I look will always be important to me. It is not however, the most important thing to me.

In any event, any encouraging words you have to offer are most certainly welcomed.

Posted by Nala13

In any event, any encouraging words you have to offer are most certainly welcomed.

I did, a couple times, in fact ... which I guess you didn't notice because you were too busy judging books by their covers.

Posted by Nala13

How many times have we all looked at an overweight person and thought they are lazy, disgusting, ignorant?

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wow ....

so, you mean YOU look at people like that ^^^^, you say "we", so that YOU don't feel so guilty taking that honor for yourself.

In creating this thread, I was only inspired because it hit a chord, I really had only scanned the thread and didn't really retain anything except the Opening Post .... so, if you had not responded to this thread, I might have never realized prejudiced you are towards people different from you ....

Yup, I judge people and you do to. Everyone judges.

I can not count how many times I have seen you go in on a person based simply on a few typed words. Calling them names and insulting their character. Are you not judging? This whole thread is about you judging my thread. Oh the irony.

I do look at overweight people from time to time and think OMG please don't let that happen to me. Yes I do.

I also look at people in wheelchairs who have had their legs amputated from diabetes and say God, please don't let that happen to me.

If you want to assume you know me or my prejudices based on 2 or 3 sentences then ...hey find joy where you can.

I don't do E-beefs.

Take care P

No it doesnt but it is close to it though. Haha

Ok isnt having a problem with anothers beauty a reflection of insecurity within oneself? Like you have isues to sort out only you know of and can sort yourself.

Through my dreams I've come to realize that perfection isn't the highest possible standard that could be met but rather...a feeling of wholly accepting someone and allowing myself to appreciate the eccentricities of an ever-changing, human being.