Married virgo disappears when feel lonely & cheap

Hi everyone,

I have a question that probably some of you virgos or guys dating one can answer.. or have experienced the same.

I am married to a wonderful virgo but currently we live on two different continents (for approx. the next 2 months).
My husband has a much harder time with this long distance than me; basically as I am very busy with my job here while he prepares everything for moving and does not work at the moment.

We spent our new years holidays together and I just came back last week. He was the most happiest guy but also told me that it is very tough for him not having a job and me being so far all the time. The days after I left he could not even sleep in our bedroom as he missed me too much and got reminded of my time there. Since Monday he got quiet... got offline from chat and does not reply to any e-mail or lil message.
It is not that I bug him though, I just sent one or two messages saying hi and writing about how things go.

I do know this disappearing-thing of course.. it only happened until now whenever he missed me a lot or felt miserable or inferior to me (though he never admitted that reason when coming back).
Although I know it, it still confuses me. I would love to have the person around (or chat/call often) that I miss... but virgos do the opposite. Can anyone tell me how I should react? Til now I just keep quiet and give him space, will not even message now. Just thought of showing him that I care.

Any ideas?

In the past when we had a fight he also disappeared and later blamed me (when I gave him space and did my own stuff) that I would not miss him anyways else I had called... lol.

Hi Shayflower,

I asked more or less the same thing in my thread "Lack of communication". I'm in a LDR from December 2011 till April this year. Not on the other side of the world but still away from each other.

The last suggestion I was given is (copy-paste from my thread):

"Things have changed, accept it or let him go, there is no way you can make a man communicate if he doesn't want to so analyzing this won't help you."

I hope they'll be able to give you a more positive reply.

@ crabbymood

Thanks for your reply. I checked your thread but could not see the replies of AA.
It is a fact that virgos have such behaviour like yours often when they are busy, have problems to deal with, etc. or still have not decided finally about his partner. But as others said.. when they have decided that you re the one, you will come to know and he has time.

Hi Shay,

AA's replies where more or less as Tiki's reply (the one I copy-pasted here). Basically it's their behaviour and that's it.

Take it or leave it if you can't cope with it.

I'm afraid that this might be the reply to your thread too; just because we're only engaged and you are married doesn't mean that there's a solution for you and not for me.

We've been together for 4 years, he's already decided that I am "the one". In my case it's not a matter of deciding whether I am right for him or not, because I am - he said that and he also gave me the engagement ring.

Our communications problems arise when he's at work... and just like you, I sometimes don't know how to deal with it.

Oooh, I am sorry... somehow did not see that you are engaged. Yes, the answer that you copied here was really not polite. I do not mind getting negative opinions of course.. but ppl should at least stay polite.

I actually haven't written in my thread that we are engaged, I've written that we've been together for 4 years. So I think he's already made up his mind!

Anyways, men in general can get quite moody and crabby when they don't work. If it's a man and a Virgo at the same time, then it can be worse - been there, done that last year with my bf.

What I can tell you is to have patience, as soon as he'll move and he'll find a job or anyways he'll be busy, he'll probably be back in your life... Just live your life and send him a message here and there...

I do understand your words; I don't bug him and I give him space, but at the same time I feel I'd be a bit more present in my partner's life when I'm long distance...


Good luck for everything!

yeah, this is a very bad habit. i used to do this before i found this forum.(thankfully).

my advice would be to try and get in contact with his close friends.
tell them that he is ignoring you and they should blatantly ask him why. ( i know this worked on me once)

another suggestion would be to try and send funny messages or messages asking for advice/opinion. (virgos like to help)
avoid all those wishy wishy "emotional" messages, virgos reason with their head not their heart (especially in this situation)