Please help. I met a virgo man on a dating site about 6 or 7 weeks ago. My Taurus boyfriend had disappeared on me 2 weeks prior, cut off all communication, blocked my cell phone number, and for all intents and purposes was apparently done with the relationship but didnt have the balls to tell me or explain what the problem was. I was heart broken and lost for 2 weeks, but decided i had to get on with my life and find happiness. So i thought meeting new people would help me get over the heartbreak. So like i said, i met this Virgo. We seemed to hit it off right away over the phone, talked a couple times, he would text me good morning every day. We talked for 2 hours one night. It all seemed like it was very promising. We met for the first time face to face and things went well, just for ice cream, to see if there was anything between us. He then asked me to meet at chilis a few days later to have dinner, and that went well. A few days after that, we had an official date planned. he planned it all, said it was a surprise and to roll with it. So he takes me to a restaurant , I am actually not feeling well, so we cut things very short and he takes me back to my car so I can go home.the whole drive back to my car he keeps asking me if I'm okay and he rubbed my head a few time, just kind of sweet. I knew he was disappointed, maybe upset, but he was kind to just take me back to the car. Anyway, he went home and I went home, but that night and over the next few days he would send me texts asking how I was feeling, if I needed anything etc...really sweet. Enter Taurus ex. The short story is we end up getting back together. I proceed to call the Virgo guy and let him know that the boyfriend and I are back together so obviously I can't date you. He is upset, says people break up for a reason, and that he doesn't see how he should be put on the backburner for something that obviously didn't work out the first time. I tell him I know, but that I need to try, and that I still would like to hang out and be friends. He says yeah okay, but that if this doesn't work out and you wanna come back to dating me, don't expect me to say yes. I asked why he would close that door like that and he said that he doesn't want to play second fiddle. Then he had to go and that was it. I didn't hear from him for a week and a half (and I had been hearing from him every day), and I figured that's how it would go. then I get a text message from him saying that there was a car cruise com
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Coming up and that I should check it out. We traded a few texts that day and he asked how I was and I asked if he had dated any cool chicks lately. He laughed and said no. He asked if I dated any cool guys lately. I said just the one (meaning the Taurus boyfriend), and he said oh lucky guy. it was very nice and I was just so happy to hear from him. So anyway, some things were starting to concern me with the Taurus, the same things were starting to show themselves as before and I just was having second thoughts about my decision. The night of the car cruise, I looked for the Virgo and his car but didn't see him. later that night when I couldn't sleep, I called him and we talked for a couple minutes and then I let him go cuz he was still out with friends. so we start talking over the. phone on evenings when the Taurus is not over. just talking as friends, about the things I'm concerned about with the Taurus, as well as other more fun stuff. One night I brought up to him that when we met up those couple of times, that it was har4d to read him, whether he was very into me, or had any kind of wild passionate side...and he basically side that he doesn't show that to just anyone. And I said isensed that there are walls up or something and what does it take to see that side of you, because I want to see that side of you. he said that he would love to break down walls with me but that I have a boyfriend.
All I could say was yeah, I get it, and we moved on to other topics. fast forward about 2 weeks and the same thing that happened with the Taurus before, basically. happens again, but this time, I am not dealing with the bullshit and not mourning his disappearance. I tell the Virgo that its over and I hang out with him over that weekend for 2 evenings. We go get a bite to eat, watch tv, a movie and whatnot. He kissed me for the first time on one of these nights, nothing lengthy, but it happened a couple times. he didnt try anything on me, although the sexual tension is there, and we flirt and tease about sexual things. no groping, nothing getting out of control, just a couple kisses. layed on the cuch together etc. he also held my hand in the car on the way to eat and he invited me to lay over on his side on the couch. it was all so nice and cozy and sweet, and i loved it! so i said to him, teasing, arent you glad you decided to go back on your word and date me?! and he just said ohhh whatever, shutup. So this was all last weekend. By the way he went back to texting me everyday to say hi or whatnot. so anyway, monday he wakes up really sick and is sick for pretty much all week. i text him often to see how hes doing, tell him i can bring anything to him he might need, he says thanks, but thats okay. Thursday rolls around, hes starting to feel better and i have the upcoming weekend off, which doesnt happen all the time, so im all excited to see him again. But he doesnt mention wanting to see me or do anything. i get anxious and ask if were going to anything, he says he is still sick, doesnt know how hell feel and all that. So i back off.
Friday he had plans so I knew I wouldn't see him, but instead of doing his plans he worked on his car because his parts showed up and he wanted to get it up and running again. He ends up calling me later that night, clearly agitated and frustrated because the new parts were not fabricated correctly and he can't use them. I talk to him, try to get his mind off it, and he calms down. we got on the topic of sex andhe said some things that kind of irritated me, he seemed like he was in this I don't give a crap about anything or feelings, just hit it and quit it kind of mood. it was like he was trying to prove that he didn't need anyone, or to have the messiness o feelings and caring about someone. which was so different from the hey, I would like the chance to tear down walls with you. So I get off the phone irritated and disappointed, but I don't say anything to him about it. The next day I hear from him in the afternoon and he texts me, hey I just thought of another great reason to get married, help doing yard work!. and then afew minutes later he says, you know I'm just kidding right? So a little while later I send him a text and say so are we doing anything together tonight? and he asks what I want to do. I suggest dave and busters since we never got there on the night he had planned to go with me when I got sick. he syas let me see how I feel after all this yard work, ill call you in a little while.
Nope, not going back to Taurus, nooooo way
So he calls says he doesn't feel like dave and busters but we could do something more mellow. I say okay, think of what that might be, I'm helping a friend out with his car and ill call you when I'm done. he says okay. fast forward we decide to go get a quick bite and then watch a movie at his house. we talk on the over to the burger place, talk during meal, I lay on his lap while we watched the movie. everything was nice and comfy and mellow. only thing that struck me is he didn't reach for my hand in the truck like he did another night before, he didn't try to kiss me once (which I don't know if that has to do with him being sick for the 5 days prior) and it just seemed a little less "attracted" or something. I mean he slapped me on the butt a few times but I think that was just playing around. I just don't know what to think. I like this guy and could "really" like him. I mean he hugged me when I showed up at his house, which he did the two previous times also. We hugged when I left, but no kiss. he didn't say text me when you get home like he did the previous weekend....I just am feeling like maybe he is losing interest or something. I mean he did say he would talk to me today (cuz this all happened last night). I just don't want to be slipping into some kind of friend mode because we haven't gone out on a real date yet, eventhough its been 2 weekends since we are dating again. I've only been at his house, ya know? I don't know if I am over thinking this. the upside is we haven't had sex of any kind, we tease eachother and flirt about it and he is bold on the phone about sexual topics, but in person its more guarded, reserved. he's more shy. I just really don't know how to read what's happening. and I'm a scorpio by the way. I like to forge ahead, dive into the depths, go headlong after the things I want. and I think I want this guy, but I don't know if he wants to dvelop a relationship with me. can you give me some insight?

He's a rebound. He knows it, even if you don't yet, and he's trying to decide whether he's okay with it or not. And by "okay with it", I mean what time limit he wants to put on this role. Cause I can bet there will most definitely be an ending - on his terms - it's just a matter of whether it happens sooner as opposed to later.
Regardless.. Is this the same Taurus you've been posting about side 2012 and been in a relationship with for even longer? I don't think bringing a third party into your relationship problems is well advised, nor will it help.
Regardless.. Is this the same Taurus you've been posting about side 2012 and been in a relationship with for even longer? I don't think bringing a third party into your relationship problems is well advised, nor will it help.

*same ex-Taurus you've been posting about since 2012..
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Damn typos.
Yes, its the same Taurus. But absolutely, positively, it is over with him. So do you think the rebound think is something I should talk to the Virgo about? I don't want him to be a rebound. I want something real, finally, with someone. I wasted too much precious time with the Taurus.
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Oh and I forgot to mention he hasn't taken down his dating profile at all and I actually put mine back up after splitting from the Taurus, but on the same weekend that the Virgo and I hung out for the first time again. He saw the profile and I knew he saw it, so I brought it up to him. I said that I didn't want him to feel like that meant I didn't want to spend time with him and he said it didn't bother him and that he still has his profile up. He said that it would hyprocritical to get upset about it when he still has his up, and that it didn't bother him. So yeah, like I said, I don't know what to think. Does he want to develop a relationship, is he just watching and waiting to see if the taurus thing resurfaces? am I beinf dismissed kinda as a prospective girlfriend and regated to friend status? Is he slowly backing away from me, but still texting good morning and daily communication? I don't know what's happening.

Posted by Spookygrl
Yes, its the same Taurus. But absolutely, positively, it is over with him. So do you think the rebound think is something I should talk to the Virgo about? I don't want him to be a rebound. I want something real, finally, with someone. I wasted too much precious time with the Taurus.
If you do not want him to be a rebound, don't pressure him into a pre-mature commitment too soon.
Just simply go with the flow, get to know him gradually, and let the emotions surface at their own pace. When the time is right.
You reconnected with the Taurus ex and kicked the Virgo to the curb, you're already at strike #1.
Sidenote: Not passing judgment here, but your ex-Taurus made it quite obvious he didn't want to be in a committed relationship. But you kept the threads going on the Taurus board. Close that chapter permanently.
It is closed with the taurus.

Posted by Spookygrl
It is closed with the taurus.
You're emotionally charged...and so are your actions. Give this Virgo time and space to examine the prospect of a relationship. There is a poor consistent track record with your threads on the Taurus board in regards to this ex. You haven't always been honest and forthright about cutting ties permanently with him. You're not a woman of your words.
Posted by Spookygrl
Please help. I met a virgo man on a dating site about 6 or 7 weeks ago. My Taurus boyfriend had disappeared on me 2 weeks prior, cut off all communication, blocked my cell phone number, and for all intents and purposes was apparently done with the relationship but didnt have the balls to tell me or explain what the problem was.click to expand
You created a dating profile, met someone and quickly deleted it when the Taurus ex re-appeared. Instead of keeping your options available, lets say, keeping the profile active for at least 6 months, (already knowing that this Bull refused to commit to you), you made an emotional, irrational, decision and gravitated to a very unstable relationship.
Not passing judgement.
Just bringing you down to reality.
He's reluctant to dive into a relationship with you prematurely. Simply understand it, and respect it.
Anyone else have some helpful insight?
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