Does this virgo guy really want to hangout with me

Aren't you the Libra who was told by plenty of people he's only acting friendly?

Again, he's only acting friendly. He isn't into you like that.

omg .... really?

You have been going on and on about this guy, in where you are so in his face with your desperation, that it's a wonder he isn't ignoring you.

NO .. the answer is NO ... he is NOT into you.

Frankly, I don't see anyone would have a chance to be into you because you smother the fuck out of the slightest acknowledgement.

He said, "no" and then only turned around to say "yes" because you asked him out again.

Stop asking this man out, and let him be. If he ever had an interest in you, you ruined it by continuing to pester him.

leave him alone ... damn

Okay, P-angel.. EASY!

If he doesn't like me, then be it! But at least I TRIED!
At least I already asked him to hangout..
At least I didn't move on without trying anything.

GET IT?

Libra, if you push further than you have, he will pity you and will only reply based on that. He will look down on you.

Give up.

Dragon you should not be the one trying least not in the beginning.

If he did 2 favors for you then surely he can ask you out but if he's not asking you out it's b/c he does not want to go out with you, accept that, it's less painful than being rejected.

Trying from a woman unfortunately smells like desperation and can give a guy that instinctual ewww she's unattractive feeling and you do not want a guy to have that ewww gut reaction to you trying.

So next time you're in a situation and unsure and wanna know if a guy is just being nice versus being into you flirt a little when he's doing you another favor, step back, give him space and see how he responds/reacts as in if he's going to step up, if he doesn't then he never will...move on

^You should read more of what she posted and assume less about the people replying.

You're being subjective while slamming other for not being objective. Maybe you can check that double standard too.

Anyway, if you want easy sex and to be discarded afterwards, follow cancerkid's advice. It's really easy to sleep with a man, even if he isn't interested in you.

Are you sure Tiz? 😛

She's young, I did that shit when I was 18-19..I needed constant reassurance and more. Got with a Cap, he taught me the meaning of space and let-me-breathe-woman-don't-you-have-anything-exciting-going-on-in-your-life?

Nothing wrong with taking him out to repay a favor, but you seem to be cornering him into accepting. Why don't you just build a friendship with him first without all the pressure? Let him get to know you in a friendly way, then let him decide if he wants to ask you out.

Remember playing chase in elementary school? When we chase, men have an instinct to run away from us.

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

Ah, I was going to quote, but then you hid it. Guess I'll have to try and paraphrase..

How do reconcile this statement:

Posted by cancerkid
I hate how people will give you definite answers like "he's not into you" or "give up".

With the one you just hid? Something along the lines of (paraphrasing):

I know exactly what kind of girl you are. Some guy used you for sex and now you're taking it out on all guys and telling girls that's what all guys do. Call it Cancer intuition.

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You're assuming we're lonely and bitter here. Far from the truth.

You however are immature so take your Cancer intuition and shove it.

But, cancerkid.. Do you not recognize the hypocrisy apparent in your statements? Or at the very least, how they could be interpreted as hypocritical by other people?

I remember you...I am going to leave it at that.

They should revoke your water sign card..you're so far off it's not even funny.

Peacock, don't engage the hypocrites. We can go at this until tomorrow

Posted by cancerkid

Posted by Andalusia
But, cancerkid.. Do you not recognize the hypocrisy apparent in your statements? Or at the very least, how they could be interpreted as hypocritical by other people?

No. There is a whole society of women that breed their own self-fulfilling prophecy of "He's just not that into you". Hollywood cashed out on a shitty movie just off that one statement. Especially when you have people coming on here and telling a girl to "GIVE UP" "HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" when she obviously really likes the guy and the guy has been very friendly to her.

Not only are they completely incorrect, I think it is disgusting.

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But... Isn't this ^^^ the exact kind of "definite answer" you were advising against in your opening response?

Dude did you read her other posts? She is ALL OVER HIM and the guy is nothing but friendly and not interested in her. I've seen a girl obsess over less than she did and she got hit with a restraining order.

Obviously, few men will go there because it caters to her ego but telling her to persevere in spite of evidence he's not into her is disgusting. Can you even spot the difference between acting friendly and polite and being into someone?

Posted by cancerkid

Posted by Damnata
You're assuming we're lonely and bitter here. Far from the truth.

You however are immature so take your Cancer intuition and shove it.

I'm not assuming. I read your posts and look at your AVI. It's not that hard to put two and two together...

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And this was extremely unnecessary and grossly inaccurate; not to mention immature.

I'm pretty sure I am the only lonely, bitter woman to respond thus far.

Posted by cancerkid
And I have no problem dishing it out and in turn being called "immature". LOL. I think definitively telling another girl "he's not that into you" and "give up" when they obviously have next to no context on the situation is immature.

Try to use your ability in reading my posts on this chick and go through her history. Maybe then you'll find out why this is the advice she gets.

Posted by Damnata
Peacock, don't engage the hypocrites. We can go at this until tomorrow

Duly noted, my-dear. I shall cease and desist 😛

Posted by cancerkid
LOL I would rather cut off my big schlong than read your posts. Srs.

Read her posts moron. I was referring to her posts not mine.

Posted by tiziani
I have to say I do think the "he's just not that into you" brainwashing is pretty unfortunate to witness nowadays but that's a different subject entirely that I don't even think applies to this thread.

+1

Okay guys..
First of all.. Thanks you very much Cancerkid! I love your advice!
Second of all.. yep, I might be all over him (or might not). And I still don't know if he likes me or just be friendly for 100% sure.
BUT his ex ( friend of my friend) told my friend about her love life with my crush. It was exactly same what he did to her (hot and cold).
Therefore, I think I still have a chance until he tells me he doesn't like me.

Thanks for every advices!

If you get anything good from this thread, good for you 😄

*It was exactly same what he did to me comparing to her

Posted by cancerkid
I have nothing to say about any other bullcrap you want to project out on to others but I have seen this attitude over and over with women. "He's just not that into you". They even made a fucking movie about it. It's all BS. There is nothing more of a turnoff to guys than a women that acts slighted and rejected because a guy is either 1) taking his damn time, because he fuking wants to... 2) he didn't reciprocate EXACTLY the amount of effort you put in or you had more expectations of him than he did. That shows that you are unworthy of even beginning a relationship and will make things really uncomfortable.

Why would you want to take advice from other women that are obviously unsuccessful with guys? LOL.......

Bottom line. He seems like he is doing favors for you, he is being friendly to you. Let things develop naturally and MOST OF ALL do not fall into the vicious cycle of listening to your "girlfriends" or other lonely, bitter women that want to tell you that "he's not into you" because the same thing happened to them.

Uhmmm, excuse me, but some of the women on here ARE in successful relationships. How dare you assume that we are all bitter and lonely?

Posted by dragongolden
Okay, P-angel.. EASY!

If he doesn't like me, then be it! But at least I TRIED!
At least I already asked him to hangout..
At least I didn't move on without trying anything.

GET IT?

Trying is one thing. Begging is quite pathetic though..don't you think?

Posted by dragongolden
BUT his ex ( friend of my friend) told my friend about her love life with my crush. It was exactly same what he did to her (hot and cold).

His EX was his EX...she had him, you don't!!! You are nowhere close and really need to stop making an ass out of yourself.

Posted by cancerkid

No. There is a whole society of women that breed their own self-fulfilling prophecy of "He's just not that into you".

.... you have people coming on here and telling a girl to "GIVE UP" "HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU"

The "kid" part of your name is the only thing that's right about the above, other than tiki's counsel.

The women responded before you:

1. Damanta - if you are aware of her, like you think your Cancer instincts can detect ... then you'd know that she usually doesn't give definitive answers, unless there is a direct question.

2. P-Angel - was next to answer, and it's a rare day that speak for the other person, in the case, saying what he wants/how he feels. My usual response is to tell the person to do a self check, and remind them of their stupidity. For me to say he's not into you, is something you might never find in my posting history, and trust when I say it is massive.

So, for you to say, "There is a whole society of women that breed their own ...", having Damanta and me included in the "women" (plural) you speak of shows that you are the actual one who blew shit out of your mouth, without thinking, or knowing.

So, in reality, YOU, are the very self-fulfilling prophectic ninny that irritates you.

Now, the third woman to respond was tiki and her response is exactly as you stated. So, if you had said, "woman" instead of "women", "person" instead of "people" .... then you'd be correct.

But, you didn't ... which means you got a notion in your head, and applied it without thinking.

And how hilarious is that considering how wide you got your haughty feathers spread, strutting around, proclaiming to be intuitive?

... when 2 out of the 3 ... responded out-of-character for themselves.

You just can't find entertainment in the RW like you can in dxp.

Posted by dragongolden
Okay, P-angel.. EASY!

If he doesn't like me, then be it! But at least I TRIED!
At least I already asked him to hangout..
At least I didn't move on without trying anything.

GET IT?

The only word to describe my feelings toward you is "flabbergasted".

Your testimony in dxp, as it is all added together to form a big picture is equivelant to:

you walk from one room to another, going through a doorway

then you turn around to see if there was door there, because you're not sure if doors belong in doorways

It's like you have dementia ....

..... you don't know, that you don't know

You even say the words - he doesn't text me, he doesn't stand next to me, he ignores me

But, you don't know what those words ^^^^^^^^^^ mean.

You're very bizarre ... and most likely around 7 or 8 years old, or least the mentality level

Posted by dragongolden

But at least I TRIED!

Reminds me of a tuxedo cat I had once. Such a sweet boy, love him to death .... but .....

He was certainly challenged, and you remind me of him ...

One day, the windows were open in the living room, and he found out that if he jumped up to the window, that there was a ledge big enough for him to sit in, sleep in ... and he so enjoyed that day.

Then everyday, for the next 10 years, sometimes, several times a day ... he would jump into the window, bump his head and fall back down.

Then he'd jump back up to hit the window and bump his head.

There didn't seem to be any connection up in there ....

That's ^^^ worded wrong.

He didn't jump up there once a day.

Once a day, he jumped up there, sometimes several repeatedly.

He'd jump again, again, again, and again ... at each interval.

cancerkid hid his posts

lol

Posted by cancerkid
I have nothing to say about any other bullcrap you want to project out on to others but I have seen this attitude over and over with women. "He's just not that into you". They even made a fucking movie about it. It's all BS. There is nothing more of a turnoff to guys than a women that acts slighted and rejected because a guy is either 1) taking his damn time, because he fuking wants to... 2) he didn't reciprocate EXACTLY the amount of effort you put in or you had more expectations of him than he did. That shows that you are unworthy of even beginning a relationship and will make things really uncomfortable.

Why would you want to take advice from other women that are obviously unsuccessful with guys? LOL.......

Bottom line. He seems like he is doing favors for you, he is being friendly to you. Let things develop naturally and MOST OF ALL do not fall into the vicious cycle of listening to your "girlfriends" or other lonely, bitter women that want to tell you that "he's not into you" because the same thing happened to them.

whom hurt you because its obvious some female did a number on you...I think you are projecting your bitterness.... just saying 😉

What I find amusing is people, mostly females that make a new thread every few months about the same guy and the same exact situation and they get upset when people tell them the truth instead of what they want to hear. I also don't understand coming to strangers seeking advise, doubt I will ever get that.

Lol @ your example Lilly! Go make me a sammich 😄

Some people here are AZZES! I listened to ALL advices really.
I know he doesn't like me...
I know he has exam on Thursday. THAT'S WHY I asked him if he's sure he wants to hang out!
DUH!

And I want to hangout because I want to get to know him and be friend!

I didn't mean to push him of course!
That's why I asked him maybe we can hangout later when he's free.
I don't mind and totally understand if he can't go tomorrow!

Posted by dragongolden
I know he doesn't like me...

You say this but in your opening post, which you hid..you asked us whether he liked you.

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Posted by dragongolden
I asked him to hangout so I can pay him back a favor... (He did me favors twice!)

I asked him to hangout on Wednesday's night. We are going to have dinner and watch hockey game together.
He texted me back "I wish I could but I have my first test on Thursday!"
I texted back "Maybe just dinner other day when you're free?"
He texted, "Yeah Well actually I could probably go on Wednesday I guess. I can study before and after I guess"
I texted him "Are you sure? I don't want you to blame me if you didn't do good on the test Haha"
He texted: "Haha how about I let you know on Wednesday?"
I texted: "Sure! I wish you can go 🙂"

Does he wants to hangout with me?
Does he like me?

He has a TEST dumbAZZ if you weren't so thirsty you'd realize that he's working towards his future and let him be and hang out another time...

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cancerkid appears to be a trol...one of those trolls that encourage women to be desperate dumbasses just for their own personal pleasure, misery loves company.

Dragon is 2 fruits short of a fruit salad.

Anyone with an ounce of common sense would not invest so much time and energy into a man that clearly is not interested in her romantically.

I'm surely not going to encourage a woman to continue to stalk and display desperate behavior and anyone who does encourage this kind of behavior is desperate themselves, birds of a feather flock together.

Dragon either you're a troll and trolling for reactions or need some serious psychotherapy.

Posted by tiki33

Dragon either you're a troll and trolling

I pick that ^^^^