My Virgo Friend

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Okay.... so i have this friend from childhood and so happens she's a Virgo..We don't have a Friendship message board her on dxp... so i decided to put it under my Cancer board. Anyway, She is 22 years old pregnant by a man who already has 3 childern with 3 different women. I asked her why would she put herself in that situation and i couldn't get an answer...i don't know what she could say. On top of that..... she is not working... I have given her many job leads and she has an excuse for every job of why she can't work there..,... A bank teller guys... come on...All she needed to do was take a basic math test and she would of gotten the job... She says "I have to be doing something, i can't just be siting down doing nothing"....She nuts!!... i just don't get it. Anyway, her mother has 8 childern and 6 lives with her, includeding my friend. She goes to school to become an RN, but she has to depend on her mother for subway fare. Today i got home and my brother tells me that she came to the house this afternoon asking our mom for a metrocard to get on the subway for school. she told my mom my brother took her metrocard. Mind u... My brother has a metrocard he works and if he didn't i would make sure he gets one...my brother knows this. Now my brother has told me about her character with men in the past and how she runs around alot, but i told him what she did in the past really doesn't concern me. I'm really upset that she had to come out her face the way she did. And lie on my brother. My brother haven't even been to her house..and i don't know how she came up with that conculsion. My mom give her money to get to school mind u.... I don't know what to do about the situation.. i will definitly talk to her about it, but i don't know if i should cut ties with her or keep her as a friend, but at a distance?
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10 years with a virgo female friend, if it were me I would leave it alone or dump her as a friend, you will not get a straight answer out of her especially her being a young virgo. The only reason my relationship with my virgo best friend lasted so long was because I let her be who she was, lies and all and once I couldn't tolerate it any longer I addressed it and let her go as a friend.
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Okay.... so i have this friend from childhood and so happens she's a Virgo..We don't have a Friendship message board her on dxp... so i decided to put it under my Cancer board. Anyway, She is 22 years old pregnant by a man who already has 3 childern with 3 different women. I asked her why would she put herself in that situation and i couldn't get an answer...i don't know what she could say. On top of that..... she is not working... I have given her many job leads and she has an excuse for every job of why she can't work there..,... A bank teller guys... come on...All she needed to do was take a basic math test and she would of gotten the job... She says "I have to be doing something, i can't just be siting down doing nothing"....She nuts!!... i just don't get it. Anyway, her mother has 8 childern and 6 lives with her, includeding my friend. She goes to school to become an RN, but she has to depend on her mother for subway fare. Today i got home and my brother tells me that she came to the house this afternoon asking our mom for a metrocard to get on the subway for school. she told my mom my brother took her metrocard. Mind u... My brother has a metrocard he works and if he didn't i would make sure he gets one...my brother knows this. Now my brother has told me about her character with men in the past and how she runs around alot, but i told him what she did in the past really doesn't concern me. I'm really upset that she had to come out her face the way she did. And lie on my brother. My brother haven't even been to her house..and i don't know how she came up with that conculsion. My mom give her money to get to school mind u.... I don't know what to do about the situation.. i will definitly talk to her about it, but i don't know if i should cut ties with her or keep her as a friend, but at a distance?




I'm aquainted with a virgo lady (I know her on a different level but thats another story lol) and she is marrying a man that she's clearly having trouble already. The guy is an Aries and I met him for the first time recently. I got the impression that he only asked her to marry him because no matter what he said to her she refused to let the relationship breakup.

Once, I mensioned a 'what-if you guys breakup' kind of thing and she gave me the craziest look, I was like geezzz calm down -- I only asked what she would do if they broke up because he
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My issue is that i don't like the fact that she came to my mother with the problem, n asked her for money at that!!...that really pissed me off.... y not go to my brother? especially if she didn't c him take it... This is not the only situation that bothers me about her but me... i give people the benefit of the doubt and give chances... i have to c the bigger picture on things b4 i can make a final decision on our friendship... But these problem r reoccurring... i just wnted to know what u guys thought of the situation and i got ur thoughts. I will just lay low with her and don't even ask her any thing.
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a suggestion, if you do talk to her keep it factual, feelings will most likely NOT resonate the way you would like it to, metaphorical talk hardly ever works with some virgo women, so for instance if she did XYZ tell her and then let her know you want the behavior to stop most likely it will, I had some time to ruminate on how I approached my issues with the 10yr virgo friendship I had and I remember when I kept things factual, showed no emotions as to how her behavior made me feel she made a huge effort to stop behaving in a way that created conflict between us So if you do come at her about her behavior the less emotions the better. Metaphorical talk is more about feelings rather than factual, will not get you very far either lol