Somedaystarswillalign
@Somedaystarswillalign
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My Virgo Guy BFF
Posted by VirgoR
Why do you not visit more frequent?? He's infactuated with you which is usually short lived passion in real terms. However, 14 year infactuation is a long time.
Lets see, you are Aries, probably 5'3" tall, loads of fun, spunky, flirty, fun loving, upbeat 24/7 and not shy. What's not to like?? After 14 years I think he just feels really comfortable with you. Do you flirt with him, ever? Has he ever had a girlfriend?
Seems to me you could have the conversation (gently, of course) describing how you feel. I am confident after the 4 year hiatus, he would feel the same way in that, he would not want to lose the friendship. But, it also seems to me he may have been jealous when you began seeing the guy which caused the fallout, no?
Ha aw I should visit more often thanks :0)
Ha & you are pretty close with my description-- I'm about 5'1", def loads of fun, I'm more angry but in a funny way than upbeat-- but those who love me the most love me for that reason. I curse like a truck driver and tell people to blow me-- like a dude but yet as you can see I am still girlie.
I dont flirt with him & during our friendship no he hasnt had a serious gf but tells me about he likes & what not.
I think it was jealously too
Posted by 25thDecan
Stop the comments? And the attention? Bounce. Cut him off. If not then the history of his passive fear of rejection and your enjoying what he gives non-romantically when you feel will always be a cause of stupid awkward tension and flare-ups and temper tantrums. Life is NOT a sitcom. Urkel needs to man up and make a move and get rejected or..just...move..on. Change..good change is good. Growth and change is even better.
I can't do that... he's like one of my best friends!
I value the friendship far too much to bounce like that when we just started being friends again... I just dont feel comfortable with the comments & what not...
If he is indeed a good and true friend you can tell him to belay the smexi and he'll get it. Even if he has a bit of a scrotal ruffle over it, he'll understand.
Posted by venusianbull
If he is indeed a good and true friend you can tell him to belay the smexi and he'll get it. Even if he has a bit of a scrotal ruffle over it, he'll understand.
Woah what was that?? Auto correct fail? 🙂
you can't stop it 😢
i had to discontinue my friendship with my virgo bff because he wouldn't stop calling me "baby." it annoyed my bf and although the virgo is states away, although i'd asked him to stop, he wouldn't. i had to choose and it sucked because i do miss his friendship vewwy much.
i had to discontinue my friendship with my virgo bff because he wouldn't stop calling me "baby." it annoyed my bf and although the virgo is states away, although i'd asked him to stop, he wouldn't. i had to choose and it sucked because i do miss his friendship vewwy much.
No phone, I am my own auto correct. Eeeeeet's Engrish.
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If you don't want him to make comments, such as ....
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
... he replied "its sexy to me"
.... then why would you ask a leading question in which the answer to you has to involved whether or not you are sexy?
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
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Reading between the lines, it becomes obvious to me that you egg him on, you lead him on. If he is indeed a good friend then you have opportunity after opportunity to speak to him frankly, such as has been suggested to you in a response here, and you have the excuse not to approach the topic with him, while trying to convince us you don't like the way he talks to you.
If you aren't setting terms, and making him respect you according to your standards, rather, asking him an open-ended question that is answerable to whether you are sexy or not ... means you are encouraging him, while pretending not to be a douchebag.
Posted by P-Angel
Question:
If you don't want him to make comments, such as ....
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
... he replied "its sexy to me"
.... then why would you ask a leading question in which the answer to you has to involved whether or not you are sexy?
Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
Reading between the lines, it becomes obvious to me that you egg him on, you lead him on. If he is indeed a good friend then you have opportunity after opportunity to speak to him frankly, such as has been suggested to you in a response here, and you have the excuse not to approach the topic with him, while trying to convince us you don't like the way he talks to you.
If you aren't setting terms, and making him respect you according to your standards, rather, asking him an open-ended question that is answerable to whether you are sexy or not ... means you are encouraging him, while pretending not to be a douchebag.
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Yeahhh you got a totally legit point with the open-ended question thing. I am just like that- always been a lil over the top inappropriate but he should honestly know I wasnt looking for confirmation or denial it was just me being stupid.
Posted by 25thDecan
A friend...doesn't make it an issue to have an erection and tell you when clearly this is NOT a part of your relationship.
A SIMP....will. virgo or not. Lately I'm not sure about many of these threads. If these virgo men are such douches...why do any of these aries and scorp posters hang around them? Consider them in thought at all?
IJS....
He's been unreasonably disrespectful. What you have is a peripheral, cockblocking, limp d&ck p.o.s. hanging around you, ego stroking you in hopes to get a sympathy bang AND some loving attention. Look at your life when he's around. It's EGO...not fulfillment. This isn't a sitcom. He's NOT your f&*king little brother.
Disclaimer: cursing because I'm seriously confused. Cut him off. He's NOT one of your best friends. He's your best court jester.
Absolutely not... he has never ever once tried to put a move on me even times I have been very very drunk & he does not drink at all. He is not an asshole he's just flirty-- As P-Angel said I am probably giving off flirty vibes myself.
As an Aries it's my ways-- I'm a flirty, crazy chick just by nature. I am going to try toning myself down around him & see how that works.
I think you enjoy the fact that he is attracted to you and this is why you said this
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
because you knew he would tell you the opposite.
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
because you knew he would tell you the opposite.
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
Posted by celticlioness
I think you enjoy the fact that he is attracted to you and this is why you said this
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
because you knew he would tell you the opposite.
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
I say crazy shit all the time it's just me he knows that. We went to a football game & our team was winning by 3 touchdowns, other team finally gets 3 points on the board & the fans behind us go crazy.
I stand up & turn around & say: "You guys cheering for a measly field goal just to get points on the board is like congratulating yourself after 15 mins of sex just because you got it in"
^^That's how I am ALL the time lol
a virgo/man who's into you could find you sexy in a t-shirt and sweatpants. the reality is, if someone is into you, you don't necessarily have to TRY to make yourself appealing because to them, you already are.
Posted by caligula
a virgo/man who's into you could find you sexy in a t-shirt and sweatpants. the reality is, if someone is into you, you don't necessarily have to TRY to make yourself appealing because to them, you already are.
That is so correct. Forget the sweat pants, just go with any old stretched t-shirt!
Posted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by celticlioness
I think you enjoy the fact that he is attracted to you and this is why you said this
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
because you knew he would tell you the opposite.
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
I say crazy shit all the time it's just me he knows that. We went to a football game & our team was winning by 3 touchdowns, other team finally gets 3 points on the board & the fans behind us go crazy.
I stand up & turn around & say: "You guys cheering for a measly field goal just to get points on the board is like congratulating yourself after 15 mins of sex just because you got it in"
^^That's how I am ALL the time lolclick to expand
LOL, I'm a fire girl too, I know how you roll - you know exactly what you are doing.
Posted by harry99Posted by celticlioness
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
Does this mean boy and girls really can't be friends then hmm.
But yeah you should just tell him (nicely) that you don't like his comments. Granted there's a chance that could cause some awkward tension which may eventually end the friendship anyway. It's always difficult when you don't like someone romantically and they make certain comments or flirt. But there's a chance that if you find the nicest way known to mankind to let him know you're not interested that things could go over smoothly and still work out friendship wise especially if he isn't like in love with you. If it's just sexual attraction on his part then he'll move past it ok I think.
That's just my best advice considering the fact that you've been friends for 14 looong years. If he wasn't you best friend then I'd say cut him off and moove on.click to expand
No, boys and girls can be friends. If you are aware that one or the other has more feelings in the relationship, then a bff would treat these feelings with respect or get out of the friendship, as a true friend would.
Posted by celticlionessPosted by SomedaystarswillalignPosted by celticlioness
I think you enjoy the fact that he is attracted to you and this is why you said this
"So I stuck it all out & said "omggg this is NOT sexy"
because you knew he would tell you the opposite.
You are "playing" your "bff" - not nice
I say crazy shit all the time it's just me he knows that. We went to a football game & our team was winning by 3 touchdowns, other team finally gets 3 points on the board & the fans behind us go crazy.
I stand up & turn around & say: "You guys cheering for a measly field goal just to get points on the board is like congratulating yourself after 15 mins of sex just because you got it in"
^^That's how I am ALL the time lol
LOL, I'm a fire girl too, I know how you roll - you know exactly what you are doing.click to expand
I am such a freakin dude astrologically I really shoulda just BEEN a dude--- I feel like it would be an easier life!!!!
Let him figure it out. If he tells you his intentions upfront, be direct. If not, take it in stride. Compliments cost nothing to give. The only reason that moments like these feel awkward is because you think that they're undeserved. Maybe they're not. Believe in yourself. 🙂
Of course, if you feel like you're being pressured to make something of it by him or your friends, then make your boundaries known. And if he uses lame pick-up lines on you, then be sure to make fun of him for it. That's what friends are for, after all. 😆
The way I see it, it's up to the both of you to see that this resolves amicably (if there's something to resolve in the first place). If you're honest and polite, then you've done everything that you can. There's always a chance that on his part that he might take things the wrong way, but if he does, then the friendship probably wasn't all that strong to begin with. :S
Besides, if he hasn't directly asked you out, then he still hasn't convinced himself that you're worth the effort. So don't stress yourself out over it. You're responsible for you, and he's responsible for himself.
Of course, if you feel like you're being pressured to make something of it by him or your friends, then make your boundaries known. And if he uses lame pick-up lines on you, then be sure to make fun of him for it. That's what friends are for, after all. 😆
The way I see it, it's up to the both of you to see that this resolves amicably (if there's something to resolve in the first place). If you're honest and polite, then you've done everything that you can. There's always a chance that on his part that he might take things the wrong way, but if he does, then the friendship probably wasn't all that strong to begin with. :S
Besides, if he hasn't directly asked you out, then he still hasn't convinced himself that you're worth the effort. So don't stress yourself out over it. You're responsible for you, and he's responsible for himself.
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