Virgo man ?? Infaturated with him.help?

Hi you guys! this is my first time gracing this virgo board. How are you virgos like when you have interest in someone? Then when they have capitivated your attention? Finally, how are they like in relationships?

I know astrologically speaking we are incompatible im all air.
sun: aqua
moon: gemini
Rising: libra
Mars: Scorpio
Mercury: Capricorn
venus: aqua

I work in the film industry and i recently moved from LA to Atlanta, GA. To hopefully get into the art coordinator union. I contacted him (production designer/art director) to see if he had the time to give me some advice to start my career here in Georgia. He actually wanted to meet up! i was thrilled.

event 1: WEdnesday-thursday of last week: we chatted a lot over email, getting to know one another, he said he really wanted to continue to learn mandarin from me. He worked in china for 6 months for the olympics for nbc. We discussed that saturday would be a great day to show me around town (this past saturday).

event 2: WE continued to then talk on friday and he stated how saturday is just too far. So i suggested well, today is friday are you free after work? he took me out to eat sushi and watched a movie, conversed about the film afterwards. One thing i noticed was he didn't seem to want to stop hanging out..even though it was getting late. He was very chivalrous. He would pick me up and open my car door. Nit-pick my brain. Very anxious energy. Even after the movie, he took me out to eat again to talk more. At one point, he wanted to sit next to me and he cut himself off by saying "oh right, we dont know each other well enough to sit next to each other" but i told him hey its totally okay to do so if you like.I personally like seeing the person's face.

Event 3: Saturday: i went over to his place and he wanted to show off his cooking skills these gluten free pancakes. WEnt around town, he wanted me to help him shop for jeans. And again he would get really excited to show me all his favorite spots. Opening the door for me. a big gentlemen (perhaps thats just the way he is) We would talk and talk. He had plans to go to his parents house but then he decided he is "thinking about it, i'm having fun" so he pushed his plans further and further. (perhaps he wanted to get laid.) anyways, we had a lot of intellectual conversations about health, spiritual, work-related, sharing ideas on books etc. Finally, its 11 pm. (12 hours of hanging out) i suggested it was late and that i should get go

VirgoR thank you for your response. I found a lot of what you said to be very interesting. I cannot be absolutely certain he wasn't married before. As of now, one thing i am sure of is his martial status- single. From certain string of information he shared, his actions, his life style , i can definitely deduct that he is not seeking a secret affair.

1) His body language and the way he is protective of me so soon makes me wonder if it is just the way he is with all women or just me. You betcha! Because virgos don't wear their emotions on their sleeves, i am trying to differentiate what is and isn't: does he have interest in me?

signs of care/protection: walking through a parking lot, he would push me from the outside toward the inside. He is very intune with he's surroundings. which melted my heart. During breakfast, he asked if i wanted anything todrink and he offered me vitamin water, i was trying to open it which i failed after 3 attempts, so i gave it to him and he smiled. I also got bit by mosquitos *i look like a naked chicken who loss its coat* so at night at his place (saturday) while discussing about things, he would lean over to touch my bite or even scratch it? then proceeded to ask if i wanted some ice. If it was too hot, he would turn on the A/C and make sure its directed to me.

Body language: his feet is always pointed at me, Despite my sporadic speech delivery he would lean in and try to understand than to just ask "what ?". Gave certain indirect statements that perhaps reveals his subconscious desires.

OH i didn't get a chance to add

when i suggested i would go, he said "aww but i'm having fun" im not sure if he is also being polite because he knows at times i may be sooo considerate due to my chinese upbringing, anyways, i said sure why not let me just use the restroom. After that, i came out and i saw him lying down on his bed and i said "yeah its still gettin---" he cuts off "yeah i was thinking i am getting tired too" i hugged him, and i felt a sense if i looked up he would've kissed me? maybe i'm just being strange. So he walked me down to my car and gave me a car hug 🙂 god he is so sweet.

Would this mean he is correcting his actions? if he is critical of others, he must be critical of himself right?
I did sense that, im so worried because well, i really do do like him and sorta get where he is coming from. The problem is that my main reason of contact was to network and get myself known to get hired in the future. I don't want him to feel as if im using him to just get a job. Nor do i want to jeopardize my self-respect and integrity for a job. Nor have any possibility of word traveling "oh she would definitely do you if you dangle a job in front of her" or if things were to hit the fan and we work together or know mutual people it can be really awkward. ..my god..it could be as devastating as kim kardashian being the next president. I dont quite know how to continue being "friends" or develop a "friendship" while im being dissected under standards of perfection in dating as well as for a job and my character as a individual. It seems it can be messy. At the same time, its not like he said he likes me and maybe i'm simply being to narcissistic projecting what i wish could happen due to my admiration of him so soon.

what i want to achieve:
1) to maintain my integrity and values. While protraying myself correctly as a friend i want to be and a dedicated worker.
2) To maintain a deep meaningful friendship with him. I mean is it bad that i want a job? i do like him as a person and even if he didn't offer me ajob, i want to maintain a good bond with him.

Conscequences: My desire for individuality and mental space/ rebellious nature mixed with his need to "trust" me can be a issue. My inconsistencies could drive him ape shit. Losing what i want to achieve in 1 and 2. Drama. No job. Word travels fast type of situation. Tainting me.

how should i go about balancing myself with him?

WOW virgoR,i completely understood your post in and out. Thanks for expressing your opinion with such brevity. It really did help.

A Virgo!!!! More Mercury energy!!!! Awwwwww, that's nice you've met someone. I wish I could tell you about Virgo men, but I know 0 about them in relationships. I never dated one albeit I have Virgo male friends & was on the outside looking in. From what I witnessed in their relationships, are that they were pretty dedicated, sweet, polite but not a push-over at all. They were never afraid to call their women out on their shit either. Just be genuine, not generic. They can see through that & will act accordingly.

Sometimes they remind me of Geminis. Maybe that's just me. He seems to have fond interest in you though. Just continue to be your bubbly, sweet self & it will work out. 😉

ohh..he doesnt have that kind of interest haven't really talked to him this week. I guess its a good thing because its just easier for me professionally. SO im sorta relieved!

scratch that, HE contacted me 🙂 "haven't heard from you, what have you been up to?" even his little words melt me. This whole time i thought i should leave him alone. But it seems as if he wants me to contact him more? is that a virgo trait? ok back to reality back to REALITY! someone slap me please!

"infaturated"


lol

P-angel/ letthemeatcake!:

My SHEEPISH ADMISSION OF TRUTH:

Your cyber-slap apparently wasn't hard enough! I had the best 2 hour conversation with him on the phone. He expressed how happy he is for me with my transition to Georgia. He seems to think highly of me, hes even helping me seek employment in our related fields. God, Virgos are so awesome. His manliness holds no bounds! Protective and nuturing. Even his critical nature is actually something i "admire" (hard to believe?). *wistful sighs* He won't know how deeply i am "infatuated" with him. or "like-like" him. puwahahhaha! however, i might be really annoying for dxpnet users.

I enjoyed reading the points you brought up because it is very well known to my air signs (sun aqua; moon:gem: rising :libra venus: aqua etc) What are your placements?

The other day i was just discussing it with a friend, which concluded, that i need to bring balance into my core- being intimate and vulnerable with others. Dont get me wrong, i totally agree with women having their own self and sharing that. CHECK. i got lots of that. However, like the aformentioned, my relationships with others will suffer if i continue to choose to isolate and not embrace my emotions. i finally got a great grip on what i value this year (seeing how my gem moon takes so long to figure it out) mindfulness, honesty, balance, stability, selflessness, and humility. Whatever i lack i must fix and improve- courage to be free and intimate with others. No,(lol) he ISNT a scientific experiement. He is someone i thoroughly enjoy conversing with and my gemini moon will always get excited when mentally stimulated...and im sharing that! ALL OF IT! Letthemeatcake slap mode off! off NOOo i created a monster!

Its about time i develop meaningful bonds with people than to continue playing around. I will try though to keep my head leveled though and not too up in the cosmo heavens! MAIS! J'aime toutes les patisserie c'est comme in bout de paradis. Monsieur Vierge est comme ce moraceau gateau. Et la deduction j'en veux aussi 😉 😛

no wonder! 😄

I couldn't agree more letmehavesomecake. That is exactly what balance is and what im doing with mr. virgo (sighs..uh-oh not again! its starting all that giddiness

I can just see this plummeting so fast...

Wish my aqua was like you.