Need Answers NOW.......Please?!?!

Hey people, at my wit's end at the moment. I'm an Aries female, very impatient, very typical!! Anyway, long story short, I slept with a guy from my work after our work Christmas party last year. We were already aquaintances and it was ok as we work in different departments plus different levels. So, we agreed it was a one time thing, didn't hear from him (I was ok with it as I had literally JUST gotten out of a long term relationship)even though he did have my number. So, last week we had work drinks for a guy leaving the business. All night, my MR Virgo was doing the typical looking at me, trying to position himself closer to me, etc. I did the whole hard to get thing and just played indifferent. End of the night as we're all gettign ready to leave, he finally approaches me and asks how I've been, how my Xmas / New years was, etc. We actually had a really ncie chat for about 30 min and he even mentioned he noticed me trying to play hard to get. I was like "That wasn't playing, I just am", then we both had a laugh. When we said goodbye, he kissed me on the cheek which I thought was very gentlemanly of him. So, we've been emailing at work, nothing too OTT but very flirty / friendly. He admitted to me he wanted to get to know me but every email he writes, it always takes him on average 3 hours to write after I've sent one to him. He asks lots of questions, keeps it detailed, seems quite interested. I replied to his email from yesterday about 4 hours ago but yet still to hear back. Anyway....I've never known Virgo males, only females. Are they game players, is he playing games, is he genuinely interested? What's the next step I should take? I'm crushing on him pretty hard and just want to know NOW!!!! Hey, I'm an Aries, I can't wait, I need answers. Please someone help me before I go out of my mind!! Thanks!! 🙂

He actually sounds pretty sincere .. you are playing games though.


You tell him you aren't playing hard to get that you are hard to get, when in fact

1. you fucked him with no strings attached, which is easy to get, and

2. you wrote this ... "I did the whole hard to get thing and just played indifferent"



"we agreed it was a one time thing"

Perhaps, you should settle down and find patience ... because if you can't hold your horses now when you two barely know each other, then how do expect to contain your composure with him as the relationship develops?


Because I have to tell you .. irritate a Virgo and they will exploit you .. trust me on that, and they will have no cares in the world about how you feel.

so, if you smother him now while he's asking genuine questions and he gets irritated with you .. then everybody is going to know who the office slut is.

It would be in your best interest to stop lying to him, and then settle the restlessness .. if you plan on trying to get somewhere with him other than under his sheets.

What I've learned from my very close virguy friend is that time is different for many virgos. You just havve to be doing your own thing while showing carefully controlled interest. I email/message most of my friends like 20 times a day, but my vgf said this is overwhelming to him.

Your friend may be intensely interested, but trying to see if you have some base level commonality. Don't be afraid to be yourself, but also keep in mind you may not have enough in common to go past being friends. Virgos take a lot of work, a lot of 'translating', but if it's within your own personal boundaries, it's worth it.

And just wait. I raked my poor vgf over the coals a few times before we figured out an agreeable compromise. I end up having to wait more than a cancer would like, but he puts out more than he normally would 😉

You both include valid points, however, P Angel - the whole situation may seem smutty but it really wasn't. We've been aquaintances for over half a year and we'd both been crushing on each other and the way it happened (going home together) was actually a pretty sweet story. But I never played games with him, I was up front all along and told him I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship. He acknowledged that and said he understood. He asked for my number so I gave it to him but didn't hear from him. Admittedly, I was a little baffled but then he pops up last week, TWO months after our incident, I was shocked to see he was persuing something. Usually men after getting some don't do that, so yes, I was just as shocked as the next person. He approached me very sweetly, NOT in a sexual way either, he seems quite interested in getting to know me and admitted he's had a crush on me since I started at the company 9 months ago. I'm a little confused by what you mean about me annoying him, I've displayed no action that has upset him at all, we're just getting along and gettign to know each other at this point. But SandyClaws, you're right, time is different to a Virgo and I guess that's my question...how do I play this? He replied to an email of mine saying he thought I was "adorable" but he just seems to be taking it sooooooooooooooooo slowly. Slow just isn't a word in my vocab, so far, I've played along but do I ask him out for coffee or lunch or something. Will he eventually ask or should I take action? This man is SHY!!! I mean.....one of the shyest men I've ever met (which confuses me too as he is one of the most good looking people I've ever seen, I mean the eptiome of tall, dark and handsome...beautiful). But yes, he's as shy as he is gorgeous, he seems keen so do I take action into my own hands? Do Virgo men appreciate that or will he just persue something at his own snail pace?

Thanks!! 🙂