Need help with a beautiful Virgo

I am wondering if a virgo woman could help me with a beautiful virgo.

She was a girl i dated about 15 years ago and two months ago we ran into each
other. We talked and it went well, she took my number and called me. (although
it was a month 1/2 later)

The first time we dated we were both young and being a guy I was playing the
field and made a huge mistake of letting her go. (by blowing her off. What an
idiot)

Anyway I've gotten older and my outlook has changed over the years. I realized
what a mistake it was to let her go way back when.

The relationship has gone well so far (when she's not shying away from me) She told her friends (who told me) that
I was such a nice guy and that I almost seemed too good to be true. I let her
know how i feel. I tell her I miss her when I haven't seen her for a few days.
Let her know that I would like a very long future with her. I have always been
like that with a woman I really liked very much. It is important to me that
they don't have any questions about where they stand in my head and heart.
(maybe too much at times)

Like I said before, it seems like she has taken a step back and is almost not
as enthusiastic or put as much effort to get together. (we have conflicting
schedules) She does still call (although the time between has gotten longer over the past couple weeks) and we will talk for quite a while on the phone,
so I know there is something there.

I don't know what to do and am very much afraid of losing her due to me being
too aggressive or for some other Taurus reason. Could someone please give me some
advice to help me not chase the woman that I probably made the biggest mistake
with (probably of my life) 15 years ago.

Hey,

Seems that you miss your self-confidence buddy?! Be what you are.. if it meant to be then so be it. Or else..

Well, you know the drill?

Always are ?another one anyway?.

Life changes? people changes.. think about someone you love today, she'll change.. are you..—

Just some thoughts that popped in mind while reading this ..


If you feel like you've lost something (her 15 years ago) .. then this attitude might manifest itself as desperation for her attention on a subconscious level.

I find it quite curious that you would tell EVERY woman to whom you like a lot that you see a common future together .. to project this, though I realize the aim is to be honest .. gives off signals to the woman that she isn't that important, which is the opposite of what you are going for.

"Let her know that I would like a very long future with her. I have always been like that with a woman I really liked very much. It is important to me that they don't have any questions about where they stand in my head and heart."

Women don't process this in the way in which you intended it to be. Here's an example that will give a similiar feeling to a woman. Over Christmas, a member on the Cancer board bought his girl a gift and then they ended up not seeing each other on Christmas and so planned it for the next weekend ... this man gave his girl's gift to his mother and she freaked the hell out and he couldn't understand why.

If a sentiment can be given so freely .... then it's not exclusively special to just your one and only special lady. So, my point is .. if you would tell every woman to whom you like that you see her as a permenant fixture in your life .. then this isn't exclusive to the Virgo lady, for it would go for any woman who got your fancy.

Eventhough, I fully comprehend that this isn't your intent for the comment .. I'm trying to tell you that a woman would twist that comment to mean she is NOT special to you .. the complete opposite of your intention.

As for the Virgo pulling away .. this is normal when feelings are involved. If she has become distant, then it means she is now doubting your intentions. That's backwards, I know .. but, that's how they work. So long as she isn't into you, she will be open and friendly, but, as soon as she has feelings for you, she will pull away and allow herself to become confused by over-analyzing everything you say and do rather than going with the flow of the feelings because emotions are too chaotic for Virgo's to embrace with grace.

Sit tight .. don't push .. just keep regular contact to let her know you are still there.

Hey guys thanks for the support. When I said....

"Let her know that I would like a very long future with her. I have always been like that with a woman I really liked very much. It is important to me that they don't have any questions about where they stand in my head and heart."

......I think it looked like I told HER that I tell EVERY woman that I like very much these things. I didn't tell her this. I only tell her I miss her, She's beautiful, I'm not going anywhere and would like a very long future with her in it. Sorry for the confusion

As far as sitting tight and not pushing. Does that mean I just have to sit back and take it when she doesn't return my calls or text messages for a couple days. If I am with her in the end it's a small price to pay, but I also think it's not very fair to me.

your screwed, haha, not really. i had the same issue not too long ago, be patient is all i can tell you and like someone mentioned earlier be there when she does contact you, as a taurus all i wanted to do is be around her all the time, so that sucked quite a bit but she started to come around to where i am with the feelings, she is not where i am completely but it gets better.

"I think it looked like I told HER that I tell EVERY woman that I like very much these things. I didn't tell her this. I only tell her I miss her, She's beautiful, I'm not going anywhere and would like a very long future with her in it. Sorry for the confusion"


I did think that .. thanks for clarifying because I was sitting here yesterday thinking .... "Oh man, you're screwed"

As far as sitting back and not pushing ... here's my take on this:

All Virgo's (both genders), have a fear that they might not be good enough for another person. They will sit back and think, "Why me? Am I the best they can get? Is something wrong with them?" .... this mental masturbation will go on for quite awhile because they have to have all their thoughts reasoned out. Then, you might get a wierd contact from the Virgo, saying something alone the lines of, "Why do you like me?" ..... you'll be sitting there thinking that you already told them how much you care, and wondering if you weren't clear enough and will likely feel compelled to tell her again how much you really like her.

This is all normal ... after that contact, she likely go missing again for a while, doing the same thing, "He said he really likes me. Is this true? Is there something he wants from me? He's so hot, and sweet, why would he want someone like me?"

It's all self-doubt because in their eyes, there is always someone better and why don't you want that someone better .. why settle for them. This can go on for quite awhile and most people get frustrated and move on long before adequate time (in Virgo time) has gone by for them to have a clear picture of your intentions with them.

So, to sit tight and don't push, yet keep in contact, means .... to keep reassuring her of your feelings and your intentions, however, don't push her to make a decision yet on how she views the relationship because it hasn't been enough time yet, for her to come to a conclusion.

Some people have confirmed that several months go by, dancing this reaffirming posture before the Virgo has decided what will fit within their structured minds.

One thing I can tell you absolute about her as it pertains to being a Virgo ... you can carry this to the bank ....

... if a Virgo has feelings for you, they go missing in action to contemplate ... if the Virgo does NOT go missing, then there are no romantic feelings to chew on ...

.. so, for the fact that she has gone missing .. is a GOOD sign, it means she is thinking about you in terms of a union.

The standard story is that if a virgo is into you, he/she will go missing in action. If they're not into you, they'll be open and friendly and stick around. I have no problems with that - I've experienced it and done it myself.

But here's a potential wrinkle... How can you tell if they've gone missing because they're developing feelings versus going missing because they're consumed my work or other stuff and only think of you as being on the periphery of their world?

Hi everyone.

It's me again. LOL. Thank you all so much for your advice. It really does help. I am going to take all your advice and just "sit tight... don't push...and just keep regular contact. But if you guys are wrong I'm gonna come get ya's. LOL Just kidding. Really THANK YOU ALL.

One more question though. I know, I know. ARRGH. LOL.

As you all know the big V. Day is in a couple days. I wanted to get her something that showed her that my feelings are nothing but true. I've been online and looking around and ran into promise rings. Nothing too heavy (emotionally) but something to let her know I am true. She speaks French, so I was going to get "Mon Coer Avez" engraved on the inside. It means "My heart you have" Like I said nothing too heavy, but something to let her know I and my feelings are true. Do you guys think this is a good idea?

Anyway. If you guys don't see this in time. Have a great V. Day and I hope you all get what you wish for. You guys really deserve it. Thanks again for the support.

That seems pretty heavy to me.

You can't move too quick with a Virgo .. this might scare her while she's doing her mental evaluation of the situation.

Every Virgo I know, both genders, love gardening .. so maybe she would like a rose bush to be planted in the spring. Something she can keep in her house to look at, to remind her of you while she's searching in her head about you. And then in the spring, find a perfect place for it in her yard.

It's really just a flower, which is a good representation for V-Day, but, this way it sort of speaks metaphorically of what you want her to know ....

... your love for her will live forever so long as it's nurtured and tended to .. she can plant your seed (plant) in her heart (garden), and watch it flourish .. you could even write a little sentimental poem or something that suggests this very thing.



The pedals of my heart will not die with the thorn
In your lovely garden, our life together can be born

The beautiful fragrance of your blossoms we can share
Along with the richness of respect for you that I pride with care

Cherish this symbol of faith of mine
As I will your life implanted in this special Valentine



Ok, that was corny .. so, I'm not a poet

Bweekzzz,

I've been on the other side of this equation: Virgo Male + Taurus Female.

FWIW, I think you're coming on too strong with the VirGirl. Ease back a little, and give her time to absorb the facts that you really like her. And... try not to be too bull-headed with her -- stubbornness broke me & my Taurus chick apart...

Hey C-man. Was just cruisin around and ran into your thread when you were going through the same thing. Really great that it's working out for you. It absolutely drives me crazy when I call and she doesn't call back for a couple-few days. I wanna tell her "what the hell", but am trying VERY hard to just be patient. Did you tell her it bothered you when she did this or did you just ride it out?

no i didnt tell her (i am very patient), she worries constantly about everything so i didnt want to give her more to worry about and push her away. i was just patient and showed her that what i wanted was true, and am there for her to be someone she can rely on and and be stable and ease her worries (as much as i can).