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Posted by Candeh15Posted by caribbeangoldPosted by caribbeangold
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Also, I'll throw myself out there: I've gotten on more than one occasion, "You are actually pretty for a black girl."
Really Candeh? People have actually said that to you? Wow.
One hell of an ass backwards compliment, right? Over many years, black women in general have had to deal with not being ideal in terms of looks. I mean, have you seen many of the controversial advertisements in India where a husband left his dark-skinned wife for a lighter-skinned woman? Skin bleaching is also a controversial thing that has taken some countries by storm. These thoughts are a little jumbled, but media has a lot to do with this.
I know that there are those who full-on bleach their skin but I think that when people see bleaching creams on shelves they automatically assume the worst when many people use it just to clear up spots/blemishes. I believe it was the Johnson & Johnson Cocoa Butter brand or Palmers that started this campaign for a bleaching cream for Black women and the tag line goes something like "we know you love your skin color and want to take care of it". They were basically trying to denounce the idea that Black women solely use bleaching creams to lighten their skin so that they can look White.
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Posted by ellessque
didn't know that. thanks vixen.
No problem and this doesn't necessarily apply only to Black women but women of other races too. Not every woman who uses bleaching cream does so because she wants to look like a lighter version of herself.
Posted by caribbeangoldPosted by VirgoVixxxen
No problem and this doesn't necessarily apply only to Black women but women of other races too. Not every woman who uses bleaching cream does so because she wants to look like a lighter version of herself.
true, there are exceptions...but still cant be denied that in some parts of africa and india
there is a campaign (ads) for looking lighter and better...so, that is still present...
besides, those chemicals are harmful!
anyways, the same goes for hair straightening...not all black women who straighten their hair
want to have "good white hair"...click to expand
Exactly!
I can only imagine what those ads are like in Africa and India...sad.
I keep my hair straight because it's something I've been conditioned to ever since I was a young girl (whoever invented the hot comb and Miss Kitty Kits Perm should have been kicked up the arse, lol). Other than that I have never straightened it with the intent to have hair like a White woman (and that's not possible anyway) As I got older, I had more and more of a desire to go natural but admit that I was a little hesitant because of where I worked and worried about how It would be recieved.
I remember that story that broke a few years back when a couple of Black women sued their employer and won because they were discriminated against for their ethnic hair style s (cornrows, locks, boxbraids, etc) and although it was like a small victory for Black women everywhere, at the same time it made many a little more self-conscious of what hair style s they wore to work because they didn't have the energy nor time to put up the good fight like the other women and didn't want to risk losing their jobs.
Posted by caribbeangoldPosted by VirgoVixxxen
Other than that I have never straightened it with the intent to have hair like a White woman (and that's not possible anyway)
true...i know plenty of black women with all kinds of texture...
and not all of them have the time/want to/can go natural
so, it all depends
what bothers me is that some people (in esp. whites) take this to purposefully inculcate that black women dont love themselves "oooh...these poor black women" because
they straighten their hair, use skin lightenings, etc..."look at them, they want to be like us" - which only strengthens their "superiority", stroking their ego..get what i mean?
as if...women of other ethnic/racial groups dont have the same issues!
you would be surprised when ive talked to women either in europe, middle east...
all cultures, countries have women hair issues, even though there may be racial/ethnic factors
in some cases
hair, skin...anything involving the body is a hot issue for women in general...click to expand
In reference to texture, there's beauty in variety and that's what makes us humans so interesting.
Of course I understand what you are saying and in my opinion, Black women who don't appreciate the very hair that grows out of their own head are brainwashed and have bought into the White man's ideal of beauty. This is not the case for all but when I look at women like "Lil' Kim" it makes me want to puke.
Jessica Simpson recently filmed a reality TV show called "Price of Beauty" in which she travels to a bunch of different countries to discover and learn about the beauty/body issues that women face all over the world. It was amazing to see the amount of women in Asia who get the "leg lengthening surgery" & "double eyelid surgery" and the women in Africa who wear neck rings to achieve the "giraffe neck". While all very disturbing, you can do nothing but empathize for these women because at the end of the day, we're all very much the same in our quest for beauty and perfection. The only thing that may be different is the method by which we try to obtain it.
Posted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by Candeh15
And most men seem to prefer dark haired women too it seems like, I guess because a little bit of an exotic look is usually more interesting.click to expand
It seems to me like most men want blondes. It's like being blonde is all the craze.
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by caribbeangoldPosted by VirgoVixxxen
No problem and this doesn't necessarily apply only to Black women but women of other races too. Not every woman who uses bleaching cream does so because she wants to look like a lighter version of herself.
true, there are exceptions...but still cant be denied that in some parts of africa and india
there is a campaign (ads) for looking lighter and better...so, that is still present...
besides, those chemicals are harmful!
anyways, the same goes for hair straightening...not all black women who straighten their hair
want to have "good white hair"...
Exactly!
I can only imagine what those ads are like in Africa and India...sad.
I keep my hair straight because it's something I've been conditioned to ever since I was a young girl (whoever invented the hot comb and Miss Kitty Kits Perm should have been kicked up the arse, lol). Other than that I have never straightened it with the intent to have hair like a White woman (and that's not possible anyway) As I got older, I had more and more of a desire to go natural but admit that I was a little hesitant because of where I worked and worried about how It would be recieved.
I remember that story that broke a few years back when a couple of Black women sued their employer and won because they were discriminated against for their ethnic hair style s (cornrows, locks, boxbraids, etc) and although it was like a small victory for Black women everywhere, at the same time it made many a little more self-conscious of what hair style s they wore to work because they didn't have the energy nor time to put up the good fight like the other women and didn't want to risk losing their jobs.click to expand
My hair is naturally curly (and there is a lot of it) and has been for a few years now. I got a little of shit for it when I first started because not only my friends but my mother got on my about never straightening it or relaxing it, ect. And to be honest, it really got me down. If people of your own race couldn't accept you, then who could? So, I became really self-conscious... still, I never wanted to do anything else to it. I got chemical burns all the time anyway, so I had to let my head heal unle
Posted by caribbeangoldPosted by VirgoVixxxen
Jessica Simpson recently filmed a reality TV show called "Price of Beauty" in which she travels to a bunch of different countries to discover and learn about the beauty/body issues that women face all over the world. It was amazing to see the amount of women in Asia who get the "leg lengthening surgery" & "double eyelid surgery" and the women in Africa who wear neck rings to achieve the "giraffe neck". While all very disturbing, you can do nothing but empathize for these women because at the end of the day, we're all very much the same in our quest for beauty and perfection. The only thing that may be different is the method by which we try to obtain it.
take a look at teeth-chiseling....
Oh lord do I have the guts to do this...
Posted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by Candeh15
And most men seem to prefer dark haired women too it seems like, I guess because a little bit of an exotic look is usually more interesting.
It seems to me like most men want blondes. It's like being blonde is all the craze.
Most if not all the guys I've talked to told me they prefer dark hair (and all the guys I've had some kind of relationship said they preferred dark hair).. so that's what I've heard anyway. Or maybe they were just saying that to try to get into my pants lol 😉click to expand
Guys will say anything nowadays won't they? LOL...nah, but I don't think that's the case with you. It would be nice if redheads could get more attention. They're so cute. I remember the first time I saw a Black redhead. He was a sight to behold. He even had freckles...now that I think of it, most redheads I've seen have freckles. Anyway, everyone knew him as "Red" and I was surprised that no one ever made fun of him because he looked so different from everyone else.
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