Nobody is good enough for you .....

Of late, I've heard several Virgos talk about how they like everything to be perfect. Which of course we all know according to the write ups ... but, then Virgos confirm this, so we know it's true.

If you believe that you are perfect, or always right which is form of perfectionism ... then you leave no room for people to human .... people being you and non-V's.

It means that a potential g/b-friend will have to compete with you in trying to be jsut as perfect if s/he wants to get you.

It means that you, as a potential g/b-friend would believe of yourself as better, and the other never being able to measure up to you.


Most Virgos I know are alone in life, and can't figure out why they find themselves without a partner .... and in most cases, it's because nobody is good enough for them because instead of letting the measure up for their own attributes, they have to measure up to the perfectionism that the Virgo believes.


So, what does it take for you to come down off your high-horse?

And for those of you who are trying to understand why the Virgo you were with suddenly pulled away from you without any warning and won't communicate with you, eventhough s/he made you believe that you were everything ....


Try to understand what is being said here. If you aren't perfect, then you don't measure up.

"Like someone for who they are, Love them for their faults"

It is a difficult thing to do but at some point, we all have to do it. Sacrifice is what makes a relationship last, Virgos often have to be goaded into it.

Posted by Cajunspirit
"Like someone for who they are, Love them for their faults"

It is a difficult thing to do but at some point, we all have to do it. Sacrifice is what makes a relationship last, Virgos often have to be goaded into it.

I know that they have to be goaded into it ... but, at least they get there.

Sounds like you are realizing that you cannot stand on the perfection platform and expect people to be able to measure up to it. In most cases, the Virgo himself/herself is the sole reason why they are alone .. because if you look around you, look around in here, you will find people who want to be with your kind ..... but, the door is closed.

Being a perfectionist is a hard thing. You project it on everyone and everything. What's even harder about being a perfectionist, is that it's difficult to stop.

I've learned in relationships that I'm picky. I've stopped trying to pretend I'm not. But I've also learned that I can't change people and that it's not the person's fault completely.

People are human, they can never be as good as you are .... what does it take for you to know that your ground is higher than theirs.

You say you've learned .... how —

what happened to make you realize that this was the reason why men ran away from you?

Posted by Layna
Cajun, I like this changed (and changing) you. 🙂

I'm changing? :o

Posted by P-Angel

Sounds like you are realizing that you cannot stand on the perfection platform and expect people to be able to measure up to it.

Been realising it for years. Took that long to accept it.

In most cases, the Virgo himself/herself is the sole reason why they are alone .. because if you look around you, look around in here, you will find people who want to be with your kind ..... but, the door is closed.

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Yes indeed.
Good thing we are self sufficient loners. Complacent, but able to survive.

Posted by P-Angel
People are human, they can never be as good as you are .... what does it take for you to know that your ground is higher than theirs.

You say you've learned .... how —

what happened to make you realize that this was the reason why men ran away from you?

I think you just start to notice patterns. I know well enough I'm not perfect, but I think I expected everyone else to be because I wanted to have someone/something that could fulfill what I lacked. But when you realize that people aren't perfect, it disappoints you... highly. But you learn that you can't give some and have another person give all... or vice versa.

I agree with DY that we do have this bratty personality that can narrow our perceptions on many situations. I didn't know all of these, but over time, I just became more aware. The hardest part though was finding a way to fix it.

Honestly I don't plan to start a family until I'm settled in life... which is like after grad school... which is like when I'm 40 or something. 😛

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Posted by Cajunspirit
I'm changing? :o

Tubby noticed.

P noticed.

Now you're just digging for compliments. 😛

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I blocked tubby.

I'm the same really. I just don't post as often, so what you're accustomed to seeing is vastly reduced.

I know I have faults, but everyone is a narcissist in their own way. I am happy with the way I live my life.

Posted by CancerMoon
I really dislike the idea that you constantly need a partner in your life.
I'm happiest alone...that's just the way it is. Maybe it's gonna change, maybe not.
I've never been accused of being to hard on my loved one's, I adore them. I just can't live for someone else right now, I have to focus on myself. I think alot of Virgos choose to be alone. Never heard one complain about not having a partner. If we want one, we can get one.

Well, I know virgos who have certainly complained (I've done it a bit before), but I think it's more inward more so than an outward complaint.

If it were me, yeah I'd definitely choose to be in a relationship. But it's not something I'm trying to force myself to have. At the same time, I feel like that can also be our downfall because we are so in control that when we want something, it sometimes doesn't translate as well to others. Is that our fault? Maybe, maybe not. It really depends on the individual.

And yeah, getting someone is definitely about the individual rather than the sign, in my opinion. Like, sometimes I have no trouble and others it seems no one is interested lol.

Posted by P-Angel
Of late, I've heard several Virgos talk about how they like everything to be perfect. Which of course we all know according to the write ups ... but, then Virgos confirm this, so we know it's true.

If you believe that you are perfect, or always right which is form of perfectionism ... then you leave no room for people to human .... people being you and non-V's.

It means that a potential g/b-friend will have to compete with you in trying to be jsut as perfect if s/he wants to get you.

It means that you, as a potential g/b-friend would believe of yourself as better, and the other never being able to measure up to you.


Most Virgos I know are alone in life, and can't figure out why they find themselves without a partner .... and in most cases, it's because nobody is good enough for them because instead of letting the measure up for their own attributes, they have to measure up to the perfectionism that the Virgo believes.


So, what does it take for you to come down off your high-horse?

I love how you're always harping on my Virgo brothers and sisters. What have you got against us? It's like you're some sort of deranged super-villain...

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Posted by Lena282
hmmmm I have the Moon does that mean I need emotional perfection? =3

No it just means we're only half crazy http://photobucket.com/images/eye% 20twitch" target="_blank">

😛

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I have a virgo rising, a virgo sun, but a scorpio moon. What does that make me?! 😛

It's all part of my hard-wiring I feel. Though your hypothesis may hold some water, I can't help but feel that my potential match must meet certain standards. I don't know how high my horse may stand but as long as she may be as clean as I, witty as I, and as down to earth as I feel I am then I deem her a potentail match. And yes, I feel anything less is below me. It may not be right, but that's the way I feel.

Posted by CancerMoon
I think Virgo in an emotional position like the Moon must be even more difficult. I'm just a crazy Cancer Mooner, Candeh knows what I'm talking about 😉

I honestly don't know who decided earth and water together worked. hahahaha

Jk, I like my moon.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
It's all part of my hard-wiring I feel. Though your hypothesis may hold some water, I can't help but feel that my potential match must meet certain standards. I don't know how high my horse may stand but as long as she may be as clean as I, witty as I, and as down to earth as I feel I am then I deem her a potentail match. And yes, I feel anything less is below me. It may not be right, but that's the way I feel.

To have standards is much better than not. Some people will hook up with anybody, under the pretense of love, without any conditions at all ... and those relatinships are doome from the beginning because people have conditions.


I was talking about the concept that a person thinks they are the best at everything ... how then can another person become a part of that world since they are human?

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Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
It's all part of my hard-wiring I feel. Though your hypothesis may hold some water, I can't help but feel that my potential match must meet certain standards. I don't know how high my horse may stand but as long as she may be as clean as I, witty as I, and as down to earth as I feel I am then I deem her a potentail match. And yes, I feel anything less is below me. It may not be right, but that's the way I feel.

To have standards is much better than not. Some people will hook up with anybody, under the pretense of love, without any conditions at all ... and those relatinships are doome from the beginning because people have conditions.


I was talking about the concept that a person thinks they are the best at everything ... how then can another person become a part of that world since they are human?

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If you want a task done right, assign it to a Virgo. Everybody knows our meticulous attention to detail will produce far better results than probably any other sign as a general rule. I have read along those lines many times in zodiac breakdowns and even feel that way about my own work capabilities. So in that department I find it true more often than not. Our organizational skills are borderline perfect and as long as I either have the tools or can find the tools, my production will always be no less than perfect, at least in my eyes. Have me detail your car one day and then call my bullshit. 😉

Maybe the Virgo seeks in a partner, their idea of perfection because they want to be sure that the relationship can work and last for the long haul. I am not so sure they seek perfection in a partner, so much as someone they believe they have a chance of a lasting relationship with? Just an idea of mine.

Grael...I think thats true. And its also maybe about Virgo's need to research the heck out of anything before making a jump. For instance, i read tons of reviews about a particular product or group of products before i make a selection, i always want to have the best quality or value. We're almost like Ben Stiller in Along Came Polly with his risk program, lol.

Posted by Jcolli40
Grael...I think thats true. And its also maybe about Virgo's need to research the heck out of anything before making a jump. For instance, i read tons of reviews about a particular product or group of products before i make a selection, i always want to have the best quality or value. We're almost like Ben Stiller in Along Came Polly with his risk program, lol.

That I agree with totally, given my own experiences. I swear it is like being on trial at times, and I can see all the research as it is happening, along with tests to see how I will react to different situations, at times quite extreme things such as how I dealt with going straight out onto busy roads on a bike, having only ever been on country roads. (he cycles everywhere and loves bikes).

Posted by Grael1975
Maybe the Virgo seeks in a partner, their idea of perfection because they want to be sure that the relationship can work and last for the long haul. I am not so sure they seek perfection in a partner, so much as someone they believe they have a chance of a lasting relationship with? Just an idea of mine.

I got that already, it's why the thread exists.


What I'mm talking about is how is this other person suppose to measure up to the idea you have in your head about perfect? If you think you are the best at what you do, then the potential partner starts off the relationship being beneath you, and your percieved perfectness.

The relatinships that last the long haul are based off of acceptance and tolerance .... you have to be able to be vunerable.

Posted by CancerMoon
Wait....aren't we the ones with the inferiority complex? Nothing I do is perfect....I want it to be perfect but I realize that I will never reach perfection. I think every Virgo knows that, still we try.
The only thing that is important to me is that the person is trying their best. "Perfection" isn't neccessary.

Sorry for having high standards....maybe you should cut a slice off our methods and really observe your Virgo before getting in a relationship. If we are not for you, you better get going.

Well what she, which may or may not be correct, is suggesting is that the more we try to perfect ourselves, the more we expect it from everyone else.

Haven't you even just sat there and started picking at someone's faults just because you weren't sure you even liked them. That you immediately started looking at their faults because you we already thinking they weren't good enough.

I don't even think that's a virgo thing... I think it's a human thing.

Posted by Candeh15

Well what she, which may or may not be correct, is suggesting is that the more we try to perfect ourselves, the more we expect it from everyone else.

Haven't you even just sat there and started picking at someone's faults just because you weren't sure you even liked them. That you immediately started looking at their faults because you we already thinking they weren't good enough.

I don't even think that's a virgo thing... I think it's a human thing.

Yeah, I've done that before.

And it's sad story, isn't it? That's why I will never believe that unconditional love exists, because people have standards, people have terms in which they will expect the other to adhere to.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Candeh15

Well what she, which may or may not be correct, is suggesting is that the more we try to perfect ourselves, the more we expect it from everyone else.

Haven't you even just sat there and started picking at someone's faults just because you weren't sure you even liked them. That you immediately started looking at their faults because you we already thinking they weren't good enough.

I don't even think that's a virgo thing... I think it's a human thing.

Yeah, I've done that before.

And it's sad story, isn't it? That's why I will never believe that unconditional love exists, because people have standards, people have terms in which they will expect the other to adhere to.

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It reminds me of something my Libra best friend said to me a few years ago when I had a lot of trouble with guys and my own self worth:

"You aren't afraid of disappointing them. You're afraid that they'll disappoint you."