problems.. problems.. problems..

"there are no stupid people, only unconscious."

problems.. how do you handle:

-making a choice
-betrayal
-letting go
-holding on
-loving someone
-financial
-doubt and fear
-etc.

problems are messages to us that serves as a challenge. it help us grow on learning or loving. whatever problems we have in a relationship or in our lives, it can either make or break a relationship. to be successful is not just about careers, financial or having all the material things to make us cool. it's how we become a better person that makes us successful, how we handle relationships to others and to our selves.

problems can either be seen as an ILLUSION and allow that problem be run by the situation or see this as an AWARENESS by using this problem as a blessing in disguise to make a relationship or our self much stronger. when we are not focused in our particular goal, the winds of change and indecision can toss us in the midst of a storm. we see problems as an obstacle when we set our eyes off the goal.

for example if your partner had an affair, use this affair as a blessing to make both of you learn from each other and grow more in love. sometimes i wonder why my man tends to show more drama than me, he's often jealous, possesive, sensitive. i realize that it was for my own good, he loves me and that he's afraid of losing me. i was overly sensitive as well and that the things i've been accusing him are the things i do have.

you're the only person who know what can be right for you by opening your heart and getting real with your own self. being skeptical or pessimist will only give us a bundle of nerves. the more uptight we get the harder it is we'll get to focus and think.

count your blessings. appreciate what you have even if you don't know why. the heart has it's reasons that reasons knows nothing of.

"problems can either be seen as an ILLUSION and allow that problem be run by the situation or see this as an AWARENESS by using this problem as a blessing in disguise to make a relationship or our self much stronger."

You won't get any arguments from me on this one.

People, for the most part, just let the wind blow, and blow . . yelling each time how it just keeps in the same direction, carrying the same crap, life slips past them because they are focused on the fact that the wind keeps blowing.

However, it appears as though people are "trained" into being closed to Oneness, or Sameness. To reach beyond, outside the barriers of acceptable, for the most part, is considered incoherent for it's absence of definition. It seems logical that a person would use this "learned" set of standards when regarding their own personal problems.

There has to be an answer . . then there is closure and it doesn't matter if the answer was beneficial, or not . . it can then be ignored and regarded as insignificant, so there's no guilt when the same mistake is made.

I suspect the programming is there for the purpose of protecting us, so we can continue on the same road to having only ONE. Not me . . I've broken out of the chains. Completely aware of myself in every situation . . couldn't live any other way. Furthermore, if there is something on a level that escapes me, I'm not aware . . I encourage people to tell me, so I can adjust and adapt in the connection of the lucid part of my brain to the subconscious.

Making a choice-
My dad tells me- "Whatever you do, do it for yourself. At the end of the day it's always your choice. And the only person you can really depend on is you. Know yourself first before you make a decision."

-betrayal- expect it- always trust but never be 100% attached to anyone.

Letting Go-Experience it, accept it, store it, and move on. Put yourself first.

loving someone-love yourself first. and I would go with Ch 13 of 1rst Corinthians in the Bible.

financial-if you're giving, you're receiving. and if you want to waste your money, get rich!

doubt and fear-is only between your own two ears. don't give it a second thought. act more than you think. endurance and strong will will help you overcome it. and anyone who sends doubt and fear to you has let their own doubt and fear defeat them.
so why even listen? they've only failed themselves.
whatever you do, don't fail yourself.


~ Tis My Dad's Lectures~

what do you think about this situation..

if someone says they hate you or said harsh words that means they don't love you so you won't love that person anymore?

shabbiness..

ah hel* no. always love the person. the average person regrets the words they say on a daily basis. v.v Who can tame the tongue?

And 9 times out of 10, they hurt you BECAUSE they love you. Think about it?

Who do you usually hurt with your words? People you love or people you don't love?
People you don't love, you let off eassssy not harshly.

I've never known anyone to say something so harsh to someone and not regret it.

Yes, even a virgo!!

R-C...why does anyone need to use words to hurt? If someone is coming from a place of love - they will not say hurtful words. Now, someone coming from a place of fear will say hurtful words.

Love and Fear cannot exist at the same time.

And I will not buy the theory, "9 times out of 10, they hurt you BECAUSE they love you. Think about it?" sounds like a justification to me.

also sounds like you are giving someone the opportunityand the OK to verbally abuse you.

lol. It's not right to verbally abuse anyone. Most of the time people do it because they want that person to change for the better, whatever that may be to them.

When people do mean it, they are just immature and end up hurting people just because they're hurt.

This is plain out the way people are. They do things they don't mean to do.

.. there are no stoopid people, only unconscious

amen

that's the reason why problems serves as messages for us. it's a challenge on how we perceive these.

an illusion that the person we chose to love can only hurt us instead of seeing or using it as an awareness -- of what we lack thought of or act of.

i know sometimes words can hit harder than a fist

Hi I am a Virgo, and try not to be too harsh with words but not too long ago for the first time in many many years, I was told to get the hell out of someone's life. I had never been mean to this person even though they all but destroyed my life with their actions. I still treated them with respect. However, since they verbally attacked me and showed me no equal forgiveness, my temper kicked in and my worst came out with a verbal regurgitation of all the hurt I had been trying to forgive them for. We have not spoken in 6 months, and quite frankly never will until I get an apology. I still would try to reconcile at that point. I consider, after all the hell they put me through, and me being kind to them after that, that I had already burried my pride, and all I got for it was another slap in the soul. This is not a point of no return for me, as I know that the universe has a tricky little way of turning things around.. When that happens...so be it.

-making a choice - depends what the choice, in love find it hard other choices im ok
-betrayal - that hurts, never been betrayed in love so dont know
-letting go - hardest thing in the world, still havent let go fully of my ex who i have been split from for 8 months, and i have a new partner of 3 month
-holding on ————?
-loving someone - i can love easily i think
-financial - no problems here very good with money
-doubt and fear - ok