Scorpio women needs advice from a Virgo Man

When a scorpio women finds their target the whole chase is just a thrilling process. As known between scorpios, we are definitely the hunters who can not be choosen, we have to be the chooser.
When I find "the one", it's like a amber colored beacan in a sea of gray. No one else compares nor exist. Finding out the mysteries that lie underneath the exterior is what drives us.

Right now, my target is a cautious, calculating Virgo man who is the ultimate chase. I have weaved a web of friendship and carefully tested his sincerity (unknowingly) and he has past with flying colors. He is truly the man I've been looking for all my life. Patience seems to be the test he is putting me through but I know if it's on his own time it will only be better for both of us.

It's really hard to sit across the table from him with a cool exterior while underneath I want to tear his clothes off.
This friday we are going out to lunch and I'm finally going to confess how I feel in a way that will leave it up to him to make choices on his own time.

The following are some of the basic indicators I've received from him over the coarse of our 8 month friendship. Please tell me if this means he is interested.
- When we had our first conversation during a business lunch, it lasted for 3.5 hours because it seemed like we new each other for years.
- We started hanging out regularly during random social events though we both are open about being home bodies who could care less about social gatherings.
- We would call each other for business reasons however the conversation would lead to personal convo that would go on for hours.
- I purposly placed him in the friend zone so I can assess his character from a far. More specifically I attempted to hook him up with my close friend and he would do the same while we would both go on about how awesome we thought each was to the "friends" we were selling the potential relationship to lol. All the hook up attempts of course would fizzle out before it started.
- He told me he hopes we remain friends no matter what for the rest of our lives and that no one get hims like I do.
- He made a huge point of why being in the friend zone sucks.
- When I finally starting making small hints at how I feel about him, he stopped calling and our hang time was reduced to once a month. Then he starting studdering, sweating and stopped looking into my eyes when we finally hang out.
If any Virgos have some advice,I'm indeed open 2 i

Thanks guys, this give me more confidence to get this over with.

Another concern I have is the Virgo's critical nature. I know they have an idea of their so-called perfect mate that fits in their whole perfectionist mind set. One of the down sides of us becoming a perfect match is the fact we are both the same height. When we first started hanging out I wore heals without a second thought and when I really started liking him I started wearing flats.

Can a Virgo man deal with a women that's taller than him or does that mess up the whole perfect match objective?

That's the vibe I'm getting. I don't think looks matter to him which is another test I put him through. A girl that could be Megan Fox's twin hit on him when we were all hanging out and he didn't look at her twice. Probably because she wanted the entire rooms attention too and I know he doesn't go for that type of chick.

Well, I'll let you guys know Friday afternoon if it went north or south. At least I can handle dissappointment well lol.

Where .... in the DC metro area?

Decan, you are one cool guy. idk you always made me suspicious before. Thanks for your advice, for me and the others you give it to from a virgo's perspective.

TO: P-Angel...Yeap, we are located in the DC Metro area.

We had our lunch date today. We pushed it up to today to dodge other obligations that made it's way onto Friday's agenda.

Lunch lasted for 2.5 hours (my boss didn't like that lol). We had such a good time that time flew by and we didn't even eat our food. He started giving me complements which freezes me up because I don't take compliments well. By the way...he is in sales so I'm always considering the possibility he maybe using me for networking or inside information which I would never give anyway. We are pretty open about having to morph into what people demand of us in our professional life so at times I wonder if he is doing that with me too.
He told me how his Roommate talks about me all the time and he gently lets him know I'm not intersted. I said, "why in the world would he like me".

He says, "I can think of a thousand reasons why". I immediately got shy.

I was actually nervous for the first time today; reserved and giggly(not cool at all). I basically chickened out because I felt it was not the right time to tell him how I feel. I felt like if I did, it would simply ruin the fun we were having and just make things messy.

The longer I keep this to myself the more I'm not myself.

He invited me over to hang with him and his roomies but said in the next couple weeks and I said jokingly, " Yeah right, you mean next month".

I'm confused about the signals I get from him. At least I told him, "When I like someone I keep them as friends to assess them and it usually takes me a longtime to confess if I like someone".

We should change the title of this message board from, "Scopio women needs advice from Virgo guy" to "Punk a $ $ needs advice from Virgo guy" Lol...pathetic.

You two need to make a move, that is the next step. Do not waste too much time or over think it, just do it!!

I am pleased to see that when a guy is put in the dreaded Friend Zone this does not necessarily mean that all is lost for him! (I thought it did).

I'm taller than my vurgo fiance..most women are taller than him cause he's only 5'5(maybe alittle shorter) and he likes tall women,lol. I am 5'6. Not an issue for us. It was weird for me at first cause men were always taller than me but I dont bat an eye now.

We were friends for over 10 years before a relationship and i have to say..friends first is great!

I too am a scorpio woman inlove with a virgo man; however, I am befuddled by his actions towards me of late. Help if you can PLEASE. I initially met my virguy at a business function back in March of this year. After our introduction, I really didn't give him much thought. I thought that he was "sorta" attractive, but kind of arrogant and cold. Eitherway, we met up again at another business function a couple of months later (May), and again, there was no real connect for me. The company I represented for the function owed his client a payment. He called me after the weekend of the function to check on his client's payment. We ended up talking on the phone for almost two hours! In those two hours,he shared so much with me about his personal life, and I with him. It felt akward because at the end of the conversation, neither of us really wanted to hang up. He met up with me a couple of days later to receive payment, and OMG, he smelled so good, I wanted to pay him with me right then and there! But I waited (about a week). He came over to my house & he was all over me. There was so much attraction between us, that it was almost scarry, but comfortable at the same time. He texted early the next morning to say that he had a great time, and if I was ready to finish :-). The freaky scorpio in me was like "hell yeah!".
A couple of days later, he invited me to his house to hang for a while, because he had plans to be some where later that night. I went over there, and he ended up changing his plans to stay at home to watch a movie & you know what else. We spent a lot of time together, either at my home or at his. I asked him what is about me that he likes, and his answer was: 1) I'm easy on the eye. 2) I have a big ass. 3) I'm smart. 4) I have a caring heart. & 5) I put up with his bullshit. I took that for okay, he's really feeling me too. RIGHT?? WRONG!!To make this long story shorter; We went strong for about a month afterwards, and then I did the ultimate NO NO. I asked him "what are we doing?" He told me that he sees me as a "close friend" that happened fast. He also said that he feels enlightened when he's around me, but he don't like using labels. He said that a friendship was about all that he could handle & that he didn't want to lose me as a friend. Me being the scorpio I am (having to know the nitty gritty of all details of my life) got upset, and told him that I didn't want to be his friend.

... He called me the next day and said that he didn't care if I don't want to be his friend, that he was still going to be mine. He asked me not to change the things that he like about me. Either way, I ended up talking with him again as a "friend", but have been keeping my "goodies" to myself, and I think he's fine with that(??). So now we barely talk anymore, and when we do it's always bare minimum. Did I scare him off with the question, and then the discontent with the "friendship" status? Will he ever feel me again the way he did in the beginning? HELP PLEASE..

Scorpiolove2love,

Maybe create a separate post for your issue? You'll get more responses because more people will see it. Besides, it's a little bit rude to hijack the original poster's topic.


LadyScorpioAkALadyHomicide,

Everything seems to point in the direction of "he likes you." But, I really don't even think that you need to bring up the fact that you like him, he will do so himself if this relationship, rapport, and connection keeps up. When you bring up the "I have feelings for you" conversation, naturally, the other person feels pressured to make a decision. Also, it takes the pressure off of him if he is ill-prepared for the discussion and you don't run the risk of losing the opportunity because he's not ready. Liking you doesn't mean that he is ready for a relationship- two very different things. I say don't ruin a good thing, it will naturally happen if the chemistry is consistent and the timing is right.

'Can a Virgo man deal with a women that's taller than him or does that mess up the whole perfect match objective?'

I'm taller and neither of us cares.

Posted by S Love
You two need to make a move, that is the next step. Do not waste too much time or over think it, just do it!!

Agreed. You have to lead. You set the boundaries and progression. He might do the push-pull thing and so be it. You decide what you can handle and go from there, and tell him what u want. He will either accomodate or he won't. But u won't know until u make that move.

Capbaby,

Do you really think so? They have had an 8 month friendship, this is the reason why I say he is still in the deliberating phase. If he had wanted to or had been ready, he would have said something by now in my opinion. I only say this from experience. I oftentimes do not see good outcomes because the other party is just not ready for a relationship so talking about it will just peeve him out.


Sure, if she approaches the topic she will surely find out. But, I think it's a risk. I say sooner or late she will find out anyway; with later, time will solidify his feelings for her. Perhaps then he will be the one to bring it up and not her. It's already been 8 months, what's the rush in a few more months? At the very least, she's developed a great friendship and that's good enough in my opinion.