HighTide
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The Cancer Male Virgo Female dynamic
also this music video makes me think of how the the Cancer/Virgo dynamic can be for fun 🙂
This is a very interesting dynamic and I actually kinda love it like chess. But to begin with the problem I have observed in this relationship is that Cancer falls too fast for the Virgo and doesn't know how to maintain studious indifference on the outside. If you want any chance of winning a Virgo woman maintain a slight distance (not too much) and don't put your emotions on exhibition. This is kind of easier for me since I have moon in Aquarius (one of the coldest moons). Virgo women need the feeling that THEY analysed and made a choice, if you chase she won't give in. They have this habit of pricking you with a pin and retreating to observe what you do (and believe me they know the sweet spot to prick). My view with Virgo women has always been that if you want games, bring it and bring your friends too, I will take you on with no issues (Cardinal signs are not born to lose). So my point is even if you like her just put her under observation and maintain some distance, let her initiate plans etc. Make her call you, if you chase her she gone baby...
Secondly, Cancers tend to forget this when they fall for a Virgo. YOU are the fucking CARDINAL sign not her! It is your duty to rule and lead, Virgos are mutable and based on their placements will follow your leadership once you display the indomitable strength of your heart Cancer. Shine like the Sun in your natural pursuits independently and she will want to be part of it and come to you. Virgos need to feel needed and when they see your ability to shine like that on your own they will somehow want to fit themselves into your orbit. This is where I see Cancers (including me on occasions) lose balance and forget our Cardinal nature to try and change for the Virgo. Again if you try to change for her instead of maintaining your leadership, she gone...
Secondly, Cancers tend to forget this when they fall for a Virgo. YOU are the fucking CARDINAL sign not her! It is your duty to rule and lead, Virgos are mutable and based on their placements will follow your leadership once you display the indomitable strength of your heart Cancer. Shine like the Sun in your natural pursuits independently and she will want to be part of it and come to you. Virgos need to feel needed and when they see your ability to shine like that on your own they will somehow want to fit themselves into your orbit. This is where I see Cancers (including me on occasions) lose balance and forget our Cardinal nature to try and change for the Virgo. Again if you try to change for her instead of maintaining your leadership, she gone...
Lastly, Virgos are going to end a relationship with one fell stroke of the surgical knife. They will NOT lead you on since they think it's a waste of time and energy. You can avoid this though, the key being communication, Virgos like to talk and then rationalize things in their heads. A Cancer has the unparalleled ability to sense things going wrong, use it. When you can feel that things are off immediately talk to your Virgo and this will prevent the whole "breaking down on your knees" thing from happening. Virgos allow things to build for some time and then wham they hit you all in one go, so never let the build up happen, talk to her and melt her from the inside out before things get hot. They are very reasonable people and when you talk and sort things out nobody puts things behind them as fast as a Virgo can. Cancers tend to hold on to something and allow it to fester, you got to lose that habit for a healthy relationship with a virgo. As soon as something upsets you or you think she is upset, talk to her (give her a day's space, it usually works) briefly but solidly and trust me you will never have to break down on your knees again!
+1 all across the (message)board 🙂.
Keeo the cancerian insight coming guys! 😉
Keeo the cancerian insight coming guys! 😉
I must say, I have a lot of air and fire in my chart & am as you described. I express my interest in potential partners pretty openly most of the.time (especially w/ you Crabs, you guys just bring my soft side out somehow) & I do not mind PDA so long as its kept classy lol.
My current beau is all Cancer w/ the exception of his moon (Leo) & mars (Libra). I have a Leo moon & Libra Venus & our style s mesh well so far! I am one happy gal. I must say he is very affectionate, sensitive, and wants to b around me all the time 🙂. I feel like he's my perfect fit! Xo
My current beau is all Cancer w/ the exception of his moon (Leo) & mars (Libra). I have a Leo moon & Libra Venus & our style s mesh well so far! I am one happy gal. I must say he is very affectionate, sensitive, and wants to b around me all the time 🙂. I feel like he's my perfect fit! Xo
^^ I am Cancer with all air and fire placement (except sun and mercury in Cancer) plus the aquarian moon plays havoc with my personality ...lol. But I see what you mean on PDA, I am usually not very forward with PDA but if a girl initiates it I wont act like a prude/jerk. But lack of PDA doesn't mean I act like her brother either...lol, I think everyone usually knows the moment they see us together. It's kind of hard to explain.
It's strange but every time I meet a virgo woman I always see this cute, sensitive little girl inside her and I want to draw that girl out. I think that's what most Cancer men somehow see in a Virgo woman and hence the great sensitivity and care they shower on them. However I have also come across nasty virgo women who have tried to take advantage of this, in which case I won't forget and will pay back ruthlessly (not very Cancer there..😄).
It's strange but every time I meet a virgo woman I always see this cute, sensitive little girl inside her and I want to draw that girl out. I think that's what most Cancer men somehow see in a Virgo woman and hence the great sensitivity and care they shower on them. However I have also come across nasty virgo women who have tried to take advantage of this, in which case I won't forget and will pay back ruthlessly (not very Cancer there..😄).
I — you cancers!
Posted by incandescentcancer
^^ I am Cancer with all air and fire placement (except sun and mercury in Cancer) plus the aquarian moon plays havoc with my personality ...lol. But I see what you mean on PDA, I am usually not very forward with PDA but if a girl initiates it I wont act like a prude/jerk. But lack of PDA doesn't mean I act like her brother either...lol, I think everyone usually knows the moment they see us together. It's kind of hard to explain.
Totally rings a bell my Cancer thinks I'm the cutest 😄 hehe
Plus no matter where we go he always guides me by touching my lower back ever so lightly.. hehe.. we still haven't held hands (in public) but otherwise it's pretty evident that were together. I gave him a kiss on the cheek in public! Lol, totally not a big deal to those who r used to playing tonsil hockey in public but it was def s big step for myself since I'm neva eva eva that affectionate w/ anyone in the open! It kinda feels good!
Posted by Peanutbutter
Plus no matter where we go he always guides me by touching my lower back ever so lightly.. hehe.. we still haven't held hands (in public) but otherwise it's pretty evident that were together. I gave him a kiss on the cheek in public! Lol, totally not a big deal to those who r used to playing tonsil hockey in public but it was def s big step for myself since I'm neva eva eva that affectionate w/ anyone in the open! It kinda feels good!
Hahhahaha, I do the first part too, the light touch to the lower back. The idea is to let her know that I am there and not to worry about anything. I am usually comfortable with a kiss on the cheek, I don't even mind a genuine kiss in public (don't mean slobbering over eachother but a more dignified kiss). I am just not comfortable with grabbing eachother in public or touching inappropriately etc. I think it's a bit much and it's uncomfortable for the people around as well.
It's funny this thread pops up. I have two friends and both of them have virgo/cancer parents. First friend, a Leo, has a Virgo dad and Cancer mom. There are a lot of factors to consider in their marriage of course, but looking at it just astrologically, it's not the best match. My friend's mom is a super sensitive and emotional Cancer woman. (It might be so extreme because of other chart placements, but I haven't done her chart so I can't speak on those). It's clear that the Virgo dad really doesn't fully get her (could also be because of other chart placements). They can easily be at odds, and the Cancer takes it personally and immediately reacts. Virgo takes it personally but doesn't address it immediately. He might let it fester for awhile. Lots of cold, awkward silences over dinner.
On the other side, my Libra friend has a Virgo mom and Cancer dad. They met and married young. But they had her later in life (mid forties I want to say). Virgo woman honestly to me seems like she nearly hates the guy. Cancer dad is very impulsive, fun-loving, maybe even a little immature for his age (which is like 60). I personally think he's a fun guy but I don't have to spend all day, every day with him either. But yeah, the Virgo woman seems more ready to share and express herself when she's upset (as opposed to the Virgo dad above). She yells at him a lot, he laughs it off. But hey, they're still together so either it's not that bad, or they're stuck. I haven't figured it out yet.
These are older couples I'm referring to,but I guess speaking in generalities the astrology applies. It sounds like a good dynamic to me, on paper. But once I actually experienced being around these couples for extended lengths of time, I had second thoughts. I still want to believe it can work though >.>
On the other side, my Libra friend has a Virgo mom and Cancer dad. They met and married young. But they had her later in life (mid forties I want to say). Virgo woman honestly to me seems like she nearly hates the guy. Cancer dad is very impulsive, fun-loving, maybe even a little immature for his age (which is like 60). I personally think he's a fun guy but I don't have to spend all day, every day with him either. But yeah, the Virgo woman seems more ready to share and express herself when she's upset (as opposed to the Virgo dad above). She yells at him a lot, he laughs it off. But hey, they're still together so either it's not that bad, or they're stuck. I haven't figured it out yet.
These are older couples I'm referring to,but I guess speaking in generalities the astrology applies. It sounds like a good dynamic to me, on paper. But once I actually experienced being around these couples for extended lengths of time, I had second thoughts. I still want to believe it can work though >.>
Posted by incandescentcancer
Lastly, Virgos are going to end a relationship with one fell stroke of the surgical knife. They will NOT lead you on since they think it's a waste of time and energy. You can avoid this though, the key being communication, Virgos like to talk and then rationalize things in their heads. A Cancer has the unparalleled ability to sense things going wrong, use it. When you can feel that things are off immediately talk to your Virgo and this will prevent the whole "breaking down on your knees" thing from happening. Virgos allow things to build for some time and then wham they hit you all in one go, so never let the build up happen, talk to her and melt her from the inside out before things get hot. They are very reasonable people and when you talk and sort things out nobody puts things behind them as fast as a Virgo can. Cancers tend to hold on to something and allow it to fester, you got to lose that habit for a healthy relationship with a virgo. As soon as something upsets you or you think she is upset, talk to her (give her a day's space, it usually works) briefly but solidly and trust me you will never have to break down on your knees again!
Wow you know your Virgos!
Posted by virgodreamzPosted by incandescentcancer
Lastly, Virgos are going to end a relationship with one fell stroke of the surgical knife. They will NOT lead you on since they think it's a waste of time and energy. You can avoid this though, the key being communication, Virgos like to talk and then rationalize things in their heads. A Cancer has the unparalleled ability to sense things going wrong, use it. When you can feel that things are off immediately talk to your Virgo and this will prevent the whole "breaking down on your knees" thing from happening. Virgos allow things to build for some time and then wham they hit you all in one go, so never let the build up happen, talk to her and melt her from the inside out before things get hot. They are very reasonable people and when you talk and sort things out nobody puts things behind them as fast as a Virgo can. Cancers tend to hold on to something and allow it to fester, you got to lose that habit for a healthy relationship with a virgo. As soon as something upsets you or you think she is upset, talk to her (give her a day's space, it usually works) briefly but solidly and trust me you will never have to break down on your knees again!
Wow you know your Virgos!click to expand
Virgo mum 😛 besides I also learnt hrough hard knocks from other virgo women (very turbulent relations) 😉
Posted by Virggy
It's funny this thread pops up. I have two friends and both of them have virgo/cancer parents. First friend, a Leo, has a Virgo dad and Cancer mom. There are a lot of factors to consider in their marriage of course, but looking at it just astrologically, it's not the best match. My friend's mom is a super sensitive and emotional Cancer woman. (It might be so extreme because of other chart placements, but I haven't done her chart so I can't speak on those). It's clear that the Virgo dad really doesn't fully get her (could also be because of other chart placements). They can easily be at odds, and the Cancer takes it personally and immediately reacts. Virgo takes it personally but doesn't address it immediately. He might let it fester for awhile. Lots of cold, awkward silences over dinner.
On the other side, my Libra friend has a Virgo mom and Cancer dad. They met and married young. But they had her later in life (mid forties I want to say). Virgo woman honestly to me seems like she nearly hates the guy. Cancer dad is very impulsive, fun-loving, maybe even a little immature for his age (which is like 60). I personally think he's a fun guy but I don't have to spend all day, every day with him either. But yeah, the Virgo woman seems more ready to share and express herself when she's upset (as opposed to the Virgo dad above). She yells at him a lot, he laughs it off. But hey, they're still together so either it's not that bad, or they're stuck. I haven't figured it out yet.
These are older couples I'm referring to,but I guess speaking in generalities the astrology applies. It sounds like a good dynamic to me, on paper. But once I actually experienced being around these couples for extended lengths of time, I had second thoughts. I still want to believe it can work though >.>
Oh yeah, I am with you on this. There is no real guarantee that because the sun signs are Virgo and Cancer it will work out. Personalities, all the chart placements, background and level of maturity etc matters a lot. I recently wanted to date a virgo girl who had plent of scorpio placements and I have all fire and air signs, how do you think that went? Now we actually actively dislike eachother and are in a permanent state of cold war. So I am totally with you when you say that just the sun signs don't mean that virgos and cancers will instantly fall in love.
Oh gosh, no one does a cold war like a cancer or virgo. Put them together and you have like the coldest of cold wars ::shivers::
"Level of maturity."
^This exactly. One of my main problems is this. It sounds cliche for me to say I'm mature for my age, but darn it comparatively I am!
I still want to believe that the coupling can work. Although now I'm tempted to hound my friends about their parents so that I can find out placements.
"Level of maturity."
^This exactly. One of my main problems is this. It sounds cliche for me to say I'm mature for my age, but darn it comparatively I am!
I still want to believe that the coupling can work. Although now I'm tempted to hound my friends about their parents so that I can find out placements.
^^Hahaha you have no idea. It's intense war goading eachother, making snide remarks, taking potshots at things we do etc etc. The list just goes on and on about how bad it's gotten. The basic urge is to drive eachother to jealousy, anger and rage to see who breaks first. Every step is planned to cause maximum damage. I can no longer believe that I loved this person at one point in time. You are right no one can play out enimity and hate like Cancers and Virgos. And people say we are calm, rational signs...lol.
"Oh gosh, no one does a cold war like a cancer or virgo. Put them together and you have like the coldest of cold wars ::shivers::"
^^^ hahaha....so true!
^^^ hahaha....so true!
Waa. Nooo! I don't wanna see the ugly side... But I guess my Cancer n I r still in our honeymoon stage haha
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by Peanutbutter
Plus no matter where we go he always guides me by touching my lower back ever so lightly.. hehe.. we still haven't held hands (in public) but otherwise it's pretty evident that were together. I gave him a kiss on the cheek in public! Lol, totally not a big deal to those who r used to playing tonsil hockey in public but it was def s big step for myself since I'm neva eva eva that affectionate w/ anyone in the open! It kinda feels good!
Hahhahaha, I do the first part too, the light touch to the lower back. The idea is to let her know that I am there and not to worry about anything. I am usually comfortable with a kiss on the cheek, I don't even mind a genuine kiss in public (don't mean slobbering over eachother but a more dignified kiss). I am just not comfortable with grabbing eachother in public or touching inappropriately etc. I think it's a bit much and it's uncomfortable for the people around as well.click to expand
Yes, I love it... He does it a lot which let's me know he wants to feel close to me.. I love it... Sigh. He's such a sweetheart.
Excellent incite Virggy
I believe as a Cancer Male you just need to realize it take a while to fully figure out a Virgo woman and be prepared to have ur feelings hurt many times in the process of doing so. A Cancer uses emotions to rule their mind and the Virgo logic can only be dealt with in by submission on the Cancers part. The old Cancer married guy realized this and he is fine but not happy because he secretly knows the Virgo would miss the kind of love and affection he provide and the Virgo has a secret side to her like he does that only he can see. Its a dynamic that is fully understood behind closed doors I believe.
The Cancer Male/ Virgo Woman dynamic can work if the Cancer Male learns the Virgo Woman can give him the things he
yearns for but he has to be prepared to rationalize the way she acts on a non emotional level, which is freeing for the Cancer who needs a break from emotional thinking sometimes.
I believe as a Cancer Male you just need to realize it take a while to fully figure out a Virgo woman and be prepared to have ur feelings hurt many times in the process of doing so. A Cancer uses emotions to rule their mind and the Virgo logic can only be dealt with in by submission on the Cancers part. The old Cancer married guy realized this and he is fine but not happy because he secretly knows the Virgo would miss the kind of love and affection he provide and the Virgo has a secret side to her like he does that only he can see. Its a dynamic that is fully understood behind closed doors I believe.
The Cancer Male/ Virgo Woman dynamic can work if the Cancer Male learns the Virgo Woman can give him the things he
yearns for but he has to be prepared to rationalize the way she acts on a non emotional level, which is freeing for the Cancer who needs a break from emotional thinking sometimes.
I agree..... So far this relationship has been my best adult relationship ever.
Cm + Vf = awesome!
Cm + Vf = awesome!
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?
I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.
I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.
Posted by incandescentcancer
^^Hahaha you have no idea. It's intense war goading eachother, making snide remarks, taking potshots at things we do etc etc. The list just goes on and on about how bad it's gotten. The basic urge is to drive eachother to jealousy, anger and rage to see who breaks first. Every step is planned to cause maximum damage. I can no longer believe that I loved this person at one point in time. You are right no one can play out enimity and hate like Cancers and Virgos. And people say we are calm, rational signs...lol.
As a fellow Cancer, been there and done that lol
A Virgo Woman can get under the skin of us like no other, but they don't being that way but our agrresive nature towards
rejection and their ability to see through our BS makes it hard for us to have peace. Like someone said its a Cold War. Shots fired at random times. Its like a game, but the Virgo is better at it than us and we need to realize that.
The Cancer Man's knee jerk reaction is to judge the Virgo Man because we see through BS like they do, but they don't want to be called on it and if u really look at it do u ever see a Virgo judging your past like you do theirs. Every Virgo I have been with doesn't seem to give a damn what mistakes I have made and they dont rub it in my face, unless I have provoked them of course. I was the one who always started it. They see the BS and don't say anything, we see it and want the whole world to know like its our duty. Maybe we can just appreciate that we both have that gift and use it in a humorous tone.
In the end do you want the wrath or the love, the love is more satisfying than the wrath as your going to be the one angry/alone emotionally and they have moved on to other people while ur still not even over them. They can be cold brother but its us that brings it out, not because they felt like being that way one day.
I give this advice to remind myself and other Cancer Suns in the future 🙂
Posted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?
I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.
Your not going to be the one making the big mistakes it will be him, and the Virgo/Cancer have the best honeymoon period of any sign IMHO. After that the Cancer gets in attached mode, then put the private eye glasses on to see what your really about. If he finds anything inconcistent he will internalize it to a boiling point. He might even violate your privacy so be prepared we do petty crap like that. Its a protection mechanism for us.
I can't really give u advice on how not to hurt his feelings as thats not your responsibility, but if u want it to work be yourself and give him time to see who you are as a person and how you react on different things.
If you want that process to accelerate your going to have to lie about one thing, your ex's. You cannot give the inkling that you feel your ex's are more handsome or attractive than than we are to you. We have to feel your in awe of us right now. You can tell us how you feel later once we get to know each other, then it doesn't matter since we are less fragile since we know you better. Our ego is too fraglie on that respect, we have to be lied to for the time being.
You dont have to do this of course, but a Cancer Male is huge on that type of thing
In the end I think it works because the Cancer will like being able to basically feel the freedom to do what they want because the Virgo basically is all about that.
If they mess up and accidently sleep with someone else(Virgos aren't easy, but they are people pleasers and can be brought to the bedroom easier than most signs when they are feeling attention starved from time to do) but you just can't get mad or hurt as the Cancers normally do because if they mess up like that YOU CAN TOO NO BIG DEAL. You can't really do it as revenge but in other words, logically in their minds you can sleep with someone else as they may not especially like it but their Virgo sense of logic and justice along with the fact that they slept with someone else will kick in and they will accept it and they can't judge you for it since they don't like being judged. That my friends is the real kick of being with the Virgo. You both can mess up and their is reciprocity.
If they mess up and accidently sleep with someone else(Virgos aren't easy, but they are people pleasers and can be brought to the bedroom easier than most signs when they are feeling attention starved from time to do) but you just can't get mad or hurt as the Cancers normally do because if they mess up like that YOU CAN TOO NO BIG DEAL. You can't really do it as revenge but in other words, logically in their minds you can sleep with someone else as they may not especially like it but their Virgo sense of logic and justice along with the fact that they slept with someone else will kick in and they will accept it and they can't judge you for it since they don't like being judged. That my friends is the real kick of being with the Virgo. You both can mess up and their is reciprocity.
It's strange but every time I meet a virgo woman I always see this cute, sensitive little girl inside her and I want to draw that girl out. I think that's what most Cancer men somehow see in a Virgo woman and hence the great sensitivity and care they shower on them. However I have also come across nasty virgo women who have tried to take advantage of this, in which case I won't forget and will pay back ruthlessly (not very Cancer there..😄).
One Virgo I was with was pure Venus in beauty so she was always very feminine and pretty. I think it was a disadvantage to her as she had alot of attention from older men.
On a sadder note she told me as an adult that she had some things happen to her as a child and as a Cancer I went into my "let someone try to hurt you with my crab claws guarding you".
Every Virgo I have ever been with had something happen to them as a child, so I guess when I look back at pictures from their childhood I hold a certain emotional bond with them for some weird reason, like I see the pure innocence they had before it was corrupted and I wish I had been there as a boy to protect it from those type of people.
I swear I look at a Virgo woman's childhood pictures and I always see something about it no one else does. I feel like it would sound creepy to some, but i guess the little boy inside of me wishes he could have known that Virgo before the world hurt her 😢
Maybe Cancers have a knight in shining armor complex with Virgos but we forget to realize how tough they really are sometimes lol
I don't intend to wage war against anyone but if someone starts it, I will end it. I have all airy and fiery placements, can't help 😄. I agree that Cancers can be occasionally dramatic and can do unwanted provocative acts, I generally try not to do such things and I certainly did not start any of the fuckups with the previous virgo girl I knew.
As far as the love/wrath part is concerned, I don't understand your pathological fear of Virgo women. I have dealt with several of them over the years and I don't fear them like you do. I also have an aquarian moon, at the best of times I am inscrutable and if I decided not to freeze out emotions I can turn the switch off immediately and move on. I doubt you will win a virgo woman over with your submissive attitude, no disrespect meant just sayin'.
As far as the love/wrath part is concerned, I don't understand your pathological fear of Virgo women. I have dealt with several of them over the years and I don't fear them like you do. I also have an aquarian moon, at the best of times I am inscrutable and if I decided not to freeze out emotions I can turn the switch off immediately and move on. I doubt you will win a virgo woman over with your submissive attitude, no disrespect meant just sayin'.
Posted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?
I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.
It would be easier if you ladies let the Cancer man read off your face. We are very good at it, we don't really need you to verbalize just show it in your body language. That's quality free advice right there for you to deal with your CM 😛
@hightide on his last post ^^^ Awww that is seriously so sweet!
My cancer guy friend feels the same way. He doesn't understand (we grew up differently) the shit I've went through but wishes he could have protected me from it all...and anything that would happen to me now. He also tells me all the time that I didn't/don't deserve the shitty hand I've been dealt....even though I tell him all the time...its the past and its cool but he doesn't see it that way.
He sees threw my walls and sees how emotional I really am...I hate it lol. but secretly I love it...hes the only person that knows me and has taken the time to do so. We butt heads allllot but we never stay mad at each other for too long (there has been some cold war moments lol)...we just have this weird bond. I still don't know his intentions...even though we are close he stills keeps some things to himself...I guess he still doesn't trust me enough. It fascinates me the different ways we think and go about things...but then again we are so similar.
Ok im done rambling...sorry if this didn't make sense...I have a hard time articulating my words lol
My cancer guy friend feels the same way. He doesn't understand (we grew up differently) the shit I've went through but wishes he could have protected me from it all...and anything that would happen to me now. He also tells me all the time that I didn't/don't deserve the shitty hand I've been dealt....even though I tell him all the time...its the past and its cool but he doesn't see it that way.
He sees threw my walls and sees how emotional I really am...I hate it lol. but secretly I love it...hes the only person that knows me and has taken the time to do so. We butt heads allllot but we never stay mad at each other for too long (there has been some cold war moments lol)...we just have this weird bond. I still don't know his intentions...even though we are close he stills keeps some things to himself...I guess he still doesn't trust me enough. It fascinates me the different ways we think and go about things...but then again we are so similar.
Ok im done rambling...sorry if this didn't make sense...I have a hard time articulating my words lol
Posted by HighTidePosted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?
I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.
Your not going to be the one making the big mistakes it will be him, and the Virgo/Cancer have the best honeymoon period of any sign IMHO. After that the Cancer gets in attached mode, then put the private eye glasses on to see what your really about. If he finds anything inconcistent he will internalize it to a boiling point. He might even violate your privacy so be prepared we do petty crap like that. Its a protection mechanism for us.
I can't really give u advice on how not to hurt his feelings as thats not your responsibility, but if u want it to work be yourself and give him time to see who you are as a person and how you react on different things.
If you want that process to accelerate your going to have to lie about one thing, your ex's. You cannot give the inkling that you feel your ex's are more handsome or attractive than than we are to you. We have to feel your in awe of us right now. You can tell us how you feel later once we get to know each other, then it doesn't matter since we are less fragile since we know you better. Our ego is too fraglie on that respect, we have to be lied to for the time being.
You dont have to do this of course, but a Cancer Male is huge on that type of thingclick to expand
Dude, you are projecting your personal insecurities on to a whole sun sign, that's all I got to say. I am not sure this stuff which you just posted is worth reading for anyone who wants to understand the psyche of a Cancer man. I just think that you went ahead and utterly bollocked a relationship with some virgo woman and you are now on a self pitying binge. Snap out of it and get hold of yourself. Virgo women are great but they are not perfect either, I can list down all their flaws for you if it will make you feel any better.
Limm... I thought you n the cancer were in a relationship? Or is it one of those ones that are complicated?
Thanks for all the advice guys... It's seriously soothed most of my nerves about my relationship w/ my shoogie!
Thanks for all the advice guys... It's seriously soothed most of my nerves about my relationship w/ my shoogie!
@pb....nope I gave up on that and realized we are better off as friends.
Why is it so much negativity on Cancer/Virgo Relationships? I am currently dating my second virgo, and things are amazing!!!! We clicked instantyl The only reason why Virgo # 1 didn't work out was because she was still in love with her ex and they were together for about 3 years, so obviously she wasn't quite ready for another relationship. However, we are still good friends.
I think what makes Cancer and Virgo work is the fact that Cancers bring out the emotions that virgos try to keep locked inside. We make them FEEL. And in return, Virgos "toughen" up cancers with their critical and analytical natures, overall pushing Cancers to be more confident. Both benefit off of eachother.
My current Virgo is just like this. She sucks at expressing feelings, instead she tries to cover up her feelings by using her sarcastic nature. At first I thought she was just a cold b***h, but then I sat back and recalled all of the things she does for me to show that she cares. Virgos dont express with words, they express with action. Sexually, they are very passionate in bed like Cancers. Both like to make love 😄
Don't get me wrong, it's definetly not a walk through the park, but it's definetly not impossible like A Cancer and Aquarius (Talk about Hell)
I think what makes Cancer and Virgo work is the fact that Cancers bring out the emotions that virgos try to keep locked inside. We make them FEEL. And in return, Virgos "toughen" up cancers with their critical and analytical natures, overall pushing Cancers to be more confident. Both benefit off of eachother.
My current Virgo is just like this. She sucks at expressing feelings, instead she tries to cover up her feelings by using her sarcastic nature. At first I thought she was just a cold b***h, but then I sat back and recalled all of the things she does for me to show that she cares. Virgos dont express with words, they express with action. Sexually, they are very passionate in bed like Cancers. Both like to make love 😄
Don't get me wrong, it's definetly not a walk through the park, but it's definetly not impossible like A Cancer and Aquarius (Talk about Hell)
Posted by supaleader06
Why is it so much negativity on Cancer/Virgo Relationships? I am currently dating my second virgo, and things are amazing!!!! We clicked instantyl The only reason why Virgo # 1 didn't work out was because she was still in love with her ex and they were together for about 3 years, so obviously she wasn't quite ready for another relationship. However, we are still good friends.
I think what makes Cancer and Virgo work is the fact that Cancers bring out the emotions that virgos try to keep locked inside. We make them FEEL. And in return, Virgos "toughen" up cancers with their critical and analytical natures, overall pushing Cancers to be more confident. Both benefit off of eachother.
My current Virgo is just like this. She sucks at expressing feelings, instead she tries to cover up her feelings by using her sarcastic nature. At first I thought she was just a cold b***h, but then I sat back and recalled all of the things she does for me to show that she cares. Virgos dont express with words, they express with action. Sexually, they are very passionate in bed like Cancers. Both like to make love 😄
Don't get me wrong, it's definetly not a walk through the park, but it's definetly not impossible like A Cancer and Aquarius (Talk about Hell)
As a Cancer I have had the most meaningful fun with Virgos of any sign.When they give that cute Virgo laugh at ur jokes then you know they are actually funny and when they tell you that you are goodlooking you know its genuine.
I just think the breakup phase is horrible with a Virgo unless you are super tight with them as they turn stone cold. Cancers just have to learn that Virgos can't relate to us on a emotional level, but they do help us to be more realistic and less insecure about the petty stuff we carry around each day, as they are givers and they always make a bad day better at night 🙂
bumped for teasing limm 😄
ariette read my post 😄
I want to play matchmaker between limm and her cancer friend AND I WILL USE ANY MEANS AVAILABLE.
I want to play matchmaker between limm and her cancer friend AND I WILL USE ANY MEANS AVAILABLE.
Well played Damnata...well played indeed! Knowing I would read this 😛
is hightide still around? i think he's a cool guy. i want him for limm.
Posted by firebunny
is hightide still around? i think he's a cool guy. i want him for limm.
oh geez lol
no offense to hightide but I def would rather take my cancer friend...annoyances and all! lol
Posted by MissFisk
LIMM would chew him up and spit him back out.
lol +infinity! Poor guy wouldnt know what hit him!
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