Cancer man...dating...erm dealing with Virgo woman

So yeah the title says it all. We have been dating a month, having very intellectual topics, stimulating each others mind and planning dates together so they will be enjoyable for the both of us. I have a great time with this Virgo, we are able to talk about things beyond just the mush that really get me thinking and that is a quality that I really am enjoy. We are both very reserved, I'm afraid to give myself up at all and it's gonna take some time and she is too. The problem is I am coming from being hurt by a Scorpio. It is like going from, flirting all the time, joking around, cuddling and just being intense with each other....now over to a woman who seems devoid of all emotion, very matter of fact, afraid to even crack a smile cause it might make her seem less serious.

So far I think I have done things right, I haven't shown any real affection, I've let her know that her intelligence is impressive and I enjoy our conversations and the time we spend together. I've taken the reins and let her in on the dating plans and let her enjoy a bit of her anal retentive let's get this organized and set up but I have still made all the arrangements and overall get the ball rolling on the dates moves. But in the end I'm a Cancer through and through, as much as I am enjoying the time spent and respect how intelligent and even acknowledge that someone like her would be a good long-term bet something stable I need me some affection, even a wink or a damn nudge. So far all I have gotten are "awwwww"'s and you are such a sweet guy, got any tips...am I just going to have to wait it out are you every passionate and affectionate?

a) hiya 🙂 refreshing to read questions aimed at us Virgirls, I'm sure you'll get a PLETHORA of answers (and some questions asked of you 😉, as some of us are dating Cancer men ourselves)

b) I'm really sorry about your painful experience with the Scorpio

c) "So far I think I have done things right, I haven't shown any real affection" - that is not "right". No matter how serious we get, no matter how devoid of feeling and emotion you may think we are (and we may try to appear) we absolutely crave love, affection and attention. We might not allow you to see us turning into mush in front of your very eyes, but trust that inside, we're all giggling geisha girl over any loving gesture.

c) We like to be dominated, believe it or not. Sure, we like to be in control...of ourselves. Secretely, we CRAVE a man who can break that insane drive to always be in command of our emotions and actions, and turn us into putty--but respectfully. If you reach for her hand a lot, if you stroke her hair, smooth her cheek, gentle kiss on the tip of her nose, and even gentler kiss on her lips, I can almost gaurantee that she'll open up to you slowly, like a rosebud in spring.

Funny you should mention geisha she is actually Asian, traditional too might explain also why she is so reserved and quiet it's in their culture. As far as no affection that isn't entirely true what I mean is the typical Cancer affection which is lavishing them with compliments about how sexy they are how they are the best person in the world, ect ect. No I have let her know that I think her intelligence is very sexy and refreshing and that a lot of the qualities that she has are extremely hard to find and something that needs to be cherished. But she is reserved about even holding hands, I brought it up and she said "we will see about it" she as far as physical affection I haven't had a chance to show her any cause I guess she isn't comfy with it yet. Intellectual and even some emotional affection yeah I have shown that, I'm even trying to not keep her in the dark by letting her know how I'm feeling and giving her small chunks of who I am to analyze and digest. But she does seem a bit cold, she doesn't get excited or disparaged about anything it's all mono-toned talk, she just tends to worry about every little cold. She asked me to see a doctor because I coughed during a date. I know she cares, I know she is interested in me since she has explicitly said it, she has even slipped up and said I'm hot, but she never really shows it just kind of hints towards it.

As far as dominant goes, that is why I am letting her in on the planning of things. I told her that I like things to be 50/50 with each person being unique with their own great ideas and I want her ideas to be apart of things. I am pretty dominant probably since I am a typical insecure Cancer I want to be able to say "Hey I'm doing this so I don't have to worry about hurting myself". I guess the whole repeated action thing does fit her, she said she becomes more and more attracted to someone based on how often she sees them.

Oh and any question about a Cancerian man you might have, fire away I am about as cancer as they come. 🙂 I'm a damn wreck 😛

Ah--well, there seems like there can be a possible issue of tradition to contend with as well. She may come from a reserved background that discourages being too open. That's more than a Virgo issue.

Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

Guessing treetrunk = f-word 😛
I'm usually not indirect, I let people know how I am feeling but how I feel can change in an instance but for her I am letting her know what is going on and never making it so she has to guess. Cancer are always pretty good at awakening passions that people didn't even know they had but those passions either really excite us or they scare us away in a hurry. Problem is it doesn't seem like I am stirring up much of anything in her and I really want to, I love things to be intense every now and then I love the rush of knowing how badly someone wants me or how much they are into me, you think she will become more expressive with time?

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

VV's right. Cancer men are the only men that ignite something in me that isn't even... normal. It's like I'd drop everything I've known just to get with a cancer man. I've been dating one for a little (but it'll end soon because of timing and life issues) and he is absolutely amazing. While I can't say I'm in love with him, I love him as a person and I'm sure we'll be friends for a long time (like how most of my cancer relations go).

Anyway, CLC kind of gave you the run down. You're dealing with cultural differences and the run of the mill reservedness of a virgo here. A good way to get her to open up, at least for me, is to sort of make a secure connection with her. Give her some time, smile, and make her feel like she is the only one and that she can trust you. Also, look out for things she does for you rather than "to" you. Like, watch the things she says, if she's trying to take care of you in some way, and watch her body language. When you gauge these, you can get an insight as to how she's feeling and such. Some virgos are better about showing there affections that actions that aren't related to touch and words.

LOL! I just realize I listed c) twice
damn those chocolate chip cookies I was eating at the time!
and damn this site for no edit button!

*itches to go back and hide post*

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

Been there, done that.

Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

The reason we broke up--I pushed him to go out there and find the Asian woman of his dreams.

He still hasn't, lmfao.

Nobody ever seems to be in love with us just love the great caring person we are, I really want someone to love me. Last person that really loved me was a 6 year relationship with a Cap woman but I got bored and bailed on it like a typical cancer would. I guess the things she does are apparent, she wants to chat every night and loves our conversations but I'm the one who ends up calling or texting her, never the other way around but I'm too nervous to refrain from it to see if she will eventually go for calling me. That would be a bad idea right? I guess that the fact that she is still aroudn is a good sign, you don't seem like the kind of stick around for a maybe kind of sign, and she does notice my interests and likes to make sure I am keeping good care of myself and that things are great in my life. She is pretty sweet to me but it's small things that show it.

Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

I actually have never been into asian women at all, this is the first one I have ever dated or even gone after

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Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

I actually have never been into asian women at all, this is the first one I have ever dated or even gone after

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Not implying that all are--I just giggled when I read that part.

Well I'm not out to find my "dream girl" I gave up on that existing or true 100% love awhile ago. I just want a woman who will appreciate the sweet things I do for them that I can care for and have them care about me.

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Nobody ever seems to be in love with us just love the great caring person we are, I really want someone to love me. Last person that really loved me was a 6 year relationship with a Cap woman but I got bored and bailed on it like a typical cancer would. I guess the things she does are apparent, she wants to chat every night and loves our conversations but I'm the one who ends up calling or texting her, never the other way around but I'm too nervous to refrain from it to see if she will eventually go for calling me. That would be a bad idea right? I guess that the fact that she is still aroudn is a good sign, you don't seem like the kind of stick around for a maybe kind of sign, and she does notice my interests and likes to make sure I am keeping good care of myself and that things are great in my life. She is pretty sweet to me but it's small things that show it.

Before his Asian fetish confession, me and my Cancer had the BEST conversations.

I hate to be smothered, I really truly do--but it never felt like smothering with him when he'd call (and he'd call like 100 times a day). We ALWAYS found stuff to talk about, and sometimes we just laid there, with our eyes closed just enjoying having the other at the end of the phone...weird, but cute, lol. It was sort of long distance (he was a few hours drive away from me), but we had such great communication that we were probably closer than most couples that live in the same house.

The sex was out of this world as well--he was so freaky deaky, could go back-to-back, and was just tons of fun in terms of foreplay and otherwise. Was really great.

I pushed him away when he started dating Asian women who treated him badly, and he came running back to me to stroke his ego so he could get back out there and try with the next Asian woman...who'd hurt him just like the last, and on and on it went. When *I'd* get out there and start dating again, he tried to sabotage my relationships, until I exploded at him one day and he cried and said he wanted me to wait around until he found his "Asian Queen", so that if he never found her, he could just marry *me*. I won't repeat what I called him here, but let's just say he cried some more. LOL.

Posted by aujra
Well I'm not out to find my "dream girl" I gave up on that existing or true 100% love awhile ago. I just want a woman who will appreciate the sweet things I do for them that I can care for and have them care about me.

You'll find what you're looking for--just be patient, and if you think she's what you're looking for, then don't give up 🙂

Ya she doesn't feel smothered by the daily calling and texting. As far as sex goes, I don't know if she will live up to the scorpio legend the sex we had was out of this world the kind of stuff most people only dream about having, but I've heard the legend of the kinky virgo once they open up to someone. We are lucky I'm around Rye, NY and she is right in Flushing so with traffic its only about a 50 minute drive if its bad 35 on a good whitestone bridge day (there is never a good day for that). As far as that guy goes, that really sucks the problem with Cancers is that even when we don't know what we want we still want anything we can get so we will jump back and forth just so we can feel something and have something to protect, even when it hurts. I am still talking to my Scorpio ex a lot hearing about her going out and partying at the bar and just ending up depressed and wanting to break down crying but I stupidly keep calling her to see "how things are doing". I am very ready to move on and find someone to break me away from the pain my Scorp ex left me with and find something to be passionate about, but that is a Cancer trait, "hey putting that fork in the socket really hurt, let see what happens if I jam a knife in there". We live for our own misery sometimes. Hopefully my random ranting is helping people get some insight to the insanity that is Cancer.

Aww! LOL!!! Wow, that was beautifully truthful! Much respect for you sharing that--damn, teach the others of the water signs to be that straightforward with what they're thinking please—!

Yes, when we feel comfortable enough with you--and feel beautiful in your eyes, truly beautiful, we become porn stars. At least this Virgo does. The word "no" doesn't exist in the bedroom when I'm into you, whatever it takes to please you--and that will in turn please me. We don't let on, but we are some horny lil biznitches, if men knew what was on our minds...well...it's better that they don't know...

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Guessing treetrunk = f-word 😛
I'm usually not indirect, I let people know how I am feeling but how I feel can change in an instance but for her I am letting her know what is going on and never making it so she has to guess. Cancer are always pretty good at awakening passions that people didn't even know they had but those passions either really excite us or they scare us away in a hurry. Problem is it doesn't seem like I am stirring up much of anything in her and I really want to, I love things to be intense every now and then I love the rush of knowing how badly someone wants me or how much they are into me, you think she will become more expressive with time?

Go to "settings", then "edit profile", and hit "turn off filter". This way you can see my cuss words in all their glory.

Hah that sounds a lot like me, do whatever it takes to please the people I care about doesn't matter if it's getting me completely going, they are happy and turned on...I'm happy and turned on. The only problem that comes with making a Virgo "feel beautiful" is that I've heard they usually don't go for physical remarks. The whole "you look amazing" or "doing so-and-so makes you look so sexy" ect, so how does someone let a Virgo know they are beautiful if actually telling them they are sexy to you isn't their thing?

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

Been there, done that.

Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

The reason we broke up--I pushed him to go out there and find the Asian woman of his dreams.

He still hasn't, lmfao.

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Hahahahahaha....serves his tail right.

99% of cancer men are notorious for having the downs, I try to be the more sane, respectful kind.

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Hah that sounds a lot like me, do whatever it takes to please the people I care about doesn't matter if it's getting me completely going, they are happy and turned on...I'm happy and turned on. The only problem that comes with making a Virgo "feel beautiful" is that I've heard they usually don't go for physical remarks. The whole "you look amazing" or "doing so-and-so makes you look so sexy" ect, so how does someone let a Virgo know they are beautiful if actually telling them they are sexy to you isn't their thing?

It's not that we don't "go" for it, it's just hard for us to believe someone sees us that way because we are so hard on ourselves. Convincing us that you think we're attractive isn't just about words, but gestures--and most guys feed us words in an attempt to get the panties because that's what they're used to with looser girls, which is why we don't let on that we're bonafide Jenna Jamison's and such...we just seek to protect ourselves to the point of over protection, and we end up alone a lot because of that. The key is to find the right time, place, and situation with which to tell/show her you think she's beautiful--we may not want to let you know we're believing you (both because we just hate letting ourselves be so readable, and because we're afraid the sweet words and touches will stop) but we will believe.

Bottomline is that we're not like other females--looser females, we're considered "prudish" because most of us (unless we're one of those negative extreme Virgins, they don't apply in what I'm saying) are NOT promiscuous, are very devoted, very shy and reserved, not Mrs. Partygirl, or Clubgoer...the things that work on other females will most likely not work on us, and if by some weird chance they do--they won't for long.

On the astrological Titanic, Virgos are the passengers who strap on their lifejacksts before the boat even leaves the dock. We sense the iceberg, we make mental notes of where the nearest lifeboats are, and we're focused on surviving so much that we don't have fun on that boat ride...we're just making escape plans...

Just be consistant with your affection and attention, learn to read her, and don't get upset if it takes a while. Anything (or anyone) that truly moves you is worth waiting for.

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Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

Been there, done that.

Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

The reason we broke up--I pushed him to go out there and find the Asian woman of his dreams.

He still hasn't, lmfao.

Hahahahahaha....serves his tail right.

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I don't wish him ill, but yeah--I wanted to get away from him. When I finally cut all ties, I breathed a sigh of relief and nearly cried with joy because I felt like the dark clouds that hovered over me the whole time after his revelation had finally parted and I was bathed in sunshine--it was wonderful 🙂 I haven't looked back since.

Haha true enough everything in life that is worthwhile is hard to get to, I told her she was a tough nut to crack just like me but that I was sure what was inside is wonderful just hard to get to.

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Haha true enough everything in life that is worthwhile is hard to get to, I told her she was a tough nut to crack just like me but that I was sure what was inside is wonderful just hard to get to.

Good! Just keep doing what you're doing 🙂 you're on the right track

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Well I'm not out to find my "dream girl" I gave up on that existing or true 100% love awhile ago. I just want a woman who will appreciate the sweet things I do for them that I can care for and have them care about me.

Seems like you Cancer men are always looking for this 'perfect' woman. Perfect as in something that doesn't exist. Funny enough however, the Virgo women are the same way but sadly enough, perfection is an illusion...

Virgo woman/Cancer man both quite a few things in common:

Very high standards as far as romantic partners are concerned.
Extremely traditional (courtship phase of relationships)
Cautious in emotional expression
Volcanic/turbulent emotions (underneath the placid facade)
Serious about love...and business
No-nonsense types
Critical
Nagging
Fussy
Dogmatic
Shy
Reserved
Nurturing
Loyal
Genuine

The damn list can pretty much go on and on and on and on. Not to mention, their differences tend to be highly complimentary as well (i.e. Cancer man meets his match in respect to wanting to be protected because Virgo woman loves to protect and can protect well). I personally think that Cancer man/Virgo woman are made for one another but finding the right VW to match with the right CM is key.

Heh well thanks for all of the advice hope I'm not being a bother 😛. How do you Virgos feel about being analyze, I have a habit of being like "Oh I'm in tune with what people are thinking, I know what going on in their head". I'm gonna take a guess and say don't do that.
I already told her that I can usually read people to a T, but she was almost impossible to read and that seemed to put a smirk on her face.

Yes, when we feel comfortable enough with you--and feel beautiful in your eyes, truly beautiful, we become porn stars. At least this Virgo does. The word "no" doesn't exist in the bedroom when I'm into you, whatever it takes to please you--and that will in turn please me. We don't let on, but we are some horny lil biznitches, if men knew what was on our minds...well...it's better that they don't know...

😉



P-R-E-A-C-H.

"I don't know if she will live up to the scorpio legend the sex we had was out of this world the kind of stuff most people only dream about having, but I've heard the legend of the kinky virgo once they open up to someone."

What an 'unenlightened' little boy you are. LOL.

I personally think that Cancer man/Virgo woman are made for one another but finding the right VW to match with the right CM is key.

Can see why you would think that. I thought that Scorpio was the perfect match for me but I'm seeing that with a Scorpio its like a quick intense firework show but not something to really rely on being there for a good amount of time. You get in quickly you fall quickly then you have it fall in on itself. It's the greatest feeling for a short time but then it slows down and falls apart. With a Virgo I'm getting the feeling it's hell at first trying to get in and you want the affection and the attention immediately but you aren't going to get it. But once you finally do it's there to stay as long as you are around to receive it. It's a matter of opposites between feeling great immediately then disappointed and feeling worried and disappointed for a bit then amazing for a long time.

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Haha true enough everything in life that is worthwhile is hard to get to, I told her she was a tough nut to crack just like me but that I was sure what was inside is wonderful just hard to get to.

Funny, this Cancer guy said the same about me. That I was 'tough'. I've even heard plenty of other Virgo women say that their Cancer men had said the same about them in the beginning (as in trying to get them to open up...like in your case).

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"I don't know if she will live up to the scorpio legend the sex we had was out of this world the kind of stuff most people only dream about having, but I've heard the legend of the kinky virgo once they open up to someone."

What an 'unenlightened' little boy you are. LOL.

Haha, I dunno my ex and I have had sex for 7 hours straight and it was like you said "pornstar sex" amazing foreplay really intense and crazy, we would both be left shaking for hours after, guess I'll have to wait and see.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

Been there, done that.

Ironically? He was into Asian women too.

The reason we broke up--I pushed him to go out there and find the Asian woman of his dreams.

He still hasn't, lmfao.

Hahahahahaha....serves his tail right.

I don't wish him ill, but yeah--I wanted to get away from him. When I finally cut all ties, I breathed a sigh of relief and nearly cried with joy because I felt like the dark clouds that hovered over me the whole time after his revelation had finally parted and I was bathed in sunshine--it was wonderful 🙂 I haven't looked back since.

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Well good riddens to bad rubbish. Hell is he gonna ask you to stick around while he finds his Asian princess. Fucker.

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Heh well thanks for all of the advice hope I'm not being a bother 😛. How do you Virgos feel about being analyze, I have a habit of being like "Oh I'm in tune with what people are thinking, I know what going on in their head". I'm gonna take a guess and say don't do that.
I already told her that I can usually read people to a T, but she was almost impossible to read and that seemed to put a smirk on her face.

You're not a bother at all--we're quite enjoying ourselves, to be truthful, lmfao!

I like it when others try to analyze me, but ONLY if I'm into them. If I hate you, and you're trying to get into my mind, I'm going to think about dead bunnies, and maggot infested body parts and hope you really ARE psychic and can pick up on it, and be terrified and never try to get into my mind again.

We like to have our secrets. Like I said, we take a look around at Girls Gone Wild chicks, and vow to be anything BUT, so we really strive to be individual and reserved, and dignified and i-n c-o-n-t-o-l of ourselves, lmfao. Them there's the keywords "in control of ourselves". We fight to be.

Hehe ok, well as I have told her I would never want her to compromise herself as an individual since she is such an awesome one. Guess I'll just take guesses and not be presumptuous about it, use phrases like "Well it kinda seem like _____" or "I'm getting the feeling that _____", never saying that I KNOW something just that I am getting a feeling and taking a fun guess. She did just open up a bit now let me know she has her worries but I told her that I trust her enough that I'm willing to deal with the worries and figure them out one at a time together.

You learn well, young grasshopper (-_-)

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Guessing treetrunk = f-word 😛
I'm usually not indirect, I let people know how I am feeling but how I feel can change in an instance but for her I am letting her know what is going on and never making it so she has to guess. Cancer are always pretty good at awakening passions that people didn't even know they had but those passions either really excite us or they scare us away in a hurry. Problem is it doesn't seem like I am stirring up much of anything in her and I really want to, I love things to be intense every now and then I love the rush of knowing how badly someone wants me or how much they are into me, you think she will become more expressive with time?

Oh absolutely she will become more expressive in time. A Virgo girl is like a delicate flower that has to be tended to and nurtured very carefully before she can really 'bloom'. 'Trust' is the key word with us. We don't like game players and people who don't know what they want. Good for you that you are a direct type of Cancer (didn't know your type existed!) and that you have been pretty straight forward with her thus far. Sounds like you are on the right track and we are rooting for you.

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"I don't know if she will live up to the scorpio legend the sex we had was out of this world the kind of stuff most people only dream about having, but I've heard the legend of the kinky virgo once they open up to someone."

What an 'unenlightened' little boy you are. LOL.

Haha, I dunno my ex and I have had sex for 7 hours straight and it was like you said "pornstar sex" amazing foreplay really intense and crazy, we would both be left shaking for hours after, guess I'll have to wait and see.

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7 hours? WTH? Well, I guess if you pair up two of the freakiest most emotional signs in the zodiac then you can get that kind of sexual longevity. ;O)

Posted by aujra
Nobody ever seems to be in love with us just love the great caring person we are, I really want someone to love me. Last person that really loved me was a 6 year relationship with a Cap woman but I got bored and bailed on it like a typical cancer would. I guess the things she does are apparent, she wants to chat every night and loves our conversations but I'm the one who ends up calling or texting her, never the other way around but I'm too nervous to refrain from it to see if she will eventually go for calling me. That would be a bad idea right? I guess that the fact that she is still aroudn is a good sign, you don't seem like the kind of stick around for a maybe kind of sign, and she does notice my interests and likes to make sure I am keeping good care of myself and that things are great in my life. She is pretty sweet to me but it's small things that show it.

Lol, now cut that out. Just because I said I loved him as a person doesn't mean I wouldn't have fallen in love with him. I'm sure I would have if I knew we were going to pursue something more. I love cancer men; always have and always will. The cancer I've been dating says that he gets bored too. I always wondered why that was. I wasn't offended by it, because I can get bored too, but I wanted to understand what it was that caused the boredom.

You're not a bother, A. To be truthful, it's been so damn boring around these sticks. Bring on all the questions you want. Will give us something to do with our overactive minds. We like answering questions and giving advice. It's what we do.

Oh hells yeah, me and Cancer used to just stock up on water bottles near the bed, and from sunrise to sunset and beyond even, we barely left the bed. If I tried to, he'd threaten to follow me to the bathroom, as if I was going to escape him to go please myself in there. The sex was marathon type, and even though we were sore, and drained, all we needed to do was look at each other, and just ONE TOUCH, and we were molesting each other again.

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Nobody ever seems to be in love with us just love the great caring person we are, I really want someone to love me. Last person that really loved me was a 6 year relationship with a Cap woman but I got bored and bailed on it like a typical cancer would. I guess the things she does are apparent, she wants to chat every night and loves our conversations but I'm the one who ends up calling or texting her, never the other way around but I'm too nervous to refrain from it to see if she will eventually go for calling me. That would be a bad idea right? I guess that the fact that she is still aroudn is a good sign, you don't seem like the kind of stick around for a maybe kind of sign, and she does notice my interests and likes to make sure I am keeping good care of myself and that things are great in my life. She is pretty sweet to me but it's small things that show it.

Lol, now cut that out. Just because I said I loved him as a person doesn't mean I wouldn't have fallen in love with him. I'm sure I would have if I knew we were going to pursue something more. I love cancer men; always have and always will. The cancer I've been dating says that he gets bored too. I always wondered why that was. I wasn't offended by it, because I can get bored too, but I wanted to understand what it was that caused the boredom.

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Agreed. Cancer men are some of the most desirable in the zodiac and they are loved tremendously. Women can't seem to get enough of them and can't ever seem to figure them out.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Damn you Cancer men, aujra. Fuck do you guys do to us? Everything is usually ALL-FUCKING-RIGHT in our lives until one of you guys appear. Stirring and awakening all of our latent emotions/passions/fantasies and shit and then being all indirect. Fuckers.

VV's right. Cancer men are the only men that ignite something in me that isn't even... normal. It's like I'd drop everything I've known just to get with a cancer man. I've been dating one for a little (but it'll end soon because of timing and life issues) and he is absolutely amazing. While I can't say I'm in love with him, I love him as a person and I'm sure we'll be friends for a long time (like how most of my cancer relations go).

Anyway, CLC kind of gave you the run down. You're dealing with cultural differences and the run of the mill reservedness of a virgo here. A good way to get her to open up, at least for me, is to sort of make a secure connection with her. Give her some time, smile, and make her feel like she is the only one and that she can trust you. Also, look out for things she does for you rather than "to" you. Like, watch the things she says, if she's trying to take care of you in some way, and watch her body language. When you gauge these, you can get an insight as to how she's feeling and such. Some virgos are better about showing there affections that actions that aren't related to touch and words.

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Candeh,

'normal' is the perfect word.

I think Pisces men do the same. Those are my kryptonite AND my deepest darkest desire, Pisces and Cancer men.

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I think Pisces men do the same. Those are my kryptonite AND my deepest darkest desire, Pisces and Cancer men.

Never met a Pisces man that I was attracted to romantically. Initially, always find them sweet as sugar and that helps endear them to me. They don't seem to be as confusing as Cancer men. At least the ones I've come across.

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I think Pisces men do the same. Those are my kryptonite AND my deepest darkest desire, Pisces and Cancer men.

Never met a Pisces man that I was attracted to romantically. Initially, always find them sweet as sugar and that helps endear them to me. They don't seem to be as confusing as Cancer men. At least the ones I've come across.

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Really?? I'm the opposite, I always get Cancer men--I understand them very well it seems. Pisces are just too all-over-the-place for me to really figure out.

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I think Pisces men do the same. Those are my kryptonite AND my deepest darkest desire, Pisces and Cancer men.

Never met a Pisces man that I was attracted to romantically. Initially, always find them sweet as sugar and that helps endear them to me. They don't seem to be as confusing as Cancer men. At least the ones I've come across.

Really?? I'm the opposite, I always get Cancer men--I understand them very well it seems. Pisces are just too all-over-the-place for me to really figure out.

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You know what C, I think if a Cancer man is really confusing to a woman it's because he's not that into her...yes? I ask because I keep hearing that if a Cancer man is 'into' you then you would know. No bullshitting around like with our friend A here. Perhaps they don't confuse you because you have more experience with them. Then again, I can't judge all Piscean/Cancer men on the few that I've known over my lifetime.

That's a pretty good point, dang. Well, it makes sense, I'll tell you that much--I guess it would make sense with any sign, so long as they're into you.

Boredom: that isn't the perfect term, a fear of change is more like it. When we get in with someone for along time we kinda freak out that maybe there is a new commitment and we might have to give up more of ourselves and we hate having to let people in, we don't share our shell too well. What made me leave was we were pretty happy but things felt routine and I felt too much of a reliance on her to make myself feel right and on her side too. So I did what I do best I turned tail and ran and closed myself up, didn't talk to friends ignored my family. Basically we get too comfy with someone and then we freak out and get out.

For if we are into you or not that is tricky. When we are into you then you will know, we will be stupidly romantic, show all those grand gestures to let you know that you are appreciated and that we are lucky to even have you in our lives. What is tricky is when we are figuring it out. We want to be loved and to love someone so badly that even when we aren't quite there we will try to act like it cause we want it so badly. We will made this big to-do about how amazing and sweet and wonderful you are and say how crazy we are about you, we will be in dream land. Then reality will set in about what we did, we will panic and say "Oh man we just let this girl in way too much way to soon, I want this later but not yet" and then we recede. It's the whole push/pull thing laid out for you, we got nuts freak out and back off and we will go back and forth until we decide if the feeling of those big lovey gestures feel right or wrong and if we want them to actually be a part of our lives.

There you go, you just got some insight to the pull/push Cancer deal that drives people crazy figuring it out. 🙂

That's a water sign description though, not just for Cancer. You all tend to do that.