cancer guy stealing my virgo thunder :)

Now virgos are known to be the most critical sign ever created lol. Which yes we can be...but my cancer guy friend is taking that from me lol. He criticizes everything about me...like today he asked me if I rolled around in a fruit garden lol. I was like wtf are you talking about...then tells me that my body wash is too fruity smelling...again wtf lol. But its not as bad as the body wash from before ( that smelled just as fruity lol) but told me that I need to wear the perfume I used to wear a long time ago ( which we all know perfume last way longer than body wash) He criticizes the way I drive...how I baby my dog...talk...walk ..and just being me lol.

Why is he being so critical? Now dont get me wrong...I can take it...I know he joking and such...at least I hope he is lol

Is this a common thing with cancers? I just find it fascinating cause I thought it was just a virgo thing lol

Please dont turn this thread into a cancer bashing session!

I love cancers....sweetest most caring people I know! 🙂

Well my mother was a Cancer and I think more critical than me, but I think that that is where I got it from! She was something of a control freak but blamed it on my father as she said how untidy he was! Actually that is true as I have discovered since my mother died in 2009 and my father now lives on his own and my sister and I have to go there and help him deal with the chaos! I think actually that she felt that she had to be the control freak in order to keep him organised but I think that she resented this role that she felt forced to play.

Posted by virgodog58
I think actually that she felt that she had to be the control freak in order to keep him organised but I think that she resented this role that she felt forced to play.

i think this is a pretty true statement...

For myself I don't like dependent people. I will nurture, care, love and do for someone because I WANT to, but it will turn to resentment and I will loose respect for you if you are unable or unwilling to take care/do for yourself.

@OP - I can be critical, but in a passive aggressive way. I will plant my criticism in your head in the form of guilt, inadequacy or incompetence. I feel there is a lesson in everything and you may miss an opportunity for insight and growth if someone doesn't point out another way of looking at things.
Not one of my better points and I try to remember there is a time and a place. I can tear people down, then build them up again with praise and compliments.

I find Cancer men much more critical than the females, in general... especially with their women. They have very specific ideals and are not afraid to communicate them if their partner is not living up to "their code."

All the Cancer good stuff makes up for it though! Let's keep things positive!!!! 🙂

@ shellshocker- maybe it is more of a cancer man thing to be more critical...my cancer girl friend isn't like this..well at least not to me...maybe more to her husband

@claro- normally I would take it as a compliment...I mean its better then smelling like pooh lol. But it was the tone in which he said it

@ moonman- I can see that with him with the trying to control something....he knows he can't actually control me which may bother him...idk lol
It makes me wanna somehow make myself smell even more fruity just to get under his skin ( not in a bad way...more playful way) it was pretty funny...I laughed about it but his tone is what kinda confused me....I really think he's playing ( he likes to get me going lol) and not serious but again tone makes all the difference...I just dont remember him being like this even after a while of us being friends.
And yes I've said something to him about it...all he does is smile lol

I still love him to death( even with all his quirks)...hes a good guy and would do anything for me and vice versa...a true friendship

It sounds to me that he's really comfortable with u, which is a very good thing. And all those "lol's" your typing are a only letting us know how much u really enjoy this playfully honest,yet very caring, bashing your getting. We're good at that. Virgos dont laugh that much right? Especially when their being criticized. :-)

@josh- Us Virgos laugh a lot...well at least I do. I can take jokes and criticism very well...specially when I can sense that its not too serious (which is hard to do with him sometimes). Yeah we both like to get each others goats a lot...its fun and some of the things he comes up with..smh lol.

Virgos seem to be incapable of injecting emotion into most responses, we feel its so generic how u answer most things in the same tone, even stuff that is actually important to us.

My Cancer bf is both critical and sarcastic. In scenarios similar to what you described, I know he's joking and is basically giving me a back-handed compliment.