The Virgo Temper

Hey everyone!! I've been reading the boards for awhile now, but this is my first post...The virgos sure are a funny lot..and I'm crazy about them...actually one in particular!(hee hee). Anyhow, still learning about you guys...wanted to know if the Virgo temper is one to be worried about...meaning is it the screaming match type or the passive kind? Short tempered? What in a woman really tips you off balance....temper-wise and anyother way?(yee-ha!)

Sure could use the info to stay clear of any boxing matches!! We haven't had an arguement till now(going around for a month) and I'd like it to stay that way!😉

Yeee-haaa!!!!

Miriam,

You don't have too much to worry about the virgo temper.
Having experienced a virgo for over three years, their temper is so slow to rise.
When everyone else is into screaming matches and fights, the virgo seems to enjoy and thrive on these "fights" or "debates" and sees them as such - they see full-scale arguments as "little debates" and will analyse and disect while everyone else is losing the head and drama-queening around them.........even in the midst of the maddest of confrontations, when I was screaming and even throwing stuff around (me aquarian!!), Mr. Virgo will calmly and serenly say - now don't go crazy, they will still put their arm around you in the middle of an argument and call you honey or whatever your petname is while they will talk and talk and talk calmly repeating quietely over and over and over again about how they see things............and how they are right!! They won't even raise their voices - it's all very dignified and maddening to anyone who has a short fuse. You will come away completely drained from an argument with a virgo - you've lost the head, your temper, your dignity, your composure, your everything......they've sat there like the Lord of the Manor appearing to lose nothing!!!not even an ounce of composure........their forte in the temper stakes I suppose is their sarcasm!!

They may go quiet and refuse to speak for a while after a major bust-up but they are slow to anger, easily forgive but have memories like elephants and will remind you of "the argument that YOU started!!" 10 years ago.......!!!!

However, if they are completely out of their trees drunk, they will and can use physical violence.


If you can handle all that, go for him:-)


A x

I agree with Alana, here. If the Virgo is intoxicated, then they tend to flip alittle easier. But, for the most part, if the Virgo is straight - then everything is controlled, even their tempers. In fact, it can be infuriating. Your strutting around, steam blowing out of your ears, and there's Mr. Virgo, sitting there a cool as a cucumber. You just want to throttle them because your head's ready to explode and they sit smirking at you, patronizing you. You're better off to get them drunk first and then lay on them whatever is going to cause a fight because then at least, you will get some passion out of them, even if it's a negative one.

P-Angel - you are so right...............even just now, 10 minutes ago I had an argument on the phone (again!) with Mr. Virgo!!!! I was all - "well if that's the way you want it - fine" and I hang up (again as I always do!!! - flat-line them, they hate that and will get back to you very quickly!!!!....blah blah.....2 minutes later, he's on the phone laughing at me for being "crazy" - asking that I ring him back when I've calmed down!!!! And guess what....I told him I will ring him when it suits me!!!....he said, well take 10 minutes and I guarantee you will be fine....it's now 10 minutes and I am fine!!! Dam that man...he knows me too well!!!

Oh those friggin virgos.....

A x

Yes...very controlled...but they will get you in a very calm way....you'll have to think about it first.....

Wow...nice to know that my virgo man will drive me nuts by not fighting!lol! Hmmm...can't get him riled up at all? Not even in the bedroom?! hee! hee!

Now, now Miriam:-) - no bedroom talk on these boards:-)!!!!! I jest....the more the merrier!! - tell us all!!

A x

Hey Alana!!! Me?! Bedroom talk?! Tisk! Tisk!:-) Thanks for the insight into the virgo sarcasim. Yet to experience that!! And about your virgo guy knowing exactly how you'll react is a mixed bag of emotions from pull-ur-hair out bugging to 'that's why I'm crazy about him' mush, na? Well, that's what makes them so darn charming!!:-)

Before he came into my life, my cancer husband was seeing a virgo female. They had a perfect chemistry. Have seen them together in coffee shops. They rocked. It was her frequent temper outbursts which distanced them. She was always on his case for not doing things exactly like she wanted him to do or for not dressing up the way she wanted him to. I would say that she was tactless in presenting her dislikes with regard to him.My husband couldn't take her constant nit-picking about his ways (he has good taste btw). Though with others she was very sweet and well composed in her criticism the way you guys have described the respective virgos in your life.

There are definity two sides to the Virgo 19Eleven. My Virgo will treat other people completely different than he treats me. He can be cold and withdrawn sometimes with me, but heck, we can all be. He'll tell me things that he wants me to do, or tell me if I've done something wrong. But, never with anyone else. To the public eye, he's the sweetest thing in the world. We can all do that, though. We only let our guards down at home, or with the people we feel comfortable with. But, I've met some like you're talking about. Just pick, pick, pick - drives ya crazy!

Yee Ha!...

Wooo ha.. hoo ha..??, yee haa, hee hee..?? or perhaps yee hee and haa hee..??

Jesus.. you riding a horse or something..??

Honestly? what does it mean..??

Anyway?. Some Virgos "if" they get angry.. may give you "YEEE" and some may act like "HAAA", but there is no way you get both from a Single Virgo?! so if you are on this stuff, you better find yourself some one else from another star sign..!

On the more serious note? "real side of Virgo"?. If you push it hard, you most likely lose your man, lifetime friend/lover?..because most Virgo creatures are mentally balanced creatures, and if we can find any reason for "irrational behaviour" we will leave and never look back, well that is how I am?. For the rest? I am not so sure..!


Good luck? YEE HAA?.

Virgo Tempers . . . take a look at the whole in one of my bedroom doors and the Virgo temper will become apparant to all.

One thing that I find in their tempers that can good on one side, but not so good on the other - depends on who it's being directed towards, I guess.

They are very patient and you have to push a lot to set them off. They will just stew and stew, grumble, pout - but, not necessarily anger. However, once they see red - you're done with. They will blow the roof off the house with rage. Other people, like myself, are much different. I will let every emotion out right away.

The problem for them with this is this: They walk in heart attack territory with this trait. One day, they will just explode. Bad, bad thing to hold it in. Need to let out a little steam once in a while, so you won't boil over, eh?

As a virgo, I think we can be harsh at times but the only time i yell is when my sis does somethin wrong. Its hard for me to "yell" at my friends but i can get "upset". Otherwise, i dont really get mad. i usually keep my feelings inside cuz i dont want 2 fight or hurt his/her feelings.

That was my point Virgo5268 - if you hold it inside, you will be in trouble later in life because the stress is hard on your heart. Here, talk with me a while on here, i'll have you steaming, then you can go let it out on your sister, lol

Qbone, you're asking me what 'yee-ha' is? Well, it's just for fun! By the way...What kind of name is Qbone anyhow—

you tell us what Miriam is.... then I'll let you know what Qbone is...
🙂

Miriam is a very common name...well duuuuuuuh!!!!!!!!!

Qbone...is not...........duh....

Tell us what is unique in your name thou?!! You are asking about my "screen name" ? not my intentions. I love 91 —.you figure it out—.
hehe

My Virgo ex-boyfriend almost has no temper when he was with me. Well, actually there was this once when he raised his voice a bit louder to me because I became a little too obstinate, but at that moment itself, I quickly snapped at him for raising his voice at me. He never raised his voice to me at all from that time onwards! He was really patient with me all the time even when I was driving him crazy... I really do think he was sweet. But at work, he lost his temper really quickly and did not hesitate to restrain himself. I could safely say that most of the staff under him were quite terrified of him. What could that mean?

missBovine

That means he'd drew a fine line between his "lover" and his "responsibilities", you are his lover and must be tolerated up to some point, the work is his "personal obsessions" and he feel responsible for everything run as it should be. Lousy colleague and irresponsible co-workers makes him angry, nothing strange or Virgoish about it?!

The funny is? you all are calling Virgos are picky, but you all are so picky about Virgos? that not even a picky Virgo see another Virgo so picky?.

Jesus?..

You Wanna Know Something? My Virgo best friend is like that. His tolerance would be super-high for those he actually cared for, but at work. . . he would just lose it on his co-workers if they done stupid things, that it. He has low tolerance for nonsense. His temper is very controlled sometimes, but he's moody. Me, being a Pisces, whose sensitive to moods and him knowing that. He'd often re-assure me that it had nothing to do with me. He's very respectful of me and very, very sensitive with his constructive criticism of me. He gives me the good with the bad. I learned not to take it personally at all because once, he hurt my feelings and I just couldn't be in the same room with him at all. Surprisingly, he was more hurt than me. I mean, he lost sleep and was down. He would look at me to make eye contact, but I never looked up or text message me from across the room. I was going to forgive him shortly, but during my time of seclusion I learned that Virgos are just trying to help by being honest and frank with you. Thats all. He couldn't stand how I distanced myself like that, so he smoothed down the edges of his criticism a whole lot. Now they are easier to stomach.

Wow. Many new information I can see in your post 2ndDecanFish.

Hmm. That starts to make alot of sense. It also made Branh0913's situation clear. That why he couldn't leave his P-Girl from his mind. Because they hurt more than they seem to. LOL.

Here is question to you then. How to pass their harsh additude defences? Just not take it serious? Do they respond to that?

I mean, it seems like their harsh additude is like their final decision. It cannot be changed. But your post suggests that this may not be actually true. You suggest that their additude is just that, additude. It is not the reflection of their true nature.


On the other hand. They also play with people. I dont know if you encountered that quality in them. I would like to know more information about that part too if you have any.

Haffo,
How's it going? It would be my pleasure to share with you my experiences in knowing a Virgo. My best friend is a Virgo and the first thing that I've noticed is that they are truly mis-understood. The reason why I get on so great with my best friend is that I've learned to really trust and understand him. Once I've learned to do that, his criticism that came off as "harsh" would roll off of my shoulders, because I've learned to hear "what he is trying to tell me" instead of listening "how he says it." Now, even though I learned to do that, it doesn't give him an excuse to continue with his "seemingly harsh" criticism. He smoothed down the edges of his criticisms a whole lot. When a Virgo sees that you don't take their criticisms "harshly", they'd appreciate you for understanding them. Trust me, when my best friend counted the number of people that's considered really close to him, the count was on one hand. (I was one of the few.)Virgos are super-sensitive. The last thing they'd want to do to anyone is to hurt anyone. Like I said in my last post, by Virgo best friend hurt my feelings once. I couldn't be n the ame room with him, yet surprisingly he was hurt for hurting me. He made so many attempts to make up for it. I mean, he made numerous attempts to actually make me happy because he felt horrible for hurting me.During my period of seclusion, I would recieve numerous text messages of how "I'm very dear to his heart" or "How I'm special to him or mean alot to him." He'd send me text messages of how he's a piece of shit or how he's Scum. I was more surprised than flattered, because I didn't expect him to be hurt. . . I was the one who recieved the hurt, but it was mutual. There was alot of compromise with us. Once you've learned to do that, then things with your Virgo would be almost too good to be true.

Thanks for reply. It was very informative. Also, I have sent you PM (personal message). Please read it.