Unexpected events

Here's the deal.. I met a virgo and he's fun.
We flirted and talked for about 3 weeks before we actually met up, as he made all the dinner plans etc. It was a fun date and I could tell he was interested, then again so was I. After the date we just hugged goodbye (he liked me too much to rush things/heard that one before too).

Some chatter later he got the opportunity to meet up again with me coming Saturday and he wants to.. UNTIL! Apparently his sister just underwent major surgery and he's feeling very under the weather about it all. His mother passed away a few years ago and this whole thing brought up a lot of that, so he just told me he cannot do more than friends right now, even though he likes me and still wants to meet up Saturday.

I told him I understand completely and he should focus on his family first. Yet part of me is clueless about what 'time' means to a virgo. Any person would want some time to organize their life and family affairs, this is no light matter.. but if I start being supportive.. where does that lead me to? I don't want to be cruel and vanish, nor do I want to play a pseudo boyfriend support system.

The cruel truth is that I wanted this to go somewhere, so I don't want to get stuck in friendzone town because of my actions. Yet it's embarrassing to think "yeah I'm sticking around cause I want to see this go somewhere with you". He knows this too no doubt. I'm confused here. I want to, but I don't want to end up just friends. *sigh*


When in doubt, as the virgo's?

No chance.

Don't try to change a Virgo's mind when he's in the mindset of being single. You could wait forever and nothing will come of it. Only be friends if you're really capable of it. But from the looks of it I'm certain you will catch feelings. I would say keep the distance, be there for support but don't invest much into it.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
No chance.

Don't try to change a Virgo's mind when he's in the mindset of being single. You could wait forever and nothing will come of it. Only be friends if you're really capable of it. But from the looks of it I'm certain you will catch feelings. I would say keep the distance, be there for support but don't invest much into it.

Aight, that's what I was expecting to hear. Thanks

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What didn't you understand? 🙂

Posted by Ormas

Some chatter later he got the opportunity to meet up again with me coming Saturday and he wants to.. UNTIL! Apparently his sister just underwent major surgery and he's feeling very under the weather about it all. His mother passed away a few years ago and this whole thing brought up a lot of that, so he just told me he cannot do more than friends right now, even though he likes me and still wants to meet up Saturday.

I told him I understand completely and he should focus on his family first. Yet part of me is clueless about what 'time' means to a virgo. Any person would want some time to organize their life and family affairs, this is no light matter.. but if I start being supportive.. where does that lead me to? I don't want to be cruel and vanish, nor do I want to play a pseudo boyfriend support system.

The cruel truth is that I wanted this to go somewhere, so I don't want to get stuck in friendzone town because of my actions. Yet it's embarrassing to think "yeah I'm sticking around cause I want to see this go somewhere with you". He knows this too no doubt. I'm confused here. I want to, but I don't want to end up just friends. *sigh*
When in doubt, as the virgo's?

You had one date and are assuming way too much. You lied and told him you understand completely yet just above you insinuate with the "UNTIL". You also think after one date you can be an item and don't want to be "friendzoned"?? ..and you are confused? C'mon, give the guy a chance. The first thing you have to remember is these guys move at a snails pace. He most likely sensed your eagerness to move this along in the first date. (that's how it comes across here for sure) Unless you have a good deal of patience, don't bother with this one. It seems you have already figured him out. Trust me, you have not!! If you are in a rush, pick someone like minded. These guys are like giant boulders, you can't budge them until they are comfortable enough to be budged! Good luck..

I'm thinking ahead, nowhere did I say I want to jump into something with him after 1 date. I never lied to him, I do understand that his head isn't into dating right now, but how does that make me a liar if I admit that I thought of the possibility. Like you never think a day ahead in your life?

I had the same thing once before and because I was a good friend, that's how they saw me afterwards. Was thinking out loud that I don't want a repeat of that, no need to bust my balls for that.
Love how you're making me sound there LetltB, assuming things about me so I'll do the same 🙂

I got time if it is going somewhere, that was all I wanted to know.

Posted by HungVirgo
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Apparently it whooshed over my head too 😢

Why are all Pisces men queer?

One date, and you are talking about going somewhere, and then when how illogical that is is pointed out to you, you deny that by stating you just want to look ahead to see if it's going somewhere.

Queer AND stupid ....



::: shakes head :::



You're probably fuckable, though