Vent On Virgo!!! rooaaaarrrrrr

Okay, so we have been going out for some time. He is getting on my damn nerves! He keeps talking about marriage and asking if I belong to him. Also, he is a control freak, but it frustrates him because he knows he cannot control me. When i compliment him he has to repeat what i said to him, ( i guess so he and I can hear it again, wtf?) I find that to be such a turn off!!! He tells me that I am stingy with my compliments, who says that? I mean, if I have a compliment to offer, I will say it! stop begging! He offers his advice, even when it is unsolicited! We just started dating again about a month ago, after a break...so i have not slept with him and dont plan to anytime soon. He likes to think that we are so damn sexually compatible and believes that I want him as much as he wants me...newsflash...no. Why am I seeing him, because, outside of his annoying ways, he is really sweet, treats me like a lady and he needs someone like me to burst his bubble. LOL

Interesting.

I have never met a virgo remotely like this and I have met a lot of Virgos in my life (and my mum is a virgo too). It sounds fucking unreal.

@ VirgoR, Very well said. You might be on to something. Question is, how to deal with those insecurities without hurting his feelings. I am usually very straight forward and it can come off as abrasive. I am working on that because i do not want to have that affect. Thank you for your response.

I dated a Leo, it sucked. No offense.
All i know is exactly like VirgoR Said, he was sweet and charming and we talked about life and it was so perfect. Well he turned into a Lion, turned mean and cold and was dating me and who knows who else. I can tell you at first I was a little emotional and questioned him about his feeling but that was because he was lying to me, but once I snapped into reality and finally realized it was bullshit I cut it off and haven't talked to him since.
He is probably wondering what the heck is going on how come you arent the sweet person you originally were, Virgos like to hear more than see. We want to hear you tell us you love us, and if its in questioned might repeat it to ourselves or to you to see if its genuine. My venus is in Leo, we can be pretty dang cruel if people get to needy. If you like him and want him to back off be who you were int he beginning and try and ignore the repeatative insecurities so he can trust you. If you want to say eff it, then do that and cut contact.

I agree with the Leo thing as a 'might be' part of the issue if he has it in his chart somewhere. And you are one? which makes a Leo/virgo a tricky thing.

My fiance acts similiar to yours... he isn't for the weak.

YOU stand your ground. YOU tell him what YOUR needs are. If you don't, he will treat you like a doormat and tear you apart beause YOU allow it. You don't have to be abrasive about it. Your feelings on how he treats you are yours to own and you just tell him as nicely as you can. When i did, he called me sensitive and said i had low self-esteem because I refused to take his nasty comments. BULL! And you know what? He now does the opposite of what he used to 🙂

I asked him once..Has anyone ever done things for YOU? His answer was no. He was always doing for everyone else. Always givin to everyone else. Well with me its different and it took him some time to get used to it.

You 2 will have to alter your patterns, compromise, etc to make it work. If you can't, then it won't work..you'll both be unhappy.

He doesn't sound like your typical "Virgo". Probably has a lot of Pisces placements, but then again, every Virgo is a little different.

I've dated a Leo chick for about 5years, and I have to say probably best relationship I've had. We were definitely marriage material, but as life is, we ended up splitting. Weird thing is she constantly reminds me of the biggest mistake she made, and wish she never did. Anyway... I think Virgo/Leo is a great pair, there definitely needs to be a lot of give and take, but over all it can be real good match. The most important thing I've found to be very helpfull is COMMUNICATION. Be honest, speak your mind, and don't hold things in. Express yourself.

Also other placements need to match. I have an Aries rising, with lots of air placements, so I do come off as very determined, charming, and intelligent 😉 which I guess Leo's find attractive.

Try communicating, and see what can work. If things don't work out, then it wasn't ment to be. Don't waste each other time.

1) Clearly he's insecure, which is why he's asking you to compliment him. Either that, or he thinks you're ungrateful and wants to verify that you have compliments in you, and can care for someone other than yourself.

Harry99', what about another Taurus?

Sounds familiar.

I have begged for compliments exactly like that. It happens when I truly like someone and/or they only point out my negatives. Keep a balance with the compliments/criticisms. Reassurance, appreciation is needed.

And yeah, a good argument is something we need, the hot and steamy stuff generally follows.