virgo and cancer

Do virgos have a hard time letting truly go of a good, loving cancer?

Hell yeah!

I've had the pleasure of having a wondeful cancer in my life for the past four years. We've proved (twice) that we can't do the boyfriend/ girlfriend thing, but to let go of him would be unthinkable.

My sister/ best friend is also a cancer. She recently moved overseas and I cant stop missing her.

Cancer/ Virgo is a great combination, as far as I have experienced.

I did originally think that. It's a long story, but my virgo friend and I don't speak. We dated for a while -(not good that way), but the separation was painful with alot of hurt. I think it's me who can't rise about it. Alot of damage. I wonder about him....

bet you anything he wonders about you too.

I hope so. I felt like we were spiritually bonded. I do think about him, and every occasion I do run into him from time to time (with others).
He has that "look" in his eyes when he sees me. I hope one day we can resume a friendship..I don't know..I guess only time will tell. Thanks for the comment.

I think that Virgos and Cancers are a really nce pair they balance one another out. Even more so if the Virgo is not terribly critical of the Cancer b/c after all cancers are very sensitive. Virgos are too but not as much and they can both be moody so they understand each other very well. My mother is a Cancer and both my father and I are virgos. They've been married for 31 years. They act like newlyweds all the time its actually quite sickening sometimes. i also dated a Cancer guy and boy was he a sweetheart. We had a wonderful relationship, but I moved away and It ended we are still friends though.

Oh you're so right about that Nixx- I fully have to keep my critical side in check with my cancer friends.

The other side of that though is that, in my experience, the Virgo is often left wearing the pants in the relationship (sorry, i hate that expression too) and doesnt always get the support they need from their Cancer... but this is probably more due to Virgos inability to ask for help than Cancers inability to give it... hmmm... maybe I should work on that before I start throwing around accusations...

My virgo friend and I broke up over a year ago, and I have to tell you, the bond is still there. This was the most difficult of seperations I think for us both. It was his choice, but honestly, I think he does regret it. He emails me - and he wants to get together and such still. I have to have a boundary - he is with someone else now, and I know problems are around them. When we first broke up - we didn't speak or see each other for 8 months - and when we did finally - it was like 2 hours. We just completely picked up where we left off. I wish I knew why - or where this will wind up. I've dated others, but yet to find the connection like with the virgo. He can't seem to let go - I'm a touch cancer, although my heart does break. I'm trying to be a friend - (with boudaries..it's tough however). Any advice or read on this?

Do virgos have a hard time letting truly go of a good, loving cancer?

Ohhh yes. Especially since I lost her to (gasp) another Virgo. (Who knew?)

Hi Gang. My first post, after a bit of lurking about. I've found many of you fascinating, and look forward to any replies. But on to the question at the moment..

I dated a Cancer woman for about 3 years, while both of us were in college. She's been the strongest influence on my dating ever since. Alot occurred. Dealing with nostaligic pangs over her ex boy friend, our own differences, etc, and very possibly the time of life we were in.

We broke up on three separate occasions. Each time I knew it was over. Each time she approached me, roughly 2 months later. Each time I went back. (Are you kidding?)

Call it just the timing, but strife at home and completion of school without a "great" job in our area.. I decided to join the service. And here's the thing. I explained it all to her, but I Didn't EXPLAIN it all. We adopted a "wait and see attitude". If you knew of our relation, it'd been rocky.. bittersweet, more like it. When it was good, It was Very Good. And when bad.. very bad. Lots of water under the bridges there. I didn't know it then, but leaving at that time was the worst thing I could have done.

I received a dear john phone call, in Navy boot camp. Turns out an old high school ex boyfriend, now divorced with children, came down to see his family and such..etc, etc. After years to think this over, I can grudgingly accept that she must have been very lonesome, and hurt. They became engaged shortly there after. It was crushing. That ended that. Within a year I married someone esle in the service.. only to see it crumble after 6 years. Came back home after 12 years in service.. and drifted here and there, resettling back in my home town.

Since then, she looked me up (via the internet) and we've resumed our friendship. We're able to laugh about it all now, but the bonds are very much intact.

This is hard to explain, and there's too much you guys won't know.. but I still have feelings, and so does she. Despite a 15 year marriage, children and all of it. We've had some of the finest conversations I've ever been a party to, over the last 4 years. I know her better now, then way back then, if you can believe that. The trouble is, the knowledge came at a price. Despite mutual feelings, these are things which will never be acted upon. The curse of most Virgo's and Cancers is a nature of loyalty, responsibility.. or just call it.. unwillingness to admit defeat within relationships. (And I refer to her's. I am not currently within a relationship.)

I can only speak for myself here, but this woman was the only bona fide "threat" to my bachlorhood, that I've ever met. I remember good and bad times, but always, always.. when I think about it, I'm overwhelmed at the idea that "you know.. I bet we've both learned something while apart; I bet those things (insert your own) wouldn't get between us if we ever got another shot."

I do go out on the occasional date. I see attractive people I'd like to know better, etc. I can tell you who's going to be just a friend, and who could be "something esle". But I rarely get a true spark from any one around me. And it's becoming increasingly rare. I can count the people I let slip away on one hand. (If you knew my age.. you'd know I've got plenty of space left on the other one.. at this point in my life. I'm not waiting for this one either.. but neither am I retreating as I once did. We remain in contact, and politely steer each other away from "danger topics". There is no point in waiting, but I recognize the irony if I did find someone, only to discover later in life that she'd finally left the one she's with. (Take it on faith, their marriage has ups and downs.)

Wow. Long winded there. Not sure I answered the gist of that question either! But I've b

I absolutely can cry and cry over this one. I can totally relate to everything you said...everything. Mr Virgo? I do run into him on occasion and he gives me that "look" that I feel shoot thru my heart - I feel it - I know it's real.

I have learned alot with and without him - I'm much stronger now. I hope we can become really good, good friends someday - I once told him in a conversation after the breakup -"Sometimes people must seperate for growth's sake"........I think he thinks we will resume someday again - I don't know - probably not. Like I said, he is with someone now. It's all so strange!

please continue to write Espernaut - I love your responses!

Oh, Mr. Virgo Espernaut? What does that "look" mean?