Posted by Deedee86
How old is this man? Does he have his own apartment and bills to pay? Is he employed full time? Is he overindulgent in other ways or frugal? You mentioned that he is in debt....credit cards? Medical? Student loans?
This is a hard one without more information. A car battery really isn't that much money. Having to shell out $ 100 unexpectedly can be annoying but it shouldn't be enough to send someone into such a tailspin. This isn't about money. You are getting an up close and real view of how this man handles stress.
I asked about his age and situation just to determine how stressful this actually was. If this made him short on rent his annoyance was more justified than if he just had to shell out his fun money.
Sometimes it is an ego thing. Men feel like they need to be the provider and being broke can make them feel like they aren't living up to their job (society's views not
Posted by VirgoGent
Anytime I’m stressed out I will isolate myself in order to analyze the situation and formulate a plan of action to solve the problem. I think it’s a great idea for you to give him space and let him workout this issue in his own way. Sometimes we all need a little space and time to be alone so we can digest and come to terms with our present situation. However I wouldn’t recommend going completely silent with him. I would reach out a couple of times today to gauge his mood and to see if he would like some company later this evening. Cuddle time on the couch can often act as a great stress reliever and calm my nerves.
Why do you think he blames you a little for his financial situation? What has he done to make you feel that way?
You said he is already in debt. Is he reckless with his finances?
Posted by yupvirgo
He's thinking about his finances not only for himself... but in the terms of how he can maintain his relationship with you if he can't even support himself. Of course, he would also want to be able to pay for certain things for you or support you more. And also, he may not be as communicative now because he's thinking about how he can manage his finances and perhaps.. sadly... if he should keep his relationship with you.
This is just my guess of course, coz that's what I'd be thinking if I were him.