Virgo and Taurus caution!

I've been watching you all for a while now - mwah aha ha ah ah ah ha, and I love popping in to see your banter and the total confusion you virgo's create. Possibly because you're mostly the strong silent types. Intriguingly mysterious, giving nothing away but stoney stares.

Anyway, I digress...I've been crushing on a Virgo for a year now. It's developed between us to a close friendship where there's sexual tension between us but with moments of real openness that I doubt he has with his other close friends.

I care about him a lot, we have a great time together. I also of course want to get dirty with him, but I am holding back on making the first move. I think a past relationship with a Piscean, who was totally apathetic about EVERYTHING, has really made me sure that the next chap who wants a piece of this hot tail, needs to come to me! But he's not doing it! Aside from overt sexually suggestive comments (which I choose to ignore), there's no suggestion that he would enter into anything deeper with me at this stage. He is currently having a casual thing with someone who lives far away, and as he has his homely side, it's very rare he meets her.

Will he ever come to me and say 'Let's explore something intimate together', or will I really have to get this ball rolling via a casual set up that MAY develop? And can Virgo's (Taurus moon) actually enjoy a casual relationship without it developing into something more serious?

Hoorah for Earth signs, down with flakey flakes!

Posted by MayDORISDay
I've been watching you all for a while now - mwah aha ha ah ah ah ha, and I love popping in to see your banter and the total confusion you virgo's create. Possibly because you're mostly the strong silent types. Intriguingly mysterious, giving nothing away but stoney stares.

Confusing people is what the virgos do best. Staring is what I do best...

I think a past relationship with a Piscean, who was totally apathetic about EVERYTHING,

Hey! I can relate to this...apathetic, taking things for granted, making choices for others without consent (taking things for granted), extremely dillusional...sounds like first gal, and several women i had dated hahaha (going off topic)

has really made me sure that the next chap who wants a piece of this hot tail, needs to come to me! But he's not doing it! Aside from overt sexually suggestive comments (which I choose to ignore), there's no suggestion that he would enter into anything deeper with me at this stage. He is currently having a casual thing with someone who lives far away, and as he has his homely side, it's very rare he meets her.

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^ thats the problem. He's in a relationship that you probably find worthless, but you have to remember that virgos take commitment seriously.

I would say wait, but you should move on unless the relationship finally breaks then you can have your man.

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Anyway, I digress...I've been crushing on a Virgo for a year now.

Problem 1
That's way too long.

I also of course want to get dirty with him, but I am holding back on making the first move.

Problem 2
You want it, yet you hold back.

has really made me sure that the next chap who wants a piece of this hot tail, needs to come to me!

Problem 3
Virgos rarely get aggressive in the manner you seek, without proper encouragement.

But he's not doing it!

Problem 3
You expect him to be like other men, which he is obviously not.

Aside from overt sexually suggestive comments (which I choose to ignore)

Problem 4
Ignoring him when he makes an effort will frustrate, annoy and push him away.

He is currently having a casual thing with someone who lives far away, and as he has his homely side, it's very rare he meets her.

Problem 5
Unfinalised relations are murky waters.

Will he ever come to me and say 'Let's explore something intimate together'

No, see Problem 4.

And can Virgo's (Taurus moon) actually enjoy a casual relationship without it developing into something more serious?

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Problem 6
Depending on his upbringing "Casual relationships" might not be his thing.

Hello the legend of Cajun! Thanks all for your input so far. I would say that my choice in remaining silent (and slightly perturbed) by his sexually suggestive comments (e.g. he informed me that he would be going down on me at some point in the future in front of two dinner guests who I'd only just met!!!) is because he is in a relationship, and therefore I find it totally inappropriate. Admittedly I will have to take him by the hand at some point, but only when he clarifies his relationship status to me, which remains rather foggy. How many tests do I have to go through?

He's introduced me to all his close friends, we go to gigs together, flirt in social set ups (regardless of his social awkwardeness) when he's not away working we spend time together almost every day, and then there's his occassional inappropriateness.

I am confused that though he is including me on more emotional deeper issues, could he still be treating me like an ego boost after all this time of genuine friendship? Or am I still in the testing stages?

His friendship means a lot to me, but with the elephant in the room, I need to discover if individuals can string someone along just for the hell of it, when there was a clear attraction all those months ago when we first laid eyes on each other. Surely anyone in their right mind wouldn't continue playing with someones emotions who they cared about?

Posted by MayDORISDay
Hello the legend of Cajun!

Howdy 🙂

Thanks all for your input so far. I would say that my choice in remaining silent (and slightly perturbed) by his sexually suggestive comments (e.g. he informed me that he would be going down on me at some point in the future in front of two dinner guests who I'd only just met!!!) is because he is in a relationship, and therefore I find it totally inappropriate.

LOL
Is he a first decan?

Admittedly I will have to take him by the hand at some point, but only when he clarifies his relationship status to me, which remains rather foggy. How many tests do I have to go through?

You just need to be more upfront and open about your thoughts and feelings with him, I would think.

He's introduced me to all his close friends, we go to gigs together, flirt in social set ups (regardless of his social awkwardeness) when he's not away working we spend time together almost every day, and then there's his occassional inappropriateness.

I'm often socially retarded myself 😄

I am confused that though he is including me on more emotional deeper issues, could he still be treating me like an ego boost after all this time of genuine friendship? Or am I still in the testing stages?

Well after a year, you could just be an ego boost.
Waiting a year with lots of tension would be most discouraging to me.

His friendship means a lot to me, but with the elephant in the room, I need to discover if individuals can string someone along just for the hell of it, when there was a clear attraction all those months ago when we first laid eyes on each other. Surely anyone in their right mind wouldn't continue playing with someones emotions who they cared about?

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He probably just has not been motivated enough.
As Dy said, we're extremely cautious.

Personally I can't handle rejection, so if you have rebuffed a lot of his statements, he would definitely think twice before being more aggressive.

Hi Doris,
I don't think he feels like he's stringing you along.
He didn't hide his relationship and if your behavior has been consistent for
the last year he must think you are okay with the way things are.

Cajun said that you should be more upfront with him but I'm pretty sure from what
you've written he knows that you like him and would like more but he wants to keep things as they are.
He can keep his relationship and enjoy his situation with you at the same time.
If you don't like this set up maybe you should go for a less flirty and more platonic relationship with him
so its clear that he can only have things one way or the other.

Also, Cajun pointed out a year is too long.
I've been involved with two virgos and in both situations as soon as they were aware
that I was also interested they asked me out without hesitation so I think if something
was going to happen it wouldn't still be like this after a year.

Well in this year, having clocked him and felt an instant connection, we've only become friends in the past 7 months, that was following his last relationship ending in August and his father passing away at Christmas. I would confess my feelings, but I don't want to mess things up if things don't go the way I want them. I will strive for more of a green light - I feel at the moment I'm/we're making progress. And after all, what's the hurry...? I have to be sure he's right for me as well.

Let it breathe and all that.

I think it would be unwise to share my feelings with him when he has only come out of a serious relationship of 5 years so recently. That and the fact he is grieving. I have to give him room. I think he will give me the green light at some point, but for now, I would rather have his respect than my knickers on his floor.

I wonder how he must feel about me not reacting to his filthy talk?!

Cajun, he's a second decan.

Posted by MayDORISDay
I think it would be unwise to share my feelings with him when he has only come out of a serious relationship of 5 years so recently. That and the fact he is grieving. I have to give him room. I think he will give me the green light at some point, but for now, I would rather have his respect than my knickers on his floor.

It is still important to let him know where you stand. The longer you take, the smaller your chances.

I wonder how he must feel about me not reacting to his filthy talk?!

Ignored, that's bad.

Cajun, he's a second decan.

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OoooOOOoooo, like me 🙂

He definitely needs to be told how you feel upfront and first, before he gets aggressive.

He is in a casual long distance relationship which is relatively new as opposed to his long term 5 years one that ended last year. He hasn't clarified this totally to me, that is is seeing someone, is kind of/maybe not seeing someone. So he retains control ultimately, as I will not make a move on him until that is defined properly. If he continues to flirt with me, then I shall be forced to inform him that he must stop goading me, and testing my integrity!

Anyway, I've just received an email from him (he's away for 3 weeks, stating he's missing me terribly...awwww I can't wait to kiss that face of his).