Virgo Co worker - Ergh!

This girl gets away with all kinds of stuff! Doesn't finish work, gets reassigned. Gets to go to conferences. Comes in late every day! If she doesn't like you the boss listens to her; same if she does like you.

How does she get away with it? I'm floored by this. Being a cap, I can't imagine leaving work undone with the assumption that someone else would do it.

What are yall's thoughts?

I thought this was a Virgo hate thread.

-Eats a red Skittle-

I can't stand the whole favoritism thing, but that's how it goes sometimes, unfortunately. The older Virgo I worked with was similar. Well she wasn't a lowsey worker, but she WAS a favorite and definitely used her personality to her advantage. She was also a spy reporting things back to the supervisor. She eventually got hired permanetely(we all worked thru a temp agency). I no longer work there so I'm not sure how things are going but I'd just sit and observe everything /everyone and it was literally like high school with the popularity contests. Definitely wasn't the environment I wanted to stick in despite the stability.

I'm sure its frustrating but try to remain focused on what you are there to do. Nothing more or less.

shes getting it on with the boss.

I didn't intend this to be a hate thread.

I'm just fustrated at how she gets away with things. She's not doing the boss, they're both female and have worked together before. I think they are friends outside of work. Anyway, I see the manipulation, favortism, and just don't get it.

Yes, I will definitely do what I do and stay focused on my own job. Even doing hers when I have to. That's just the way I roll. All dependability and responsibility - can't shake it! lol! Sucks! haha!

What she don't know is I got her number and can play at building a comraderie, although its not my nature. I'm not good at being fake, but I do know how to operate in a work environment. The cream rises to the top and the sediment and by-products sink to the bottom. However, I'm not very good at politics - too opinionated and too vocal. I call it like I see it. lol!

Any advice on moving forward with this situation?

I usually get on with Virgos very well! Some of my favorite people are virgo.

i was only kidding 😛 (tried to lighten things up)

First i would like to say that its very admirable of you to hold such responsibility and accountability as a team player at the work place. That shouldn't change. However, what should change is understanding what you want out of this. i don't seem to understand what goal your trying to achieve. This way it be much easier to create possible solutions to solve this.

I am going off on a limb here..I used to feel the same frustration at my old profession. This frustration seems to be a deep seated issue with not being valued as a team member and being taken advantage of. Also, i think you do her work because technically it IS the only option. You have every right to feel frustrated. Beyond that though is a more absolute reason to all this frustration. I believe, at its core it all stems from a fear of realizing that one could be inadequate.inability to effectively communicate and assert oneself. ONce you feel empowered that you can speak up, the solutions are endless.

may i ask whether or not you guys are close friends? are you guys on good terms?

When you want to clarify the issue you need to confront, stop and ask yourself, What are the consequences of this problem to me? To our relationship? To the task? To other stakeholders? Analyzing the consequences helps you determine what is most important to discuss. The best tool for choosing from the host of possible problems is to ask what you really want and don't want. And since you??re talking to another person, you ought to ask what you want for yourself, for the other person, and for the relationship.

Even then, after all the analyzing and you know their intentions (which everyone always thinks about when confronting) One must first decide on whether or not IF discussing the matter would bring harsh consequences. Just because we do think of all the above, we must figure out if its even worth discussing. What if the problems are ambiguous or discussing them could get you in trouble? You??re not sure if the problem is a problem, and bringing up the issue might lead to a raging battle, a harmed relationship, a lost job, or something equally frightening. How do you know if you should confront problems that are not so clear and not so promising? so yeah its hard to find the right ways to fix this.

However, i personally feel the main issue isn't the favoritism , i actually think you could care less! The problem is your being overworked when the boss can easily allocate other team members to pick up the slack. This is the problem you must address. Be sure not to attack or bring in specific people, the point isn't to give them a bundle of issues, but to give them the main one that would solve your frustration.

Talk about factual content , a event in which you first felt this. Then proceed to talk about a pattern which has been building up.Finally talk about how its affecting your work performance and relationship to this company. End in a positive, i hope and strive to continue to be a valued asset to this company, and i hope that we can work better together as a team.

Lets say she brings up and battles your "patterns" or "factual content" with favoritism, so to lower the chances of that happening, you must state your concern with brevity and in a concise sentence. just one sentence. I feel i am being overworked.

Thanks Candi. I really don't understand within myself what the goal is here. I want to be able to get along with her, perhaps understand why she is the way she is. Some of it is lack of control over the situation (problem for cap) because I can't go to my boss about it. Would cause major issues. We are on good terms - all of us. I just want to try to understand the mindset so resentment doesn't build up more. I think it just pisses me off that people can get away with a lack of dependability. I can't even comprehend the concept that people are okay with not getting their work done.

So true!!! Thanks for reminding me!

Posted by truecap
This girl gets away with all kinds of stuff! Doesn't finish work, gets reassigned. Gets to go to conferences. Comes in late every day! If she doesn't like you the boss listens to her; same if she does like you.

How does she get away with it? I'm floored by this. Being a cap, I can't imagine leaving work undone with the assumption that someone else would do it.

What are yall's thoughts?

Jelly?

Posted by Let*It*Be
It is...and sarcastic is the theme for the evening..don't choke on that there skittle! 😉

😛

Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
@ True Cap, Don't be a hater.😉
Though I don't condome the snitching.......like everyone else said, just be good at doing you and perhaps the chips will fall in your corner....perhaps🙂

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