Virgo guy-help!!

Hello everyone, im new here so please be easy on me lol, joking. But anyways, im a 22yo leo lady and have been long distance-talking to a 25yo virguy for about 3 months now. Hes absolutely amazing and so incredibly sexy and funny. When we see each other, the chemistry is so dynamic, and he makes me feel like im the only woman in the world. Problem is, being long distance and all, we hardly text and call like we used to. And hes actually stood me up 3 times! One date was understandable since a close relative had passed away, but the other 2, nu uh. After the 3rd time, i told him that i was giving up and reminded him that i dont deserve to.be an option. He seems to have gotten pretty upset through texts and even deleted me from fb. Afterwards, he recommended we talked things out and he started twxting me usual conversation. We never actually taljed about the situation like he said. Bow were back to skim texts, sometimes no replies. Long story short, how can I tell if he is really into me or just stringing me along. Gahhh i guess im just used to different types of guys but im willing to play it cool for this virgo. Suggestions? Thanks so much everyone!

Currently in modesto, ca 🙂

Posted by lioness650
Hello everyone, im new here so please be easy on me lol, joking. But anyways, im a 22yo leo lady and have been long distance-talking to a 25yo virguy for about 3 months now. Hes absolutely amazing and so incredibly sexy and funny. When we see each other, the chemistry is so dynamic, and he makes me feel like im the only woman in the world. Problem is, being long distance and all, we hardly text and call like we used to. And hes actually stood me up 3 times! One date was understandable since a close relative had passed away, but the other 2, nu uh. After the 3rd time, i told him that i was giving up and reminded him that i dont deserve to.be an option. He seems to have gotten pretty upset through texts and even deleted me from fb. Afterwards, he recommended we talked things out and he started twxting me usual conversation. We never actually taljed about the situation like he said. Bow were back to skim texts, sometimes no replies. Long story short, how can I tell if he is really into me or just stringing me along. Gahhh i guess im just used to different types of guys but im willing to play it cool for this virgo. Suggestions? Thanks so much everyone!

When you tell a man you are giving up on him and don't deserve to be treated like this, then turn around and subject yourself to it again, how much respect do you think he has for you? Although you don't know me from adam, I have no respect for you or anyone that says one thing and does another. I see a door mat, and I'm guessing he does too.

@Lioness650----

How long were the two of you dating?

@taurusbull1977 we arent officially a couple. Just talking, but @letitb has a point...

@Letitb thank you, I understand what you mean.

Posted by lioness650

... hes actually stood me up 3 times!

He seems to have gotten pretty upset through texts and even deleted me from fb.

We never actually taljed about the situation like he said.

... sometimes no replies.

.... how can I tell if he is really into me or just stringing me along.

Why, exactly, would anyone be confused about a guy who acts like he barely cares?

Do you not have any pride, at all? ... and you believe that being treated like shit is him being into you?


wtf is the matter with people

Glad you got it. Good luck...

@P-angel ive read a few articles/heard relationship stories on virgos and they are know to do the hot and cold thing. I shouldve been a bit clearer on asking for virgos opinions instead. There was really no need for you to talk down on me for that. Thanks.

Posted by lioness650
@P-angel ive read a few articles/heard relationship stories on virgos and they are know to do the hot and cold thing. I shouldve been a bit clearer on asking for virgos opinions instead. There was really no need for you to talk down on me for that. Thanks.

Don't take too much too offense to what she said. She may have said it harshly but she is speaking the truth. If you look at all the threads... in every single sign (Taurus, Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio, Leo.... ) you name them and there will be a thread on a hot and cold man. And they all end the same. They END. It's not about the sun sign. It's as LettB said. It's all about self respect and pride. Don't worry you're not the only girl that goes through this... it seems like most, if not every, girl goes through this. You're a Leo though so you'll have no problems bouncing back and finding someone else that is more deserving of your amazing love 😉. Good Luck! 🙂

If he's stood you up 3 times in 3 months and his texts and calls to you are skim, I'd say he lost interest. Personally, I have a hard time understanding how people (especially in today's world) can do long distance relationships. Plus, I think that since you threw the ultimatum at him (not being an option) that he's backed off. And he deleted you off FB? Really? That's passive-agressive and childish. Is this behavior acceptable to you? Is this the kind of things you will be willing to overlook if you date him? I really hope you're stronger willed than that.

Posted by lioness650
@P-angel ive read a few articles/heard relationship stories on virgos and they are know to do the hot and cold thing. I shouldve been a bit clearer on asking for virgos opinions instead. There was really no need for you to talk down on me for that. Thanks.

So, let me get this straight .... because of what you read, you then believe that when a guy treats you like shit, it might mean that he's into you?


What are you? ... 12 years old?

Virgo are poor at initiation in any case; let alone long distance. You will have to be 99% + optimistic and keep at Virgo because Virgo is helplessly insecure. However, the Virgo will not actively move on if there is a sense you are still invested, so that is on your side. Virgo are apt to internalize any conflict and take them very personally, and may have outpour of temper that is uncharacteristic of their True-Self during said conflict; followed by regret by the Virgo, who despises conflict altogether.

[Leo; your Virgo may not be meant for you, as it may not be the greatest compatibility. The other commenters are not wrong; I feel they just do not understand Virgo. The Virgo is most likely, not 'treating you like butter' purposefully, but rather is so pervasively convinced of himself as dregs of grease spilt out of the pan, discarded; that he cannot fully understand that his neglect has any impact on anyone whatsoever, even yourself, although he may be fully interested in you; and that I cannot tell, as I am not him.]

But, to give up entirely based on strangers' comments who do not understand either yourself nor your Virgo, may be a discredit to the both of you. I do assure you, however, that you will move on before your Virgo, much more quickly and fully, because the myriad failures of the Virgo are forever their most vivid recollections.

To summarize, to make this work will take a lot of understanding and patience and persistence, but your Virgo will [if he knows what is good for him, haha] reciprocate above and beyond once he feels safe with you and realizes you care for him in a far more than superficial manner.

PS: @P-Angel, what are you, 54 years old? JS.

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