Virgo guys and empathy

Hi everyone,

I've been reading these boards for awhile now, but this is my first post. I'm a cap lady with a virgo boyfriend. I've been reading up alot on virgo guys in order to get a better understanding of his behavior. I've been with him for about 9 months now. Mostly he seems like a really great guy, but it seems he is unable to be empathetic. He is a responsible,polite and helpful person, but when it comes to relating to someone else about their feelings, it seems he just can't do it. On occasion I have been emotional regarding certain things, and he will get very annoyed and leave the room. He says I am being immature for showing emotion (even though I have seen him cry too). I asked him what he would do if he saw his mom cry (he is very close to his mom). He replied, "I would ignore her". It really shocked me to hear him say that. Yesterday I lost a pet that was very special to me, and I mentioned this to him over the phone (I'm visiting family in another country right now, so that's the way we communicate for the time being). He knew I was pretty upset, but all he said was "how did it die?" and told me he had to go and he would call me back later (never called me back...i emailed him and no response). One time I was talking to him about one of my friends that was going through a bad time because she had just ended her first serious relationship. He thought it was ridiculous that she should be so upset. He just really couldn't wrap his brain around why breaking up with someone would be a painful experience.

So my question is, is this related to him being a virgo guy or am I just dealing with a guy who may be a bit emotionally immature? I'm just kind of curious. I do realize regardless of the answer to this question that he is not going to change and I have to decide for myself whether or not we are suitable for each other in the long run. I dont mean to offend any of the virgos here, I'm just looking for some insight.

More info: He is 25, has an Aries moon. I am 27, have a Gem moon, cancer rising.

Thanks

It's not 100% a Virgo thing but I too find it hard to be empathetic.

Sometimes I am, most times I am not.
Personally speaking I am quite emotionally immature, so I don't think it is much of a stretch to imagine him being similar in that sense.

He is just being logical and detached when it comes to others and things that are not you. He only cares about you and if you show deep investments in other people or things, he would be happy to be rid of them. More attention for him.

I'm a young Virgo, so this is how I operate to an extent as well. Your description, though, paints him as more lacking in empathy.

Posted by *Tasha

and if i get mad about something she automatically calls me a crybaby. but anyways...

As mean as your sister may be, Cancers are still cute, adorable and loving crybabies.

My answer: Nope!


If its something / something I care about, I'll pull my heart out and throw it down to put it on the line.

If its something I don't care about, I won't and perhaps the issue is that we'll make it very clear we don't care about it lol.

Okay best avatar ever, Tasha. Look at that little guy 😛

Tasha, sorry to hear that he died.

lol look at this ring tail 😛
My buddy has one named "Akuma". He's a little tough guy. When I first met him, he got all tough on me, puffed out his chest, and started barking. I've respected him ever since lol

Thanks for all the comments. I never realized how his Aries moon might influence him. Unfortunately, I have just decided to finally part ways with my Virgo guy. Things have been going downhill for about 2 months and he said his feelings for me are only so-so at this point. And I've come to realize I need someone more empathetic/sympathetic than him. We are kind of opposites...He seems all friendly on the outsde, but inside is pretty cold. I have the typical cappie coldness on the outside, but inside I am pretty warm.

Shaks, I hope your relationship with your cap girl contiunes to go well. I hope I can find a guy as into me as you seem into her.


Tasha, I also have a Leo sis and I love her to pieces. She's one of the sweetest people I know.