Virgo Male

Hi, I have a dilemma that I'd like someone to provide sound advice to guide me. I have a Virgo male friend that I once had intense feelings for but now we are long distance friends. We met 3 years ago when I lived elsewhere and while he was visiting a friend. While on his vacation, we spent several days together and had an instant connection with each other. I thought that after he left we'd still continue speaking and possibly seeing each other long distance but that never came to fruition. I moved away to a new city and so did he. We have remained in contact via email and occasional phone calls. For many years he has been celibate; his wife cheated on him and he hasn't engaged in any sex at all. However, he continues to date women but they know that their hands (nor face or their who-ha-hiddies) are probably not going to get near his pecker. I think he's too messed up or waiting to fall in love again. Nonetheless, knowing that
I never had a chance with him, I encouraged him to be sexual again with someone. Anyway, he always said if I was in his city that he wanted to hang out with me. I am going to visit a friend that lives in this Virgo male's city (afterward I'm flying to Europe) and I asked him if he would like to hang out. He seems to be busy all the time so I said I would only take up an hour of his time as I'm only going to be there for 3 days. He didn't give me a straight answer when I asked if he would be there in August. I asked him again if he would like to hang out and he avoided it and starting making up weird stories about wanting to be "Spider Man". I was getting annoyed with no direct response. Then, I wrote him and said the following:
"So, Magical Spider Man, I did not receive a yes or no from you concerning
hanging out for an hour when I'm in your city. I'm not there for long and I'm trying to plan everything out. My big trip is Europe. If you don't want to hang out or don't have the time, it's ok to say no to me, no big deal. I'll live." He wrote back: "Of course I will find the time. Just keep me posted with frequent reminders if you can. Time passes so quick with such adaptation and anxiety that I can barely remember appointments." What do you make of this? Honestly, it was hard to get a straight answer out of him but now I still feel this is an iffy situation. Help! Thanks!

You shouldn't have to constantly remind him...If he has a mobile phone, you can agree a time / date and he can put it in his calendar as an appointment and set a reminder.

Meh, I don't chase around after anyone haha but then again I don't let people chase me either. It's all too much drama. He sounds like a bit of a mess too. I think what he said was a cop out because he didn't have the guts to give you a straight answer then potentially disappoint you later, but I could be wrong.

You sound desperate.

The man is trying to blow you off ....