virgo male... scorpio female!

yup, the scorpio female would be me.

Ok so i have a question here...been dating a virgo male for about 7 months now, did the entire meeting his family and mom thing, I on the other hand opted not to introduce him to mine. He brought it up last week, told him we would do it during christmas when he comes down. Which by the way, he is military, this entire thing is long distance. I must say, it's a true test at my patience... and trust. So far, so Good. Anyway, everything i read on Virgo's says they are slow to making a commitment... umm is there any way to speed this entire thing up? He'll be coming home for good next year, and has mentioned long term plans for us, but has not been specific. I've noticed that with virgo's you have to beat around the bush somewhat and not be so straight forward. The girl needs some help here... he's great, and sweet and all of that mushy greatness, but as most scorpio's, it's either ALL or Nothing. I'm getting to that point. What do I do? Oh yes, and later this month he'll be flying me up to be with him.

How long did it take you to realize you wanted to further your relationship with him?

Where in the world did you hear that Virgos beat around the bush? As for speeding up the process, I wouldn't try. I personally get freaked and withdraw when things don't go at a certain pace. It make seem slow to you but you have to have the patience of a saint when dealing with us. As for the all or nothing thing, no worries there. A typical Virgo will stick by you till the bitter end.

Posted by sweetscorpio84
Anyway, everything i read on Virgo's says they are slow to making a commitment... umm is there any way to speed this entire thing up?

He said he has long term plans, just go with it.

I've noticed that with virgo's you have to beat around the bush somewhat and not be so straight forward.

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Hell no, I don't know what kind of Virgo you're dealing with but beating around the bush definitely won't help.

When is his birthday?
September 11-22?

You already know us Virgos move slow as far as commitment. I am dealing with one Scorpio female, I can tell she wants me to go ahead and commit already. It is probably driving her crazy..I can see it!!

but, when I do, I honestly feel like this will be one of the best experiences for us both!!


I just hope she can please be little more patient with me, please!!

You can't blame the fact that he's a virgo that its movin slo in this situation. I'm sure you have your reasons for not letting him meet the folks, but that right there prob initiated the slo pace. He opened up and intro'd u to his fam, but you didn't for yours, which prob was interpreted as a hint to slo things down. Can't expect everything if you give nothing, but like I said u prob got your reasons.

All these beautiful Virgo/Scorpio relationships going on, and I'm struggling to land my scorpio! Jealous.

Goki, can you expound any more. I am ready to listen to any advice that would get me closer to her. I like her heart, her humor, her beauty, and am struggling to keep from smothering her with texts, phone calls, visits, etc. I'm doing okay at that I feel, I've backed off to a "Good Morning, hope your day goes great!" And she noticed. But how would you say to keep from presenting myself as a friend. She's sarcastic and so am I and we share a humor that comes in great friendships. I do tell her/show her the side of me that wants more than a friendship though. She knows how beautiful I think she is, she knows I want more.

ah... yes very true on the meeting my family part. I'm a lot more careful about my relationships after dating a leo for 5 years. I suppose you all are right about him already sticking around. However, I've met other scorpio's that also need reassurance. Is this normal?

Posted by DyTryin

sweetscorpio84,

SLOW DOWN, count to 10, and take note:

1. Y'all have been dating for 7 months.

2. He introduced you to his parents - that's a Big Sign for most Virgos.

3. He wants to meet your parents.

4. He's talking about the "long term" with you.

Given 1-4, why do you need more assurance that he is committed to you??

His mind seems to be made up, so chill out. We are 100% lovers - same as you.

FYI: I've been with my Scorpio Woman going on 5 years now, and it truly gets better every day.

hehehe... thank you!

If you're talking about me having a moon in scorpio, it landed on Leo.

Moon in Leo

Depending on other positions in the chart, Moon in Leo people are not necessarily outgoing. When they feel comfortable, they do like being the center of attention. That is, they like being in the "spotlight" in the comfort of their own homes and with family and friends. They enjoy entertaining others, and often take on the role of comic. Lunar Leos often feel a need to organize, and even control, their families and friends. They have an inner mission to set things right, and generally like to oversee the goings-on in their little circle.

This is a rather creative position of the Moon. At the very least, Moon in Leo people want to create and entertain. They can be rather lazy at times, and a little bossy too. Generally, though, they have a deep need to treat others fairly and justly. Lunar Leos require lots and lots of love and care in order to function well in the world. When they feel slighted, these people can be dramatic in their emotional displays. When their pride has been hurt, they are given to big scenes and sulking. This rarely happens in public, however. Lunar Leos are far too concerned about their image to make splashy scenes outside the comfort of their own homes. In public, they prefer to take things in dignified ways. At home, however, they're given to big displays of emotional drama. These scenes generally don't last too long, however. Lunar Leos are often personally popular folk who are valued for their integrity and strong sense of justice. Generally, it is easy to reason with a Lunar Lion. Appealing to their well-developed sense of fairness usually works well.

Sweetscorp, from one water sign to another patience is key to a Virgo mans heart. That was my BIGGEST problem with my Virgo. It still is to a very small degree, but I keep my mouth shut about it. I could be wrong but I think the reason why it's hard for water signs to be patient is that we are very emotional and want to use those emotions on full force. My rising sign is Scorpio, so I know exactly how you feel! I've used those same lines of "all or nothing" with my Virgo and in return I got nothing, lol. I've learned in the past that the more pushed emotionally the more he pushed back. But with understanding and patience in dealing with them, you will definitely get ALL.

Posted by 25thDecan
Underlying tone here...she's not showing reciprocity. He even intros her to parents, friends and family and she STILL has yet to do that for him because she's guarded. Not that she's wrong but she probably won't hear anything any further from this man until he feels he didn't step out on faith and fall off a cliff into a "regular" relationship with a "guarded" woman. Just sayin...he's not being the slow one. Especially after 7months. THIS virgo refuses to introduce anyone to his mother and sister(father is another story lol) until she's proven she deserves to be in that circle. Period. And 7 months...nah, I would've bounced with no reciprocity after I introduced you. Too many single women. Sorry. Hope it works out(though this scorp virgo shit is horrid, nasty and putrid in all ways to the inner fiber of my being lmao) but she's either going to have to open up or stop blaming him for her "guardedness" and make a recprocal move.

Oh wow, I missed some of this info 25thDecan. Yea, he's definitely committed to you. From what was stated about him, you got all the proof you need. Now all that needs to be done is to show that you are committed to him......QUICKLY. He may start to doubt how you really feel about him and if you are really ready for a committed relationship with him. Now if he decides to cut ties with you, it's a done deal and no looking back because he already laid his cards on the table with you. But good luck and I hope things work out for the both of you.

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Posted by 25thDecan
Underlying tone here...she's not showing reciprocity. He even intros her to parents, friends and family and she STILL has yet to do that for him because she's guarded. Not that she's wrong but she probably won't hear anything any further from this man until he feels he didn't step out on faith and fall off a cliff into a "regular" relationship with a "guarded" woman. Just sayin...he's not being the slow one. Especially after 7months. THIS virgo refuses to introduce anyone to his mother and sister(father is another story lol) until she's proven she deserves to be in that circle. Period. And 7 months...nah, I would've bounced with no reciprocity after I introduced you. Too many single women. Sorry. Hope it works out(though this scorp virgo shit is horrid, nasty and putrid in all ways to the inner fiber of my being lmao) but she's either going to have to open up or stop blaming him for her "guardedness" and make a recprocal move.

Oh wow, I missed some of this info 25thDecan. Yea, he's definitely committed to you. From what was stated about him, you got all the proof you need. Now all that needs to be done is to show that you are committed to him......QUICKLY. He may start to doubt how you really feel about him and if you are really ready for a committed relationship with him. Now if he decides to cut ties with you, it's a done deal and no looking back because he already laid his cards on the table with you. But good luck and I hope things work out for the both of you.

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ah... yes a tad too guarded. So next month he will be meeting both my family and my friends! 😉 And during those seven months he was deployed about half of the time... that's why there was a delay in meeting his side. I hope it works out too... I just dont know how to open up. I think we scorpio's are naturally secretive. Any ideas on how to open up a little more?