Virgo man.... Balls in his court, is this a good or bad idea?

All started a month ago.

My Boyfriend started pushing me away after 5 years together. We were looking at buying a house and he was fine and we were happy that we got the mortgage in principal. He was showing his parents houses we liked etc and was up for bring them to a view them. Then he found out he might get made redundant in a job he loves and he switched on me....

It all kicked off on a phone call and we broke up, he ignored me for two weeks. Said he didn't know if he felt the same way anymore and wouldn't explain it, just felt his feelings had changed. I was the one to say should we break up and he just kept saying "I don't know" so I said he clearly needed space to think about what he wanted etc as he didn't want to do a break, but what was we supposed to do.

I went to his house as his parents were emailing me and he was shutting everyone off not speaking and hibernating basically. When i went to his house, he kept saying his head was clear but he wouldn't look at me in the eye without eyes watering, he looked like a broken man. He said he was really happy and he only has to worry about himself. Just kept saying about his job and how important it is to him and how he has the best sales rate etc. He is away for work a lot you see and the result of the redundancy means he will be away a lot more now as they are a man down.. He knows him being away a lot upsets me sometimes, normally I am fine but sometimes if something happens I find he can be unreachable but normally I just get on with it.

When I asked if we was broken up he just kept saying "he didn't know" and he felt nothing and was hoping to snap out of it and he wasn't, he couldn't really pin point when his feelings changed. He said it was "nice a girl is trying, but I feel nothing". :-/ he was just starring out the window clenching his fists. I kept trying to get him to look at me and he just wouldn't, said he found it too hard. He said he hadn't thought about me at all, but later said he was worried my parents would be angry. He went out and got himself a new playstation and dvds that day, and said as long as he had those he would be happy. Said he never wants to be home anymore, he just wants to be away with work and alone and isn't sure at what point he turned into a loner but apparently that's the way it is now.

Two days later, on the Monday, I apologized for a comment I made when I was upset and left his house, I told him I would leave him alone and to let me know if he wants to chat to let me know.

16 days in to no contact and nothing. Am I doing the right thing leaving him alone? Do I just give up then? I don't understand his sudden change of heart.

FYI - We have never broken up before and he has said in the past when a break up happens its over and can't be repaired about previous relationships.

Neither of us were, neither of us would cheat etc.

what sort of "Balls" are we referring to?

Obviously, you are pushy, and pushed buying a house on him.

You say, "we were happy" ... which is obviously not the truth.

So, that means you are clueless about how he feels. You place that on him, when his actions prove otherwise.

What balls ? When did someone mention balls? lol!

He was telling people he knew we were buying and he was the one like "oh I showed blablah the house" etc, he was the same as I was in the situation. If he did then he didn't speak up, you will just have to trust me on that one.

Posted by Browneyedgirl26
What balls ? When did someone mention balls? lol!

He was telling people he knew we were buying and he was the one like "oh I showed blablah the house" etc, he was the same as I was in the situation. If he did then he didn't speak up, you will just have to trust me on that one.

These "balls' on the thread title..

"Balls in his court"

As a Virgo man I definitely like my balls in my court..

His actions prove that he didn't want to be committed with a mortgage with you, and they prove that he wasn't fine with it as you've stated.

Virgo's don't behave the way you've presented here ... which means you are embellishing this story to put yourself in a better light.

Or that there is more to life than star signs?

@cheekyfaerie, he said he had no feelings and just lost all his feelings but wasn't justifying why and wasn't saying much so I asked him what he wanted us to do as we put an offer down on the house. He was finding out that Friday so we was going to pull out if he lost his job anyway as no money would get exchanged for months.

I said either way I would pull out the house as it wasn't the right time so I wasn't pushing it.

But then when it come to us he was just saying he had no feelings and was hoping he would snap out of it but wasn't. I felt like he was trying to get me to say about breaking up, he was just being really cold and not saying anything was just silent.

Well it's done now, if he cared he would have probably contacted me by now.

I said him to I didn't want to break up and I am here if he wants to chat but sounded like he needed space on his own to work out what he wanted as nothing I could say was making him want to work together etc. It's like he had mentally shut down.