Virgo man is confusing me. (libra woman)

Holy mother of pearls, woman, keep it concise!

TL;DR

Virguy attempts to get into virgin's (the OP) pants. OP confided all emotions and willing to give herself completely to him. Meanwhile, Virguy adds OP's female friend via Facebook and talks to friend behind OP's back. Virguy refers to OP as friends, but continues to show affection to OP (manipulative behavior).

@kart

What sort of pics and videos are you sending him?

The fact that you've confessed all to him and how deeply you feel for him he knows you will not walk so yes, he has you wrapped around his fingers. Hence, why he is going around adding your friends.

How old are you?

My advice, save that precious gem (your womanhood) of someone more deserving.

Don't do long emotional speeches in text. That should be done face to face.

If it's important to you to be in a monogamous and committed relationship before going all the way then communicate that with him. If he doesn't stick around you'll know he just wanted sex from you.

Imo how he's acting is not very considerate of you. I wouldn't trust him with my heart or gift him my pussy.

Posted by dolluxe
Tl;dr

Virgo dude is a dick. Adding your friend on social media and texting her while seeing you? Dick move pretty much.

Dump the guy and move on.

The only reason that would be acceptable is if he was contacting her for help with a surprise or holiday gift for you.

But yeah seems like a red flag, and actually really sloppy at that.

Never admit to feelings during the early days of seeing someone. For fuck sake woman your not even exclusively dating each other!

I feel like In his mind he thinks he's being honest. But still trying to get in ur pants while being delicate about not wanting a relationship. Don't do it.

Posted by kart

i have some issues with the way he behaves because sometimes i dont know if he is in this for real or is he just plying around

Define "this"

If I'm reading this correctly, you give him the impression that you're holding back because you are unsure of how to proceed, or if you even want to.

thus far, you appear to be just his friend.

You say in the above sentence that there is a "this" .... but, to say you're in a "this" isn't clear at all. Now is it? You say that he knows how you feel, and you act like he owes you loyalty because of how you feel .... but, you say that you're in a "this" with him.



that's not definitive ... not at all



You can't play half way with a person and expect them to come to "this" in full.

Posted by kart

nd he had expressed that to me once tht he wants to have sex with me during making out with me. I couldnt say anything to him because i was confused of it happening too quickly. Also because i had this in my mind that he can be playing with my feelings.

because he hasnt asked me out officially.

Above, you tell us that he has expressed his feelings and/or desire to you ... and say NOTHING in return.

That's what you said above .... that he expressed and you were silent.

Yet, you expect him to be loyal to how you feel.

entitled Princess syndrome



then the end of the above says that you haven't even officially gone out ..... you sound extremely ...



cakey eatey

Then why is he being normal, he texts me normally and has become more affectionate than before, i mean after this message when we met we talked so much more openly and we dint do much physically. He has become more talkative and relaxed around me than before.

what does he mean by the sweet gestures he does? can a virgo be playboys? i thought they were the forever kinds. is it possible that he has something for me but not as strongly as i do thats why he still taking time to channelize his thoughts?

he told me he cant commit just yet and its too early for me to have sex with him. he wants me to take more time. he is being honest there. so he doesnt sound like he wants to get into my pants. if he did he would have made false promises and gotten it easily.

how do i make him open up to me and tell me his true thoughts?

Because virgos are nice guys genuinely. But they're very often players and can be committed bachelors until they find the woman they think is perfect.

If you were less vulnerable and more up to what looks to me like a challenge, it might be worthwhile to play the game.

But you seem very emotionally involved and are considering your virginity - I think maybe you should let him show more investment so that you don't get hurt. Talking to your friend without mentioning it to you, making you guys seem very casual- that's like anti investment. You know he likes u... that's obvs but that's not enough for what u want. (Gonna take my own advice btw)