VIRGO MAN VERY CONFUSING

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Globus
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I have been dating this Virgo man for about 9 months now , he hasnt had a gf in like 6, 7 years only one night stands.. so he met me and we started something he has been coming back and leaving 10000 times , he is cold warm , he opend up to me a few times i met his mom .. he always disapears for few days mabye a week.. i have learnd to handle that he called texted.. Then about 20 days ago his sister was arriving from boat cruse and we saw eachother a night before and he kind of opend up to me about some stuff... then his dad had problemms he was in hospital then his other house where his dad lives had to be painted than he has dog litter to build.. his dad is at his house now and his whole family and he has no time he said..it has been 2 weeks.. first week wasnt so bad he texted calld etc. then he suddenly stoped only i text call and when we do its few words ,, only .. 2 weeks have passed then i snaped , i went to his house i knew he doesnt like suprices.. he laught and show me his dad .. we were like talking that night ,and it was all fine then , again 4 days now the same ... he also told me he hasnt done any work he just relaxed from everything he needed a break.. and he is still having it i see.. his last gf he hadnt contacted for 3 days... not returnig calls or messages .. and he loved her very much... i mean what is going on.. he doesnt ask where i am what have i been doing.. nothing... before he called to check where i was all the time ... he hadnt trust me before .. now he told me he trusts me it is a reason big reason why he is with me .. than when his sister came.. nothing.. what is going on.... his siter was here before when we started but that was a time he hasnt had dogs.. he didnt trust me etc.. but im confused why is he doing this .. he doesnt wana break up .. if he wants.. he tells he always tells.. he did it a few times.. :O sory for my english .
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ladyin_blue
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I know how you feel.

I read somewhere once that a virgo needs someone who is busy and that is so true. When my virgo did to me what ur guy is doing to u I backed completely away. No message, no calls, nothing. Work and moving kept he me busy. When he EVENTUALLY got back to me I withheld anything sex related or even pictures no matter how much he begs cause the last thing I want is to feel like hes using me. As for messages. I let him get in touch first but when I come across something I know he'd like online I send it to him or if i have something to say which i know he'd be very interested in i say it. If he doesn't reply to my messages I don't bother myself. Some times we'd go over a week with no messaging and it's fine.

Lately he's noticed just how much I've pulled away so he's making more of an effort to spend time with me which unfortunately I don't have cause work keeps me busy. When I am free he's not and being a medical student his studies are important to me too so i just let him know when his exams are over I'll take time off work to spend with him.
Also I've noticed when my virgo is stressed he shuts me out till he's delt with it in his own way then gets in touch. I respond to it by saying "you were missing? Didn't notice, assumed you was studying" I know he wasn't but I also know what he was stressed about had nothing to do with me.

I've actually come to like the distance and space and when we do get to talk on the phone which is like once every 2 weeks it's nice. We talk for hours, makes up for the the time apart.

Babe as hard as this might sound. Don't worry yourself. If hes interested he'll show up or get in touch. If hes not, good riddance. You just focus on yourself

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I have been dating this Virgo man for about 9 months now , he hasnt had a gf in like 6, 7 years only one night stands.. so he met me and we started something he has been coming back and leaving 10000 times , he is cold warm , he opend up to me a few times i met his mom .. he always disapears for few days mabye a week.. i have learnd to handle that he called texted.. Then about 20 days ago his sister was arriving from boat cruse and we saw eachother a night before and he kind of opend up to me about some stuff... then his dad had problemms he was in hospital then his other house where his dad lives had to be painted than he has dog litter to build.. his dad is at his house now and his whole family and he has no time he said..it has been 2 weeks.. first week wasnt so bad he texted calld etc. then he suddenly stoped only i text call and when we do its few words ,, only .. 2 weeks have passed then i snaped , i went to his house i knew he doesnt like suprices.. he laught and show me his dad .. we were like talking that night ,and it was all fine then , again 4 days now the same ... he also told me he hasnt done any work he just relaxed from everything he needed a break.. and he is still having it i see.. his last gf he hadnt contacted for 3 days... not returnig calls or messages .. and he loved her very much... i mean what is going on.. he doesnt ask where i am what have i been doing.. nothing... before he called to check where i was all the time ... he hadnt trust me before .. now he told me he trusts me it is a reason big reason why he is with me .. than when his sister came.. nothing.. what is going on.... his siter was here before when we started but that was a time he hasnt had dogs.. he didnt trust me etc.. but im confused why is he doing this .. he doesnt wana break up .. if he wants.. he tells he always tells.. he did it a few times.. :O sory for my english .
You are dating this guy, and somehow have felt an entitlement to make it a full blown relationship in your head. That's not his problem, it's yours. I mean re-read your first sentence over and over again. He's not relationship material AT ALL. He's into one night stands and refraining from relationships. You say above you didn't see him for two weeks and snapped and felt entitled to show up at his house. The answer to your question "what is going on?"...is very simple. NOTHING.. It's simply YOU making something out of NOTHING.
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Kim01
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I want you to know
I love you w all my heart
You mean everything to me
I know we have only been dating for 6months but I can't help how I feel I just know how I feel n it's such an intense beautiful feeling n I wouldn't mind feeling like this for awhile as long as possible would be even better

When I love
I love hard and yes maybe to you
It might be to soon but idk it's just how I feel
I'm not embarrassed to say how I feel my biggest downfall in life is i wear my heart on my sleeve n I feel like it's never a good thing but I am who I am and this is just me I wish I could change that about me but I can't ...I've tried ¢

I know your trying
I know I'm trying
And I want to keep trying
but we both need to try a lil harder if this is what we both really want


When I love someone I don't give up easily but I have to see the other person fighting to save what we have
No relationship is perfect
And relationships requires work

I would do almost anything to make what we have work
I really would that's how much I care n I know u know how I feel about us n what we have

I am exhausted w coming to you talking w you about stuff w us I feel like I'm being annoying but honestly Jesse I'm not trying to be I just observe certain things it doesn't feel right so yes I have questions n I'm going to asks or try to talk to you about it

I have came to you and asks you
if everything is ok w us. You said yes

I have asked u if you still love me. U say yes

I have asked you do u want us to continue our relationship you said .. Yes

I have asked do u think we should break up n u say ...No

Im hoping your being honest w me about your feelings because I wouldn't understand why u would be dishonest w me about how your feeling because even though it will hurt me a lot I would want u to be honest w me

you have a daughter I'm sure later on if she meet someone u would want them to be honest w her despite if it may hurt her feelings or not I just think honesty is always the right thing

I don't think you asks for a lot in a relationship
You pretty straightforward about what u want n expect
I think I'm the same I just expect two people to be able to communicate I think loyalty is important also trust n stability

I think for any relationship to work consistency is very important actions show me how a person truly feels
I feel if a person is inconsistent, then the person affection is inconsistent

you don't have to agree but that's how I feel u may feel differently n that's fine we are both adults n we are both entitle to our own opinion

I want u to know I am willing to do anything to keep us together but I want u to keep doing what u did to get me in order to keep me happy please do not get comfortable in our relationship or slack off n feel like well she loves me I have her so I don't have to work anymore to get her n please don't take me for granted

The only thing I asks of you
I want u t
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Kim01
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10 Years

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The only thing I asks of you
I want u to make time for us that's very important to me
I remember at one time this happened we talked about it you mention to me you noticed it n was going to talk w Nichole you did because we started spending time w each other then we r back to square one again inconsistency is a must !

I'm a single parent myself Cameron is a lil older than Lola well much older but my point is I know Nichole sometimes isn't reliable things may fall thru I seriously understand but all u have to do is TALK to me I don't have a problem listening to u or working w u or compromising I have told u many times I'm willing to listen I just rather u talk to me
I don't like feeling avoided or out in the dark

if u need a weekend to yourself just let me know I wouldn't be upset I will find something to do or work extra shifts I think I have mention this to u b4

I just want u to be yourself the funny silly Jesse n it may not seem like I'm never happy because I'm always talking to u but 90% of the time I am happy but there are a few things that needs work in our relationship atleast I think so

I just want to feel secured n wanted in my relationship w u please just be honest w me I know your not good at communication but just try n I know your not good at showing emotion but that's fine when your ready u will that doesn't bother me really we both are diff n do things differently

I feel like your guarded very guarded n that's fine n anyone could say they will not hurt u but sometimes no matter what u went thru in life if u meet someone if you care or love that person u have to let your guard down a little not everyone in this world will hurt or fuck u over I don't know I believe in good in some people I
I believe in love n I believe there is someone for everyone
I hoping your my one

I love you
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Kim01
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10 Years

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His response below


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I am being honest with you when i say i love you and that i want to be with you from the bottom of my heart. I know that the inconsistencies are a big problem i need to try and work out with the baby momma it is something that drives me crazy as well. I'm going to keep trying even harder to make what we have together even better for the both of us i love you and want us both to be happy.

as you know im not a great communicator and i want to be i know my faults and know that the things that have happen to me in the past have a part in that. Not that im trying to make justification for that just saying i want to be better for the both of us


I love you so much and only want to be with you for ever
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Kim01
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10 Years

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It sounds all good and all but his actions speaks differently I go by actions anyone can say anything but if a person shows me it's different consistency is important yes things fall through at times I'm a mom I know but I'm seeing him less n less the text is less n less he avoids me I'm 41 I know when someone is avoiding me he's just so hot n cold sometimes really sweet w the I love you also the I miss you etc etc then he goes cold again then comes back n suck me right in I'm trying everything to make this relationship to wrk I love this guy I have known him 10 plus years but was only friends but in an exclusive relationship for six months we both agree on it but I notice a lot is changing he said to me things change but my feeling will never or does not change

I'm sorry but six months of dating is still new thing should change for the better not the worse we should be getting closer but I feel like he's drifting away from me I'm so tired of talking about our relationship w is it's not fixing it he say all the things I want to hear n love hearing but his actions speaks differently please some give me some advice