Confused about Virguy

I know that this is no new news to anyone about Virgo being confusing. It is the mixed signals and being a Christian it gets a little tough because I don't read into the signs as much, but reading up on Virgo there is sooo much that seems to play major parts in this building process.

To make a long story short He tells me how much he cares, but in spurts. Which I know Virgo's aren't always in touch with their emotions outwardly. He is a workaholic. EVERYTHING is I HAVE TO WORK!! So I compromise. In my presence VERY affectionate. He has never push the issue of sex. And He said he wanted my heart when asked. He claims to be happily taken by me, but lately it is like pulling teeth to get him out with me. I call and the we talk, but he doesn't call me like I call him. On two occasions I received a beautiful text out of no where saying how amazing I am etc.

So what is the deal really? How can we build if we are a part so often? Is he still trying to figure me out. Mind you we had a year of this already before him claiming to want my heart.

Give me a little insight please.

Posted by CuriousLuv1
So what is the deal really? How can we build if we are a part so often? Is he still trying to figure me out. Mind you we had a year of this already before him claiming to want my heart.

Give me a little insight please.

Don't you think you might get your answer if you ask HIM directly? Virgo males when asked questions 9 times out of 10 WILL answer.

LetItBe You are soooooo right!! I appreciate you for putting me back in my place. I just feel like when I want to talk about this it is never a good time because he is off to work. Talks are short and not the time to go into deep convo. I will be patient and seek that time out to have that convo. I appreciate you LetItBe. 🙂

Timing is everything. When he's relaxed and you are having a normal conversation with him, be subtle and simply ask without cornering him. Be casual about it yet letting him know at the same time it's a concern and a question you want to put behind you.

Been one hell of a summer! Only check in once in a while lately. Will write about it this fall maybe when things settle down.
Typical 8th house happenings...nothing I can't handle. 😉

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Posted by LetltB
Timing is everything. When he's relaxed and you are having a normal conversation with him, be subtle and simply ask without cornering him. Be casual about it yet letting him know at the same time it's a concern and a question you want to put behind you.

The thing is, you should corner him...If he comes out swinging, then he's not the one.

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Well, by subtle and timing while he's *relaxed* I was thinking more along the lines of straddling vs. cornering

but hey..you are a Virgo, you know best 😉

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Posted by CuriousLuv1
Which I know Virgo's aren't always in touch with their emotions outwardly. Give me a little insight please.

You should definitely re-evaluate the things you read. Some would have you think differently.

No emotions from him? You had better find another virgin.

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The OP states (and I quote)
"To make a long story short He tells me how much he cares, but in spurts." In my experience and in the beginning stages, this is normal

"He is a workaholic. EVERYTHING is I HAVE TO WORK!! " Always...with every Virgo I know

"On two occasions I received a beautiful text out of no where saying how amazing I am etc. " yep, that too, slow but sure

"Is he still trying to figure me out." after knowing her a year and then wanting something more, in my experience, this too is a no brainer"

LetItBe I love you for still coming back with something to answer my questions. As a Leo I think anyone can suspect that I do seek more attention than the Virgo seems to need, but I am also pretty logical as well. I am more of the type as long as I understand that We are good and we have a plan even if that plan has to be I see you once a month, but we speak regularly because we are both achieving goals. Then I am cool. It is just at times he seems more removed than I like (Leo tendencies again 🙂 ) So I make sure to check myself regularly too, but I also know you have to let a Virgo in on how you feel so adjustments can be made. Also, I am no push over and I don't want him to get into thinking that I am.

VirgoFlirt - You say corner him, but I have learned through other things that coming at him direct some what stern not vulgar at all I get a better response. When I am logical I get a better response. Rather than cornering. Otherwise the stubbornness comes out and we get no where, but I appreciate the insight as well.

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Posted by CuriousLuv1
LetItBe

Your misunderstanding the elaborate point of cornering him. There is cornering and then there is cornering.

Yall two just need to be clever about both versions. Think eloquentness.....I'm not saying manipulate him but you just need to be calming and soothing about the approach you take.

Pretty much what I said...SUBTLE while he's relaxed. I believe those who enjoy playing games would try manipulation on a Virgo.

Posted by LetltB
Timing is everything. When he's relaxed and you are having a normal conversation with him, be subtle and simply ask without cornering him. Be casual about it yet letting him know at the same time it's a concern and a question you want to put behind you.

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Had plenty of experience cornering a Virgo without cornering him... 😉

Posted by CuriousLuv1
LetItBe I love you for still coming back with something to answer my questions. As a Leo I think anyone can suspect that I do seek more attention than the Virgo seems to need, but I am also pretty logical as well. I am more of the type as long as I understand that We are good and we have a plan even if that plan has to be I see you once a month, but we speak regularly because we are both achieving goals. Then I am cool. It is just at times he seems more removed than I like (Leo tendencies again 🙂 ) So I make sure to check myself regularly too, but I also know you have to let a Virgo in on how you feel so adjustments can be made. Also, I am no push over and I don't want him to get into thinking that I am.
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I think you have a head on your shoulders if that's how you are handling this. When that need for attention kicks in on the high side though, preoccupy yourself with something else. He'll make it up to you in his own little way.

VirgoFlirt- I get you now!! It is along the lines of LetItBe as well as my approach already. Although I will admit to my frustration getting the best of me at times, but you are absolutely right LetItBe! Preoccupy myself and that is exactly what I intend to do as I have plenty on my plate.

if you know anything about he's previous relationship tat can give you an idea to why he's being like this , maybe he got trust issues thats why he's trying not to spend time with you as much and all to not get way to attached to you as a virgo we do get attached way to easily often , to prevent us from hurting when you decide to leave us , let alone we do not chase people , also fiy virgos have the need to be alone most of the time , we love being alone to think and all so maybe he isn't doing it on purpose , its in our nature that we dont like to be around people a lot , also working to much says that he might be trying to get off something off he's mind , maybe he got a problem , virgos do like to keep things to themself specially problems and we dont like asking for any help to :/ in all that try to analyze him , id say text him and ask him whats up (: , virgos find it easier to express themself throught texting / writing than speaking or face to face

JayJohnJay I meant to say thank you for your response as well. We did have a disagreement I guess, but all is well now. I put an option out there and looking to see what he will say. I am just going to busy myself in the meantime with plenty of other things I have my hands in and really needs to be put into action.