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Virgo men and closure.
How Virgo Men Handle Closure in Relationships
Virgo men often prefer to end relationships quietly and without confrontation. They may withdraw or distance themselves rather than openly communicate, especially if they are unsure about their feelings or intentions. Understanding their tendency to seek closure internally can help manage expectations during breakups.
*cue flavor flav's WwwwwwooooooooOOOOWWWWww* that didn't take long at all! I'm sorry hun! I don't know how to answer your question but I did feel compelled to say I'm sorry about that dear.
I just don't understand this. In the beginning he seemed serious about this. Of course I knew he wanted me sexually as well but aside of that I thought he liked me and respected me. I wasn't clingy or desperate. Even though I feel I've moved on I still think of him sometimes and wonder if it's him or me? Why did he bother texting me to see if I will talk to him after ignoring him and then when I responded to him but turned down the invitation for 'fun', he stopped texting me?
...and I made it clear to him before that I'm not in this for 'fun'...
gya
i recall this info from something i read recently. so i googled it and pulled it up for you. unfortunately it doesn't fit on one page, so i'll post the question to Elsa first, and then her response on the next message. hope this helps answer your questions about virgo males and closure. FWIW i've never had a male virgo ever give me closure. they hate confrontation and emotional scenes. they take the path of least resistance.
here's the link: http://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/2012/02/07/virgo-man-pulls-away-from-pisces-woman-she-wants-closure/
Virgo Man Pulls Away From Pisces Woman — She Wants Closure
February 7th, 2012 @ 5:00 am by Elsa
Hi Elsa,
Back in October, I met a Virgo man. We got along wonderfully and I could tell we really liked each other; we talked everyday. As the time passed he called less frequently and backed away and when I questioned him, he said it was because he liked me.
When I like a person I want to talk to them more not less, and I got upset and told him that. After that, things were not the same. Two months ago I told him I thought I was falling in love with him and have not heard from him since. I have tried calling him and he has completely ignored everything.
I am trying to find out what happened and get closure. Did I scare him off? Or is he thinking about it and will he come back? He never officially broke off the relationship.
Completely Confused
i recall this info from something i read recently. so i googled it and pulled it up for you. unfortunately it doesn't fit on one page, so i'll post the question to Elsa first, and then her response on the next message. hope this helps answer your questions about virgo males and closure. FWIW i've never had a male virgo ever give me closure. they hate confrontation and emotional scenes. they take the path of least resistance.
here's the link: http://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/2012/02/07/virgo-man-pulls-away-from-pisces-woman-she-wants-closure/
Virgo Man Pulls Away From Pisces Woman — She Wants Closure
February 7th, 2012 @ 5:00 am by Elsa
Hi Elsa,
Back in October, I met a Virgo man. We got along wonderfully and I could tell we really liked each other; we talked everyday. As the time passed he called less frequently and backed away and when I questioned him, he said it was because he liked me.
When I like a person I want to talk to them more not less, and I got upset and told him that. After that, things were not the same. Two months ago I told him I thought I was falling in love with him and have not heard from him since. I have tried calling him and he has completely ignored everything.
I am trying to find out what happened and get closure. Did I scare him off? Or is he thinking about it and will he come back? He never officially broke off the relationship.
Completely Confused
Dear Confused,
I am sorry this man??s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get —closure?? because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he's not capable of giving it to you.
He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn't like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn't), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:
When it comes to relating to others, people have varying levels of skill. And there is nothing you can do about their mastery on this front. But there is plenty you can do about yourself and your post suggests you can use some help on this front and that I have.
Some years ago I had a friend who had an MO that was similar to yours. That is, when a man pulled away from her, she chased him even harder. And she never caught anyone doing this and eventually it caused her enough pain she went to therapy. And the therapist, realizing she had no idea how to read a situation like this or where to put the lines, offered this advice:
She told her when a man (or a woman or whoever) pulled away from her, she should immediately pull twice as far back as they had. She explained if the person was interested, this would bring them back very directly. And if they did not come back she??d already have some distance, never mind she would be spared the heartache and humiliation a person goes through when they finally realize they are chasing someone who is trying to get away.
This worked for my friend. It changed her life and I think it will help you too.
Good luck.
I am sorry this man??s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get —closure?? because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he's not capable of giving it to you.
He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn't like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn't), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:
When it comes to relating to others, people have varying levels of skill. And there is nothing you can do about their mastery on this front. But there is plenty you can do about yourself and your post suggests you can use some help on this front and that I have.
Some years ago I had a friend who had an MO that was similar to yours. That is, when a man pulled away from her, she chased him even harder. And she never caught anyone doing this and eventually it caused her enough pain she went to therapy. And the therapist, realizing she had no idea how to read a situation like this or where to put the lines, offered this advice:
She told her when a man (or a woman or whoever) pulled away from her, she should immediately pull twice as far back as they had. She explained if the person was interested, this would bring them back very directly. And if they did not come back she??d already have some distance, never mind she would be spared the heartache and humiliation a person goes through when they finally realize they are chasing someone who is trying to get away.
This worked for my friend. It changed her life and I think it will help you too.
Good luck.
No you're right Let*It*Be, I know he's moved on, I'm too. But I didn't play games with him, I asked him what he wanted out of this and I told him what I want out of this. His response wasn't straight so I figured he was in for the fun and I decided it's time to move on but then he kept messaging me and I couldn't keep him blocked out. I guess my fault was that I should of taken a chance to bring it up then. But then other people were telling me, don't bring it up, we're not married, there's no reason to discuss the seriousness of our dating yet and I listened. Of course what am I supposed to assume after sleeping with him? Every woman knows that if a guy starts playing games afterwards, he was in it just for the hell of a good time. But why would he go out and try to bang someone else right after I started responding to him instead of taking me out? Doesn't that just seem obvious what his intentions were?
And I mean I do feel it was kind of too early to confront this talk since he got divorced recently. I didn't want to scare him away but the fact that I turned down his invitation to have 'fun' with him and next day he goes clubbing with some chick and takes her to his place. Explained it all. Who enjoys being played and stringed along? I doubt anyone does. So sometimes it's best to just listen to that little voice inside you. I'm not saying I lost anything, I may have gained by the fact that it didn't work out, who knows what it would be in a long run with him... I wish I at least didn't sleep with him so there would be no awkwardness when we cross our paths in same places and especially since we have mutual friends. But uh too late, you live you learn. I'm not perfect, I am complicated I admit just like a lot of people are. Maybe that's why I'm still single -_-
:::: shakes head ::::
Another case of ..... girl knows the guy is a dickhead, but, she wants him anyway because she has no dignity
Another case of ..... girl knows the guy is a dickhead, but, she wants him anyway because she has no dignity
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