@tbird
14 Years1,000+ PostsPisces
Need advice in Dealing with Virgo guy
Posted by tbird
I have a question...when he was messing around with these girls at work was he in a relationship? Are you guys just FWB or are you more or working up to more?When a Virgo is in a relationship they are usually loyal as hell...so I'm wondering what happened in his previous relationship that made him cheat...usually they don't at all.
He says he's never been in love. Well, I'm not angel but let's just say he's been married before and has cheated on his wife. Now he considers himself single. We are in a weird relationship. We are together, he knows I have feelings for him although I never said, I know he has feelings for me and he cares - he's never said but I see it in his actions.
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wait, wait, wait...my mermaid senses are tingling. Is he still married?!
Posted by 25thDecan
Considering yourself single and being single are NOT one in the same.
EXACTLY!! Something is amiss...is he dating or married or something? That phrase is just strange. Why say I consider myself to be single? To mean that screams your in a relationship that you are unhappy with and wish to break free but in reality you are not. Usually you say no I'm single not I consider myself to be single. You are or your not.
That's like me saying I consider myself to be quadracial...no I am quadracial. That makes me tilt my head to the side and say huh?! That phrasing is off.
.... let's just say ....
So, instead of stating the fact, you prefer a deception with purposes of slanting our perception.
I'll never be that stupid, and I suspect most people won't ... perhaps you should look into why you are the stupid one in believing that people would be gullible enough to believe that your words have merit.
If you want an honest answer ... then try being truthful.
Posted by pr_princess
He is married but separated with no intention to be back with the other half. Due to culture, he will never divorce, just move off.
That's YOUR cue to move off as well.
I'm an Aries married to a Virgo been together 17 years minus a 4 year divorce; have two Virgo brothers; and one Virgo brother married an Aries.
The grayer the lines of the relationship, the grayer the rules, responsibilities, etc.
My Virgo jokes when he is trying to gently criticize. He is very funny when criticizing me. I'm very open to criticism but, he isn't. It's okay. I make him help me fix whatever —it?? is that he is criticizing since it's so damned important. Joking and humor is our main way of communicating. We are very open to the point of vulgarity with one another to include talking about women or anything (we have a Grand Air Trine in the Composite) and can talk —til we're both red in the throat.
When we were divorced, he was very open with the females he dated about wanted to reconcile with me and not wanting a relationship. It didn't matter, they still cried, angry texted, etc. One girl even texted him, —that's why your wife left yo ass.?? His reply, —Ah-ha, we're back together.??
Posted by pr_princess
He is married but separated with no intention to be back with the other half. Due to culture, he will never divorce, just move off.That's YOUR cue to move off as well.
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agreed! If you want more which it seems you do the door is always open that he can go back to his ex. If he will never divorce you will never move past the bf/gf stage, if you even get there (not saying that to be a bitch). Move it or loose it (meaning your sanity). God speed. plenty of single virgos out in the world.
So your okay if he sleeps with other people? In your OP it seemed like you were against this stance. Not trying to pick a fight...just trying to understand.
How long are you going to fantasize?
Your bubble of delusion must be really thick, because it doesn't look like you have any clue what is real.
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I have a question...when he was messing around with these girls at work was he in a relationship? Are you guys just FWB or are you more or working up to more?
When a Virgo is in a relationship they are usually loyal as hell...so I'm wondering what happened in his previous relationship that made him cheat...usually they don't at all.