Needy Virgo Man

I have dated virgo men before. My last relationship lasted almost 10 years with one and he was very loving/affectionate, yet was very independent. Now this new virgo I am dating for about 2 months is a busy man, affectionate, but he seems very needy for attention. The other day we spent half the day together and he went home. I went out about my day and he texts me about 5 hours later saying that I didnt check on him all day. I was really turned off by his text. The next day, he asks me how many guys I have that still call/text me. I think, he has real feelings for me but has a problem expressing what it is that he really wants to say. Also, I am wondering, do virgo men feel better being single? I really was feeling this man, but that text may be a real sign of things to come. I dont like anyone trying to control me or accuse me of anything. While I am a very loving person, I can also snap back very quickly and I dont want a relationship like that with anyone. I guess he is insecure and I dont know how to make him feel more secure or if its even worth the effort.

OH another thing, the same day about 5 minutes after we departed, he calls me and says, some woman tried tried to pick him up so he called me. I mean, really? I really am not worried about another woman trying to hit on him. So I dont know if he wanted to let me know that other women find him attractive or he wanted to see how I react to that. Blank stare.

Hm. Sounds kinda psycho. Tbh this reminds me of the first few weeks to a month with the guy who ended up beating me up.

My Virguy asked me if I was gunna snoop thru his car... I said no, I'm not nosey and honestly I have high self esteem and am not worried about what he does when I'm not there w/ him lol.

Now that I'm reading this thread Idk whether this is a red flag or not.. like is he gunna to off n do sketchy stuff to try to get a reaction or jealousy out of me? :/

Its unreal how insecure my gender is.

Why be with attractive women if you are a jealous man? Never understood that.
Maybe i was hurt in my past because i was so trusting--- but today i just dont give a fuck wether a girl stays with me or not (and i guess thats why she is still with me) my thing is just dont play games. I cant control who you are going to meet and destiny, what if im not the true love of your life ? So just be honest. Thats my policy

@skyKomish, sorry to hear you met such a loser who hurt you. I hope that never happens again.

@ Let it be. Love how you word things. Thank you.

Posted by Peanutbutter
My Virguy asked me if I was gunna snoop thru his car... I said no, I'm not nosey and honestly I have high self esteem and am not worried about what he does when I'm not there w/ him lol.

Now that I'm reading this thread Idk whether this is a red flag or not.. like is he gunna to off n do sketchy stuff to try to get a reaction or jealousy out of me? :/

My Virgo guy actually said to me that he tests me. So saying things to get a reaction to see how faithful you are or what your habits are he will want to know in advance.

Any Virgo guy that can confirm why you test?

Yea I guess to prove how you are what you do etc. I just like to know what a person does and there characteristics though I never do anything that psychopathic.