Virgo Showing Affection—

I'm dating a Virgo... And I know that Virgos aren't easily read...
But coming from a Virgo..

What are some of the things you do when you are feeling strongly about a female??

What are some of the things you do when you are feeling strongly about a female??

The Virgo Male must be comfortable around you (and therefore trusts you) before you will see a strong display of his feelings -- the amount of time this takes varies from VirGuy to VirGuy, as do the degrees and kinds of emotional displays. With me...

If I LIKE you: I hang around you more than others; I make more eye contact with you than with others; I'm very observant of & attentive to you.

If I LOVE you: I stay well within your personal space; I touch you a lot / leave my hand on your shoulder, hip, etc.; I look only at you, everyone else stays in my peripheral vision; since Love = Trust, I open up to you more than anyone else; since Love disorients us, I act goofy around you, but not around others... What do I mean by goofy? In my case, I can't think straight; I pop-off with things I wouldn't normally say -- like the "emotional pressure" squeezes it out of me! I get really quiet when you look at me in THAT way.

If your VirGuy shows no emotion towards you, then there may not be any feeling there -- yet. We take our time, and younger VirGuys do not like having to admit to themselves that they're falling in love, so they may put extra effort into being unreadable. Us older Virgs don't play those games -- but we're more comfortable with who we are, and we no longer see our emotional sides as an Achilles Heel.

My Scorpio can read me like a book. But, I dropped the Mr. Spock / Vulcan bullshit many many years ago...

~DyarStra?e

LOl... My Virgo is affectionate towards me...

He remembers everything I say...
He can read my mind.. It's so scary.
He always wants to hang out with me... Even though we don't have sex...


It's weird because he gives me all this love in such a cool distant way....

He'll be cranky, unpleasant, nagging, criticizing, impating, petulant, acting like a complete jerk because he hates you for making him fall in love with you, and so tries with his dying breath to retain control over his emotion as well as his dignity...

So that's what it is ...

If I LIKE you: I hang around you more than others; I make more eye contact with you than with others; I'm very observant of & attentive to you.

Okay, all those areas are checked ...

Virgos are complex when it comes to matters of the heart, aren't they 😉

He'll be cranky, unpleasant, nagging, criticizing, impating, petulant, acting like a complete jerk because he hates you for making him fall in love with you, and so tries with his dying breath to retain control over his emotion as well as his dignity...

Well... duh huh!

That shit is right outta Virgo Males 101...

To admit Love is to admit Emotion. To admit Emotion is to admit Humanity. To admit Humanity is to admit Defeat.

Sorry Palas, but it does indeed sound like LIKE to me -- but like can become love...

I feel like an outcast virgo now. 😢

when i feel those lovey feelings for someone, i feel weakened.

all i do is recede into my social shell and pray for first moves on their part. 😱

yeah this doesn't work at all.

but i'm not going to do anything about it. :#

anyone else feel like a turtle?

if virguy tells me about his personal problem..his workload, his family matter,..so could i consider him like me or love me?
i'm not sure wheter he tells everybody about his problem or not since we r not working in a same place..but if he did share his personal problem only with me..do i seem to be special for him??
the only thing dat i want to know is..does he loves me..or i'm make no diffent compare to his other female friends..
VIRGO..why is so hard for you to express ur feelings..show your love..tell your partner that you really need and love her.. if you take so much time for us ( i mean those who date with virgo guy) to see that you love us..i'm afraid that it would be too late..
For me ( i don't know about others), love need to be told..love need to be showed..tell you parner that you r deeply in love with them..TELL HER!!!...DON'T REMAIN SILENT!..BECAUSE SILENCE REALLY BREAKS OUR HEART!

When I am into a girl I only focus on her.

I would share personal thoughts and opinions.

I would be comfortable touching you, the hips and face mainly.

I would try to make plans with you to go out, and those who can go by plans made are thought of highly.

I would try to get as many hugs as possible.

I would be goofy and emotional around you and only you.

I cant figure them out..I give up!! why would someone expess their feelings, then hide—
sorry virgo's this doesnt make sense...if you love someone do what is necessary and runaway from them!!

My virgo would touch me all the time🙂

Mine does too..if its not the hand, he's always got the hand on the knees, loves to hold my waist if we are walking together..or hold hands..pulls me in close etc etc..very affectionate..theres no coldness that I have experienced thus far. But early days yet..

well.. all the above described was with virgo man and me, but still he disappeared.

Doesn't guarantee a thing...

Nothing in life is a guarantee sadly...

what I mean by 'guarantee' is in regards to analyzing virgo affection.

It is rather the intention. He may have affection, but if he does not have the intention then you may check as many boxes you want.

25th --

why don't you address who you mean is the emotional vampire?

if you agree with slippy fish, perhaps you found your match! AND sure we have nothing to discuss that may enhance your mind of what women want or complain about so we can make things work for EACH OTHER. It certainly is not ALWAYS about you. It is about mutual feelings. Just keep trotting on your own values and continue disregarding the other person. Be the king to those who applaud you at your young age.

Yes hilarious to see how some just stay bachelor in their signs all shrivelled up and living with their cat or dog and hoping for something to happen in their old age. That's why there are so many virgos on dating sites... still trying to decide and when the worse comes... they just jump. Because challanging women are interesting, aren't they?

If someone gives me affection, I will return it ten-fold, if they don't, they won't get any back..it's quite simple really..I don't like games..hate them in fact..straightforward all the way..

Anyways, I adore my virbaby for the time being..yippeee he coming back on Friday!!!!!

25th~ From what you say above^^^^^^ then I am a vampire. I wanted more from my Virguy and never had a problem expressing that, but the more i wanted, was more of ONLY him and expressed that as well in the beginning of our relationship/fukcship. When he said to me "I have nothing to offer you, the bank owns this, blah blah", i stated then, "i was not here for material items, i was here for him." As well, in the end, as I believe it has ended, i dint want a friend whom was not a friend to me, but allowed me to be his at his need. I never would consider my self as you have described, but i do believe the shoe may just fit from your POV.

25th --

never talk about "loins" to me... cuz I get a completely different image than you may. To me it's a turn on. 😉


So I see your statement could apply to anybody. Still not sure what you referred to... perhaps tomorrow.... 🙂


Perfect Gem... I don't think you were the subject matter either.

I believe what 25th is trying to say and I have heard this from many other Virgo men... IN GENERAL...Appreciation and reciprocity is EXTREMELY important to this sign. We are helpful givers and more so when we care for or love someone. We keep our sensitivity and emotions deep and in check, but we have hearts too. It just takes time, trust and a good amount of analyzing to get there.

I can tell you with 100% certainty, if you are a woman of any sign involved in a relationship with a Virgo man and he is doing all the right (we are not perfect) things (even if he isn't saying them - being actions can speak louder than words), you sure as (opposite of heaven) better be appreciative of what he is giving and reciprocate with your 50% or Virgo will be the one bouncing! Probably more so for our sign because giving, helping and caring for those we love is our essence.

Fum, I don't think 25th is saying anything about "mutual". He is simply stating the Virgo male's stance on our relationship mindset.

I say this in the most non-condescending way to you....

Time and again I have heard...I do the little things for her (details), I plan nice "______" for her (planning), I take care for her (love/emotions), I bought this beautiful gift for her that I know she'd like (details/planning/love), I unexpectedly surprised her with flowers (caring/emotions/love?), I'm faithful to her (love) and normally a lot of these guys show their love through sex (not ufkc'ing), because emotions are hard for us. I know it is for me as a Virgo woman. I'm not casual at all, though damn sometimes I wish I could, but then I start analyzing and ......!!! 🙂

Bottom line, when a Virgo man is tired of investing his time (and trust me as the so-called "eternal bachelor" getting him to a point where he is doing the above things for a woman is difficult) and sees that in return he gets:

You never do this...You don't understand that...I don't like the way that...
I know you did this for me, but...Why can't you do it how I tell you to...
I'd be happier with...I want...I want...I want... and in return get very little...maybe a "thanks" or 5% ? 10% ?

Basically when a self-centered, unappreciative and non-reciprocating female "vampire" is sucking the life out of him (hey men do this too ~ Virgo woman here)... we stop helping, we stop doing, we stop caring and check out or get out, unless that person does us the favor first. Perhaps in 25th's Aries case, she did.

I'm sure ANY sign of the zodiac has certain traits or characteristics that they reflect on whilst in a relationship. Everyone wants to feel appreciated and have the other have reciprocate, but for Virgos I think it's just very important because we give, we care, we help, we do...

I don't think I have had the pleasure of reading your posts before Tondeala but you make a whole load of sense. Very well stated and concise points in true virgo manner..

🙂

Thank you Miss Morals 🙂 This board has taught me a lot about myself and my counterpart, the Virgo male. 🙂 Nice to meet you!

Likewise 🙂

FUM, I realize he 25th is not speaking "of" me here, but i can relate and such, stated how i relate, thanks 😉

That is what i get from these boards, some time to have others share and me reflect, take what i need and leave the rest. That is all this is good for......for me.....maybe some support from afar, unbiased opinions are great, but, since i am a GEM, alot of opinions here, seem full of "hate" for the sign, no matter, as i said, take and leave.......

Haters! 🙂

Thanks for the explanation, Tondalea 🙂

LOL! Tondalea!

;p

You're welcome ladies! 😉

LOL thanks Decan!

25th..I was never a "vampire" with the virgo I was dating..I showed him by actions that I cared for him and when he told me we should be together I agreed. It was after that I noticed the change...maybe he wasnt ready being that it is long distance...my confusion was why did he mention marriage if he wasnt ready? was it his ego, was he just testing me? I really dont know..all I know is I read alot about virgo's pulling back when they do care for you, which doesnt make sense to me..and now he is slowly trying to re-enter my life..I dont like the yo-yo games they seem to play...I never pressured him & gave him space.. He was the one to mention marriage..I will not wait around forever..It tkes me alittle time to express my feelings but my actions proved it. Decan, you need to look at both sides

tonight I realize again how much Virgo Man meant to me.


Hey Dyar -- What are some of the things you do when you are feeling strongly about a female?? .............(whole chapter of what he wrote all applied)

Everything!!


And I still don't understand Why.... he left me 😢


all the touching and all... all the looks.. goawd damn it.. what's wrong with yu guys?


But I did read that article on yahoo that guys who do lose real love, propose to the next one. 81% is about THEM being ready for such move

this explains to me loud and clear. I was the first one after a breakup he had not cared much about. It all was about timing. Not the person. It was about timing.

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/24225/dating-101-will-he-ever-marry-you




Logic kicks in later..hah.



DECAN -- sorry I missed your comment earlier. I just saw it now 🙂

And after they marry the next one quickly and realize they made a mistake? "I shouldn't have married her." Ah logic. Nice. 🙂 You married her!! duh

Perhaps if we hadn't recently determined that at the time he was with her unhappily dating... that she had intercepted my returned calls to his cell and emails/letters I sent to him before he got to the altar... with her knowing he wanted me back in his life...well...Nice to know you're married to that...

He just assumed I wasn't interested or moved on with my life... How tragic.

But even more sad, you shouldn't just be in a "marrying mindset" and take what comes along next after real love. It's called rebound typically.

With that statement above from him I'd say her karma may be coming soon.

Timing is everything. I agree. Glad I'm not in his position.

Deceitful, dishonest, clingy and manipulative is no way to snag a man. Eventually, the real you comes out.

Oh and Fum, totally off subject for what you were talking about. 🙂 Just trying to make reference about "logic".

-caressing my skin while watching tv
-remembering every little details I tell and making my jaw drop when he mentions it next time

-remembering my favs
-giving gifts
-holding the small of my back while walking/standing
-telling me my perfume was too strong..
then bought me a different perfume a week later lol. I didn't feel offended. That's sweet
-watching me quietly & smiling...when I sit opposite him while having dinner, when he's done eating but I'm not...

hugging/kissing (this is common i know duh haha)
and so on..

I am currently being confused by a virgo man. We are just friends, but he acted like more of a lover. Sadly, he already got a girlfriend before he met me. But he makes me feel like i am his girlfriend although no words said that he loves me. It has been 4 months we are like this. We do contact everyday and he will wish good morning to me everyday through whatsapp. Btw he works at the same company as mine but diff brunches. He always asks me out and always has reason to meet me and calls me especially at night. He likes to touch me and always do that. Always touches my hand and my neck and all over the body. And we have sometimes had romance in the car?. We have kissed and everything but not the sex. His fav my body parts are hands and thigh. He also likes being touched by me. He always open up to me. Shared his biggest secrets and fear. He likes my cookings and everything.But i can sense that he is someone who is really scared to talk about feelings and that's why i have never confessed to him that i like him but i know someday i need to do something. I am so confused please help me. What should i do?

Whenever I'm in a relationship or like someone, I show my affections through actions mostly. I'll take care of things that you mentioned. You're stressed out? Oh, let me clean up your place, cook you a meal, put on your favorite music, listen to you vent etc. I'm also a giant cheeseball, I drop pickup lines and lame jokes all the time and will tease you a lot lol.

Remember that one time you said you liked something? Somehow it'll appear at some point. I go out of my way for my lovers, I do a lot of elaborate, sentimental things. Then again I'm just a hopeless romantic, but still an assh*le.