Here I go... ( Posted in Virgo boards too)

Ok, so...

About 2 months ago I started dating a Gem. All was good and then we had sex. Since that day he has ignored me. So, its over with him.

Now, I have met a Virgo guy online. (What say you, that Mercury is TRYING TO TELL ME SOMETHING—)

He tells me I am perfect for him. I'm honest with him and tell him that I am possesive, to not expect too much (since we haven't met in person yet), to not get his hopes up...

He continues with a passion that I loooovvveee!! He keeps telling me that he knows I am perfect for him...He has the biggest crush on me... that I am his princess... That he would do anything to be with me... blah blah blah. I just love how I have gotten this Virgo to 'worship' me in a sense.. It is very refreshing!! He seems to think that everything about me is what he wants. Very tantalising.

The only problem? His pics are horrifying! I just can't see myself being attracted to him.. I told him that we may not click when we meet, and that I would not lead him on if that was the case, that seemed to turn him on more, lol.

I guess I am psuedo falling for someone I haven't even met yet, and I need your prayers that he is at least attractive in my eyes, lol. He acts like what I want, but then he is so unattractive in his pics... Ugh.. I hate not having physical chemistry with someone that is so mentally compatible with me.

Vent Over.

Wish me luck.

come on now.

"Ugh.. I hate not having physical chemistry with someone that is so mentally compatible with me."

Me too.

deja vu

.....

I call BS at a Virguy being unattractive

Next you'll try to tell me Pluto isnt a planet

Branh is factoring that the guy doesnt have enough money. 😉

"Guys who are ugly and believe they are ugly worship women because that is really all they have to offer."

Wrong, havent you heard of BDSM?

Are. You. Serious. SH?

lmao

of course she's not serious! lmao

A great personality sometime over shadows looks, usually this is the case with ugly man pretty women. Men are just simply shallow often times than not. Confidence can make anyone a believer as well.

In Branhs case money talks🙂

I've had crushes on ugly guys before.

Yeah me too, he made me laugh....always does wonders🙂
(although he wasnt too bad)

what is ugly? who's in charge of the definition of the word? i believe it is the 'beholder' who makes this judgement and so you should go and 'behold' him!

when you click with a personality, whatever they look like, their face suits their personality cos it's all part of the same package. when i was a teenager, i always seemed to have 'crushes' on short stumpy men with hardly any hair. it wasn't about what they looked like, it was more about their demeanour and their sense of humour.

there's this elvis costello song, 'is she really going out with him' and there is the lyric in it 'pretty women out walking with gorillas down my street'. it's true though, a mans attractiveness is less to do with his appearance than it is his personality and how he holds himself.

of course there are exceptions though. when you see a young, top-heavy blonde with a little old man - it is his wallet she is after. that's not a relationship though, it's a business arrangement for women with no scruples or self respect.

but in your case, i'm sure if you click with the personality that you will click with the face too.

I think men and women view this differently I think women can actually get over that and grow to love somebody and den you think they are the most gorgeous person teh world. Men are much more objective. Ugly or not ugly. Simple as.

The Scorp I fancy looks like he was bet with a brush but my god I think he is gorgeous...Seriously logically I know he is NOTHING to look at but I find him so attractive. I think somebody doesn't need to be gorgeous or whatever they just need to have that certain somethign that attracts you

S.H.

That O'Reiley pic just ruined my friday....

I'll be exiting the "No-Spin Zone" cough*lies*cough now! 😛

Sounds like you've already found a reason for it to not work, something to use just in case.

Good Luck.

perhaps there's too much thought given to what other people think? why else would you care what the person you love looks like??

looks can only take a person so far and they don't last forever.

"looks can only take a person so far and they don't last forever

They last long enough. Let's be honest, no one really cares about your personality, especially if you are a woman."

what i meant about looks not lasting forever is that you can only appreciate someone for their looks alone for so long before a better-looking distraction comes along if that is your mindset.

grown ups DO care about the personality of the person they have a relationship with, bran. i guess you have to grow up first to reach that level of understanding 😉

lol, the understanding is present ... however, historically, he has been able to get little girls to fawn over him in dxp by displaying this attitude ...

It would be idiotic for a person to believe a man that intelligent is that clueless ......

WHY YOU NEVER QUESTION A DRUNK

I was shopping at the local supermarket where I selected:
A half-gallon of 2% milk,
A carton of eggs,
A quart of orange juice,
A head of romaine lettuce,
A 2 lb. can of coffee, and
A 1 lb. package of bacon.

As I was unloading my items on the conveyor belt to check out, a drunk
standing behind me watched as I placed the items in front of the
cashier.

While the cashier was ringing up the purchases, the drunk calmly
stated, "You must be single."

I was a bit startled by this proclamation, but I was intrigued by the
derelict's intuition, since I was indeed single.

I looked at the six items on the belt and saw nothing particularly
unusual about my selections that could have tipped off the drunk to my
marital status.

Curiosity getting the better of me, I said: "Well, you know what,
you're absolutely right. But how on earth did you know that?"

The drunk replied, "Cause you're ugly"

I hate the word "ugly", it's not nice at all. How can any one of us call something that GOD created ugly...and what do half of these people that are flinging this term around look like...i'm quite sure that some of you all are unattractive yourselves. This is very mean spirited. And men put up w/unattractive women all the time, becuz they don't know how to deal with pretty women. Men don't know how to deal with strong women either. Scorpchick, if you meet up with the guy and you actually like him regardless of looks than go for it, but if you just can't deal with it, than cut it off. You don't have to make yourself deal with this man. You don't have to make yourself like him. There are plenty other men out there. I don't really see what the problem is..

Bessie Braddock MP to Winston Churchill: "Sir! You're drunk!"

Winston Churchill in retort: "And you are ugly but in the morning I shall be sober"

If ugly is a state of mind, then I've met some fairly stately minded people before! 🙂

Woman who refuse to do anything whatsoever to accent their looks with makeup, hairstyling, flattering clothes, etc are abundent in my neck of the woods. I'll discount the single working moms who dont really have the time or the funds for such basics, nor the desire really because they couldnt be bothered with the idea of looking good. But for the rest of them, ewwww! So many overweight, frumpy, 'casual' dressers out there. Dont get me wrong, there are some gals who look fantastic without one touch of makeup and no hairstyling at all, and genetics has blessed their bods. But they are a total exception to the rule.

Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone

the trouble is tollbooth that it is not uncommon for men to have no interest in fashion or style and the majority of them let themselves go pretty quickly when they settle down. i suppose alot of women don't see the point themselves either if they're with men like that. but they are still quick to start whining when their men run off with younger, better looking women.

and this is because it's just not as acceptable for women to let themselves go as it is for men.

bear in mind that many women have children too and so their appearance may not be their top priority. too many women put themselves too low down on their priority list and then they get criticised for it as a result.

i completely agree ferdy. i've had two kids and i have never been overweight or remotely frumpy in my life. but i don't do it for anyone but me. it makes ME feel good to look good. happiness has to come from within doesn't it, after all 🙂

i was making a poor excuse for women who don't have this mindset because whatever my own personal view is, i do think that it's harsh to be judged by such superficial things in the way that women are.

"Men don't have to look good, we are too busy running the world."

that would explain the appalling mess the planet's in then!

Bran: "Women rarely have anything to offer a man besides what he already has, so I don't think it's asking too much for them to be attractive."

do you actually ever leave your house and meet women at all? if women have so little to offer in your opinion, i guess it would appear to be a waste of time being heterosexual altogether. you're pretty close to the other side already bran, just a little nudge i'm thinking and you could be a fully paid up member of the gay brigade.

you need to 'come out' before your bitterness eats you whole.

"And if my wife got into a car accident, I would definitely leave."

No one is surprised with your answer.

At least you're brutally honest. Got to respect that.

on rare occasions methinks 😉

he's not gay. If he were, he would spend all his time bashing fags.

He spends all his time bashing women. He's definitely a hetero.

Let every eye negotiate for itself
And trust no agent; for beauty is a witch
Against whose charms faith melteth in blood

SR: it's ridiculous that brandon suggests he would leave his wife if she had a terrible car accident and no longer turned him on. firstly he has never even been remotely close to being married or having the depth of feeling for someone other than himself to even begin to know what he would do in those circumstances.

whatever he says is for effect SR - surely you know this by now? brandon is a social pariah but likes to flex his muscles on an internet forum for his kicks.

honesty is to be respected, yes but you have to correctly recognise it as honesty before giving respect.

SR: i wasn't seriously suggesting he was gay either. gay men usually have no problem with their sexuality but brandon does appear to have a whole lot of issues concerning women that just spew out of him mostly to the delight of the young ladies on dxp. (note, i said the young ones).

it's pretty amusing sometimes but mostly it's pretty fucking boring and predictable, you will find.

X,

I honestly think that in any random sample of couples... were this event to occur, you would be surprised as to the amount of spouses would leave the other and which spouses actually did if you knew them.

In that regard, i think you may be onto something. The ones who say they'll leave probably wouldn't. The ones who assure you they'll always stay, maybe not. My brother-in-law told me a story about how one of his friends ended up divorcing his wife when she got too fat. He married someone slimmer. It happens.

With archie bunker over here, i don't think he'll allow himself to marry a mercenary who he could easily dump. So if he did get married....

I think he'll marry the first poor, lost soul who will have him, actually. lol

you can't promise someone that you will always stay with them. it's totally unrealistic and also why the marriage vows are totally and utterly empty. better or worse? sickness and health? rich and poor? yeah, it's all very well to say that when you are lovesick but it is meaningless. no-one knows how they will react to bad shit like that till it happens and that is why most people are blase about making promises of 'til death to us part'.

sometimes, victims of horrible accidents actively chase their partners away too. it's just not something you can logically assume your reactions to.

what's up with the kaleidoscope of new pics, Starfish? Are you trying to attract my attention?

"A woman has to meet some pretty high ethical and moral standards for me to wed them."

And apparently leave all their own beliefs and self-esteem at the door.

I don't buy it. You'll be singing a different tune when you actually fall for someone. 😛

bran. you just don't do people per se do you, irrespective of gender.

What does being able to relate to others and form relationships with them have to do with getting laid?

i wasn't saying that actually. i imagine it is very easy for you, without doubt. getting laid is never an issue for most people with a pulse. you just sound a bit old and cantankerous for someone so young that's all. i can imagine you when you are old, being one of those psychotic tramps who shouts abuse on the subway at anyone within a foot radius.

tramps = bums i believe. bums = asses in english.

Sea Siren: methinks the gentleman doth protest too much 😉

...........brought a few drinks for some lady, she'll come home with me.

i would suggest she isn't a 'lady' at all actually. probably staff bran.

...........brought a few drinks for some lady, she'll come home with me.

i would suggest she isn't a 'lady' at all actually. probably staff bran.

Agent X: Methinks you're right. 🙂

::head thumps on desk::

brans got his forcefield up now.

"Brandon, what is the point of marriage if you will just leave them if or when they don't attract you anymore?"

BOOYA! There is no point in marriage if someone feels that way. Bran has just been hurt and he's bitter. I've been there myself. We all think our pain is worse than anyone else's. When he finally allows himself to care for someone again, he'll eat 99.5% of his words. I know. I've eaten entire speeches of my own this year alone. 😛

I don't think this has anything to do with being hurt. I'd probably stick around and help the poor woman back on her feet, but that's it.
Would you marry someone that you love, but are not attracted to? It's a similar question, I think.

and the answer is no yum but you wouldn't really be in love with someone without that attraction in the first place.

"Would you marry someone that you love, but are not attracted to?"

I've never loved anyone I wasn't attracted to. Actually, I share S.H.'s opinion on marriage. It's not a necessity for me, and it def. will never happen with someone I'm not attracted to.