Virgos and Suspicious Actions o.O

Hey there virgos...I am personally not dating a virgo, but my taurus sister is and she's been complaining a lot about him so I figured I'd ask on here so I could figure out if there is anything to worry about.

My sister says her virgo bf was on facebook the other night and this girl kept talking to him. That's not enough to worry her, but when he was clicking around she saw that he had commented on a lot of her stuff and she on his. Also he had 2 msgs in his inbox, but never checked them while he was there with her. I told her not to worry because at least he was doing all this in the open.

Today she told me he had taken off work to see two of his old friends in his home town. Theres nothing wrong with this except that she had asked him to come with her to Joplin to help out with the tornado relief, but he had said he was working that day, but now strangely he was off work to see his friends. She asked how he was able to go because he had work and apparently he was able to get off work last minute, which he had told her in the past wasn't possible for him to do.

She's suspicious by nature...I'm not. I give people the benefit of the doubt so I've been trying to calm her and tell her to talk it out with him, but even now I'm a little suspicious.

Any advice from the virgos out there would be greatly appreciated and any experiences with virgos in a relationship would be great as well, Thanks!

you can be suspicious but it means nothing if you dont confirm it

I have lots of female friends and I communicate my expectations to people

If your sister values him not going out with other women, then she should tell him so and live up to this same ideal herself.

If no expectations are communicated, he will operate as normal, which he is in fact doing.
His behaviour is not the outstanding point here, her expectations of him are.

Men need communication, direct and verbal. Women "expect us to know", which causes a lot of relationship problems.

She didn't have a legit reason until he took that day off. The fact that he already let her know that its IMPOSSIBLE for him to get off early like that makes a little suspect to say the least...My spider senses would've started tingling at that point. But hey..what do I know, I'm a Scorpio... :-p

Posted by Layna
I'd be suspicious as heck. :/

Did your sister mention anything else weird-sounding?

He did say that he couldn't go with her to her friends b-day party because he was helping with a bible study which my sister supports, but then they all decided to cancel the study and headed to his hometown to hang...

Posted by zeoblade
you can be suspicious but it means nothing if you dont confirm it

Very true, and I told her this. She agreed with me that she should trust him until he actually has done something wrong, which he has not done yet.

Posted by Cajunspirit
I have lots of female friends and I communicate my expectations to people

If your sister values him not going out with other women, then she should tell him so and live up to this same ideal herself.

If no expectations are communicated, he will operate as normal, which he is in fact doing.
His behaviour is not the outstanding point here, her expectations of him are.

Men need communication, direct and verbal. Women "expect us to know", which causes a lot of relationship problems.

Yeah, totally agree. I have no problem communicating my problems with a guy, but then again I'm a sag. She's a taurus and her pride gets in the way of proper communication. I've expressed to her that she needs to let him know that this all makes her feel uncomfortable and shes slowly listening to reason, but I think shes also worried it's just going to ruin things...which, like you said, it will actually help more than hurt if it's expressed in the right way. I'll show her your post. You worded it nicely and I think she'll feel better knowing it's come from a guy.

Posted by Layna
Well, I meant the interaction that goes on solely between your sister and her boyfriend. Any changes to patterns (e.g. less texts, some awkwardness, etc.)?

I sound so annoying haha... but, really, they can be tell-tale signs.

He was a little bit irritable. He hurt his hand recently in a longboard accident so that could be why.

My mom seems to think that he feels a little confused and like he doesn't have control because he's used to girls going gaga over him, but my sister is a tough cookie and sometimes its hard for people to read her...idk just her thoughts. My mom's usually pretty good at reading people.

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Posted by Layna
I'd be suspicious as heck. :/

Did your sister mention anything else weird-sounding?

He did say that he couldn't go with her to her friends b-day party because he was helping with a bible study which my sister supports, but then they all decided to cancel the study and headed to his hometown to hang...

does the other "facebook" girl live in his hometown?

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I have no idea, but I see where you're going there with that. He's pretty open about everything he's been doing so maybe he really don't have anything to hide.

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Posted by Layna
I'd be suspicious as heck. :/

Did your sister mention anything else weird-sounding?

He did say that he couldn't go with her to her friends b-day party because he was helping with a bible study which my sister supports, but then they all decided to cancel the study and headed to his hometown to hang...

does the other "facebook" girl live in his hometown?

I have no idea, but I see where you're going there with that. He's pretty open about everything he's been doing so maybe he really don't have anything to hide.

maybe but it strikes me as odd that he goes to lengths to be unavailable. seems like he "makes plans" to be unavailable, until he figures out what he actually wants to do. OR that he makes plans that are the "safe" choice until last minute that he can spring something on her that she might not agree with. My gf is a virgo, and I live with her... this trickery is not below them lol.

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Hmm, why do you think he'd be making plans to be unavailable and why would not spending time with her be the "safe" choice?

I've seen them interact and they seem to get along just fine. No awkwardness and they enjoy each others company. Very mature couple, which is why his actions surprised me

Posted by Layna
... your mum might be right about the "confused" ahaha.

Tell your sister that if she's uncomfortable about anything, then talk it over with the boyfriend. Good communication is very important in building a good relationship. 🙂

That seems to be the majority response to what she should do haha. Hopefully it'll fix things

That is my opinion too. If they trust each other and there is communication between them, she has nothing to fear for asking a questions like "who are you talking to? is she a friend of yours?" in a normal way without making any accusations showing him that she trusts him but also that she is interested in knowing who is his "new" (or maybe old) friend.

And also depends on the comments. Something like "you look sexy in that dress" and something like "Great pictures from you holiday, hope you enjoyed it" have different meanings.

Talking to other peoples (males or females) doesn't mean cheating !!!

Posted by AngelicVirgo
That is my opinion too. If they trust each other and there is communication between them, she has nothing to fear for asking a questions like "who are you talking to? is she a friend of yours?" in a normal way without making any accusations showing him that she trusts him but also that she is interested in knowing who is his "new" (or maybe old) friend.

And also depends on the comments. Something like "you look sexy in that dress" and something like "Great pictures from you holiday, hope you enjoyed it" have different meanings.

Talking to other peoples (males or females) doesn't mean cheating !!!

Yeah exactly. I don't know what the comments said, but I'm guessing they weren't along the lines of "you look sexy" cus my sister wouldn't have it. She's not one of those dumb girls who will keep saying "oh it's ok, maybe he's just...". She does need to swallow her pride tho and communicate better. My taur mom admitted to the pride thing today as well so I know it's not just my sister. I'm sure she'll be better about it when she sees the posts everyones made.

Posted by happykitsune

.... shes also worried it's just going to ruin things ....

Taurus females seem to want to be the cool ones, who want to appear solid in situations where they should be moved.

Case in point = she doesnt' want to say anything, because of how she will appear to him, which to her she will appears as though she might be bitching about what he's doing and it could ruin things.

Sometimes, the other person NEEDS for their partner to at least act like it bothers them when they do these things ... otherwise how are they suppose to know you care?

A person who knows they are wanted by the other one ... doesn't have to ask if they are.

And it sounds like her mind is asking if she is wanted by him.

To not express to him that she cares = he doesnt' know that she does.


It's Taurus curse ... I thank my lucky stars everyday that I was born on March 18th

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.... shes also worried it's just going to ruin things ....

Taurus females seem to want to be the cool ones, who want to appear solid in situations where they should be moved.

Case in point = she doesnt' want to say anything, because of how she will appear to him, which to her she will appears as though she might be bitching about what he's doing and it could ruin things.

Sometimes, the other person NEEDS for their partner to at least act like it bothers them when they do these things ... otherwise how are they suppose to know you care?

A person who knows they are wanted by the other one ... doesn't have to ask if they are.

And it sounds like her mind is asking if she is wanted by him.

To not express to him that she cares = he doesnt' know that she does.


It's Taurus curse ... I thank my lucky stars everyday that I was born on March 18th

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You're exactly right and she's expressed this to me before.
I know, thank God I'm a sag.

Posted by CancerMoon
I think this guy just wants to hang with his friends. I don't know your sister but would she be upset if he told her that he'd rather do something with his own friends then go to her gf's bday party? He could be planning these 'spontaneous' days off from work because he feels that your sister would have a problem with it.

True, and she doesn't mind him hanging with his friends. It's just when she asks him to do something on a certain day and he says no because he has work, but will suddenly blow it off for his friends. I think it also upsets her that one of the friends was a girl.

I will admit, I applaud her. It's hard dating a good looking guy without feeling jealous because there will be several girls who smile at him or talk to him.

Btw he looks like this.. (no joke)

Well I guess all is well again. She said that she was overeacting because her constipation made her irritable. (Her words)

Apparently the two friends were married and he was going into town to see their newborn, which she had neglected to mention -.- So all is well again. Pfft...taurus drama

True, and she doesn't mind him hanging with his friends. It's just when she asks him to do something on a certain day and he says no because he has work, but will suddenly blow it off for his friends. I think it also upsets her that one of the friends was a girl.

I will admit, I applaud her. It's hard dating a good looking guy without feeling jealous because there will be several girls who smile at him or talk to him.

Btw he looks like this.. (no joke)







Wow, A Mix of BAD/GOOD BOY LOOKS with strong sexy appeal....

Sounds to me like he's lying. I'm a virgo & if I tell someone I have to work but suddenly I'm off to hang out with friends and I hardly ever get time off? I would be saying that to cover up something that I'm REALLY going to do, and just tell him I'm hanging out with friends but IDK, not everyone is the same. But it does sound suspect and I would dig a little deeper.

Posted by RealTalk
Sounds to me like he's lying. I'm a virgo & if I tell someone I have to work but suddenly I'm off to hang out with friends and I hardly ever get time off? I would be saying that to cover up something that I'm REALLY going to do, and just tell him I'm hanging out with friends but IDK, not everyone is the same. But it does sound suspect and I would dig a little deeper.

I did. What I didn't know and what my sis neglected to mention was that the friends were married and the lady was giving birth earlier than usual so her bf stayed an extra day and got off work to stay and see the baby since the friends were from out of town. I heard this from her later and then from her bf earlier today so I don't think he was lying at all. All is well with them now tho. Thanks so much guys. My sister thanks you all too 🙂