Virgos and terms of endearment?

Hello all,

I'm a Pisces. My question of the day is - when do virgos use terms of endearment?

Of course my question doesn't come out of nowhere, so I give the context here:

I'm an immigrant and I work in a company for few months now. The country I live in is not English speaking. My most direct coworker is a Virgo man. Everyone in the office seem to compare him to someone rather emotionless, he can seem quite cold/distant sometimes, but I do think he is nice. He has few friends in the office, but he takes a long time to warm up to someone. We have common interests, yet I have hard time creating a conversation with him. So I genuinely started to think I was bothering him if I did.

Anyway, for winter holidays, I decided to give snacks from my country to all of my co-workers and I personalized each gift a tiny bit. When he saw his, he came up to me and thanked me and used a term of endearment. Now for the people who he considers his friends, he has nicknames, I have never ever heard him say any term of endearment, that's why I was quite surprised. I know that it must be a good sign, but why do you think he did it?

He is virgo sun, scorpio ascendant, sagittarius moon, mercury in libra, venus in libra and Mars in Leo.

Thank you.

I'm sorry for bumping this topic, but I'm still perplexed when it comes to him. If I try talking to him over a message, he ignores it (but he doesn't ignore me, like if I ask him about job, he would respond, just not if I try to talk to him). He's a smoker, but I wouldn't want to follow him outside just to try to talk to him (he prefers speaking to writing) I think it's weird, even though that he says others do it without hesitation. I find intimating to try and talk to him vocally... At least to strike a conversation. Sometimes he invites others outside to talk so I think if he wanted to talk with me he would invite me to talk. Any advice? Should I just give up on getting closer to him? He's not mean or cold to me in this situation, he just doesn't seem to be interested to talk about anything with me.. Thank you so much.

For the most part, Earth signs aren’t big on shitting where we eat. We don’t like people knowing our business and in a microcosm, such as work, the potential to air our dirty laundry is very real. He sounds pleasant and work friendly, but I’m not hearing anything that sounds like a move.

Thank you for your replies. If it's not clear, I'm not interested in him a romantic way, there are some things that make me want to be friends with him a long term situation. There's something about him that makes me trust him,so I think he would make a wonderful friend (besides our common interests)

The fact that he used a term of endearment, made me thought that he sees me as a potential friend as well, but if he's not interested, I'll have to accept it. Maybe it's just that an immigrant, so I kind of feel lonely and this company is like a family and I don't know where I fit in. Thanks to both of you.

best not to read into it

he's probably just thankful

As a virgo with a Scorp ASC....it'll take a while for him to warm up to you that's if he even wants to. There maybe something he feels is off about you right now or he is picking up on a vibe you're giving off (I don't say this to hurt your feelings at all...you maybe a lovely person) so he keeps his distance but is friendly and professional. He was probably genuinely thankful for your gift.

I can only imagine how hard it is to try and fit in being from another country and I hope soon you find a work mate you get a long with that makes it just a little bit easier for you.

Posted by maiden

What term did he use exactly

Well, if I use dictionary for translations in english, they mention "sweetie" or "honey", but it's not a literal translation.

Anyway thank you all for your replies. I understand it and will leave him alone then.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

As a virgo with a Scorp ASC....it'll take a while for him to warm up to you that's if he even wants to. There maybe something he feels is off about you right now or he is picking up on a vibe you're giving off (I don't say this to hurt your feelings at all...you maybe a lovely person) so he keeps his distance but is friendly and professional. He was probably genuinely thankful for your gift.

I can only imagine how hard it is to try and fit in being from another country and I hope soon you find a work mate you get a long with that makes it just a little bit easier for you.

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Thank you for your kind words. I understand, some people just don't fit together, even if there's nothing wrong. Maybe he'll get passed that feeling, maybe not. It's up to him to decide. From my pov, it just felt like sometimes he's interested in being friends, but sometimes not at all. That's why I came for an advice.

As a virgo I stray away from people who have boring ass conversation. Whatever the case is, I dont think hes feeling u like that based on what u wrote

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Posted by maiden

What term did he use exactly

Well, if I use dictionary for translations in english, they mention "sweetie" or "honey", but it's not a literal translation.

Anyway thank you all for your replies. I understand it and will leave him alone then.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

As a virgo with a Scorp ASC....it'll take a while for him to warm up to you that's if he even wants to. There maybe something he feels is off about you right now or he is picking up on a vibe you're giving off (I don't say this to hurt your feelings at all...you maybe a lovely person) so he keeps his distance but is friendly and professional. He was probably genuinely thankful for your gift.

I can only imagine how hard it is to try and fit in being from another country and I hope soon you find a work mate you get a long with that makes it just a little bit easier for you.

Thank you for your kind words. I understand, some people just don't fit together, even if there's nothing wrong. Maybe he'll get passed that feeling, maybe not. It's up to him to decide. From my pov, it just felt like sometimes he's interested in being friends, but sometimes not at all. That's why I came for an advice.

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Just give it some time...it's the Scorp ASC that makes him come off that way. If you really want to get closer to him and don't have an ulterior motive (he'll smell it a mile away)....look more to his virgo side...ie find ways to get him to help you with something....not all the time as he may start to think you're incapable and that'll just start to annoy him.

Posted by Phangus

Friends happen naturally without all this BS. You like him as more than a friend. Might as well start off with the truth.

No I don't. I'm just awkward and anxious as a person, I'm also immigrant who has to speak in a foreign language, he's the coworker that's works with me. On the spur of of the moment, he has said some things that makes me think he seems similar to me yet different. He's much more pragmatic than I am, so I look up to him in some ways.

But I understand that I can't force a friendship with him. I was just hoping it would be possible one day...