Virgo's aren't the same people ........

... in public, as they are at home with their families.


Has anyone ever noticed that before?


Outside of home, they are the epitome of friendliness, kindness, understanding ... at home, they brood, frown, are grumpy.


I noticed this with my Virgo husband long ago, and just thought it was him personally. But, then I started to hear this same concern from other people I know partnered with a Virgo, both genders. Now, when I meet a new person who is partnered with a Virgo, I have an expectation to "hear" this complaint, and I do once this new friend and I get close enough to discuss relationship issues.


So, which is the real Virgo? The one playing nice in public for appearance purposes .. or the grumbling, crotchety pain in the ass who projects all thier disgruntlements onto their families?


Think about that ........ how is the partner of a Virgo suppose to feel in terms of being "loved" if what they get is the Virgo negativity, while everybody outside of your home gets the positive, sweet Virgo?

yup. i've noticed something similar w/gems as well.

Well.... duh huh!

Far be it for me to refer DXP'ers to the works of psychoanalyst Carl Jung, but he proposed that ALL people wear Masks -- the root of the word personality is from the Greek persona, the mask an actor "speaks through" on stage.

All of us have public & private lives. All of us have good days & bad days. Shit! The woman who started this thread has a 25+ year love/hate thing going with her Virgo husband -- can't imagine how many masks are in her closet!!

Virgos have a reputation for trying to maintain a calm demeanor, even though there may be raging emotions churning inside -- and Angelina has called us ROBOTS because of it...

Uh-huh... and Pisces present the same face to the world, no matter where they're at, or what they're doing...

Bullshit!

My former father-in-law was a Cancer, and he behaved similarly to what P-A described above, so I can conclude that this ain't just a Virgo thang...

But please, continue on with this whiney water-girl thread...

your are right p_angel..

Everyone outside my own wants to be around me al the time.. they same I am the sweetest person. everybody looks forward to me coming to work. they know I will make them laugh..


well when my ex and I were together I was different with him.. I dont know if it was because he knew me for my good and bad.. but I didnt treat him very nice at times. I treat my kids really good. but my ex when we were still together. its like I wanted to be around him but I was very mean.. I dont know thats something for me to think about.

its kinda hard to be with some1 that always seems to bash u... it could have just been my ex..but everyone else always seem 2 want 2 be around me.

Virgo83 ... everybody wants to be around my Virgo husband as well. They look forward to having his presence in their company, and thinks very highly of him .... while at home, he projects an entirely different energy flow. And I find this quite curious as to why.

Certainly, all of us rely on our families, the people who love us, to have the ability to "release", without judgement. And my husband has always been able to release his discord with life at home without fear ... but, times become present when it's realized that ALL negative energy is present at home, with very little positive.

And I'm uncertain as to why. Is that being passive/aggressive?

It's tolerable, it's a part of him and it's acceptable. I was just curious if anyone else noticed, and if anyone could offer a reason as to why it happens.

P-Angel: Virgo83 ... everybody wants to be around my Virgo husband as well. They look forward to having his presence in their company, and thinks very highly of him .... while at home, he projects an entirely different energy flow. And I find this quite curious as to why.

Why? Let's see... He's been married for 25+ years to a woman who spends HOURS on at least one public web forum whining about him (and generally carping about all other Virgos)... You think he doesn't detect your negativity? If so, you are in La-La Land!

Speaking about myself, I can say my masks changes based on who / where I'm spending time in. Without reservation, I can honestly say I'm a positive person but that isn't necessarily expressed everywhere.

My problem with most personal negativity is that it can be easily influenced and changed by small things and that often times its a personal choice. Misery isn't a birthright. Its a choice.

My Virgo man fascinates me no end. I'm Leo and a little older than him and am honing my attention seeking skills in order to learn more about him. Yes, I want to love him up all the time but I know this behaviour will be too much for him. The more I read about Virgo men the more I see of my man. Our relationship is fairly new and I see so many sides to him that Ive even wondered if he has two other brothers !! When he smiles, the world is wonderful. He has a tender side which I am discovering very slowly. He'll text me a lot sometimes then sometimes nothing, I have to stop wondering what he's doing, where he's at. This is very new to me because I got used to men making all the moves and giving me a lot of attention which I enjoyed and returned. Im in love with the idea of love and I want to love my Virgo man a lot. But I need to learn about him first and its making me crazy. He actually paid me a compliment the other day and I nearly missed it because this does not happen often. Im not hung up on compliments but Ive gotten used to him being critical (in a good way eh) and suddenly came this compliment about the shoes I was wearing. Your comments have been so helpful to me. He's a smart man and I love his mind as well as his body. I seem to be making a lot of effort but I know he wont make the same for me as he clearly feels he's perfect. Ive never been involved with someone who can behave so dettached from emotions on the outside.

hi!

I a kinda like virgo83.

at work or at school (college). everybody wants to be around me. if I dont show up I usually get a text msg asking me where I am..if the office is sad. as soon as I get to work everyone i looking for me to say something silly to get the day flowing. at home depending on the enery my fam gives off I can be really nice or mean. My ex would say i was mean.. but he was not with me. this was mostly an everyday thing. so I didnt care.


Trust me I am not just mean and arguing for no reason. its usually something that sumone has done to me.. If I show a fucked up attitude everyday. That either means I love u and I want u to change ur attitude,or either, You make me sick with your fucked up attitude and I want you To leave!!!!!

P-Angel: Very astute observation. I know exactly whereof you speak.

I don't know every Virgo male on the planet, so i can't say they're all like that.

My Virgo Grandfather however may fit the description. He was well regarded, and quite successful in public life. In his family life however, he was a terrible husband and father, an indifferent grandfather, and a pompous hypocrite.

hi guys, thanks for your comments. In each of them is something in my Virgo guy. Im realising trust is a huge factor here with him but slowly he reveals more and more to me. Im very patient with him and this is new for me, its not just because I dont wish to lose him. He's smart and intelligent and I get the feeling he has to reign himself in to adapt to the normal terrain of every day life. I agree with branh, I think if he could talk about all the stuff going on inside his head the general public might be worried. And he's a popular guy but does not do the group things like busy, noisy bars, discos etc. He tends to keep with his one mate and has a few others he rings and organises whatever with. I appreciate he needs his own time too, me also. Christina if your man is worth it then you hang in there. I know how this feels. My guy does not know how I have to adjust the posts and it doesnt matter because when he looks at me, nothing else matters. Its only been 4 months. I like the expression treetrunked attitude, Im understanding more and more about this too.

archer said: "oh one more related thing...


has any one else noticied.. THE EXACT moment you feel warm and sweet towards them and tell them "goodness, you are the best thing that ever happened to me".. is the exact moment they think they should point out "when and where" you did not appreciate their efforts.. spoiling the moment totally."

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Heh... 🙂

Complicated you made me laugh and I thank you. Feelin your pain. Curious to know what he does next !!!

"So, which is the real Virgo? The one playing nice in public for appearance purposes .. or the grumbling, crotchety pain in the ass who projects all thier disgruntlements onto their families?"

My mom is just like this, everyone thinks she's the nicest person in the world---please, try living with this mad woman ::shreks:: 😛

But my dad (he's a virgo too) pretty much acts the same exact way at home as he does in public....


I guess it just depends on other signs in the various planets....

For example my dad has a lot of fire in his chart (and his rising is an air sign)
But my mom has a lot of earth and water (scorpio) in her chart, and her rising is Virgo....... so, I think that makes a difference.

Then there's my Virgo sister (jeez I have too many Virgo relatives), she's very moody and always grumpy (scorpio moon probably)... but thn again she acts like that in public too 😛

My guess is that people tend to release and feel comfortable in their homes, so they are going to rid themselves of their "mask" so to speak and act how they feel comfortable, whether it be in a positive otr negative way.

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.... Like with me for instance. In public I'm very friendly yet serious and everyone knows I mean business. I tend to be social yet still a tad reserved...

but when I'm home---

ROAR! I'm such a comedian and a goofball (lol)...... My friends and family know all about my quirky sense of humor. At home I feel the most comfortable and I could even stretch it and say I definitely have the "dual personality" that mutable sign persons tend to have. Mine happens to be the "Intelligent Social Butterfly vs. The Comedic Kid at Heart".

fieryearth,

How Jungian of you! Thanks!

What's Jungian!?

I'll google it. ((Don't you love google))

I just googled it as I wouldnt have been able to explain it either.
"Carl Jung emphasized the importance of balance and harmony. He cautioned that modern people rely too heavily on science and logic and would benefit from integrating spirituality and appreciation of unconscious realms."

My Virguy has a quirky sense of humour also. This guy is a mix of many things, its tough going, dont think Im the gal for him, but that's okay because so far its been a big learning curve. My friend's mother is also Virgo and she's Taurus, they bicker constantly, she says her mother believes she's always right. Why is this no surprise to me. Im starting to believe this guy is losing out on the beauty of life and connecting with people or women in particular, he's too involved in trying to perfect the thoughts inside his head. I also believe now, he's afraid of intimacy. I am not and I dont wish to pin him down at all, but I dont believe he stops to consider this. Grumpy, yeah, that too, I never know why but then again you begin to accept these things. I did not realize I could be so patient with this type of person. I think he wants to be free and perhaps that is just a good thing. I dont want to question it anymore.

oh yeah Virgos can definitely be afraid of intimacy. I know that I sometimes have trouble with that as well (well in the beginning of a relationship or whatever).

Mine is smart with little or no common sense either. The other day I realized that there is no perfect woman for him and Im going to give as good as I get. Deal. Last night on the tennis court, some guy started making quirky comments about the others lack of enthusiasm to play ... the light went on in my head, I told him, youre a Virgo are you not. He said yes. I said what date in September, he said 19. Enough said. I looked at his wife and again, feelin the pain. I love my guy but I dont know if that's what he needs. Does he know?

I must say as complicated as my Virgo can be EVERYONE knows this about him. If anything they feel that since he has been with me he has become more light hearted (I'm a big kid). Although he does hold me to a higher standard than others, I guess that is expected of partners; we expect more of each other. I can't say that who he is behind closed doors is different than outside. He displays affection publicly as well as privately and he can be grumpy just the same. I guess what has helped is I don't really bother him, I let him be who he is and I go about him hyper happy Pisces ways. I guess it's rubbed off!!! 🙂

Where it counts; in terms of honesty, clear speech and authenticity as a whole, I have found Virgo people to be more consistent than many other signs, not less so.

You can try and define Virgo's or any other star sign as this, that or the other, but has anyone ever tried to think that regardless of when they were born, there's more to do with human behaviour than astrology? Just because one twelth of the population is a Virgo, it doesn't mean they will all have the same behaviourial traits, as these also boil down to how they were raised, and how they react to life circumstances etc. For instance, Sagittarians are known for their 'jovial' personalties, their ability to look on the lighter side of life, their optimism and ability to philosophise deeply yada yada yada.... but a couple of sagittarians I know actually DRAIN me to be around them because they are so negative. One is an elderly lady who cannot tolerate people who hold a different religious view or life-view point to hers, and deems them as 'bad' people (so much for Jupiter, saggi's ruler allowing for deep, philosophical thought and 'expansion of the mind' there!!!), which to me and to most people she's come across, she just seems bigotted, narrow-minded and full of self-importance, with little regard for anyone else's opinion. All this so-called 'philosophy' that saggi's possess obviously didn't rub off on her to think that maybe other people were born and raised differently to her, which therefore makes them different people in their own right.

Another saggi I know, a boy the age of 17, is the most reckless sod I have ever come across. he thinks everything should go his way all the time and he has no respect fpr anyone else. And he always fails to see the bigger picture. So much for Jupiter blessing him with the ability to possess such traits as 'morality, honesty, intelligence' etc etc. This dude is always in trouble with the police, and has no regard for the law, or the law-abiding citizens around him who he affects, nor can he see the destruction he causes his family week in, week out. Just the other weak he climbed a roof top to steal some lead illegally so he could sell it on, and landed himself in hospital with a fractured skull after falling off! So much for intelligence...

I'm not slating sagittarians as I have a few good friends of this star-sign, who are moral, intelligent, honest people. All I'm saying is astrology doesn't make or define a person, it simply gives a very general insight into how people born under certain astrological influences are 'percieved' having had centuries of studies on this. But it doesn't mean everyone's the sam

Everyone acts different at home! Im actually in a better and more friendlier mood at home then in public, im more shy in public and im never grumpy