Virgo's - jealousy is a curse..??

So I have been hooking up with a virgo boy (21yr old) for a month or so now.. He came on very strong sending kisses, calling me his girl, holding my hand in public, seeing each other and texting every day & then within 4 or so days of having met him this all ended.. Since then I am lucky to see him one night a wk - completely on his terms - he says come & i go running.. And as I wait for him to text me generally - I may only speak to him once every 2 or 3 days through txt msgs.

On Wednesday i saw him for the first time in a fortnight, and things were good/fun as they always are when we do spend the night together. The following night I was out & bumped into a number of his mates - including his 2 flatmates.. We stopped in to their place late at night to grab one of the boys jeans & i went and jumped on him as he was asleep in bed- and he wasn't impressed.. So I quickly pecked him on cheek & left again with the boys. When I got to the club I found 3 msgs from him within a 10min period - firstly - 'don't ever talk to me again if you hook up wiht one of my mates', followed by 'sorry, having a good time, sorry', followed 2min later by 'would you answer me - which one are you hooking up with'..

To this I sent back that I thought he was hotter than his boys & that he was the one i wanted not them & apologised for waking him.

The next morning i received a txt 'did your mate hook up with my flatmate' to which i said no and asked whether we could catch up that night as I am going on holidays for 2wks - No response. Later that night I sent a 2nd txt asking whether he was going out and now i still havent heard from him another night later.

From what I have come to know about this guy - he will lead girls on and continue to hook up with a number of girls and is scared of commitment at risk of being hurt. What do you think these txts meant? Is he just jealous that I had a good time with his boys and doesn't want them to have me - yet he still doesn't want to commit to me? I am not necessarily interested in an exclusive r'ship anyway as I am going overseas in 2 months for the year - but I still really do like the guy and want to know whether he is interested at all.. Thanks.

Doesn't sound to me like he's afraid of anything ..

I would be very confused and upset if I were woken up by someone whom I was interested in and they left me to go out with my pals.

If you are not interested in something exclusive, he would be turned off some.
Does he know you are going away for a year?
If he does, he will no doubt have abandoned the thought of there being an "us" between you two.

yes - he does know i am going away - its not necessarily a permanent thing - would just be to work/live canada for 3 months over the ski season. I told him i would return to him & that i wanted to know if we could be good together in the time before i leave.

i ended up seeing him out and staying at his place last night. But he was much more removed than usual. This morning i went through his mobile to see if he's been txting other girls - and he was msging a girl & included a msg to say that he hadn't met a girl who's cool and fun like her in ages - i saw him talking to her when we were out at the start of night but from what i've gathered i think he may have met her before meeting me a month ago. i had actually asked him about her last night as i do joke around about him having other girls and he said she was just a friend - but his msgs indicated he's interested in more than that. he only seemed to chat to her earlier in night before chatting to me & ended up at the second club sitting on my lap and chatting to me..

in saying that - all his mates think he's into me - but i don't know if its because they like me that they are trying to encourage him to be with me. he also was texting other girls asking them to come round (maybe from night before - i didnt check date) - i don't think he'd be hurt by me not wanting exlusivity as obviously he's not doing that.

why is it not ok for me to hook up with other people - yet he is doing just that? is this a virguy thing? i tell him i really like him & i do - im so hooked on him but cant let myself get attached as he is likely to see these other girls. he says he gets angry when i say that he has other girls - as if its not true and completely denies it.

i just don't want to lose a guy who i really am into - its so rare for me to find someone who possesses so many traits that i look for in a guy. its frustrating that i'm going overseas - but i can't change my plans - especially not for this guy who is still txting other girls. i am soooo confused as to why he's doin this and if he does like me at all. he says he likes being unpredictable.. but its frustrating! i am very open -so he completely knows exactly where i stand and everything i like about him.. yet i am stuck here with no clue whatsoever.

oh and he went home early saying that he was angry - which was evident throughout the night - and when i asked why - he said his mate wanted to hit on me.. but his mate had been talking about a girl he's into all night - so i don't know why he would say this..

- Hook up with a person one month and go through their phone?
- Your screen name includes his sign?

just don't want to lose a guy who i really am into - its so rare for me to find someone who possesses so many traits that i look for in a guy. its frustrating that i'm going overseas - but i can't change my plans - especially not for this guy who is still txting other girls.

- The drama you described above part of the traits you look for in a guy?

- Didn't it take you longer than 1month to plan your 3 month trip? You think it'll take a month or so to get to know someone you want to be in a relationship with?

- What do you think is the real issue here?

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