Virgos purposely finding faults in people

I just noticed recently that when I wanted to "get away from someone" per se, I'll wait for the very first red flag to show up to send me running. It's like, "Oh, you just make a mistake. You're not worth my time. I'm gone."

For example, there Gemini that I'm getting to know and kind of like (and he obviously likes me), however I'm not sure if I want to pursue anything as of yet. While I've been denying this to myself, I've been waiting for his faults to come out so I can literally have a reason to high tail it. Recently, I told the Gemini that I went out to eat with my roommates and I was probably going to have to work it off at the gym. He asked if I went and I told him I was too busy to go with work. So, he called me "fatty 😉" It was playful, and I couldn't tell if I was offended, but subconsciously, I felt this was an opportunity for me. I asked him if he was calling me fat, and he said, "Lol, maybe. Are you in class?" At this point, I'm just super thrown off, and I told him I wasn't fat. And he just happily suggested we should go running together. The thing is, I wasn't extremely offended by this; however I found myself using it as a red flag. Also, the gem told me about how a man offended him (in a very racial context) and he was prepared to fight the man until some people held him back. I completely empathized with his anger, but I used his immediate reaction to fight as another red flag.

It's almost like I'm fishing for me so I can say, "Okay, I don't think we'll work out," all because I'm not sure if I want to have something with him even if I do like him. Very often, I'll just ignore the person, but that's if I don't really feel anything.

So, do other virgos do this? Is this just a universal thing?

Also, I might post this in the gem forum only because I'm utterly confused by the gem's fat comments, lol (he's like one of the sweetest guys I've met, so I'm just like, "what?")

Posted by Candeh15
Also, I might post this in the gem forum only because I'm utterly confused by the gem's fat comments, lol (he's like one of the sweetest guys I've met, so I'm just like, "what?")

Geminis are two faced. One twin is a jerk, the other an angel.

Posted by Candeh15

It's almost like I'm fishing for me so I can say, "Okay, I don't think we'll work out," all because I'm not sure if I want to have something with him even if I do like him. Very often, I'll just ignore the person, but that's if I don't really feel anything.

So, do other virgos do this? Is this just a universal thing?

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Hell yes, I'm always eager to cull the herd.

If I am honestly tired of someone, I'll use the smallest flaw, throw it in their face and move on.

Geminis are two faced. One twin is a jerk, the other an angel.

Lol, I knew that. I usually stay away from Gems unless they can get on my good side, which hasn't been very often. However this one did. So, I decided to give him a chance and he was doing very well so far.

Hell yes, I'm always eager to cull the herd.

If I am honestly tired of someone, I'll use the smallest flaw, throw it in their face and move on.

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Doing this makes me feel less of an ass for wanting to ditch said person. If I at least find something wrong, I feel like my leaving is justified in some way. I don't have the heart to just throw away this gem, but I'm still fishing for more to see if I can or if I'm willing to just keep him as something.

"he called me "fatty " It was playful"
There you go! 🙂 you already knew it was playful. Perhaps, it was his way of asking you out on a date; Casually, but no so smoothly! 😛

Wanting to fight... I can see why that would be a red flag. It is perfectly normal to be concerned by that.

If you aren't really sure about this guy, just brush his ill-timed jokes off. Let them bounce...
He could be testing the waters, where you are concerned. You know... boundaries/crossed lines. Maybe, he realises that you have reservations about him? I dunno.

I think you should just tell him outright... he offended you - which he clearly did - and you want him to either apologise or expand on the comment he made.

Posted by Candeh15
Also, I might post this in the gem forum only because I'm utterly confused by the gem's fat comments, lol (he's like one of the sweetest guys I've met, so I'm just like, "what?")

What the hell is this suppose to mean?

You just go finished telling us that you knew exactly what this fat comment meant .. you knew it was a joke, playful tease .. and then you have the audacity to post this, making the suggestion that you are confused?

You really think we are that stupid? That we would believe you are confused after you just got explaining to us that you are an opportunist?


Seriously ... wtf?

Posted by Candeh15


The thing is, I wasn't extremely offended by this; however I found myself using it as a red flag.

For those responding, erroneously thinking she was offended by the comment .. read again.

What the hell is this suppose to mean?

You just go finished telling us that you knew exactly what this fat comment meant .. you knew it was a joke, playful tease .. and then you have the audacity to post this, making the suggestion that you are confused?

You really think we are that stupid? That we would believe you are confused after you just got explaining to us that you are an opportunist?


Seriously ... wtf?

Woah, woah, woah. I didn't mean any harm by my statement either. I guess I should have elaborated. I was just thrown off by it. I wasn't even sure myself if I was offended or not; I knew it was playful, but at the same time, I was thinking, "Why would you say that?" We hardly know each other, so it didn't completely register as cute and fun to me. It was never my intention to make anyone feel stupid. I was just using it as an example for my topic, but at the same time, I was curious to know why he would go in that direction to come as flirty.

If this still offends you, I can close this topic now, but that was never my intention at all.

If you weren't looking for exit routes, in case you need them ........ if instead, you really liked this man and wanted him ....


..... you would "get" the humor.




It's not about the joke ... it's about your sense of loyalty, and how when it's time to test this .. you want to run away.




It's irrevelant whether or not you are fat ...... it's irrelevant whether or not he thinks you are fat ... it has nothing to do with you ditching the gym and therefore giving him the suggestion that you think you need the gym, hence: reason for joke was stemmed from your own suggestion of thinking you will be fat if no gym.

None of that ^^^^^^^^^^^ has anything to do with this.


You said in summation in your first paragraph, then went on to describe the subject ... subject NOT being his joke.

You look for opportunities to lay blame on someone else so you can justify your actions ... and that's pretty fucked up. Other Virgos agreed with you that this is an inherent trait.


Fucked .. seriously. Why not just be a straight-shooter and look the man in the eye and tell him you' re not interested in pursuing this any further, rather than fabricating ways in which he's a bad person?



wtf Virgos .... are you seriously saying that you refuse self accountibility?

I'm not offended .. just astounded.

P-Angel, you definitely right. You should just tell him you're not interested instead of trying to find flaws on purpose. I used to do this back in the teen days, then realized that is not how you send people out of your life. Just be truthful. Every Gemini guy I've met have been annoying BTW, since we're talking about Geminis, but I know not all are annoying.

You are right. I never said I liked that I did this. I just always did it automatically without really thinking it through because I also used it as a defense mechanism when I didn't trust someone. I never got on with Gems until now, but my immediate reaction was to run. However, I'm going to tell him that I think we should just be friends and that I'm not ready to jump into anything yet. I really do enjoy talking to him (which is new for me), but just not at that level yet.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
First of all, why are you even giving a gemini of all people, the time of day? LOL!

Lol, I usually don't, but this one stood out differently than the others I have dealt with. Not saying that all gems are bad news, but I have yet to experience the opposite until now at least.